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[ - ] opinions, please: Our preschool has a strict no-tipping and no-gift-giving rule. The PA gives teachers a gift (cash tip and small token of thanks) and each teacher gets exactly the same. One teacher has been a HUGE part of my DCs life. She has been involved in basically curing some major phobias and psychological hurdles and has contributed in drastically positive ways to the quality of our life and our child's future. I want to bring her a card with a cash tip or gift certificate to an upscale store and wisper "Don't open this at work". Tacky? Out of line? WWYD? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.30.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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i would write her a heartfelt thank you. i think it is sort of compromising her integrity,though, your heart is in the right place [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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I completely agree. In the end, nothing will mean more to her than your note. I think it is a bit sad that you don't realize this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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OP: Oh come on you didn't need to go there. Yes, we are of course writing her a note expressing our feelings, which we have also already expressed in emails and in person. Our DC is also working on a note which has been a 3-day project so far (DC is 4). I just wanted to give her something too, because I know they don't make a lot of $$ and the gifts she gave our family this year are worth more than she made in salary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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But this is exactly WHY she chose it. Trust me - its a 'calling' of sorts for the truly gifted teachers and your thank you and your dc's note is just perfect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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She isn;t allowed to accept gifts. You would be putting her in an awkward situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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Invite her to dinner at your home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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like that wouldn't be more awkward [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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OP: I think that would be a CHORE for her. She's off for the summer. She doesn't want to spend a night at my house with my kids. I wanted to give her money or a gift certificate to Sephora or Coach or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:45 PM Flag
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Your post really bothers me. Just write a note. Look her in the eye and say "thank you. You have changed our whole family for the better and we will always be grateful" and be done. The gc idea actually borders on insulting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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NP:It's not insulting because end of year cash or gifts are standard in many private schools. maybe the teachers at this school don't like the policy and are missing out. At HM, teachers get designer bags and $500 checks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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which school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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can you send her some flowers with a nice note? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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OP: Thought of that but the problem there is that I can't send them to the school because it's against school policy,and I really don't feel right asking her for her home address. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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you could either send her something at home or slip her something. i used to teach at a tt school and frankly, i appreciated the gifts. some kids i went way out of my way for and some of these parents acknowledged it with an extra gift, some didn't. in the end it didn't really matter, but since we didn't get paid so much it was nice. ps: a gc to barnes and noble was always awesome going into the summer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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I would give the gift; I'm sure it will be appreciated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:30 PM Flag
[ - ] 8 wks pg and had heated blue cheese on a sandwich -- vaguely freaking out. It's fine...right? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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Totally fine. Law passed a few years ago saying US cheese must be pasturized or aged over 60 days. FWIW, I ate blue cheese all through two pgs, and also goat cheese. It's when you travel abroad that you have to be careful these days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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fine... asmy dad ho is an OB professor says, "have you heard about a scare of retardation in France ? it's OK"... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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he said the same with sushi (retardation in japan) saunas (retardation in Sweden, Finland, Russia, and the baltic States) and red wine (France again, Italy, and Spain. PS I have two healthy happy boys... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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Excuse my typing problems... Gimlet fingers... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:44 PM Flag
[ - ] do you thinkis now a bad time to become a real estate agent? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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op: oops. do you think it's a bad time to become a real estate agent? i just signed up for the class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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It's not a bad time...it's just going to be harder. But if you are a go getter and committed, you can succeed. It will be a lot more work than the past 15 years were. Anyone can sell a house and get people to buy a house in a good economy/good real estate market. As my dh would say, "my dead grandmother could make money doing that." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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well, if you need immediate income -yes. if you're just trying to learn the ropes, it is a great time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:15 PM Flag
[ - ] where can i find someone to install quicken for me? anyone? tia! we need help with budgeting! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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you just put the disk in your computer. what do you need help with? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:17 PM Flag
[ - ] My kids rarely (maybe once or twice in their lives) get a stomach bug but they got it bad this week. Poor cuties. (They are 8 and 5). Somehow a bad cold doesn't bother me as much. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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well, a stomach bug is much more work for you, cleaning up the barfies and such [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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I know what you mean. When DS got a stomach bug this year, I babied him and brought him to toys r us when he was better. Hope your DCs have a speedy recovery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:02 PM Flag
[ - ] forgetting sarah marshall is the worst movie I've ever seen. why did i waste a precious babysitter on that! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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I wouldn't ever go to the movies if I had to pay a babysitter. Waste of money. I can watch movies at home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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np I like going out to the movies--it's fun! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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i know what you mean. i really want to see "don't mess with zohan." looks funny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:04 PM Flag
[ - ] name poll: Joanna 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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very pretty -- also like Johanna [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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are you a Duggar? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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op come on, Joanna's not a fundy name [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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one of their dcs is Johanna. Not saying it is fundy...just saying that is what one of their dds is named. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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oh, oik [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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^^ok :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Had a faint BFP yesterday but temp dropped to 97.5 today and test was negative. I'm wondering if I should even make OB appt.--seems unlikely that I'm pregnant, right? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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did you test today with first morning urine? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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OP: I did, both times, unfortunately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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i think you could be PG -- try testing again tomorrow. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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op: Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone on know of any summer '03 kids who were accepted at private Ks for the upcoming school year? I know of a June 2003 girl, but I was wondering if there were any July or August 2003 kids who were accepted. I have a summer 2004 DD and wondering if there is any chance for next year. TIA! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.30.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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Of course there were. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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op: thanks, that was so helpful. I was hoping for more specific examples, such as school names to get a sense of which ones are open to summer birthdays. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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They all are. IT really really depends on the child. All the girls' schools typically have a few summer bdays, some schools have a later cutoff: MCS, School at Columbia. You really just have to try. YOu should also talk to dd's teacher and see what she thinks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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np: well it is true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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July DD accepted to two (our top 2 choices). This hasn't been an issue for any summer dds that we know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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But what was her ERB? Is she tall for her age? Sib? There are summer kids who get in, of course, but it is harder. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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99 - but no sib, no legacy, and shrimpy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 06:37 AM Flag
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ditto for mine (one was ss, one wasn't, both considered by ub as tt). i know some summer kids who struggled though-a boy a day older than my dd was shut out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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I know of a very smart summer girl that got into Dalton, born in July as far as I remember. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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Late August girl accepted at Dalton and a TT SS. Going to the SS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 08:14 AM Flag
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Late Aug DD accepted to two schools. But got "too young" feedback from a number of schools, including a couple of TTs. 99 ERB, FWIW. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 07:08 PM Flag
[ - ] After what time do you give your nanny/babysitter cab fare to go home? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.30.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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after 10 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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The standard is after 9pm, I think, but I would give mine cab fare after 8:30pm. The poster who says after 10pm is a cheap whore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:38 PM Flag
[ - ] How many "new" friends do you have, ones that you have made since your kids were born? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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One really good one and about 10 regular friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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I don't hand out the term "friend" loosely. My friends are people I've known for a long, long time, whose struggles I know and vice versa. I have only a handful of close friends...and all my mommy acquaintances...well, time will tell whether they measure up to the friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:11 PM Flag
[ - ] For those that've had a crush on OB, when did it end? 4 mths post partum and still seem to have a crush...crazy hormones... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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never -- i still have a secret crush on mine and will forever because of the kindness he showed me when i was so down in the dumps with m/cs, etc... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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I had a crazy crush on mine postpartum--it was gone in a few months, maybe six; now ds is 2 and I don't feel a thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Going to Disney World with mom, dh and two kids (1 yo and 6 yo). Want to stay at a Disney property. A two BR suite is out of our price range. Should we get two adjoining rooms? A 1 BR suite? I can't figure out what would work best (esp. since db goes to bed sooooo early)! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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1 bd suite for you, dh, and kids and a separate room for your mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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^^Also, if anyone can recommend one of the resorts that would be great! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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stay at the bonnet creek resort -- it's on disney prop but not owned by disney. it's owned by wyndham and it's amazing - you can get a 2 room suite very reasonably there. you can get rooms by the night or as a time share... you'll love it -- great pools, sprnkler areas for kids, and covered playground so kids don't get too much sun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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you don't get disney perks with that do you? EMH? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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look into the units at the beach or yaht club-you might be able to swing it. Otherwise if you are going low budget- try the family suites at the POP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Yay! Going to ds' ball game, where soon-to-be-ex dh will be as will his affair/gf. Love life in suburbia! Must remember these joyful days. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.30.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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Just wear something fabulous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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op: nah, that would be trying too hard. She's sure to be in something tight, I have bigger boobs so advantage: me. I'm really getting over it but I get keyed up before these events. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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just look cute and casual and keep a smile on your face the entire time. good luck!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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ITA - I'm sorry you have to go through this. Sounds horrible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you, could you be friends with a woman who is sleeping with one of your other friend's dh? Even if your dc were really good friends before you knew? I couldn't, but that's just me. But apparently a few friends of mine can... maybe they're not friends? lol 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.30.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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I don't think I could be. There's one would who is the mother of a child in my DS's K class and she's cheating on her DH (she's very open about it at the bus stop) and I won't be friends with her or have playdates with her because she makes other mothers lie about her whereabouts and I don't want to be caught up in her drama. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:01 PM Flag
[ - ] What's everybody drinking?? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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chard [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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Ditto. Feel a little buzzed and it's almost bedtime for dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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I'm waiting out the buzz, must go out with dc. I'm following the old one-drink-per-hour rule, then waiting another hour. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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didn't start yet -- need to bathe the kids -- but after that, it will be some pinot grigio [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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Nothing yet, but god do I need one, tough day at work, dc being a brat, and dh is being an a** [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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a very disappointing pinot noir [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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opening the cab! Hooray!! DD was horrible today!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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H to the 2-izzo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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all about the vodka gimlet light on the Rose's lime juice... i also steep pineapples and vodka in the summer for a quick and refreshing "pick me up" at the wiching hour... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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debating between a cup of tea or glass of wine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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