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[ - ] Anyone watching the DNC thing on CNN? If so, have they come back from their behind closed doors meeting (dc is watching something that I don't want to interrupt)? TIA 40 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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yep, and they're considering a motion to seat all fla. delegates with full voting rights [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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wow. that would close the gap a bit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:25 PM Flag
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i don't think it's going to lead to a whole bunch of support for hillary, though, do you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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I don't think it would change anything as far as supporters go. People who are Hillary fans would be fine with it. Obama people would probably hate her even more, but that's kind of irrelevant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:28 PM Flag
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The thing is though...if the roles were reversed and Hillary was ahead, I am positive that this whole meeting and motion to change the "contract" would not be taking place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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Probably not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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I'm pro-Hill, but I think it's a mistake for them to chamge the rules mid-stream. Not at all fair to Obama and evokes the Bush-Gore FL debacle. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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Thanks. I was kind of stunned by the whole story in Florida (the involvement of the Republican legislature and governor in creating this mess, etc.) - were you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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after that ballot disaster, little down there surprises me anymore [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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NP: I am surprised because everyone knew the situation going in. They chose to broke the rules. Both candidates knew this from the start and signed a letter stating they understood this and would abide by it in the campaign. Now to have everything turned around like this...Regardless of who one's favorite candidate is, I just don't think this is right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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OP: It's not about the candidates at this point - or not just about them anyway. It's about not disenfranchising almost 3 million voters who turned out and cast ballots in these states. You've bought into the whole media presentation, imho. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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No...I have not bought into anything. There was no hoopla about it until the race became close. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:32 PM Flag
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OP: sigh. There was no hoopla reported in the media. There was a great deal of hoopla taking place at the party level from the beginning. The media only picked up on it when they could turn it into a Barack versus Hillary passion play. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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Oh please. If the parties wanted to move on this they could have. They could have made the leadership of Florida get off their butts and the citizens of Florida could have done the same. I don't want to hear any belly aching from any of them now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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OP: you are really ignorant of the processes involved. See my posts below about the involvement of the Republicans in creating this situation in Florida. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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OK oh bright and enlightened one. Continue with your manifesto as I move on....I'll bet that in 2012 the same state of Florida will be whining about something else that's gone totally wrong with the voting in their state once again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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And you can continue with your apathy, judgment and ignorance while your civil rights erode... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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Trust me baby...if there is one thing that I am not, it's apathetic. Crap like this wouldn't happen where I have a vote. I am an EXTREMELY active citizen and I would not sit on my ass while my state craps on me with each election. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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ITA...How can the same state keep having such serious voting problems? Is everyone asleep? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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^^^Meant for the post right above. There is something really wrong with the people of Florida. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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Well, I am glad to hear that you are so powerful. We need people like you involved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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I think that you are trying to come across as the one who knows it all, but really this situation should not be happening in Florida AGAIN. (I will give Michigan a pass since it is their first time...to put it lightly.) This is the third time that there has been a very serious problem there. There is no excuse for this and if the citizens don't realize this by now, then this really is their fault. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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OP: far from knowing it all, what I have expressed repeatedly is how much information was not readily available until today when - instead of creating sound bites - the media presented the entire meeting live. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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sounds to me like you're the one who bought the media story [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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OP: did you watch the meeting and here all of the presentations? I did. There was A LOT of completely unreported and highly relevant information. And it was addressed by supporters from each campaign. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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absolutely crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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OP: did you watch the meeting? There was a lot of information that made it clear it was more complex than he said/she crap, which was how the media presented it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:28 PM Flag
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I didn't, no. I just can't believe how this has gotten so screwed up. And, really, you can't say that the votes that were placed then would translate now. I doubt I'm alone in being a democrat who voted on the candidate whom I thought would be able to win the general election. Then it was Hillary, now it is most certainly not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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^^^voted for, not on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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OP: I don't necessarily disagree with you, but the fact is that almost 3 million voters (and in the case of Florida more than TWICE the number of voters than in any other primary ever) turned out to vote in good faith and should not be cast aside because Republican leadership in the state (speaking about FL here) set up this fiasco to play out this way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:32 PM Flag
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Oh, ita. Of course their votes should count. I can't believe that the state or the democratic party, or whoever, screwed it up so badly that the entire state voted illegally and the votes didn't count. It is mind-boggling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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OP: it is, isn't it? It turns out that the Republican FL state legislature attached the change in date to a bill about creating PAPER TRAIL for electronic ballots - which was something that had been heavily lobbied for by the Democrats and which they would have LOST if they had voted against it. So the Republicans set this up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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Well if they care so much about what the leadership of their state does, then they should have spoken up years ago...like 8 years ago. How on earth can one state totally "F" up elections the way that Florida does. I'm sick and tired of them whining about it after the fact. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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OP: the point is that THEY DID. You (and I) just didn't hear about it. This issue of the structure of the primary and caucus system has been being addressed and fought over for the past decade within the party and among the states. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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My in-laws live in Florida. My MIL is VERY active. She said the problem is that too many of the citizens just "trust" that the leaders will do the right thing...and then they are stunned when it doesn't happen. How many friggin times can the same (or similar) things happen in the same state????? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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OP: yeah, I agree with you. But that's the nature of humans. More people are more likely to respect authority than to question it. When I lived in Houston in 2000, they CLOSED my polling place and gave no alternative. It took me 6 hours to find someplace that I could vote. Most people of course could not and/or did not take that time (my polling place was in a primarily Democratic district - so NONE of those votes got cast). Politics is REALLY ugly at the grass roots level. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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So did this happen in the following election? Did they get away with it twice? three times? If so, then the citizens are nuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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OP: similar dynamic - the Republicans now control the TX state legislature, and the gerrymandering is INSANE down there. Don't live there anymore, but I assume it's still just as dirty. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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this from AP: Democratic sources say the party rules committee has agreed to a compromise measure that would fully seat delegations from Michigan and Florida but give each delegate half a vote. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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OP: really? Interesting. Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:30 PM Flag
[ - ] On an unrelated topic ,,, I feel so bad for Britney Spears because yesterday the judge and lawyers said she was too unstable to be able to participate in a hearing about extending her father's guardianship. How bad could she be? Or is it just BS that controles instead of frees her? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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I think she lost her mind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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that's pretty bad that she wasn't even allowed to participate in the hearing. how hard is it to sit at a table? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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My point exactly? How can she not know what's going on? It's not like she's in a coma. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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Meds? coma [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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I mean, you don't forget how to have an opinion and thoughts it you're mentally ill. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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I think if you've completely lost it, your thoughts might be so disorganized that you are gone. Plus, she's probably really numb from drugs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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that makes me so sad that somebody can be numb from drugs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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Well, there's nothing you can do about it. It's sad for a person to squander their life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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I mean, does it go too far to say that a person is too sick to participate in planning their own life? It's one thing to help someone plan their life, but it's another to do it for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Both DH and my parents forgot it's my BDay. DH calls me at 2 PM from the office leaving me a Happy BDay voicemail. Haven't heard from parents yet. Am home alone with 4 DC's while Dh is likely to be working till 7 PM on a Saturday. I couldn't be more depressed. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.31.08, 03:19 PM Flag
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Wow. I can see why this would really get to you. FWIW...I truly wish you a good year. :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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I'm sorry. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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sending you a big virtual bouquet for your birthday!! (This is why I'm throwing a bday party for myself tomorrow!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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What!? How can this be? Mama, go buy yourself some champagne and go get a cake and start your own party. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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so, dh didn't actually forget, he just didn't do anything?? He'd better do something nice when he gets home tonight! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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email dh and tell him you're sad. It will inspire him to do something special [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:24 PM Flag
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this guy needs to be clubbed over the head -- e-mail him with specific demands, like wine/flowers/something from tiffany's [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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Congrats on all you've accomplished! All your kids!! That's an awsome achievement! Be proud of how you're living your life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:25 PM Flag
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They forgot your birthday? Wow. I would be really depressed too. The DH thing would bother me even more than the parent thing. that Sucks. Happy birthday from all of us! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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eh. call them and enjoy the fact that you have (i am hoping) a good life and healthy dcs you love. my birthday was yesterday and i was in a similar situation. honestly though, i'm 44 and could not care less. i knew it was my special day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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Can you leave the kids with dh tomorrow and have a nice day to yourself? Sorry you had a sucky birthday! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 07:38 PM Flag
[ - ] What kind of feeding schedule do you have for your 7 month old. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:19 PM Flag
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on demand [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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bf on demand and gave solids too. By solids I mean jar baby food. I think we gave three times a day at seven months, but don't rememeber - whatever doc said and nursed on demand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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And at 7 months I was still bf first and then solids. Can't remember when I switched it to food first nurse second [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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6:30 am: nurse; 9 am: nurse/nap; 11 am: fruit/cereal, maybe nursing; 1 pm: nurse; maybe nurse a little around 4 pm; 4:30/5 pm: veggie/cereal; 6:30 pm: nurse and bed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 04:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Is Concord Place in Rye Brook in Belle Fair? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.31.08, 03:18 PM Flag
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I don't know but BelleFair freaks me out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 04:11 PM Flag
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What is Bellefair? I grew up there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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np- a community that looks like Edward Scissorhands, all the sameness. It reminds me of a retirement community look but it"s for young families. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 05:09 PM Flag
[ - ] When you hit the refresh button do all of the posts jump out of order on your screen? This is so annoying. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:15 PM Flag
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are you on "most active" mode? you can switch that to chrono order on the bottom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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Where??? Where??? Where??? I don't see it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:23 PM Flag
[ - ] how's this for random: DF calls to tell me last week that she's going to have a baby with a sperm donor. then another long-lost DF gets in touch and says she's just had a baby with a donor herself. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:11 PM Flag
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just means you and your friends are getting to the age when the biological clocks start ticking like crazy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:12 PM Flag
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Interesting friends. are they married/divorced? how old? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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one's divorced, the other never married as far as i know -- my divorced friend hasn't really dated much and is tired of waiting for the right guy. both 37 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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good for them. I would have done the same thing although it would have been hard [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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I have four friends who have done this, one has has had 2 babies with a donor. They are older - haven't found the right guy, and want a baby. I think we are going to have a whole new generation on fatherless children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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are they completely exhausted and stressed out? i'd find this really hard to do without DH [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you bring your 9yo specifically to a romance movie? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.31.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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i seem to remember being brought to see "terms of endearment" when i was about that age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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that is a terrible movie for a child to see! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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i remember thinking that at the time! but whatever, i don't seem to be too screwed up in the head now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:09 PM Flag
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sure, as long as it was rated pg. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:09 PM Flag
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Sure...as long as there were no torrid love scenes in it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:09 PM Flag
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no. what set up false expectations and idealized notions of romance? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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There are so many other genres of movies to see. I'd like to hold of notions of romance for a while longer, so no, I wouldn't specifically pick a movie that was in that genre. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:30 PM Flag
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I remember going to see A Little Romance when I was about 10. Great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:41 PM Flag
[ - ] my father died very suddenly when i was pregnant....ds is about to turn one and i am missing my dad so much and can't believe that my dc will never meet him. Just when I think I have accepted him being gone, grief overwhelms me again. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:05 PM Flag
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awww. sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:06 PM Flag
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This is VERY normal. Grief pops up when we think of how much that person would have enjoyed a special part of our lives. I am very sorry for your loss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:06 PM Flag
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i'm really sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:06 PM Flag
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i'm very sorry for your loss. it must be so hard not to share this with him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry. My mom has been gone almost 4 years, and I still have trouble on certain days or times of the year. It is a shame that your son's birth was around the time of your father's death, but try and focus on the good things - how proud he would be of your son, stuff like that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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i was actually 14 weeks pregnant - he knew....i think that the pregnancy kept me sane and delayed my grief...this 1st year of my ds has been really hard [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:09 PM Flag
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That's the way it was for me too. My older ds was a baby and I got pg soon after her death, so I didn't have much time to grieve. Now it hurts me at odd times and I break down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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Well, what I would suggest is putting out a picture of him and talking to him- tell him how much you miss him and that you wish he could be a part of it all. This isn't conventional knowledge, but people do hang around in spirit form quite often. Your dad is probably watching you with great love. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:09 PM Flag
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My ds was 6mo when my Dad passed away very suddenly. But my Dad did get to hold my ds when he was a baby and I talk about him all the time. It's been three years for me and it's still very hard. Just do your best to make him a part of your ds's life, even if he's not here physically. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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I am so incredibly sorry. Your emotions must have been all over the place with the loss of your dad and the birth of your son. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:54 PM Flag
[ - ] having friends over for dinner with dcs--this is about the 5th or 6th time. I have never seen their house. I feel like I am always the entertainer...have a big holiday party every year and 1 summer party. I never seem to be asked anywhere. Ds had a playdate today--his parents have been to our place for dinners/parties--except for playdate drop offs, I have never been to their house--- tonight they are going out to dinner "with a bunch of friends" 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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whoah!!! how did this happen? I just posted this about 10 minutes ago. (op) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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Maybe you should stop being the one to do all of the work. It could also be that they don't like having company over. I know two people like this and both of their homes are absolute messes. They don't like company at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:05 PM Flag
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I know it sounds silly when they mentioned they were going to dinner and a movie with friends. feeling junior-highish left out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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If I were you and I had them over that often and they did not do the same for me...I would feel the same way, especially if they are now going to a dinner and movie with friends. You have a right to be annoyed. I do think that you should stop being the entertainer for them though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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I guess so, but really this would eliminate everyone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:10 PM Flag
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In our case, we can't invite people over b/c we live in a 1 br & eat at the coffee table. I don't even have enough dishes to have a couple over. We usually suggest going out, although I do feel bad not reciprocating to people who have us over to their home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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op-almost all of these families live in similar houses as ours. I just feel left out when I hear that they are going to dinner with a bunch of friends, I know it sounds silly. We moved here from out of state 2 years ago and have no family around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:10 PM Flag
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Maybe you could initiate more casual dinner dates than the big parties [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:11 PM Flag
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well, tonight we are having 2 familes plus dcs over..just a bbq.casual. both families have been here at least 3 or 4 times for simple dinner with dcs. They have never suggested doing anything at their house or going out..I think it would only happen if I arranged it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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Can you ask one of your female friends about it? I know it seems weird, but just say, "XYZ, when will we get invited to your place?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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i hear ya'. I am the only person I know who even has parties. Or else no one is inviting me. It totally bums me out. When I lived in Euroe I was invited to people's homes all the time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:11 PM Flag
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op--a relief to know I am no the only one feeling this way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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Agree!! I am always the only one who has parties. But - I think we alsom have the biggest house of all our friends - and we have 2 kids. For me I feel it's easier/more comfortable to have people over ratehr than get a babysitter and pay to go out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Who can help? DS, 3.5, doesn't like meeting strangers or talking to people he doesn't know that well. When someone like this says hi to him, he closes his eyes and pretends to be asleep. It's embarassing. I'm trying to teach him social cues, but should I punish him when he pulls this? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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I'd be more apt to ignore this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:03 PM Flag
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ditto - or work with rewards (one M&M for each socially appropriate greeting or something like that) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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good idea, thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:12 PM Flag
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I'm sorry...but I just don't see the point in giving him candy for doing this. He is perfectly normal and I really think this method would only be teaching him bad habits...the candy...wanting something for doing something unnecessarily. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:19 PM Flag
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I disagree with the bribery method. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:13 PM Flag
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what do you do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:16 PM Flag
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My dd isn't shy, but sometimes she gets snappy with people. I tell her, "It isn't polite to talk like that. Please use a sweet voice" or "Please be kind" Sure, it sounds moderate, but it works [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:17 PM Flag
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you're lucky. repeated warnings have not worked on my guy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:18 PM Flag
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I think I'm trying to teach her to be empathetic more than warning her. Sometimes I tell her, "When someone talks that way to you, does it feel nice?" Just to try to get her to understand from the other person's perspective [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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My dh says he was like this as a kid- he's still shy. It's just his personality, which I don't think you can change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:04 PM Flag
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Punish him? No way. I would not be concerned at all. He is only 3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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I don't punish for that at all. When my kids first meet someone they're shy. But once they've been around that person for a little bit they warm up. It's fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:20 PM Flag
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you can't punish him for it. you can talk to him about it, and keep drilling it into his head how he is supposed to act, but it may not do anything. My ds has Asperger's, and one of the exercises they do in his class is to practice meeting people. They even sing a song that goes something like, "when you meet someone new, look him in the eye, shake his hand and say HELLO!" something like that.... anyway, I wouldn't worry about it, he is probably just shy, and people will just have to be understanding that he is only 3 yo and shy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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i love that! we should practice stuff like this at home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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I think it has helped ds a little. He is pretty good about meeting people now - he is at least polite. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:25 PM Flag
[ - ] totally MYOB, but I find it annoying that SIL can not take care of dcs by herself. When here dh goes on business trip, she has to stay with her mother. THis should not bother me, but it does. I only say this here. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 02:58 PM Flag
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maybe thats not why she stays with her mother? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:00 PM Flag
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she says she can not handle the 2 dcs by herself. She admits this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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At least she is honest about it. Some would lose their tops and scream at their kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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I have a friend like this and it bugs me too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:00 PM Flag
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I know it shouldn't but it does...(op) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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I really wish I could stay with my mother. I can't handle my 2 kids (I can handle them one at a time very well, but not together - they are awful when they're together). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:11 PM Flag
[ - ] If your dh had to choose between freedom or security, which would he choose? I know this sounds silly, just wondering. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.31.08, 02:57 PM Flag
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Are you talking about police jobs? ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 02:59 PM Flag
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freedom. He has never chosen security in his life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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security [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 07:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Love this quote from a Times story yesterday: “It’s my theory that every woman should work at something that gives her self-esteem, and that kids, if she decides to have them, will fit into the total picture.” 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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explain this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 02:56 PM Flag
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from a story about a filmmaker named amy sewell: [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 02:57 PM Flag
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Life in la la land! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 02:56 PM Flag
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I truly do not get this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 02:57 PM Flag
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That seems self-evident- you do what you enjoy doing and kids are a part of that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 02:57 PM Flag
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children as accessories... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:02 PM Flag
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just fit them in your handbag... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:05 PM Flag
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interesting comment. do you think that moms should just focus on their kids when they become moms? (and i'm not being snarky) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:06 PM Flag
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no. I was commenting more on the 'fitting into the total picture' part. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:08 PM Flag
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rather than the mom fitting herself around the kids, the kids are compartmentalized into her scheme [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:10 PM Flag
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gotcha. i think IRL these situations tend to be fluid. sometimes work takes up a lot of time, sometimes children do. actually, children always take up a lot of time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:12 PM Flag
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I don't actually think the quote is all that mind-blowing. You're right- we adapt and work it all out as best we can [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.31.08, 03:14 PM Flag
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