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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] must find reliable nanny who doesn't go MIA w/no call to me. Drives me insane. Dreading the whole Craigslist prospect. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Where are you, how many kids, and what are you looking for? I have been desperately trying to help fine my amazing nanny find work when we move at the end of the month. [ Reply | More
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just 1 nearly 4 yr old. need 50 hrs/wk (possibly flexible). In NYC on UES. I posted in early apr & emailed 2 people from UB. Are you moonpenny? [ Reply | More
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No. But we love our nanny and we're moving at the end of the month. She had something lined up but just today found out that the mom decided to SAH after all. She's incredibly reliable, very sweet and nurturing. Email greatnanny29@yahoo.com and I will give you more info and her and my contact #s if you want. [ Reply | More
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awsome, will email you later tonight after bath & bed time. -L [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:59 PM Flag
[ - ] A coworker offhandedly mentioned today that a mainly black neighborhood is pretty much a poor neighborhood. I didn't hear what came next, I was too busy trying to decipher if his statement is racist. Yes or no, ub? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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the "pretty much" is right. there are affluent black hoods but the majority [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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^^^^^^^^^^^are not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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did he say "mostly black neighborhoods are bad" or "that neighborhood (which you know is mostly black) is bad"? Makes a difference. either way, what are you going to do, make the guy not a racist? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:47 PM Flag
[ - ] where would you move that has a funky eclectic vibe with some diversity in the US. Have chance to move anywhere and i am seriously considering packing it up and taking it on the road. 125 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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I'm watching this post. Diversity is hard in the USA except in cities (and not always then!). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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i know i am thinking i am living in a fantasy world but perhaps it could exist. [ Reply | More
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We looked in the Hudson River Valley. Any town with diversity had crap schools. We decided to go with good schools in another area. And thank goodness for Southern Italians or my kid would be the darkest child in school. On top of that, we are learning the hard way that good schools = nothing more than good test scores in many districts. Keep that in mind when looking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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I'm Italian. DH is of mixed British background. They aren't hugely dark, but at least have olive skin. Everyone else is snow white. DS has dark brown hair, he's one of 4 kids in his class that aren't blond. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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let me guess: chappaqua? bedford? yorktown heights? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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honestly you guys are Full of Sh&T - when did becoming "dark" Italian become an ethnicity??? I am a blind Italian in New Canaan CT FROM the Hudson Valley and I have one blonde son and one 9 month old with DARK hair - everyone here comments on how "dark" he is but I would expect that from WASP's and wanna-bees are you kidding that you just posted that about our "dark I-talian ethnicity and acceptance in the US- Most people here are pissed about the loss of a woman pres - Goood LORD - no you have me fired up [ Reply | More
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OR: What is your damage exactly? That many Southern Italians have darker skin? It is an ethnicity. It's my ethnicity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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np: This is a bizarre response, yikes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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Places I've thought about: New Orleans, Austin, Tucson. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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really? i have a weird bias against the south (not very open or diverse of me i know). but i have never been to any of those places. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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Well, what you're saying is pretty stupid so you must be right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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i told you so... soon i'll start wring snarky posts to people i don't know on urban baby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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np. I love you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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i live in the south and am brilliant and articulate. your intelligence is fleeting if you lose it according to location. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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and modest [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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Just my opinion, but you should get a sense of humor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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seriously... wasn't that clearly a joke ?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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not everyone from the South is biased and stupid. These generalizations don't seem very open minded [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:38 PM Flag
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they might not sound open minded, but I live in the South and it is another world. Leave a major city or some of the college towns and you are in "Deliverance". That is a reality. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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Austin?? I lived there, and it is hardly Deliverance land. You may "live" in the South, but you don't know it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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i don't count Texas... perhaps i was not specific enough. i am refering to NC, SC, GA, MS, AL, LA... not Fl and not VA... I never really think of texas as "The South" even though geographically it clearly is... Austin is also a college town which makes it somewhat immune anyway... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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and i was raised in the south, live in the south, and feel i "know" the south... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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you're the worst kind of snob - acting like you are better than the people who raised you or at least around whom you were raised. get the hell out of the south if it's so terrible. have you been in the rural areas of any state outside of the south? there are rednecks everywhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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OK... I guess you're right. I'll pack up and move and maybe experience something real like you have. I won't form any opinions - even after 30+ years wherever I go - and I'll pretend that everything is buttercups and happy... probably all the stats about education and school success and rebel flags and anti-semetic comments and fear of anthing "different" are my immagination... thanks for opening my eyes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:24 AM Flag
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I'm still here and here's the thing. I have lived in all regions of the US. Also have lived in three countries abroad. I'm educated and have chosen to return to the south to be near family. I don't love everything about it - am far from pretending everything is buttercups. But I don't think it makes me superior to dismiss all non-urban areas of the south as "delieverance land." I truly believe that people who feel the need to do that are insecure about being raised in the south and are trying to find a way to separate themselves from the people who never left. Just my opinion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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What I feel is honesty you feel is superiority... I have also lived abroad, in NYC, the West Coast and am now back in the South again. I am secure enough to tell the truth as I see it... you see it another way... Try a few years far from a major city and see how you feel about it then. Would you raise a fmily there ? Eager to have you DC raised without variety and amongst people who aspire to not a whole hell of a lot ? I have no need to be PC about what I see here, but if you want to toot your own horn or "defend" the rural south as a good place for someone looking for an eclectic vibe and diversity, have at it ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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"redneck" is a farmer or worker who is in the sun all day. hence "redneck". it is not someone backward, FYI, as you seem to be saying [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:32 AM Flag
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thank you. i've very clear on the origins of "redneck." but i think you can infer from the thread that i was talking about the uneducated people in "deliverance land" (not my words.) i appreciate the enlightenment, though. I'm not the snob here. I know you can find interesting people whereever you go if you're willing to have an open mind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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that's right, you're educated... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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. . . and you'd say that everywhere but major cities and some college towns is DELIVERANCE? Oh please . . . . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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np: not deliverance, but pretty segregated [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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cross off New Orleans... not a good place right now... two days in the Quarter, good... more than that, not good... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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Most people don't live in the Quarter. New Orleans is an amazing place to live. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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I know most res. don't live in the quarter, but all of our friends who are still there or have gone back say it is a really hard place to live right now... services are not up to where they were, crime is very bad, and it's still not something they feel good about yet. I love NOLA, but I don't think it'd be my first choice right now... that's all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:27 AM Flag
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austin is segregated, isn't it? latinos on one end, white on the other [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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i fantasize about living in NOLA also. i have a relative in tucson and it's not what i expected. it's actually quite odd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:54 PM Flag
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san fransisco baby. love it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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But San Francisco is one of the whitest places in the country. (Well, maybe not the country, since like the poster above said, diversity in the US is hard to find.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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wrong-o tons of asians, latinos (not many aas i suppose) [ Reply | More
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Maine is the whitest place in the country [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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well, after my ass. -np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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are you kidding?! it's half asian. (i'm from there and i'm asian american). you've never been there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:03 AM Flag
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Also large Black population. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 02:24 PM Flag
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No way! San Francisco area has large black, hispanic and asian populations as well as a lot more people of mixed ethnic backgrounds. Also more with native american backgrounds. And more tolerance of diversity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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i'm asian, have lived in sf, now live in brooklyn. brooklyn is diverse. i thought i knew everything about the world when i lived in sf. truth is, even if it's ethnically diverse, it is so segregated in terms of socioeconomic groups. everyone IN san francisco proper is relatively well-off, in terms of educational background, if not monetarily. none of us 'poor artists' were actually hobnobbing with the working class black, hispanic and asians. we were hobnobbing with other minorities, yes, but we were all privileged minorities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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Asheville, NC [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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asheville is the definition of funky eclectic! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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and great weather ! love it... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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hey, i live in Quincy mass and it's pretty diverse but i wouldn't say it's the hottest place o live in the us! and teh schools are not so good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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How about Jamaica Plain, MA--that's where we are. Tho we are moving to Melrose, MA--not quite a suburb, but has a great main street, good schools and diverse. And affordable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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Melrose is very suburban [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 02:29 PM Flag
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hijack- where in melrose? we live there too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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Do you think it is suburban? [ Reply | More
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Prospect Street--where are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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university towns [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:55 PM Flag
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I think so - you'll get more racial diversity not limited to economic inequality [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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Plus interesting people and businesses. [ Reply | More
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Right, b/c brown people are great to have around whereas poor people suck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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you miss the point - what I meant that in many cities "racially diverse," means rich whites/poor blacks and/or hispanics in segregated neighborhoods [ Reply | More
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First OR: I don't think she meant it quite like that. My parents live in a town where there are a lot of Latinos. They are separated at school a lot for ESL, and my fear living there is that DC would just think Latinos cut lawns and clean houses. Much different than their experience in Brooklyn. [ Reply | More
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thanks, yes, this is what I meant [ Reply | More
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i live in a university town. it's very culturally diverse, but it's not economically diverse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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I grew up in one, and this was true. But it was a great place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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Miami Beach; very cultural and diverse economically and ethnically. Old, young, black, white, latin, international. everything . . . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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I found Salt Lake City to be extremely diverse. And it's *only* 40% LDS. [ Reply | More
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I've heard really good things about SLC post Olympics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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It was really nice. A city vibe but nice big houses w/in city limits. Great parks. Close to skiing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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houston can be funky if you live in Montrose or the Heights. But once you leave those neighborhoods its much less so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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When I visited Houston recently, I was struck at how diverse and integrated it has become. I grew up there in the 70s, and where I lived was completely white. Minorities were, as was said above, servants, if we saw them at all. I saw all different ethnicities in my old neighborhood on my last visit. Restaurants were fully integrated. It seemed like paradise for black people! All the black people I saw looked prosperous and confident. There may be a different reality at the ground level, but Houston is not the lily-white southern town you picture or that I grew up in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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portland, me but not racially diverse. funky though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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asheville rocks! if i could make money there i'd move in a second [ Reply | More
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I was just in Austin and it was okay, but man, I didn't love it. I expected it to have more of a main shopping downtown area, and there just wasn't. Barton Springs was fab though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:40 PM Flag
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SO expensive and not $ diverse. Its upper middle/lower upper well educated types and a huge homeless population, not much in the middle. [ Reply | More
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I moved to Austin 2 months ago and so far I like it a lot. Cute downtown, gorgeous weather, interesting people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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Austin is so white. Totally segregated! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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Berkeley [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:39 PM Flag
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Santa Fe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 09:48 PM Flag
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diverse in what sense? SF is pretty segregated - white and anglo/native americans/hispanics - few blacks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:15 AM Flag
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We just moved to seattle and it is VERY diverse and interesting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 12:19 AM Flag
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not to rainy and depressing? That was one of my top choices but i am freaked out by the weather [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 04:34 AM Flag
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PORTLAND OREGON!!! all that and more! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 05:41 AM Flag
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We are moving to Portland next year - but I've heard there's a large white supremacist population there. Is that true? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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np: i'm from oregon, and it's a pretty white state historically, but it's not true that there's a large white supremacist population in pdx. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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home of the self-righteous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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The weather is mostly great in Seattle, seriously. No storms, no hard rain, no cold winters or humid summers. It's mild (I lived there about 4.5 years, and finally missed having more discernable seasons), and you most often get some clouds / very light rain *and* sun in the same day -- it changes a lot. It's beautiful. You may get several cloudy weeks in a row in the winter with no sumnny days, but that's the only "depressing" time. Summer weather is often California-beautiful (80 and sunny). If worries about the weather are the only thing keeping you from Seattle, definitely get on the next plane! It is really white, though. Diversity and intellectual discussion were the other things I missed about NY (that was before I had a child). No place is perfect-- Good luck :-) [ Reply | More
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I disagree, the weather definitely made me move away from Seattle. I love the city and the region, but I just can't live on 50F year round (even in the summer at night, ugh). I need warmer weather and more sun than I can get in Seattle and the Pacific Northwest coast (Portland, OR included). Have you seen the stats for overcast days in a year? Seattle, Portland and a bunch of cities in that area all have more than 200 days/year. Ugh. [ Reply | More
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I lived in Seattle for three years and I must disagree with your assessment. Seattle is not the wettest place in the USA, that is true. The thing, though, is that most of the year it is very gloomy. You can always expect that when it is sunny and nice it will turn around any time. When it rains or it's gloomy don't expect it to get better anytime soon. Seattle is trapped between the Pacific Ocean and the Cascades. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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Where are you finding this diversity? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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San Francisco. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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Philly, Northampton MA [ Reply | More
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Not OP but curious, anyone like Philly? I'm a real New Yorker, but DH wants out. Know the schools suck, but we could afford private since real estate is less. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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native ny-er and loving philly. we technically live outside of the city on the main line, but so close to philly. lots to do, great restaurants, good diversity, lacking ny's "edge" [ Reply | More
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op: i have spent a lot of time in northamton and do love it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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Philly is a good idea. It's a real city with a much more manageable cost of living than NYC and you can live in a suburb with great schools (like Lower Merion) and a real town center and still be only 20 minutes from downtown. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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Portland [ Reply | More
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brooklyn [ Reply | More
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ho! [ Reply | More
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THIS IS IT!!!! [ Reply | More
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Berkeley [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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Harlem or Spanish Harlem [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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New Orleans!!!!!!! So much fun to live there. The people are fantastic. If you want funky, eclectic and diverse this is your place. [ Reply | More
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bROOKLYN BABY! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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OP: I am so proud this made the most popular! I feel like perhaps i should make a speech or get an award. [ Reply | More
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go for it! but start a new thread for your speech b/c the board is s.l.o.w. tonight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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Providence would be great for you. Funky, eclectic, and there is some diversity. [ Reply | More
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I love Providence! and it' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:59 PM Flag
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^^it's super diverse: Laotians, Dominicans, Cape Verdeans, Portuguese, Italian, etc. [ Reply | More
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np: and it has Alfornos! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.16.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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Portland, Oregon! Great town, very eclectic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:52 PM Flag
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Why, Ithaca New York of course! Very good public schools, huge amount of great music, theatre and movies thanks to Cornell and Ithaca College, very international community, farmer's market, supermarket with international ingredients, beautiful nature (winter is tough though). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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do you live there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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yes I do (sorry I stepped away, don't know if you are still here) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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oh no! another Ithacan on the site! I have always been the only one when I've said I lived here...we'd better not reveal too much information...or maybe I already know you :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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How funny! I think this might be my first post. Chances are we probably know each other--I suppose we should mention in the disadvantages of Ithaca that the town is very small! (And you can find out way too much about any man you may be interested in by asking all the people you know who have already had truck with him.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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truck, huh? :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.06.08, 12:08 AM Flag
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New York City, baby!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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brooklyn! queens!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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I'm in Cambridge, MA. My block is half white, and half black. The half that's white includes Russian, French and Australian families (as well as American-born WASPs like me.) The public schools are getting better, plus there are privates. Lots to do; not sure if it's "funky." Economic diversity, also, if that is of interest. Weather sucks, but my kids like the snow. I moved here under duress but I have grown to love it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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San Diego [ Reply | More
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[ - ] For some reason I don't want to think about, I have been pondering the "peeing on the curb" post and wondering about calling pee "tee tee." Never heard that one. Tinkle, pee-pee, bien sur. But never tee-tee. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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OP: oh, and another thing. Why not call it "urine"? I mean, I'm not pointing fingers here. I don't. But why not? [ Reply | More
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urine isn't cute sounding... tee tee is Southern... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:29 PM Flag
[ - ] asking again:8 weeks after a miscarriage (at 11 weeks) and still feeling tired plus gaining weight.anyone btdt?go to see a doctor? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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your body must still 'think' your pg, b/c of hormones, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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op:so,goto a doctor or not? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:41 PM Flag
[ - ] dd is having serious and lengthy tantrums these days, almost daily. it's reminding me of when she was a colicky infant. someone, pls help! i'm at my wit's end. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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Exact age? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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2.9 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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Ok, got to amazon, look for "You're two year, friend or enemy" by Ames. explains these phases perfectly, 2 - 2.6 is calm, 2.6 - 3 is brutal-every 1/2 year age from 0 - 5 yrs old is like this. i got the three year old book, helped me so much. not so much ahow to, but rather gives you the EXACT explanation for this behavior. GL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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np: THANK YOU. I'm hiding for my 2.6yo DS right now. Posted earlier about him turning into a monster houdini who is trashing the house and making me fear his safety. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Just fantasizing here. But how hard, single moms, is it to find somebody to date when you've got a three-year-old? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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If you're attractive with a nice body, it's not hard at all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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So just out in the world, grocery store, park, etc., there are single men out there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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No. You have to go on Match.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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i am a single mom with a 3 yo. so far, not many dates. but i am about 10lbs overweight, so i guess that makes me untouchable :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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oh jeez 10 pounds is enough to disqualify you? Now I know there's no hope for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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i'm short....and i have a bad attitude, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:36 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone on who has dealt with a person with borderline personality disorder? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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Yes. One of the hardest things I've ever done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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who was it? i am nearly certain my soon to be ex dh has it... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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One of the warning signs: trying to put a wedge between you and anybody else in your life. Another: rampant solipsism. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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yes. sadly, i let him drive them wedge in a lot of cases. well, my big concern now is dd and how it will affect her. and how how treatment of me and my family will affect her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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^meant "his treatment" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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what is solipsism? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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What it really means is thinking that the only reality is your own mind. But colloquially, means that somebody thinks their own subjective viewpoint is the only way to see anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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all about self - cannot relate to others [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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almost all borderlines are women. What are his symptoms? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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unstable moods (quick to change), loves/hates every one, irrationally angry, sometimes paranoid, only ever really thinks about himself or what people think of him....occaisonal violent or angry outburst (will yell at strangers, drive like maniac etc) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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wow this describes me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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i don't know if you are being funny, but i mean every word of that literally. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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most of his romantic relationships have followed same pattern of intense courtship followed by intense, awful, angry breakups. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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maybe look into A.D.D.. It presents the same in adults. Sometimes they just don't have that thing in their brain that stops implusive thoughts/actions. I've known several adult ADD, they present this way too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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yeah,i've considered that too... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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also, not sure what position i am in to do anything about it. we are nearly divorced. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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is this really true? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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I was in a sorority...lots of crazies under one roof [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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My MIL has it. Very hard to deal with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Can ANYONE please tell me why someone has a wedding at 10 am with the reception right after? Is it a pancake b-fast? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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more like a brunch and is not uncommon [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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agreed, on a Sunday [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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OP-this is on a Saturday. In the smack middle of the summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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Sat. is a little odd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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very traditional. sat am followed by brunch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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Sorry to correct you, but is VERY uncommon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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is it at the VFW hall ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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This is actually a very traditional time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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Then invite only people who follow that 'tradition'. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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huh? traditionally weddings took place in the am. always a whole day affair. if you are unable to attend then decline on your rsvp [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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could be the only time church was available.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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I had a 10AM wedding and a 12noon to 5pm reception. On a saturday. There was about a 30 minute drive between church and reception site [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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I've heard of this- and the church where we got married at 10am, 12n, and 2pm slots available, so can't be too uncommon [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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it's probably the only time they could afford. evening rentals are much more expensive and a brunch or lunch reception isn't unheard of. if you don't want to go, don't go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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better than having mass at 1 pm and reception not starting until 6 pm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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I think it could actually be quite elegant- not a rocking party but a nice ceremony followed by a brunch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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So say no and get over it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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you would have hated my wedding. noon on a thursday. it was a lunch wedding in the city and over by 3. we had 30 people & it was $30/per person!! The place is usually a dinner place, so they made us the deal for lunch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:42 PM Flag
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np-that sounds good, why am i never invited to weddings like this? i hate when i have to go to a saturday night wedding and spend the whole weekend doing all teh wedding related activities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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So if you hate them, don't go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Random culinary thought of the day: My very old-fashioned Canadian mom always makes stewed rhubarb in the spring (just cooks it down with sugar until it's kind of apple sauce-y). I never tried it until today... it is SO GOOD. Like pie filling. I could've eaten the whole pot. And it's v. high in vitamin C, potassium and calcium. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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what do you do w/ it besides eat it straight up? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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i agree... one of my favorite things... on yogurt is good too... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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love rhubarb [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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i buy lots when i find it in the frozen food scetion. good crimble for dessert also... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:14 PM Flag
[ - ] wow! hard to believe the G&T results will actually come out soon. It will be like finding out you are pregnant after a year of trying, and thinking it will never happen 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.02.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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I feel pretty sure I will be disappointed with our placement. The only consolation is that I will have loads of company. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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np: we'll be here sharing the pain! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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ditto only applied to anderson with a 98 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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but there is still that hope, isn't there? like even when the pregnancy test is negative, you keep thinking your dates are off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 06:58 PM Flag
[ - ] i've let ds watch so much tv today. i feel guilty. we had a furniture delivery, I had a phone interview, etc. We did go swimming, take a long walk and play together, but still. He's watched 4 shows. eesh. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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Look on the bright side. He's probably thrilled. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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good point. :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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I promise he won't become a ne'er do well because of one day of excessive TV. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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I can top that. I walked in the room and dd was watching people shoot up on "Intervention." And there was no swimming that day, either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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ack. you win! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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love it... very funny and - thank you - honest... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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DD has been throwing up since Friday. Has watched TV all day for days [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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this is me every weekend. single mom. i've made my peace with it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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you mean 2 hours? that's nothing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:51 PM Flag
[ - ] all we could afford in this measly town was a co-op in riverdale. our friends moved to texas and bought a gorgeous newly renovated house with a pool, etc. , for exactly the same price we paid for our co-op that needs to be gutted. I feel happy for them, but i'm also so jealous and depressed about it. we have to be near manhattan for dh's work. :-( 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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yeah, but they're in texas, which i'm pretty sure is one of the rings of hell [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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nah. they're loving it. and i saw pix. i'd love it too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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Texas is actually great! You should take a trip sometime. Beaches, mountains, pine trees, desert, rivers, lakes, metro areas........so beautiful. And the cost of living? WOW! So low! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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op: exactly. WAH. :-( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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Okay, reality check here. I have friends who moved to Texas. It's true, they have a very nice house. But one neighbor started complaining to her about the damn faggots, and another one took her aside and told her she was going to hell because she wore a little Buddha around her neck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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i'm telling you hell. with beaches, mountains, pine trees and all that maybe, but hell nevertheless [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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While there ARE many rednecks in America, you can always be a voice for tolerance. And nobody's forcing you to spend time with hateful people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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don't be depressed... they're in TEXAS ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:15 PM Flag
[ - ] I just yelled at my kid for nothing. Really, nothing. Like throwing her sock. And I know it was bad, but it was so sudden that I couldn't censor. I think maybe it's sleep deprivation, but i don't see sleep coming anytime soon, and i don't want to do this again. she looked so surprised and shocked it was heartbreaking. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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it happens. apologize and move on. i [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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what else were you trying to get done at the time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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op: just get out of the house. we were late. and then, irony of ironies, our play date called to cancel so it was really nothing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:00 PM Flag
[ - ] City vs Suburbs... it occurs to me that staying in the city (even with private school tuition for one child) isn't so much more expensive than moving to the suburbs where the schools are good... because the taxes are so high in those places, one has to buy a lawn mower etc etc... Your thoughts? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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We actually moved back to the city b/c it was cheaper (we sold a 3 br house for a 3 br apt, no heating oil and lawn care, replacing roofs, etc.) We paid cash for our apartment, but we bought in a transitional neighborhood where big apartments are still cheap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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Which transitional neighborhood? Good public school zone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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taxes aren't high everywhere - it depends. We'd much rather have the luxury of space, a gorgeous house, great schools. THe lawn mower wasn't that costly :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.02.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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