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[ - ] I should write a book entitled "Sexism in the Media". Seriously 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:21 PM Flag
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I'm betting there are already books out there on the subject. But we can certainly be adding a new chapter with this campaing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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how do you think the media would report about that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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OR above: She'd be all over the talk shows, the media are nothing if not loving to talk about themselves. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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I should write one called "sex and the city" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:23 PM Flag
[ - ] man i am seeing is very hot and cold depending on how work is going. is this normal? he seems very overwhelmed right now work wise and sometimes he is totally tuned into me, but when work is nuts he goes into some special world of his. normal? does your DH do this? how do i handle it? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.03.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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This is not a good sign, I would handle it by ending things. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:21 PM Flag
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I second that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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interesting. why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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np: i am surprised this is your response. I think this is how my DH is to a point. He has meetings and is stressed but when they are over he is calm and fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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I don't think she means it this way. But she can correct me if I'm wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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this is OP. not sure if its normal like that poster described, or not normal as you are describing. how can i tell? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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Does he disappear for long periods of time? Is everything really on his terms, on his schedule? Is he there for you when you need him, even if he is busy at work? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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he never disappears. not sure what you mean by that but i speak to him every night before we both go to sleep.... a lot of things are on his terms and his schedule, but if i ask for things from him, he tries to come through and usually does. he is there for me when i need him and seems to do things for me if i am having a hard time, not well, etc. but in general yes, they are on his terms...ashamed to say it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:28 PM Flag
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I'd read the OR below, sounds like she's married to the type of guy I'm telling you to dump. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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i just responded. the main difference is he doesn't want me to sympathize with him or coddle him. i think he wants to be left alone completely when he is stressed. something i find a little weird and cold. he doesnt say it, but makes it quite clear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:30 PM Flag
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It's so hard to see inside your relationship from here. If I was using the words you were using, I don't think this would be the guy for me. But words mean different things to different people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:39 PM Flag
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She said "very hot & cold". Not a good sign. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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what does hot & cold mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:25 PM Flag
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np: really?? i think most men with relatively demanding jobs are like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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ita! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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yes....but also while in his own little world, he wants sympathy from me and gets more angry when I'm too exhausted to give it. When we were just dating and recently married it was OK though because I had extra time to devote to coddling him. But now, 3 kids later, I'm completely burned out and need a 2nd grown up in the house, not a 4th 6 ft tall child [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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the thing is, my bf doesn't want me to coddle or sympathize with him. he wants to shut down and go into his own cave-ish world and not deal with anything us related while this is going on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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does he work long hours? I guess my dh was like this when he first started...he did sort of retreat....or he'd just mumble to himself and snap at me if I said "what?" thinking he was talking to me. This was when he was an analyst working 18 hours a day. So he was stressed and tired. As he moved up in the banking world, I guess he wasn't as tired (But still stressed) so then he had more time to be home and want me pamper him (which by then we had the kids so I didn't have much to give) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:34 PM Flag
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probably very focused on work. some people are like that. as long as you can deal with it it is fine. he wont change. you just have to decide if you can handle it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:30 PM Flag
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i guess i could handle it if i knew for sure it was work and had nothing to do with me. for example, if it wasn't that he just wasn't "that" into me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:31 PM Flag
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if you can stick it out, time will tell... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Need a good source for birthday sheet cakes from midtown east to upper east. Already considering Crumbs or Agata. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.03.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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I have to say, Food Emporium (have only had cakes from the one on 87th/2nd) makes really good sheet cake. FWIW, I didn't like the cake we had from Glaser's (1st, 87th-ish) nearly as much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:32 PM Flag
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Good to know. Any sense of pricing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:55 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone else sad that the school year is ending? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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yes -- i want DS to be in K forever... :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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not really - but looking forward to jrk [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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Yes because I love dc's teachers - who have been the same for the past two years - I am having separation anxiety. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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No because DC is going into second, reading so well, doing multiplication and division, exploring science --- will be a great summer with some adventure trips [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:18 PM Flag
[ - ] trying to photograph apt for FSBO purposes. Any advice? I'm renting a light, have a tripod and know to shoot from the corner of the room...any other good tips?? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.03.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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Hire a photography student from SVA. They'll be cheap and your apt. will look so much better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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that is a great idea...but I don't know how to go about finding someone like that? I'm picturing myself standing outside the school trying to flag someone down like a crazy person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:30 PM Flag
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Check their website, I think they have a classifieds section. I used to hire them by going to the main building, there was a bulletin board. You could also call the school and see if they have a placement program. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:31 PM Flag
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thanks....I'll give it a try! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:34 PM Flag
[ - ] sometimes other moms stress me out... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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Did I just autotype those words? :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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so true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Today I was shopping with all 3 of my kids. I was nursing the baby on a bench right outside of the bathroom. My 6 year old boy needed to go #2 all of the sudden. I let him go into the men's bathroom all by himself. Afterwards i felt so stupid for letting him do that. How old does a boy need to be to go to a public bathroom alone? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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6 is fine, relax. unless youre near the known airport homosexual bathroom, its fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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Seriously? The homosexual bathroom? WTF? Are you an idiot? You do realize gay does NOT equal pedophile, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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no, i meant that he would see things a 6 yo shouldnt see. Calm down woman. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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6 is OK, just stand outside and ask a Dad to just keep an eye on him. most men are nice and will have no problem with this. People are good in general. just the small % of sickos who would hurt a child [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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i remember once hearing that percentage-wise most people are good and want to help when directly asked. it's the people that offer to help who often times have an ulterior motive. I agree with the other post that if you asked someone to help, you'd be good... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:02 AM Flag
[ - ] Go Hillary, you are so smart and capable ------- time for a very capable woman to steer this ship 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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Steer it back to port? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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it makes me sad. not only that she lost but that she was crapped on so much by the media. all that condoned sexism made me cringe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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v disappointing results -- she really should have won the nomination for all sorts of reasons. Dems have their work cut out for them between now and November. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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agree. my heart just sinks when i think mccain could be our next president. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:14 PM Flag
[ - ] WOHMs, what kind of work do you do and how many yrs out of college/uni? are you the main breadwinner, similar to DH or less? what's your total HHI? just trying to compare where I am, going back to work FT 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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Doctor, out of school 8 years, income similar to DH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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assume you earn about $400K as a dr? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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eight years out of my last round of grad school. I am a teacher. Total HHI is 195K, dh makes most of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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Financial services, $400K and DH makes about $130K but works close to home, is the "back up" for emergencies, no travel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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boring work, 22 yrs since college, main breadwinner (75:25), $150K. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:42 PM Flag
[ - ] where can i get music t-shirts in nyc? i'm looking for Led Zeppelin, Van Halen? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.03.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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Hop on the Way Back Machine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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I got a Led Zeppelin tshirt for ds on the street in Soho. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:59 PM Flag
[ - ] what was the most stressful time of your life so far? 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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When db was in the NICU. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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hurricane katrina [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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when i lost my job. or maybe when my father died. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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when our baby was in the NICU, my mother died and my DH tried to take his life after he lost his job. I became stronger, amazingly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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That all happened together? Wow, I am impressed that you came out of it so well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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yes, and DH is now exDH -- he never got the help he needed and I couldn't let him drag out little family down more and more with each passing month which is what he was doing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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I'm sorry that you had no choice but to do that, it must have been so hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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Oh God, so hard. but DCs are fine now, happy and healthy. that was my goal. all my successes and challenges since have deeper meaning after the Hell I went through back then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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after dc#2 was born. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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When I was severely injured during db's birth so I couldn't care for him for months. I felt like such a terrible mother and like I was missing bonding, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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what injury did you have? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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Hemorrhage that ripped apart my pelvic floor. I am having my 13th operation next month, many years later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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9/11. I was there (on street) when the towers came down and couldn't get into my home for several weeks. I was pretty convinced we were all going to die at any moment for at least 6 months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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did you go to therapy? I know people who are still obsessed with 9/11 and the images. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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Not at the time. But more recently I did and realized that issues i was having now are related to the utter fear that I felt at the time. I am better now though. But I am also on Zoloft :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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when i lost my baby and found out that i might not every have another one. (but i did, thank God) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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I am so very sorry, and so glad you were able to have another child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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wow... so sorry, but happy you were able to have another [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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My dh being deployed to Afghanistan while I was pregnant with db #3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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Is he home safely yet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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Yes. He got home exactly 1 week before db was born. Thanks for asking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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Sorry if this sounds inadequate, but thank you and your DH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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Barf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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Didn't mean to offend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:30 PM Flag
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in order: father dying, house severely damaged/ensuing lawsuit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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how did your house get damaged? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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construction of a mcmansion next door [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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did they throw H2s at your house? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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h2s? exposed our foundation (1890 house), causing shift, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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np: Good one! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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realizing ds was on the spectrum at 13 mo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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What does that mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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np: autism spectrum... 13 mo is early dx: OP- how'd that come about? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:24 PM Flag
[ - ] I love DH and he is great father and lots of great qualities and personality traits which he shares with our DS. however he also has certain qualities that I don't love so much and I am not crazy about they may impact on our DS. And before you jump down my throat these are not things that I would have remotely thought about discussing before we had kids. For example DH teases a lot and he calls DS names in a teasing manner. He htinks they are only words and he is joking and it is no big deal, but I think that DS is to young to appreciate sarcasm and doesn't get that daddy is kidding when he calls hims a filthy little animal. I think that if a kid hears that all the time it will affect them. Same goes for calling DS a "bad boy" if he does something wrong. Don't get me wrong but I think there is a difference between a bad thing and a bad boy, and hearing that he is bad boy, as opposed to telling him that he did a bad thing, can affect his self esteem. Am I over-reacting or am I right? and if I am right and DH won't stop doing this how would handle it? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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print him out articles showing that calling names and calling a child bad are bad things to do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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did his father do this to him? sounds like your DH is repeating some very negative, toxic behaviors. he needs counseling. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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op: yes and I have told him that I think he is recreating his relationship that he has with his father and even he admits that that isn't a relationship that should be emulated. I have also suggested counseling to him. He isn't opposed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:04 PM Flag
[ - ] I suffer from low grade depression--and always have. Typical antidepressents never work--zoloft, wellbutrin, effexor, etc--so I stopped trying. Is it possible that a different type of medication might help? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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i wish i knew. i have horrible anxiety and none of that stuff really works with me, either... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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You may have had the wrong drug or wrong combination of drugs/dosage. I had severe anxiety and a combination of intensive cognitive/behavioral therapy and Wellbutrin + Prozac (low-ish dosages of each) made a world of difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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i take 75 mg of effexor and 300 mg of wellbutrin -- dr wants me to drop effexor to 37 mg but i'm a little nervous about it b.c i still have bad anxiety... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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I dont like being medicated so I just suffer. wondering if I should just go back on one of those.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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I've suffered from that on and off much of my life. Antidepressants didn't really do much for me. The only thing that really helps me, believe it or not, is exercise, especially running. Wish I were able to do it more often. Hope you find a way to feel better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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yes, try Nardil, good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 10:20 PM Flag
[ - ] I worry about Michelle Obama --- she is so talented yet she hasn't done ANYTHING to raise educational standards for African-Americans, to stop the cycle of poverty among AA single mothers (a huge suck on welfare), building skills and creating jobs in inner city communities, etc. I am very disappointed in her because she doesn't use her potential to help others. I don't think a high paying hospital administration job counts. It's like working on Wall St. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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What are you doing for those issues? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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a ton including in NYC among AA girls [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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I think it's amazing that you are doing this. I just don't see why everyone has to be that person. We have no idea what she will do if she's first lady, and I don't think it is a personal defect that she has a regular job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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She is so well educated and the ones in the US who are falling most behind in the global economy are African Americans == including men (1/3 of them in jail, the other 1/3 out on the street, no skills and no job, many having abandoned their children). It's quite sad actually [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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Well, she's standing next to a guy who has dedicated his life to those issues. Can't imagine she's involved in NONE of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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oh dear lord [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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give me a break. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:00 PM Flag
[ - ] any wohms? i have a question about how often you end up having kids home sick? i've always used a nanny and i'm thinking of switching to daycare and i'm worried about not having someone in the house every time someone is home sick. (2 school age kids and a 2yo). tia. 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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flame away, but i'm a wohm with a nanny and will never hire a wohm who uses daycare again. too much aggravation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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are you saying that from experience? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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It this true across the board? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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Also, wouldn't that mean you don't hire any women with school age kids either? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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no. school-age dcs aren't sick every other day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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I posted below. At what point is group care ok by you (and I'm not judging)? Preschool? Or are you just talking about toddlers in daycare... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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Neither are most young dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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Youre an idiot. And a disgrace to working mothers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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She's being honest. I appreciate someone being honest about life in the big city. But seriously, what about women with school kids? It's kind of like daycare with all the germs, no? You can only keep kids one-on-one with a caregiver for so long.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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no, i'm someone who hired a woman to work full-time and she's pretty much working part-time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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I'm a WOHM with my own company and I will hire ANY capable woman who produces 200% because if she has to leave early, we will all pitch in and I know she will log in from home, work late and go the extra mile. so many bosses need to wake up and start thinking outside the box. it's about PRODUCTIVITY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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yes, but at a certain point, if you're missing several full days a month and not staying late or coming in on the weekends, you're not productive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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If she's got a kid who is that sick, the problem isnt day care. Be a little more understanding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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i can't. sorry. this is business, not personal. you get dh to pitch in, you find out from the ped why dc is always sick or you find another childcare solution. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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You sound like a man. I do not mean this as a compliment, although you sound like the kind of person who thinks it is one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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i'm more than fair. i have let this person get away with a lot that a man never, ever would. but am i happy about picking up her slack when i have a family of my own i'd like to spend time with? no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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I would hate you IRL. Grow a heart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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i have given her so many breaks. and we're not talking about a seriously ill dc. every time dc gets the sniffles, it's two days off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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Wow, you are a peach. I never stay late, but am the first one in the office. You sound like someone who likes the appearance of hard work rather than actual hard work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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no, i work hard myself, and that includes late nights and weekends. my direct report, not so much. and no early mornings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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So, it is the appearance. Some people want to work early mornings, others late nights. Why do you care? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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read again. she neither works late nor comes in early nor works on the weekend nor manages to get through the week without some childcare-related crisis. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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Sorry, I misread. It is late and I am working and doing this. That said, this has nothing to do with day care. This seems like a problem with her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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Her issue is not the use of daycare, and for you to use her as a reason to never hire another woman who uses daycare is a ridiculous generalization on your part. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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it's a big, big part of the issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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no, its her issue. The overwhelming majorityof daycare mothers do not have a childcare related crisis every week. If you dont know this, get out into the real world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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WOHM of 4 DCs with a big team at work I manage including many moms!!!! they are some of the best people on my team in terms of quality of work, dedication, hard-driving work ethic and client focus. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:32 PM Flag
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Then I hope you pay them enough to hire a good nanny. Also, most mothers I know take days off when dc is sick regardless of nanny v. daycare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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Funny, because when I had a nanny, she was sick more often then my dd. If we didn't have backup daycare through dh's work, I would have had to stay home. While in daycare, dd has only been sick a few times. So I guess you never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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I'm a wohm and had a nanny until February. My kids are in 1st grade. The week after my nanny left, one of my twins was sick. The other was fine for school. So I had to schlepp sick one to school for the well one's drop off, take the sick one home and work from there. We have afterschool stuff, where I drop them off, but it's a lot of juggling. Lucky for me my boss totally understands [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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thanks for posting. this is what i'm afraid of happening. my boss is great but there's still only so much leeway i have. i have to run but i appreciate your post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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WOHM and don't ahve a job that's flexibile enough for daycare [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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My dd is only 19 mo so I'm not sure if this is relevant, but I have only missed a few days of work due to illness (probably 5 or fewer). We've been lucky, I guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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I have never had a nanny. I use my sick days when she is sick, which is not that often. Also, remember if a kid is really sick she/he want her/his mom anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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I am wohm with a child in daycare and I had to stay home from work ONE time in a year. ONCE. And I worked from home. Another time I had a backup with a friend of mine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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This year, about 5 business days. DD caught the flu. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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But use a nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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Wait until the 2yo is older [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 11:48 PM Flag
[ - ] daycare or nanny? due in 4 wks and still undecided.... 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.03.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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nanny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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daycare [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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Daycare is great for kids. Builds their immune systems, socializes them, and costs less than a nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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plus you know that they are not relying on just one person who may be yapping on their cell the whole time watching tv [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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tell us about the daycare option you have. how close is it? how easy is it to get to? how many hours do you work? is money an issue? how flexible are your work hours? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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I am between 2 one is 7 blocks away from home the other 10. My hours arent set but I have lots of backup - family in the area, money is not tight but its not a "non issue" either. My major issue with a nanny is having one stranger form this bond with my child.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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Depends on your job and what kind of flexibility you have. Daycare is great b/c of socialization, less potential for personal drama, etc. However, if your kid is remotely sick they can't come to daycare and you'll have to miss work or have some kind of good backup. My own job doesn't ahve that kind of flexibility. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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I would go to a high quality daycare over a nanny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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are you in nyc? do you have any good daycares to suggest? my thought right now is nanny until 12 mo then daycare [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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