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06.03.08, 19:50 PM General Topics
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any wohms? i have a question about how often you end up having kids home sick? i've always used a nanny and i'm thinking of switching to daycare and i'm worried about not having someone in the house every time someone is home sick. (2 school age kids and a 2yo). tia. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.03.08, 07:50 PM Flag
 

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flame away, but i'm a wohm with a nanny and will never hire a wohm who uses daycare again. too much aggravation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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are you saying that from experience? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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It this true across the board? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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Also, wouldn't that mean you don't hire any women with school age kids either? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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no. school-age dcs aren't sick every other day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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I posted below. At what point is group care ok by you (and I'm not judging)? Preschool? Or are you just talking about toddlers in daycare... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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Neither are most young dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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Youre an idiot. And a disgrace to working mothers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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She's being honest. I appreciate someone being honest about life in the big city. But seriously, what about women with school kids? It's kind of like daycare with all the germs, no? You can only keep kids one-on-one with a caregiver for so long.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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no, i'm someone who hired a woman to work full-time and she's pretty much working part-time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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I'm a WOHM with my own company and I will hire ANY capable woman who produces 200% because if she has to leave early, we will all pitch in and I know she will log in from home, work late and go the extra mile. so many bosses need to wake up and start thinking outside the box. it's about PRODUCTIVITY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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yes, but at a certain point, if you're missing several full days a month and not staying late or coming in on the weekends, you're not productive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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If she's got a kid who is that sick, the problem isnt day care. Be a little more understanding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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i can't. sorry. this is business, not personal. you get dh to pitch in, you find out from the ped why dc is always sick or you find another childcare solution. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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You sound like a man. I do not mean this as a compliment, although you sound like the kind of person who thinks it is one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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i'm more than fair. i have let this person get away with a lot that a man never, ever would. but am i happy about picking up her slack when i have a family of my own i'd like to spend time with? no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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I would hate you IRL. Grow a heart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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i have given her so many breaks. and we're not talking about a seriously ill dc. every time dc gets the sniffles, it's two days off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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Wow, you are a peach. I never stay late, but am the first one in the office. You sound like someone who likes the appearance of hard work rather than actual hard work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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no, i work hard myself, and that includes late nights and weekends. my direct report, not so much. and no early mornings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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So, it is the appearance. Some people want to work early mornings, others late nights. Why do you care? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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read again. she neither works late nor comes in early nor works on the weekend nor manages to get through the week without some childcare-related crisis. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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Sorry, I misread. It is late and I am working and doing this. That said, this has nothing to do with day care. This seems like a problem with her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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Her issue is not the use of daycare, and for you to use her as a reason to never hire another woman who uses daycare is a ridiculous generalization on your part. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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it's a big, big part of the issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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no, its her issue. The overwhelming majorityof daycare mothers do not have a childcare related crisis every week. If you dont know this, get out into the real world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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WOHM of 4 DCs with a big team at work I manage including many moms!!!! they are some of the best people on my team in terms of quality of work, dedication, hard-driving work ethic and client focus. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:32 PM Flag
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Then I hope you pay them enough to hire a good nanny. Also, most mothers I know take days off when dc is sick regardless of nanny v. daycare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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Funny, because when I had a nanny, she was sick more often then my dd. If we didn't have backup daycare through dh's work, I would have had to stay home. While in daycare, dd has only been sick a few times. So I guess you never know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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I'm a wohm and had a nanny until February. My kids are in 1st grade. The week after my nanny left, one of my twins was sick. The other was fine for school. So I had to schlepp sick one to school for the well one's drop off, take the sick one home and work from there. We have afterschool stuff, where I drop them off, but it's a lot of juggling. Lucky for me my boss totally understands [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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thanks for posting. this is what i'm afraid of happening. my boss is great but there's still only so much leeway i have. i have to run but i appreciate your post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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WOHM and don't ahve a job that's flexibile enough for daycare [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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My dd is only 19 mo so I'm not sure if this is relevant, but I have only missed a few days of work due to illness (probably 5 or fewer). We've been lucky, I guess. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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I have never had a nanny. I use my sick days when she is sick, which is not that often. Also, remember if a kid is really sick she/he want her/his mom anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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I am wohm with a child in daycare and I had to stay home from work ONE time in a year. ONCE. And I worked from home. Another time I had a backup with a friend of mine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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This year, about 5 business days. DD caught the flu. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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But use a nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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Wait until the 2yo is older [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.03.08, 11:48 PM Flag
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