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[ - ] at what age did your dc write his/her name? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.04.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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4 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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boy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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could spell it at 3 (9 letter name), write at 4, boy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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sounds about right for our boy too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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3, boy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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Boy-3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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OP: please specify boy or girl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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A month before he turned 4. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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4 1/2 boy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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4, boy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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3, girl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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do the boys who don't write their name until 4 -have ot issues or is this within expected common age range? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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are you really this much of a dipsh&t or are you just a troll? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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obviously I'm clueless-I'm a 1st time mom and it is a sincere question- I actually didn't know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 04:14 AM Flag
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young 3, boy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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my 5.7yo boy still has great difficulty but he has gross and fine motor delays. My 3.7yo dd can write the letters but doesn't take the time to focus on writing her name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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2.5yo girl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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2.75 years. Now at 4.5 can write all the letters and numbers and has all pre-reading skills but ZERO interest in reading. ZERO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 04:18 AM Flag
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ditto. that will change when she enters K this year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:24 AM Flag
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tritto, don't worry about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:26 AM Flag
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2.0, girl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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my dd is turning 2 and I think I only showed her her name in writing twice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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We hadn't either. But we were making crowns for her 2nd bday and I wrote dd's name on hers. She looked at what I'd done and picked up a crayon and wrote it on her piece of paper. I was floored. After that she would write it all the time and became interested in the other 21 letters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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ditto. at around 2 years of age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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3 for both boy and girl [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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Boy 4 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:58 AM Flag
[ - ] How much to pay for a nanny/babysitter to work on the weekends with us? From Sat morning to Sunday afternoon? I am a SAHM and have no help during the week, so I am considering having someone every other weekend but have no idea of cost... 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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Where are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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In manhattan but nanny would travel to met us in Long Island (I would pay for transportation of course) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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why not hire help in LI? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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because I like this nanny I know in manhattan (we always talk in the park) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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how far out are you - sounds like she'll have quite a bit of travel time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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2.5 hours travel [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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Unless you're paying her extremely well, I would hire locally, on LI. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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$300/wkd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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available nanny great with kids cotact# 347-787-4212 Paula [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:40 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know what an elevated (slightly) afp in amniotic fluid could mean? My OB has not been helpful in this regard - says it is so rare and has not encountered. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.04.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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Try google. Whenever I had an issue, I found gobs of info. However, be warned that you will likely find much to freak you out. I had a potential low amniotic fluid issue and it freaked me out when I researched it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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I tried to google but nothing really clear and understandable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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WebMd? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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in amniotic fluid as opposed to where? is this a result from the triple screen or something else? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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as opposed to the afp in blood. the result is from the amnio. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:23 PM Flag
[ - ] denim skirts: yes or no? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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Very "mom who shops Garnet Hill." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone who has BTDT can help? 8 month old is not very smiley, does not respond to his name, delayed physically (i.e. just started sitting, no creeping), no babbling. I am very concerned about autism. Ped is not too attentive to my worries at this point; says let's give it another few months. Any advice on what to do? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.04.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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you can always request an eval through EI, don't need ped referral. Either you find out nothing is wrong or you get early help - no downside to either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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Thanks so much--do they require ped's approval? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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No. It's a state run program, and free. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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not free in my state (MA), substantial co-pay now and it is income-based [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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I assumed she was posting from NY. Many states do have free programs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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it's an annual fee in MA. call and find out. i think it's around $500 at the high end. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:54 PM Flag
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i also agree. mother's gut trumps doctor's degree. in my nephews case it was autism and he got approved for so many service before two years old he is doing extremly well. the early the help the better the outcome. go for it and good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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have you considered switching peds? good luck, op. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:54 PM Flag
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I would switch peds AND get an early eval (even if you have to pay). Best of luck to you and your little one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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ped here: hard to diagnose autism at this age (no one would want to slam that label at such an early age), gross dvp (sitting) is still w/in normal range, but should at least be babbling or making noises - does he seem to hear? if you are worried, your ped should at least address it, and you can certainly get eval by ei. make sure your ped checked that there's no other organic signs, like low tone, and set-up for delayed dvp (like low apgar scores). hope that helps. i always tell parents i meet - if you're not comfortable w/your ped, switch! otherwise you're just doing your child a disservice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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Consult a good developmental pediatrician. Our ped was clueless in diagnosing DD's special needs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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It could be that you son is on his own schedule. My daughter also started sitting only at about 7-8 mos, crawling at 11, walking at 20 mos. I did get her evaluated because i wanted to get some extra help for her thru Early Intervention. She is a normal kid who is just developing at her own speed. And all along my pediatrician did not have concerns (there are other signs that they are looking for as well). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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go see somebody else [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:12 PM Flag
[ - ] gag me--I was on a group playdate today and needed to listen to one of the moms go on and on about how her DD only got about 4 wrong on the OLSAT and how unfair it was that there was a lottery this year instead of using scores like they did last year because her child would have definitely gotten Anderson (she knows my kid is in contention too). Doesn't she realize that all the scores did last year was qualify you for the second round and in effect the 2nd round served as this year's lottery? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.04.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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You should tell her that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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I'm sure she's just focused on her DC's chances this year, as you are. 2nd round was the opposite of lottery; they got to pick kids based on which kids seemed easiest to teach and/or filled out the sex/age/race balance of the class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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op: right, but my point was that her child was no more guaranteed last year than this year. The DOE changes its policies every year and it is the luck of the draw whether the policy will help or hurt her. She is in fact being helped by this policy in that it is only the 99s that likely have a chance at Anderson, whereas in past years lower scores had an equal chance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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Also last year the bar to get to the second round was lower. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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What's annoying to me are the pp that even talk about the dc score. They are 4 for god's sake. What's the BFD about what they scored and how much they got right/wrong. My dd did great and other than her pre-school teachers and my dh I didn't tell anyone about her score. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:01 PM Flag
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If she got over a 97, and people in your neighborhood ask where she's going to school next year, how do you finesse that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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np; You say, we are still waiting on the G&T results. No one has asked me what shcools I ranked. I didn't even tell my DS's teachers that he got a 99 let alone another parent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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Well aren't I the tacky slob. You're right. That's a good response. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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I will share what we have ranked when asked, but have not shared score except to one person who asked me point blank what it was [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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I guess you don't care about this person at all since I have a feeling a mom like that would be on UB and can easily ID herself in your post.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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maybe she will learn how offensive she is being. I am with the op above--my child scored 99.9 on sb and got into both Hunter and Anderson and we never shared anything with anyone (beyond immediate family) other than where she ultimately went to school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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i'm guessing hunter? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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good guess [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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well, you are just infinitely better than her aren't you? get over yourself, and stop being so judgemental and harsh. this woman does feel wronged. she was told the highest scores get the top spots and now that has become a lottery. I can see why that might be frustrating and worrisome to her. that you compare it to your behavior in terms of dealing with your brilliant kid who got in everywhere just goes to show what a comptitve beeyotch lacking in empathy that you are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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ding sing sing!!!!!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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oh please...every year they change the rules and you just have to play what ever card is dealt that year. A lot of 97s and 98s feel "wronged" because in any other year they would have an equal chance of getting in. if my kid were applying this year with her 99.9 I would be stuck with the same lottery, but I still wouldn't be announcing my score to the whole world and tearing my garments in mourning about the unfairness of it all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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I doubt you would not have any of these feelings if the cards you had been dealt were like those of the playdate parent. maybe you wouldn't have been as vocal, but you would have felt some of the same sentiments for sure. if your 99.9 kid ended up at zoned public due to a lottery, you would have been unhappy, if not worried. you were lucky, others are not. its the way it goes but certainly understandable that someone is upset. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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op: but does that give her the right to publicly tell others that her child is more deserving than a "lesser 99" when she knows there is another one sitting in the same room? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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tactless, but not a serious crime. certtainly not deserving of your rancor for sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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please let my dh change his mind and move out of the city, please, please, please. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:40 PM Flag
[ - ] I know all kids are different etc. but my 4 1/2 year old has so much energy and can be so hyper that it drives me insane. I'm laid back and generally pretty patient but I feel like he can't even sit still while watching tv - he's all over the place, putting his feet on the pillows, off the pillows, moving around - I actually just screamed "STOP". I have spoken to his teachers and he's fine in school etc. anyone have this too? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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Wait thats my kid! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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good to hear, i was actually getting worried. and then feel bad that I am ready to kill him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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yes, I have a boy, just turned 5. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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He needs more exercise. I have written here before about taking my son to a track and making him run one mile when he is just bursting with too much energy. Let him work it off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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honestly, i have never found this to work [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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too much energy = needs to burn off more energy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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ITA - boys need to run. They need to be free range. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:29 PM Flag
[ - ] how often (on average) do you buy dc a little toy (like $10 or under)? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.04.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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too often and I swore I wouldn't be that kind of mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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not so much toys but i buy other things fairly often. stickers, chalk, crayons, activity books, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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i'd say once a week, and i think it's probably too much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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as he gets older, less and less. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Is this over the top? Received an email from mother of dd's friend asking if kids would be able to attend a bday party the last week of July. Asked everyone to reply before she scheduled the party. Then she sent out a 2nd email stating that she hoped to make it one of two dates. Then she sent a 3rd email stating the official date and time. All this is eight weeks away. Would it be so terrible to simply send out invites and if only half the kids show up then so be it? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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yes, overmanaging imo, unless all the invitees are extremely close friends/family [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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no - this went out to everyone in the class. and i thought the same thing: i may do that for one or two close friends but other than that, whatever happens, happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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yeah that is a bit much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Where do Cynthia Nixon's 2 kids go to public school? 234? Apparently she is speaking out against the budget cuts. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.04.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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not 234, they go to an UWS school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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87 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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i think she has one in elementary and one in middle, and I know she has long been outspoken about public school issues. More recently, she's been involved with a partner who is a longtime public school activist. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:34 PM Flag
[ - ] are boys more likely to be sensory than girls? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Special Needs 06.04.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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boys are more likely to be dx than girls. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 07:37 AM Flag
[ - ] are boys more likely to be sensory than girls? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:09 PM Flag
[ - ] DING DONG THE WITCH IS DEAD 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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News 06.04.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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I know you are a man because no intellectual able woman would say this about another woman no matter how much you disagree with her politics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:02 PM Flag
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esp. a U.S. Senator who has engaged in a grueling and positive election [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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This is just mean [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Advise please. Mildly sensory ds with low tone - great socially, just doesn't love doing fine motor activities for a long time. Can he attend a mainstream ongoing or only special needs school? tia. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Special Needs 06.04.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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sounds perfect for mainstream and a real asset to the classroom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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really? how would he be an asset? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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socially able with a few things that are different, that is a great way to introduce a range of abilities in a classroom setting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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my concern is how he will perform on ERBs. Great verbally but performance part worries me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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Verbal is weighed A LOT more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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^^^ and performance has little to do with "fine motor" skills. It is more spatial awareness and math skills. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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np: why would the op want her son to play the role of introducing differences? if i were her, i'd do it if he could fit in, not be the token disabled kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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If he is indeed disabled, which I did not get for OPs post, then he will often be that "token" so let it be in the most positive, intellectually-stimulating environment he can get. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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"disabled"? he is hardly disabled. he just doesn't enjoy fine motor activities, in part because he does not excel in them. but he is 3.5 and can write his name, that's not bad? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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but that's what my issue was to the first OR. either the kid is ready for regular school or he isn't. i'd never send him somewhere so that he can be an asset to the classroom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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OP: i guess my question was whether ds would be ok in mainstream? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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i think it's too hard to tell without seeing him in action. where was he this year? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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episcopal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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sorry, i'm not from new york. what type of school is that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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What does the PSD and teachers say [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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DS is similar. He's doing all mainstream with OT and PT after school. Important to find a school that is warm and nurturing and "gets" his needs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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any recommendations in NYC on the upper east side? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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sorry, no. We're on the West Side. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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my friend's son had mild needs. she sent him to trevor because they had smaller classes so there would be more individual attention. the lower school is on the ues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:45 PM Flag
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how old is he? My ds, who is now 5, enjoys fine motor activies but this is a recent development. Wouldn't touch them until he was 4. (He has gross and fine motor delays, mild sensory issues and low tone.) The key was finding a supportive class environment and activities he loves. He is in a mainstream public preK. Will now draw and practice letters. He is still behind for his age but catching up. We did Kumon workbooks with him (I liked them because no cartoon characters) and that was a really good way for him to improve his skills. He also gets OT and PT outside school, though next year he will get it in the classroom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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3.5. are you in NYC? What do you mean by a "supportive class environment"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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I am in NYC. Supportive class environment means a teacher who understand all children are not the same, that children learn differently and sees value in that. My ds' teacher has made a point of encouraging my ds to write and to draw and to praise his work. She also recognizes his other strengths, and works to build and develop those (creative play, stories, imagination.) Another thing that has helped is that the school uses the "Handwriting without Tears" as part of its mainstream curriculum, meaning that the handwriting skills he learns with his OT and reinforced at school. I really credit this teacher with my ds' success. He loves to draw now. He is going to art camp this summer and is really, really excited. I am going to step way but I'll keep this post on watch in case I can't respond immediately and will get back to you later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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what public pre-k is he in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.05.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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this is my ds, he will be going to K in Sept, and I am struggling w/ where I want to put him. I don't think he will be able to handle a mainstream class yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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