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[ - ] anyone out there? 6wks pregnant and have had bleeding and cramps for almost 2 days (period like). Doctor did assessment and HCG levels are only 780 but cervix is closed. Said it was grey area, that I am likely to miscarry and come back on monday again for HCG testing again. Anyone BTDT? Just feels like a period, will I feel it if I actually miscarry? Has anyone had HCG levels this low at 6 wks and been ok? Not knowing for sure is such torture. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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I went through a similar experience, and I'm sorry to say it, but it's likely you're miscarrying. There's nothing to really "feel" at this point except a really heavy period. Go to your doctor on Monday and best of luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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Why don't you try acupuncture or get some herbs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 01:45 PM Flag
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np: neither of these will stop what is happening now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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I can't for some reason reply to an OR. Anyway, it doesn't hurt to try herbs/acu anyway if you're indeed miscarrying but I have heard of women who were bleeding and were able to stop miscarriage with TCM. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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btdt 4 times. Two of the four times I miscarried and the other two times I carried to term and had healthy babies. If it stops there is a good chance everything will be OK. If it gets heavier, you start passing small clots then you are likely miscarrying. It's so hard just waiting it out - for me I just would have rather known the outcome right away.....anyway, good luck to you. (I never had my HCG levels checked when I was bleeding. Just called OB every time and just came in about a week later each time to see if everything had passed (the times it got heavy) - and to check for heartbeat the times the bleeding stopped. There isn't much you can do when this happens (although they will tell you to take it easy). Luckily with my mc's I didn't need a d&C- they were just like heavy periods [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 03:45 PM Flag
[ - ] What are buying DH for Father's Day? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.07.08, 12:40 PM Flag
[ - ] What cologne does your DH wear? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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None, thank goodness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Help! I have to find a toy store on E86th St. Not for babies. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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state news at lex has toys for all ages [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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also, b&n b/t 2nd and 3rd has lots of board games for older kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 01:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Does using a bluetooth headset do anything about the cell phone radiation issue, or does the headset just emit radiation of its own? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.07.08, 12:11 PM Flag
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as far as I am concern, anything attached to your head that emits any type of waves has consequences in the long run [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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fine, but that's true of cordless phones etc. And of course there are radio waves going through your head all day long. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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yup..but attaching something there for a long period of time is really securing a problem [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know of a very good child therapist? 6 yo boy. UWS preferred. Thanks. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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i could use one for a kid i know....(side topic) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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OP: probably mine. any responses appreciated [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:25 PM Flag
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Are you sure he needs that type of therapy? Was there a trauma? If it's behavior issues OT can really help with sepf regulation and focus. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:33 PM Flag
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I don't know. He is extremely smart, but hyper sensitive, difficult to re direct and occasionally explosive. I am not handling him well, and although he is not easy, I am probably making the situation worse. DH and I don't get a long very well which may be contributing. I really want someone to help him, but to also help us do better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:39 PM Flag
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^^^as for trauma, we had a babysitter in early years whom we found out was quite easily angered and mean (nanny cam after getting a report from a friend who saw them out in the nabe). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:46 PM Flag
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i know a woman who can help you better work with your child. let me think for a moment. she is well known. oh, Dr. Foote on ues. do not know her phone #. my adult student who has 2 kids used to see her and from everything she explained to me, the woman had fantastic suggestions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:53 PM Flag
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you are welcome. good luck. can i also suggest good reading material? i taught kids with a lot of problems and these books helped the most- they helped me help the kids with dignity and respect, being kind yet firm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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^^^^the challenge of parenthood, by rudolf driekurs. as well as children , the challenge, by the same guy. and p;ositive discipline by jane nelson. she has several positive discipline books out that are age sepcific. get the age specific one and the one entitled positive discipline. all her books are based on dreikurs' work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:57 PM Flag
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thank you very much. I am at a loss. if only i can get dh to read as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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I am the mom who told you about dreikurs. what i did was highlight the most important parts of the book and asked dh to read just that. which he did. he still does not follow all of the suggestions but what dreikurs says is that it does not really matter. your son will know what to expect from you. there is not much you can do about your dh. he explains it very well. i have a hard time keeping my mouth shut with dh but if i did, things would be fine anyway, maybe better. dreikurs is the best. you will really like it. it takes time to practice it. i even had notes up on the wall to remember what to say and do. that you are concerned means that you will make things better. good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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have you read "your spirited child" or the out of sync child?is it possible he has sensory issues? my son is only 4, and he was having some aggressive behavior at school, and now he is doing OT for sensory issues and his behavior has done a 180 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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read it a few years ago, and found it helpful. perhaps I should look again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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thanks again. part of the problem is that dh blames me for the behavior as it is happening, often yelling at me that I am handling dc wrong, and saaying I am not punishing adequately. I feel I cannot even think while its going on. we have discussed it outside of the difficult moments, dh agrees to step back, and then the moment something happens, it recurs all over again. it is having a terrible effect, and I am at the end of my rope. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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^^^often I overshoot when I am between the two, and don't handle ds at all appropriately. I feel like a terrible parent. ugh! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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You'll find that dreikurs does not suggest punishment at all. you will just get retaliation fromyour child, or revenge, or retreat. you can find the book on ABE books for about a dollar. it is very, very respectful to children and explains why children are different from how they were years ago (ie well-behaved). it will really help you, i am sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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any by the way, if you follow dreikurs' suggestions, things will first get worse before they get better. your son will feel like a fish out of water with the change and will test you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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thanks again. very much appreciated [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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Ania Siwek is a great child psychologist [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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Ania Siwek [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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sorry--her number is 212-712-6427 she's on west 71st street [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 05:07 PM Flag
[ - ] How did you know your dc was ready to potty-train? 2.4yo dd talks about pee and poop constantly, likes to sit on the potty for 1 minute, but no interest in actually doing it. I've switched her to cloth diapers at home so she could feel the wetness . . . she'll take off the wet cloth diaper, but that's it. Anyway, what are the readiness signs? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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Uhmm she is ready. You need to be persistent and not allow it to become a game. :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:07 PM Flag
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itda - this, in my opinion, is pre-readiness behavior. dc should have had the experience of having gone in the potty and also be able to signal or say when she/he has to go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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pre-readiness? Do you know that the typical time for potty training occurs about 1 1/2? There is NO pre-readiness. If there is an interest, foster it imo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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lol - 1.5? that doesn't represent ANY of the families i know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:42 PM Flag
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you are wrong, pushy mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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sounds ;ike she will be ready in a few months. she should be able to tell you when she needs to go to the bathroom. just make it a fun game for now. you are doing the right thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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She's ready [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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All three of mine did this for many months before they were actually trained. Just leave the potty out, talk about it, ask her once in a while (once or twice a day) if she wants to go pee pee on the potty. Eventually it will happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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If she is not ready, you will be the one who is trained i.e. setting a timer to remember to make her sit on the potty every 30 minutes, etc. Try for a morning or afternoon. If she wets her diaper/pants, wait a few weeks and try again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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np: I was so concerned about potty training and then my daughter did it literally in one day (she NEVER went on the potty or the toilet before) when she was 2.9. She had two accidents the first day, one the second day and that was it. She completely led the whole thing. I really stressed about it so much for no reason. I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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I would say she is ready. My DD pottytrained at 1.5 in less then 3 weeks. She was showing all the signs as your daughter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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Mine did this for a while, so we told him to pee in the potty and he did 1x a day for a week. Now 3 weeks later, back to having no interest. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 06:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Just out of curiosity. what are the chance of 99s only listed A getting A? Would DOE grant a spot or would they be spotless? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.07.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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The same as chances of 99s that listed other schools. If there is no other school listed, obviously the family has other good choice already. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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Same chance as every other 99 that listed A first. Probably about 1 in 4. You would go spotless if that was all you listed and dc was not chosen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 12:59 PM Flag
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