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[ - ] I am the mom that posted the other day about having the affair with a man from work. I have not told dh and I have not slept with the other man again; however, he came in to speak to me and he told me he understood my obligations to my husband and family and if I wanted him to he would cut ties, but he went on to tell me he could not imagine ending things with me because he has never felt the same about any other woman and he said he could not explain. I did not know what to do other than complete shock. He looked so distraught and sincere with everything he was saying, we kissed and then i left work early before I could make a mistake that could ruin my life. I am not doing well with this situation and I am even wondering if I should see a therapist. I need advice. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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what do you need advice on? Stay or go. Done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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Ya think? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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i remember your post - gosh this man isn't making it any easier for you to move past things [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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def see a therapist. do NOT see other man unless you are sure you want a divorce and are actively seeking one. make it that simple. it must be one or the other, you just don't get to have both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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Do not see him again and get yee to a therapist [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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why would a therapist be of any benefit here? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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sounds like she has some issues in her marriage to work though. also, the therapist could be a sounding board for her. she may feel very alone with this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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well, you just really need to weight it out - how long has this guy been in your life and is he a sure thing, because nothing ever is. you have a husband and kids at home, is this something that after the initial trauma will wind up creating a positive? will this make you happier in the end? will this be better for your dh than staying married to an emotionally absent woman? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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well arent you just one hot mess [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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leave you Dh and figure your life out. you obviously don't want to be with him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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I avoided this thread until now. You don't know the OP and some are quick to judge. She's struggling and I'm sure it would help for her to see a therapist to talk things out. Stopping the affair was a smart move and it appears the man is into her and pressuring her. This is why I don't get involved with coworkers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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np: Or maybe because you are married. Yes, we don't know her whole story, but she is partaking in a destructive relationship - and one that seems so great because it's new, doesn't involve a kid screaming at 2am, and they aren't paying a mortgage together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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whatever. i don't think much of cheaters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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wow what a great friend you must be [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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i wouldn't make any more decisions ont his one without seeing a good therapist first [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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ITTTA. The therapist can help you think through things. In the meantime, tell your affair that you and he will be taking a chill pill for six monthss. Don't make any decisions until you know your own heart and head better. GOOD LUCK. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:34 AM Flag
[ - ] Were there mistakes in the G&T test scores this year? My DD's teacher thinks so, a kindergartner in my DD's group reads at a 4th grade level but didn't get in. My DD didn't either, her teacher was convinced that she would. Anyone else experience this? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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DD's teacher isn't exactly impartial. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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That's an interesting point, I hadn't thought of. Does it look good on her record or something? She's been teaching for 30 years, will retire very soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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np: I would say she probably loves the kids she teaches so she ends up biased like a parent would nbe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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np: Actually, I'm sure a teacher who has had a child all year is more likely to differentiate between the good test takers (like my kid) and the truly gifted. But that's not how the DOE makes their decision, it comes down to a score. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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Sigh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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seriously [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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It's not a VBA if that's what you are thinking. I just logged on for the first time in two months and saw it's the main topic of conversation. We got our results weeks ago, I was very surprised by our teacher's reaction. I was actually somewhat relieved our dd didn't pass. Our neighbor's kid goes to the G&T (we are in the Bronx, she goes to the one in co-op city) and they are both crazed because the homework load in first grade is insane, two to three hours every night, five to six hours at least on a weekend. I was very ambivalent about the whole thing...of course I'd love to brag she'd passed, but didn't want that pressure for her either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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I am thinking that 99.99% of people on UB don't give a shit about your school b.s. Post to NY Schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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Well aren't you just absolutely charming> Have another drink. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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np: Same could be said to all the moms obsessing about schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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Roflmao -- This coming from a tiny group of women so overwrought over this pathetic bit of minutia that someone like you is blaming your daughters failure on a system-wide error. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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That's not what I said at all, I said the teacher was the one expecting a certain result, I said I was ambivalent about the whole thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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I should add, I did mention this is the first time I've logged on here in ages and it brought the subject back up for me, we got our results weeks ago. I don't understand the Manhattan system at all, it's obviously different from the Bronx. On the same note, do other regions go through this testing? Like, say, Iowa? Or is it just the NY metro area? Is that why the catty replies? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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There were probably not mistakes in the test scores, but the test does not test giftedness and creatively smart dc tended to not do as well as they did on other tests. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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np: Yes - the "talented" of G&T is completely ignored here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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I don't even really mean that, although that is true as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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i have not received a letter and my dd was a 99% wtf? when did you guys get your letters? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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We are not moms waiting for letters. We are commenting on OP's hypothesis only. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:49 PM Flag
[ - ] HELP! my newborn wont sleep, at wits end. 10 days old. takes HOURS to put down. goes from boob to boob to paci to rocking. totally overstimulated. first ds was not like this. HELP 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.15.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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stroller, swing, wear dc on you (I liked slings). where is dc sleeping? sharing a room with older dc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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Op: she slept in sling today, but at night, it is impossible. now it seems she wont even settle on someone. she is in her own bassinet with me in lr so dh can get some sleep in master to be up to take care of ds [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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put db in bassinet in bedroom. also, and I am not a product sort of person, but our 2nd db had a lot of congestion, so we got this slanted sleep positioner thing that was great. i think it was a snuggle nest maybe? we got one with an incline. people will tell you here that you need a miracle blanket but that never worked for my kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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op: have been thinking the incline thing may be the way to go. going to get one tomorrow! she escapes her swaddle no matter how tight we make it, yet her arms stimulate her, so i think a miracle blanket may be needed too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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my 2nd dc used a pacifier which helped too. my first, not so much. the positioner may help with the arms too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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Try keeping db in a dark and quiet room (torture for you, I know) as much as possible. For feedings, rocking, changing, etc. Cut down on stimulation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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op: yes, trying this. tonight was in master with blackout shades to feed before bassinet, no dice. 5 min after she seems to be dead asleep, she has escaped her swaddle and is up rooting! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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mine slept in a bouncy for 4 mo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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op: did he/she have trouble transitioning to crib? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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bouncy seat that vibrates - lots of batteries but worth it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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op: but then how hard is it to wean them into crib? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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I have no advice for you but my twins were like that and I have to say they're still hard to keep happy four years later. Sorry. it's so hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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ds was same way- swing saved my life. seriously the best product ever invented. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:42 PM Flag
[ - ] my 17 mo ds is super active, mischievous, persistent, and intense. he sometimes seems "difficult" to friends or family with more laid back kids. it has not really bothered me before, and i have always thought of it as just his personality, but i sometimes wonder if it's my parenting- am i doing something wrong? anyone btdt? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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I have a similar 22 mo. Love him the way he is but am sometimes struck at b'day parties and the like that he is different than the other kids. It's just how he is and I love him for it. That said, he's well-behaved - he'll listen and he's sweet, but his baseline is very intense and active. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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yes, my son was like that and he remains a busy kid at 7. Keep in mind the activity level of girls v. boys is about 1000% higher for boys (i.mo.) so make sure you are comparing applies to apples. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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OR: I kind of like that he's so active. Makes me feel like he's got a lot going on upstairs :-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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i tell myself that sometimes too, hee hee. but then on bad days i wonder if he's too intense or hyperactive... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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op- same here, it doesn't usually bother me because he is totally a sweet, loving, inquisitive kid, but i too am sometimes struck that he seems like just more that the other kids- more energy, more exploring, more talking, more laughing, but also more climbing, more running off, more tantrums, etc. sometimes people comment on how much "work" he is and then i begin to overanalyze i think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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so he's verbal and normal. what does he do that is so different [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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probably nothing so different, just such a high energy level, always moving, playing, climbing, running around. just overall a much higher energy level than his peers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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does he watch tv? actually helps calm down some hyper kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:46 PM Flag
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no, he really has no interest. i don't try that often, but when i do, he watches for a minute or 2 than runs off, comes back for a few seconds, etc. where have you heard about it calming some kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:47 PM Flag
[ - ] To those of you who are SOOO upset that your child didn't get Anderson and you're stuck with 9: go somewhere else. 9 is fantastic and we only want parents who don't act like it's some crappy choice. And btw, those horrible low-scoring sibs everyone is talking about, who are filling all the spots, puh-leeze. Who says sibs are automatically low-scoring? And also: I only know of about 2 siblings who even made the cutoff. There's room for all sorts of folks there. We just want nice ones, not crazy score-obsessed ones. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.15.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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Are you going to be the Mom walking around the college campus that is a "safety school" to half to population, whining that the other students don't appreciate it as much as your angel does? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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OP: huh. I truly didn't think of it like this, since it's absolutely one of the best public elementary schools in the city. I also think folks who think their little darlings can only be happy at one school or bust--and an elementary school at that--are going to have long unhappy roads ahead of them. Not to mention the fact taht I've been so incredibly happy with the school that I think people are really over-reacting otu of ignorance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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I agree that she has no idea what a great school it is. But many will be disappointed not to get anderson, especially for the MS, and because it is more status. that being said, they will be pleasantly surprised to find it is a wonderful school with great teachers, families and kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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Don't be intimidated. OR is just trying to make you feel insecure because she likely couldn't have gotten her dc in. PS9 is a great school, and people are so caught up in the citywide hype, that they have lost it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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np: you sound bitter and hateful. probably anti G&T mom below. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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OR: Actually, I'm AS/IB Mom. Nice try, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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what is an AS/IB mom? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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American School / International baccalaureate [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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sorry. don't know it, but my guess is many shutouts end up there, and then sing praises to the IB aspect. lol! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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Why is it up to you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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It's a great school, but the presence of G&T messes it up for everyone. The clear message there is that some of the kids (mostly white) are "gifted and talented!" and the other kids are equal of course, but...not "gifted and talented". We are sane, not score obsessed people who did choose to go elsewhere, bc this is not the message we want our dc to get. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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np: most G&T programs in most school districts around the country are in gen ed schools. very rarely do you have free standing G&T schools. so you may not want to give that message, but most of the country has developed gifted programs in the regular school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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nnp: ah...another anti-G&T NYer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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Nope. Pro G&T actually. But not the way it's done in NYC. I have no idea how to actually fix the system, given how messed up it is, but the combo of G&T vs gen ed at PS 9 seems particularly toxic. Again, this is too bad, because other than that it's a great school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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Are you there? I am, and do not find it toxic in the least. i think the gen ed is much more heterogenous than at other schools like ps166 9which I also think is a great school). I think you are speaking from the outside and have no idea really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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actually the gen ed is quite diverse with many white kids many sibs of G&T kids who are white, as well as others. the high scoring kids are in gifted program, and the others are in gen ed as it should be [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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Anderson ain't all that. Parents I know there say the teaching is inconsistent, some years are lost years. Plus there's that intense parent vibe. So glad we did not accept, though we would have if it was closer to our apt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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where are you going? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:25 PM Flag
[ - ] 96. got 166. 2nd choice after 9. how i feel so lucky. how did i get the spot? i don't understand logically how it worked out like that? non sib. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.15.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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i think the doe does this process to make you all feel lucky. well, phew, at least we have a spot, even if it were our 16th choice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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lol! I felt the same way back in february watching the private school massacre. people were thrilled to get a spot at trevor or dwight. hell, they were even happy getting into some of the schools that just opened with all the other shutouts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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Are you the same 96 from the master list or a different one? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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cant remember if i posted there earler [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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I am just trying to figure out if there is one 96 there or two. Did you start another big post earlier today? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:49 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone giving up private spots? dd or ds? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.15.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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ask on schools board [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:45 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone giving up private spots? if so, a dd or ds. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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NY York Schools or these posts will be flagged [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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That is a bit extreme. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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is it so hard to check a box? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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These are public school parents...they don't know how [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:31 PM Flag
[ - ] has anyone taken the epidural class at Realbirth or the epidural weekend intensive? opinions? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.15.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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no, but is there even that much to learn? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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no kidding! Its not like you are sticking it in yourself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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maybe it is a class with an *agenda* [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:37 PM Flag
[ - ] My 5 yo ds has a swollen nipple. It is only on the tip and looks like a little balloon with a white top. He says that it is sore. DH thinks we should take him to the ER, but I hate to put him through that if it is no big deal. Has anyone ever seen/heard of this kind of thing? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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Call ped to find out the best way to proceed. Odds are they'll advise you to come into the office tomorrow to have it checked. If you go to the ER you'll be there for hours and be exposed to all kinds of germs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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that's what I was thinking. Going to the ER right now would just suck so bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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yeah, if ped thinks you should go it's one thing, but if you can avoid it you should [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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How big is the "balloon" part? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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it is about the size of blueberry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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np: that's big. call your doc now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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Def. call ped. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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It's only 8:20. Call the pediatrician's office and talk to the doctor on call. If the doctor says go to the ER, then go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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exactly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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OP: good plan. thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:23 PM Flag
[ - ] did anyone get tag? is anyone going? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.15.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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I'm afraid, after learning at least one 99 didn't get Nest, that we'll get TAG (still awaiting letter). I don't want to rule it out completely (although dh is against dd going). Is anyone who listed it going to consider sending dc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Sunday night and we've just had our usual fight about why DH can't do anything around the house. SAHM or p/t moms...what is the division of labor? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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ft WOHM and I do pretty much everything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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no cleaning or childcare help? On weekends you do childcare/errands/cleaning/cooking while DH relaxes? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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We both play with ds but I dress him, put him to bed, etc. If I ask DH to bathe or change him, he will but I have to ask. He doens't clean anything. If cooking occurs, I do it and then I do the dishes and the next day I put them away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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^^I have cleaning help every week. But of the tasks that remain to be done, I am the one doing the lion's share. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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you find this reasonable? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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No I don't. But otherwise nothing gets done. Sucks. From time to time I blow up and things get temporarily better and then we slowly lapse back into the old pattern. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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I hope you are sticking at 1 kid then [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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Interesting leap to make there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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Spoken like a true mom of a...lets see....11 month old? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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np: That's pretty much it, yes. Sometimes DH will take dc to a party or playdate so I can get some work done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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Ditto. Except I have a housekeeper come every two weeks to do the heavy cleaning/scrubbing. I just lightly clean. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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sahm, and I do pretty much everything house related, though he will unload the dishwasher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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if asked or unprompted? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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both. he'll take out the garbage too, but never remembers the days, so I will ask him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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I feel like my dh does a lot, esp if you factor in finances, dealing with our annoying accountant, etc. He also throws me out of the house every so often so that I can have time with friends or myself. Would love to figure out what the real division is (I WOHM) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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^^we also outsource the stuff we don't like to do, like cleaning and laundry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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Yeah, but even when you have someone come during the week to clean and do laundry there is still lots of work to do on the weekends and after work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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I guess it doesn't seem like that much, or my dh is taking a lot of it - I still buy the presents for the family, do the grocery shopping and schedule ped appts though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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I do most everything, but he is great with the kids--will put them to bed, bath, etc. if he's home at that time, which he usually is not. I do everything else. SAHM and WAHM. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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I suggest that you schedule in some time where you are "busy" and he needs to be with kids. It doesn't sound like that is going to happen organically for you, but that it what you want. Schedule it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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yes, good idea [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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i sahm. he has his specific chores, garbage, changing water bottle, if he is home, we put kids to bed and bathe them together, if we have dinner together, we clear table together, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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I am a WOHM and the division is about 80/20. We argue about it too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:43 PM Flag
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SAHM - I do most, but he helps a decent amount. He walks the dog in the morning and at night (I do the midday walk) and takes out the garbage/recycling. I do the day-to-day bill-paying/accounting, he does the investing. I do all the laundry, grocery shopping, and cooking/dishes; housekeeper once a week to do the heavy cleaning. If he is home early enough, he supervises DCs shower (making sure all the shampoo is out and there is actually soap on the washcloth) and does stories/bedtime, otherwise I do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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1. Get a housekeeper; 2. Freshdirect; 3. Send laundry out. Now you can fight about things like he doesn't bring you flowers. When I got married, I told my dh that I wasn't going to clean and that we had to get a housekeeper. I buy all food on freshdirect from a preapproved list that I keep buying over and over and my DH brings the laundry to be done. Most men won't do anything unless they have to. Sad but true b/c this is how 99 percent were raised. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:53 PM Flag
[ - ] did anyone get TAG? is anyone going? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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