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06.15.08, 17:36 PM Newborn
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I am the mom that posted the other day about having the affair with a man from work. I have not told dh and I have not slept with the other man again; however, he came in to speak to me and he told me he understood my obligations to my husband and family and if I wanted him to he would cut ties, but he went on to tell me he could not imagine ending things with me because he has never felt the same about any other woman and he said he could not explain. I did not know what to do other than complete shock. He looked so distraught and sincere with everything he was saying, we kissed and then i left work early before I could make a mistake that could ruin my life. I am not doing well with this situation and I am even wondering if I should see a therapist. I need advice. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Newborn 06.15.08, 05:36 PM Flag
 

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what do you need advice on? Stay or go. Done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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Ya think? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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i remember your post - gosh this man isn't making it any easier for you to move past things [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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def see a therapist. do NOT see other man unless you are sure you want a divorce and are actively seeking one. make it that simple. it must be one or the other, you just don't get to have both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:40 PM Flag
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Do not see him again and get yee to a therapist [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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why would a therapist be of any benefit here? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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sounds like she has some issues in her marriage to work though. also, the therapist could be a sounding board for her. she may feel very alone with this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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well, you just really need to weight it out - how long has this guy been in your life and is he a sure thing, because nothing ever is. you have a husband and kids at home, is this something that after the initial trauma will wind up creating a positive? will this make you happier in the end? will this be better for your dh than staying married to an emotionally absent woman? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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well arent you just one hot mess [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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leave you Dh and figure your life out. you obviously don't want to be with him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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I avoided this thread until now. You don't know the OP and some are quick to judge. She's struggling and I'm sure it would help for her to see a therapist to talk things out. Stopping the affair was a smart move and it appears the man is into her and pressuring her. This is why I don't get involved with coworkers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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np: Or maybe because you are married. Yes, we don't know her whole story, but she is partaking in a destructive relationship - and one that seems so great because it's new, doesn't involve a kid screaming at 2am, and they aren't paying a mortgage together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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whatever. i don't think much of cheaters. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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wow what a great friend you must be [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.15.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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i wouldn't make any more decisions ont his one without seeing a good therapist first [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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ITTTA. The therapist can help you think through things. In the meantime, tell your affair that you and he will be taking a chill pill for six monthss. Don't make any decisions until you know your own heart and head better. GOOD LUCK. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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