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[ - ] Any dentist or orthodontist moms on? I have a 4 yo with big space between her 2 front teeth with a bit of the gum growing between the teeth. What kind of specialist should operate on this, an oral surgeon, a plastic surgeon, or another kind of specialist? I asked ped. for a referral and was told a plastic surgeon for some reason who does work on the gums (Dr. Court Cutting in NYC)---consult is $460. I'm told the adult teeth will not grow in properly with the gum/muscle in that space...she's just turned 4, is now the appropriate time to have the bit of tissue between her teeth removed? I'm told it will require general anaesthesia. Any moms been through something similar? Thanks! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.16.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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My sister has this and decided to keep it because Madonna has it. (She was in 7th grade during the Madonna phase) Now at 34, she is really happy she did. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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and yes, it would be an oral surgeon [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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i will ask my friend who is ortho and get back to you later [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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Thank you so much--I'll watch the post! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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sorry it took me so long to get back to you. i spoke to an orthodontist i know and a periodontist and they both said an oral surgeon/or a periodontist can do it. both also agreed that you should wait till dc is closer to 6 years old. there is no need to do it now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:58 AM Flag
[ - ] why oh why don't people indicate on their wedding invitations whether or not children are invited?! this is the 4th time the invite was written to me and dh, yet i find out children are invited. is it so hard to include "and family" on the invite? 62 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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If the name isn't on the invitaion, they are NOT invited. If they didn't put "and family" they don't want your children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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yes, yes, yes! Why is it so hard for people to read the envelope? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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op: sigh, but the last 4 times i called to RSVP for just me and dh, the bride to be said to me, "aren't you bringing the kids?". i would say, "no they weren't on the invite" and she would say, "all the kids are invited" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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np ITA. It's always a little murky unless they tell you specifically. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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Then you run with a stupid crowd :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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op: i'm thinking that i run with such an inclusive and family friendly crowd that they just assume we would come as a family [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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Thats is quite an assumption. Even people who have and love their own kids probably dont love yours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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if that is the case, they should write 'The Smith Family' on the invite. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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ita -- the bride should write it on the envelope. someone get an emily post etiquette book for the bride.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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nice idea for her wedding gift! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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well in that case take the kids. why do you call to RSVP instead of sending the reply card - do you guilt the bride into inviting your kids? why do people want to bring their kids anyway? even if they are invited??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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#1. there was no reply card. #2. i would want to bring my kids because a wedding is a family event in my culture. we are not american. this is a new concept for me....going to a wedding without children. it is very strange for us [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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What are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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you need to just get used to it. if it is a wedding that is not YOUR family then you probably just shouldn't bring your kids, even if they ARE invited. Family weddings I get bringing your kida to, if that is what the bride wants, otherwise pay a sitter or don't attend and send a gift. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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op: why wouldn't i bring them if they are invited? that just doesn't make any sense [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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how old are your children? weddings are expensive - often over $200/head and children don't really appreciate it and the events are often too long for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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basically, weddings are adult ceremonies and non family member should not bring their children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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you just said this is not your culture. we acknowledge that in your culture these are family events, in american culture, and expensive evening wedding usually does not include kids. if the reception is past bed time don't bring them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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totally agree! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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but she has failed to say what culture she is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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yeah, I think her "culture" is just trash - that is why she doesn't answer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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Yeah, but she just said that her kids were INVITED. If the bride and groom are concerned about cost then they shouldn't have invited the kids. I did not invite kids to my wedding because I just didn't want the disruption, but these people did, so if OP wants to take them why not. Why are you guys so oddly hostile? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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np: I don't get why people are trashing OP? I agree that weddings are exensive which why we didn't invite kids. (We also just didn't want the disruption, but if her friends are inviting her kids, then it's not up to her to worry about the costs. If her friends are worried, then they shouldn't have invited the kids, don't you think? You guys are oddly hostile. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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I have never received a wedding inviation wiht a telphone number on it to rsvp [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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Well if you are attending weddings where you call to rsvp, then that explains it. You need higher class friends [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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op: didn't you know that if you use the word "class" in such a context, you have none [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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op: you didn't read my post [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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I agree. We just got an invitation today and it's going to be casual/outdoor, and I'm quite sure they want our kids there, but it only had our names on it, so now we have to ask to make sure and that's a little awkward. But I think it's because they don't have too many friends w/kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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Why are you quite sure - esp. if not many kids will be attending? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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because I seem to remember them mentioning it before, but I'm not so sure I don't have to ask [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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just leave the kids at home and have fun [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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op: i guess i don't understand this. why is it that people can't have fun WITH their children at such a function? are your children so badly behaved? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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It has nothing to do with how your children behave. Parents should socialize without their children every now and then and a wedding is a great time to do so. ESPECIALLY, if the childs name is not on the invite. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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it is not about bad behavior it is an adult event. I love my kids, but to be a good mother I need adult time with my husband and friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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op: we have date night. but a wedding is a family event, in my culture and my husband's (who is american by the way). i think there is a subculture within america that believes that weddings are adult only events [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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stop with the culture crap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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exactly - it may be you and DH's value - but it is not a part of the broader culture. YOu should respect the culture of your host - not what you think their values should be [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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but whether or not our kids are invited will determine whether we go or not (it's about 3 hours from home) so I do need to know, and I think it's stupid not to ask when I think they might be invited [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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i totally agree with you. am in the same boat now. if dc are not invited, we're not going. i have no one to watch dc for 8 hrs at night [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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and that is fine - it is the price of not wanting to leave them with a sitter for many hours but the bride and her family should not be shelling out more money for your children to come to their nuptulas, just graciously decline. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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clearly you want them to be invited...and maybe your friend/the bride does too but weddings really are not for children and asking the bride is rude as the invite clearly did not inculde them. I had this probelm when I got married and evertime someone would ask me I felt terrible having to tell them (on my opion, again!) that their children were not invited. ...on the otherhand, I think infants usually can come - esp. if mothers are bfing but they aren't taking up a seat, or running around the reception etc... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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"weddings really are not for children"?! itd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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DITTO! what kind of world are you living in? oh that's right, this is UB...where selfish, nasty white women who think they are entitled to everything are [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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Um, I am the nasty one, did I start name calling? I am just saying I respectfully disagree and my dh and I paid for our wedding and felt strongly that it was an adult event and did not include children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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NO, we llive in a world where a bride and her family are planning and paying for an event and can choose if they do or do not want children and their guests should respect that. Beyond that - even if my kids are invited - I let them stay until bed time or just for the ceremony. Children should not be kept out into the wee hours because the parents want to have fun and not pay a sitter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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fair enough, that is your opinion but my wedding and most of the ones I have been to have been adult affairs. I did not want nor did I invite non-family children to mine, it wpould have added nearly 30 people and was not the environment I wanted as most of my friends children do not know me that well. I did invite my godchildren and family members. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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rude to ask! period. just don't go if you can't afford or don't want to get a sitter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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get a hotel, at nice hotels the concierge can get a sitter with a background check [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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don't ask, just reply that there are 2 coming, if you made a mistake the bride will tell you so. If you put her on the spot by asking she may say it is okay for your kids to come because she doesn't want to hurt your feelings even though she doesn't want your kids there. Just because some people's kids are invited doesn't mean all kids are invited [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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I don't do other people's stuff for them. if she says it's ok, then it's ok. how would she hurt my feeelings anyway by giving me a simple answer. eesh! we live in such a codependent society! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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That is why there are "rules" for addressing invitations. So it is easy for everyone and you don't have to ask. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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EXACTLY - you SHOULD NOT ask if your kids are invited if the invite does not say "and Family" because clearly they are NOT INVITED. If it was a mistake, so be it - it was the bride's poor etiquette and not yours. If you ask, you are putting her on the spot and it is rude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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sorry, i disagree. this has happened too many times to me. in fact, the last time this happened, i was going to a very hippy-ish wedding. when i said just me and dh were coming, the bride said she was counting on dc to be there because she wanted to be surrounded by children...but it never occurred to her to write it on the invitation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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NP, the bride was wrong. She should have known how to address invitations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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okay, so in that case the bride told you this and said she wanted your children despite her poor etiquette in addressing invitations. just because none of your friends seem to pay attention to the rules means that you shouldn't. You run the risk of being VERY RUDE and bringing children who are not invited to an expensive wedding. WHatever - make all of the excuses you want. You obviously just want to take your kids, I had several people like you bring their kids to my wedding and I was pissed. Not because I didn't want kids around (but who takes kids to a reception that starts at 9pm?) 0 but because I was on a very limited budget and I ended up spending a lot of money on kids that I did not invite in the first place...rude rude rude [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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nobody said that i was bringin them uninvited. the issue is that people need to be clear about who is and isn't invited. 4 times, that's right, 4 times now my children were invited and yet weren't listed on the invitation. 3 times i sent in the card with just 2 on it and then i got a phone call asking why i wasn't bringing the kids! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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and when you get that call FROM the bride is when you rectify the situation. you do not pursue it your self - do you get the distinction. If the bride REALLY wants your kids there she will include them on th einvite OR call you upon reciveing your RSVP to ask why the kids aren't coming/ That is when you say "oh, I didn't think they were invited, but if you'd like for me to bring them i will." What is so hard about that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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Response: "Because their names were not on the invitation". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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Argh. Don't invite them. I recently went to a lovely wedding where kids were encouraged -- I couldn't enjoy it at all with 3 little ones tripping everyone up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 02:15 PM Flag
[ - ] help. My 3 yo son's school says that he has "Self-regualtion" issues, that they have done all that they can and that we should seek professional help. I think "for christs sake,he is a 3 yo boy!" we'll work on the issues, but a freaking therapist?? gimme a break! 73 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.16.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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that's the problem with kids being in school this young. Normal 3 yo behavior often gets turned into an issues. That being said, my 4 yo ds's issues were fairly evident when he was 3 yo and he is now getting occupational therapy for sensory issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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op: how did his sensory issues manifest themselves? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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mostly with behavioral issues, difficulty sitting still at circle, got out-of-control during freeplay time (too much stimulation). Some people are skeptical about sensory issues, but NYC clearly believes in it since lots of kids are getting free OT for it. I was skeptical until I saw how my ds has difficulty with coordination, body awareness, regulating his touch, etc. He needs more sensory input than the average kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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SPD isn't recognized [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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not yet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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OY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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sensory issues is controversial [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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how so? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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Its not a recognized disorder by psychs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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No it isn't. Get your child some help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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what specifically does he do [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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he is very reactive and expresses his frustration rather explosively. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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this is my ds. i was told by a therapist it is because he is very intelligent. I wouldn't worry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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thanks--the person who told me all that about needing help also said that he was "very intelligent" who knows! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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bwa-ha-ha, so annoying when moms think their dcs' behavioral issues are b/c they're "so intelligent" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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np, mom didn't think it. Therapist told her. Where did you get your degree? Do you have a son? Have you done any reading at all on young males and preschool and the misdx/over dx? or do you just like typing BWA Ha Ha [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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I have a son. He gets therapy. He's also very smart, but I don't buy the BS that his behavioral issues are linked to how smart he is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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then you are foolish. your experience is not everyone's experience. you don't discount science because your child didn't fit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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science? what science? You sound like the foolish one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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That it is entirely possible that a child of high IQ is misdx as having "behavoir problems", SPD (formerly known as SID), ADD, ADHD. That teachers (especially barely trained preschool teachers) are actually terrible at identifying the intellectually advanced males and quiet often lable them as "problems". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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Uh, I did Early Intervention thinking he had some problems because my niece is autistic. he was evaluated and this is what I was told. He is intelligent and there isn't anything wrong with him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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Ditto. And I can't tell you the number of boys that have been sent for a "full evaluation" by idiot preschool teachers and been told by trained professionals that there is NOTHING wrong with them. It is an epidemic in NYC> [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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np: But how lucky for those whose kids actually DO have problems? I think it's good for preschool teachers to look for warning signs, even though most of the time it's not part of a larger problem. I'll be forever grateful to the teacher who realized my DS needed speech therapy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:45 PM Flag
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OY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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intelligence is unrelated to behavior issues. Address them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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is this throughout the day, every day, or just once in a while? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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maybe 2-3 incidents a week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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and what is his explosive behavior like? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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not listening or purposefully "testing" limits. Sometimes throwing. Not showing remorse. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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personally, I would think that behavior is problematic, especially if your ds has been in school longer than a few months. The throwing things would bother me. Does he do this at home? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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yes, usually when he is very tired. Which is when he "acts out" at school too. I know he is tired, but they say that he should know not to do this even when he is tired. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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^^ and I agree with them. I just think it is a bit early to make it an "issue" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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since when can't a three year old boy get frustrated and tired and throw a toy? How long is day from the time he leaves the house until he gets home? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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he arrives a 9, I p/u btwn 5 and 6. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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That is an eight hour day. Who expects three year olds to survive an eight hour day away from one on one caregiver, surrounded by other children without showing some signs of stress? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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thanks--he seems to be the only one though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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NO, you see there are other children there who can't handle it either, but they withdraw or are clingy or hide in the corner and the teachers all accept those behavoirs because they are easier for them to deal with. Understand? So don't believe for one second that your child is the only one who can't handle it. Your child just happens to react in a manner that teachers don't want to deal with and want to label something else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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ITA. Our ds couldn't handle the 8 hr (daycare) day and we were told he had "problems". He's 3 1/2 and in school 3 x wk, 3 hr day and is completely fine. Doesn't hurt to get evaluated though. But don't accept your daycare's evaluation of your child either. They are not trained to diagnose problems and you are right, they don't like kids who make them work to hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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that is insanely long for a child of this age. I see from below that a nanny hasn't worked out either but I think you should try again. Your kid is wildly overstimulated and overtired. You wrote above that he is in preschool but you are describing a child who is def. not ready for daycare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:49 AM Flag
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NORMAL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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souns completely normal to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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Preschoolers At Risk is a good book, you should read it before you do anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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3 year olds should not be subjected to a "school" setting in the first place. Its the adults with the problem. Not the three year olds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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OP: Yeah, I agree. I have to "subject" him to school because I need to work 3x a week to provide health insurance to my family, but I do agree that the issues lies with the instructors and their expectations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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Why not find him a cool "manny" to hang out with instead? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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we had him in a one-on-one setting, which turned out to be not so good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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Well here we are: pre school no good - one-on-one no good - but your 3 y.o. is fine? Something is not right here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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I am not going to engage in parenting choices war. My world does not operate with the absolute solutions that yours seems to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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Huh? You say you work so you need chilcare yet all the options are no good to you...I suggest you take a look at your kid since the world does happen to work within the realm of "absolutes" and if you are already making excuses at 3 you will all be in big trouble by kindergarten. Lofty excuses for poor behavior won't help you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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I am not going to engage. you and I are very different. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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I think it really depends on what your dc is doing. My ds has has self-regulation issues, one of the things he does to self regulate is run back and forth for about 30 mins, throwing himself onto furniture. And while this behavior can be okay at home, it's certainly not okay in a clasroom. He's been in OT for 3 years now getting help for sensory/regulation issues and fine motor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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OR above with 4 yo ds -- my ds also gets OT for fine motor skills. Apparently, sensory and fine motor skills issues often go hand in hand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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yes, they do. And people who don't believe in sensory issues really haven't spent much time w/ a kid who cannot self-regulate. They will perhaps observe one child at a party who gets wild because of all the chaos around him, and chalk it up to bad behavior. It's very hard for these kids to take in the stimuli. OT is very helpful for teaching a kid how to behave in these settings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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how can I get my child evaluated? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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go to OT's office and request an eval. You can also contact a child study team from Board of Ed and request an eval. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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her kid is in daycare for 8 hours a day! He doesn't need OT he has no business being in a program for this long. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:52 AM Flag
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you don't know this kid, you're not dealing with him at all. It's very irresponsible of you to say that he doesn't need OT, even if it's just for a few months to help teach mom and dad how to deal w/ dc's violent temper. I am sure his daycare teachers recognize that he has issues different from other kids. They are not out to get this kid into trouble. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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pot meet kettle [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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well you seem to have all the answers. I'm so happy that you've given great advice to OP on how to deal w/ a child who consistently has out of control behavior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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I wouldn't do that at this point. Try reading Preschoolers At Risk, The Hurried Child, Raising Cain first. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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Raising Cain was enlightening about boys and early education. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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I have to say from reading OPs responses to some thoughtful discussions of the issues that therapy might be helpful for you. You sound so defensive you simply are not hearing good advice and solid insights. Choose not to listen but your child really needs you to get a handle on these issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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this happened with our 3 yo old. The difference was that we did not take the "give me a break approach". We took every thing our school was saying very seriously. Agreed to work with them, hired therapists, etc. Today he is thriving, he has sensory issues and is getting help, we have learned better parenting skills, and the school was very impressed by how committed we were to working with them to fix the problem and help our son. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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OY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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Leave it to the jews on this board to have a problem with working together to fix a situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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eh. only a half jew. but you are 100% moron! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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you are an asshole. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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you are a brainless, spineless idiot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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You are an asshole, and I feel sorry for your children since you are a bad mother. I hope they never need your help in life because you will clearly fail them :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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I feel sorry for yours, being dragged around from dr to dr for "therapy' and "evaluations" for normal, sometimes quirky kid behavior. So you can run around seeking attention for your "SN" dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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Go down to the school and beat the shit out of the social worker who dx'ed. Then, from now on, the school folks will think, "Wow, considering his mom, that kid has some great self-control." It is all about perspective. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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So, if he were a girl, you'd feel she does need a therapist? If not, why the emphasis on the fact that he is a boy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:42 PM Flag
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np: Typically boys have more trouble in a classroom setting at ages 3 and 4 than girls - trouble sitting still, following directions, etc. It makes it harder to tell what's "normal" if a preschool teacher prefers the way the girls act. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 08:48 PM Flag
[ - ] i can't find my weissbluth book. at what age is the earliest to cio for bedtime/naps? dd is 3mo and still wakes every 3hrs to eat. i'm currently nursing her to sleep, and i need to know when/how to stop. tia! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.16.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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my dr. says to not start sleep training until 4 months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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weissbluth says 4mo for CIO. we did that, and thank god we did [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:47 AM Flag
[ - ] Austin Moms: Anyone a member of the Lifetime where the 4.5 yr old drowned on Friday? A lot of people are throwing around blame - which I don't want to do because I wasn't there - just curious if you still feel comfortable with your young kids at that pool? I am not sure. In general I think the guards do a pretty good job 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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I'm not in Austin, but I do belong to a pool club, I watch my children like hawks. I used to be a lifeguard myself, and know that their attention cannot be on all places at once, ESPECIALLY if the pool is crowded. If you have small non or very beginning swimmers you have to be either in the pool or right at the side watching them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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I don't take my eyes off my 4 yo - until your kid is a great swimmer and 6+ you should be dc's lifeguard [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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OP: ITA, I watch my boys like a hawk, but I stay shallow with my 2.5 yr old and my 7 mo, BUT IF I turn my head for a moment and lose my kid, Id hope that the lifeguards would pay attention. I think I am going to just have 2.5 year old wear a life jacket since I have another kid in my arms. I didn't want to give him that false sense of security with a life jacket - but it is my obly option to have fun this summer in the water and be safe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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Why would you not be in pool with a 4 year old [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:54 AM Flag
[ - ] should i feel bad about 116 acceptance? it's a commute for me. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.16.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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What is your zoned school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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what is your zoned scool? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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a school that is 99% chinese. DS is not Chinese [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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Why would you have to type this? couldn't you just have typed your zoned school without a racial comment? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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huh? NP here. How was she supposed to write this? How is that what she wrote in any way offensive? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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she could have said we are zoned for 130 or 124 and not comfortable being a minority-though she still sounds kind of racist [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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oh, give me a break [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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Easy. Our zoned school is 124. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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I was curious about your zoned schools test scores and how far you are from 116, not the demographics. 116 is an excellant school. You should not feel bad. Try the commute out tomorrow am and see how you feel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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It's a great school, both gen ed and G&T. I know families there who are thrilled with it. The principal and assistant principal seem great! It is overcrowded, but so are too many of NYC schools. If the commute isn't terrible, you should be very happy with that placement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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look into the closest school bus stop to you; contact vicky ritter, the parent coordinator. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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are the bus routes redrawn every school year? Would it make sense if I inquire about this now or should I wait until the next school year? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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my understanding is that the routes are pretty stable. vicky was kind of slow getting back to us, so it wouldn't hurt to start the process now... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 11:07 AM Flag
[ - ] how far before your period do pg test work? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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When I have taken them they have never worked before my period was due. Got neg 3 days before when I was pg 2x. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:49 AM Flag
[ - ] help. the daycare my 3 yo son is in 3 days a week says that he has "self-regualtion" issues, that they have done all they can, and that we should seek professional help. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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what? like what? have you read, "Raising Cain" great book about boys and how the school system isn't gear to them in nursery & elem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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does he get very worked up, unable to calm down? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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Ignore them. You have a three year old boy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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ITA! They are just have tons of energy and can't sit still all the time like girls. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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np LOL! My 3yo girl can't sit stillmost days! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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Read the book Preschoolers At Risk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:15 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone giving up a spot at MTW for g&t, please? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.16.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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a long time ago already [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:28 AM Flag
[ - ] what are boys finishing kindergarten into these days? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.16.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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roughhousing, like always. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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lol, more like what toys --- for a gift [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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mine is into playmobil and dress-up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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you are joking, no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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I would say maybe a 4 yr old would be into that, but not a 6 year old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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My 5 yo just finishing K is into books. #1 thing. If he isn't reading them he is creating them. Give him ten blank pieces of paper, folded, a stapler and some pencils/markers/crayons and he's good for hours. He and every boy his age I know of would also love one of those remote control cars. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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My 5yo ds would love walkie talkies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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Poster just above. Good one. Or binoculars! We have that microscope which connects to tv. IMO, 5 is too young for that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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if you promise that this is not a graduation gift, I'll tell you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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Promise! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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ok, then any water toy would be fun (water balloons, sprinkler thing), anything for beach, bubbles, balloon rockets. You could give a book on pirates, you could give a pirate ship playset, you could give anything Hulk if you think mom will take child to the movie. Pokemon cards are sometimes a hit, transformers, anything fun for mom/dad and child like a badmitten set - or lawn bowling. Just go look around toy store. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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As a mom of a k-boy I would add: mini-trampoline for Sears ($30); moon shoes; Sponge Bob/Hulk/Transformers; soccer; fun sprinkler for lawn; bike paraphenalia. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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K dad here: I would not be happy if you gave my kid a trampoline without asking me first. Huge ER patient supplier... I think it is second only to cars and bagels. (Some Sunday morning go to the ER and count the people with gashes in their left palm.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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If your 6 y.o. cannot handle a trampoline 8" off the floor then you need physical therapy not an emergency room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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Hey Einstein, how high off the ground are kids wearing in-line skates? How about skateboards? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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You are seriously comparing a mini-trampoline to a skateboard? I know dads like you - you've got your children in bike helmets while they take a bath. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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star wars, indiana jones and lego, lego and more lego [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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Ind Jones is PG13 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:31 AM Flag
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ita [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:32 AM Flag
[ - ] If anyone cares, i'll be turning down an MSC spot, so hopefully someone who wants it will get it! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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what did you choose instead? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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166G&T [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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Turned down ours too, and so did another family we know. (Us for 87, them for 84 dual language.) Apparently the MSC lottery is by zone, no clue what zone I'm in so I don't know who will get the next chance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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According to Aranow, the MSC Zones were as follows: [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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np - sorry hit reply too fast. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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Zone One covers the neighborhoods zoned for PS 191, 199, 87, 84, and 166 [and presumably 9]. Zone Two covers the neighborhoods zoned for PS 75, 163, 145 and 165. Zone Three covers PS 185, 241, 242, 180, 76 and 149. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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OP - which zone are you? Signed, really hoping it's Zone 1. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:14 AM Flag
[ - ] What are boys finishing K into these days? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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Legos Indian Jones stuff is what my 6 yo loves [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:15 AM Flag
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curious, has he seen the movies? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:15 AM Flag
[ - ] I think I have a crush on Jacques Moritz. It just kind of snuck up on me. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.16.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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why??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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I ound him very interesting and I like his personality [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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never understood why he was so popular...you wait forever and he rarely delivers himself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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who delivers for him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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the others in his group [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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I never had a crush but I and a few other parents I know thought he was an exceptional OB, and he didn't even deliver but he was involved. I had a high risk pregnancy and my dd had a growth on her ovary which he picked up on in the 8 mo sonogram and had me seeing high-risk people at the hospital in advance and the pediatric surgeon was notified and on call so they would look at dd as soon as she was born--I hated the waits in his office but he was top notch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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hmm. I've rarely had to wait more that 30 minutes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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Try 3 hours! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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that SUX! Does he acknowledge it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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Who doesn't???? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 11.07.08, 04:25 PM Flag
[ - ] I emailed my acceptance Saturday eveing (mailed it this morning too). has anyone gotten a confirmation email if you emailed it? just wondering. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.16.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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Emailed it this morning, but have not received any email confirmation. I just hand delivered a hard copy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:11 AM Flag
[ - ] I have to stop reading cnn. The article where the 1-3 year old toddler was beaten to death on the side of the road did me in. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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yes. that was awful. awful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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Horrible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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WHAT!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh i DO NOT WANT to know [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:55 AM Flag
[ - ] dw was in a car accident (rear ended) 2 weeks before dd was due; she had broken ribs, brusing, and injury to her eye (which has to be fixed by surgery); baby was fine, but it was a frantic 2 weeks until she was born. we hired a lawyer to negotiate a settlement. what is the claim worth? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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Not too much - and isn't that great! Your wife and dd are fine. Yes its annoying but I would suspect $7,500 to cover deductibles and p/s [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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My parents were in a serious car accident and had brain injuries and my dad needed surgery -- and their insurance payments have been pathetic (and they have good coverage and a kick-ass attorney). I can't imagine that you'll get a lot (and it may be ages before you see any $). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Deep down, we are all shallow inside. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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I'm not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.16.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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