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[ - ] anyone have a miscarriage and have a d&c? what was it like? was it bad? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:30 AM Flag
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Yes - me. Physically it was very easy. Take it easy for a few days and do not be alarmed if you bleed for up to a week. Its not a painful or difficult procedure (for most people) so no need to worry. Just get it over with. Sorry for your loss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:31 AM Flag
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np ditto. Pretty easy physically. Totally depends on your mindset for the emotional aspects. Sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:37 AM Flag
[ - ] How often did you see your ob after birth? What is the normal post-birth appt schedule? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:26 AM Flag
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Once at 6weeks then back to usual gyn routine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:27 AM Flag
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wow - first timer here, that seems like nothing. I assume you had a normal delivery, no issues? (that is what I am hoping for!!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:28 AM Flag
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np I had an emergency C and had the same. 6 week check up and then nothing more. pretty routine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:38 AM Flag
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i've had 3 c-sxns and this is all I had to do as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:39 AM Flag
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pretty standard unless there is something wrong at the 6 week exam. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:58 AM Flag
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I saw mine at 2 weeks (to check stitches), at 8 weeks (for birth control) and then on normal every 6 mos. schedule. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 06:41 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone have an miscarriage and have a d&c. what was it like? was it bad? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.23.08, 05:25 AM Flag
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yes, twice. it was harder emotionally than physically. the recovery from d&c was not bad, got my period back 5-6 wks later. sorry for your loss... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:33 AM Flag
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yes, 3 times. The d&c itself was not a big deal; the loss of course was immeasurable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 06:11 AM Flag
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yes, once. I reacted poorly to the meds they put me on for the process and I was basically awake for it, so for me it sucked. Not much pain afterwards, but you might bleed a lot (think back to when you had your period as a teenager). Sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:35 AM Flag
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yes. had mc 3 months ago and now 8 weeks pg! d&c was more emotionally hard than anything. it was over in 15 min and just a heavy period after. sorry for what you are going through. i just went through it and am now pg again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:37 AM Flag
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np - congratulations! I had a mc in Feb and just got pos HPT. Are you finding that you are a complete lunatic or is it just me? I cannot seem to relax - with mc I started bleeding so no D&C but now every time I go to the bathroom I am checking for blood. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:51 AM Flag
[ - ] I am in northern NJ and looking for a 2-3 night getaway with dh and dd who is just 2... how about newport RI? any advice on hotels? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:23 AM Flag
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go to point pleasant or wildwood [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:26 AM Flag
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Def don't go to Wildwood or Pt Pleasant. Newport is nice, also Naragansett is supposed to be great in RI, otherwise, there is Mystic, Ct, If you did want to do Jersey shore, I'd suggest Cape May, LBI, or for closer, Sprink lake, Avon, or Ocean grove. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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Check out my Cape May rental link; I'd be there now, if things were less hectic. http://www.simonecolina.com/quad/ I've reduced the weekly rate and will be happy to work with the daily as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 06:28 PM Flag
[ - ] What (in your opinion) is the best nanny agency in nyc? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:23 AM Flag
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I have used two great agencies- one is called Abby Nanny. You can reach the owner at CZDLutz@yahoo.com and the other agency I used was Pavillion. Both agencies do a great job. Pavillion is expensive but, they did find me a stellar nanny and she stayed with us for 6 years. My current nanny / housekeeper I found through Abby Nanny which is less pricy, CZDLutz@yahoo.com, and we love her ! Both agencies interview nannies and check references and do a personality profile and have optional criminal checks... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.14.08, 11:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Message to new Anderson moms: Leave UB now for your own sanity. Almost no one who posts info about Anderson here is telling the truth. Registration IS still on for today, Monday. Go directly to the school for information. After this week, the school will give you contact info for your grade. Signed, older Anderson PTA mom 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:22 AM Flag
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And why should we believe you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:24 AM Flag
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You, personally, don't have to. You are not a new A mom. If you were, you'd email to Marcie or Donna your questions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:41 AM Flag
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I'm a new A mom. I hope none of us actually believes any of this UB craziness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:26 AM Flag
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please post in NYC Schools... most of us don't care about this garbage... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:53 AM Flag
[ - ] IVF #1 failed. can't believe it. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:21 AM Flag
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I'm sorry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:42 AM Flag
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are you planning on doing it a second time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:59 AM Flag
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I'm so sorry. Maybe try it once more? -- this time they can fine-tune the medications. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 09:36 AM Flag
[ - ] We are moving to a different zone and I was going to try to apply to pre-K in our new zone for Round 2, but my new zoned school is not on the Round 2 list. There must be some way to get on a wait list at the new school, there must be a few accepts that might not pan out for whatever reason (a family might move or whatever). Nobody at the school nor at the district office seems to know what to do. Anybody out there have any insight? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.23.08, 04:59 AM Flag
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Quickly, go to school in person. Talk to parent coordinator, make him/her aware of how much you want a spot and ask your name be placed on a list. Then in September when people don't show (many don't, they just decide to stay in preschool and don't bother to tell the school) you might slide in that way. Also, call after a couple of weeks in September and again in October - that is when they kick out the kids who they want in special needs programs. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 06:59 AM Flag
[ - ] While babysitting, my MIL takes our dd (4mo) to our nearby emergency room to visit SIL, who's a nurse there. Now, I think this is crazy (in the germs/pathogens sense--I mean, this is where you go when you're too sick to go to the doc), but dh just shrugs his shoulders, doesn't see a risk. Am I wrong in thinking this isn't the best idea? She's gone 3x this week. Also, comes straight off the subway and puts her hands in dd's mouth, and I highly doubt she washes hands after changing diapers, as I've been informed that diaper wipes "take care of it." 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:56 AM Flag
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I don't think ER is an idea place to take a baby. Germs aside it is a busy place that is not really ideal for family to drop by for visits to staff! All I can say (especially if your dh isn't on your side) is that if you don't like the way she looks after your child then don't let her look after her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:03 AM Flag
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op: Unfortunately so not an option. DH is very close to parents, so there are constant visits, and the in-laws 100% about seeing dd, which is nice, despite from the fact that neither MIL nor FIL seem to have the first clue about germs. Because DH is in the same boat, more or less, I'm just a "germaphobe," and the in-laws all sort of roll their eyes at my opinions on the matter. Pressing it would cause major tension. DH told me to just "let it go," but then I just quietly seethe at their behavior with dd, which causes tension, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:10 AM Flag
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Without your dh on side there isn't much you can do except buy them some alcohol hand rub! Your SIL should have more idea of the safety issues but she obviously doesn't mind either. Probably everything will be fine and unless you can stand up to your ILS you will have to let it go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:17 AM Flag
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Can you talk to SIL about this? I worked in an ER and everyone was aware of how germy it was. I would come home and dump clothes into laundry immediately, take a shower, etc. Maybe she can talk to MIL? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:21 AM Flag
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Strangely, SIL's actually a little ignorant about germs. She once professed that flu germs could only live outside the body for a few minutes. I know I'm a little paranoid, but these folks are basically anti-science. Most surprising from the nurse SIL, but her general outlook comes from the MIL. Whole family's that way. The MIL was once down with a bad flu, got up after days of bed rest to make dinner for the family, and sneezed into her hands while making the salad. I watched this happen--no hand washing. Needless to say, I stuck to the cooked fare that night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:28 AM Flag
[ - ] I need to find a child psychologist or therapist for my 8 year old. He still has crying fits and says he is constantly stressed out. We are a very laid back family and he sometimes cries so hard about not doing his homework correctly that he hyperventilates. We can't take it anymore. All the soothing and comforting and telling him not to worry and he doesn't hear us and is in his own world. He literally tries to pull his hear out. We need to find someone for him to talk to. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:40 AM Flag
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any recommendations? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:42 AM Flag
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Sounds like he's trying to tell you he's overwhelmed by school. Is he in the wrong grade? Does he need a different school/smaller class? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:55 AM Flag
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he is in a very low stress situation. Not much homework at all. Even reading at night makes him cry and sometimes that is his only homework if any. HIs teachers love him and say he's doing well. His workload is 1/2 of what some of his friends have. He is not overscheduled with afterschool, he has a social life and play a lot. He just cries a lot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:59 AM Flag
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What about the school counselor? I'd start there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:04 AM Flag
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thing is that they think he's great at school, almost don't believe me that he's so different at home. School is out anyway for summer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:05 AM Flag
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classic anxiety - find a cognitive behavior therapist who specializes in pediatric anxiety disorder. i think there is a cognitive behavior therapy institute in midtown who may be able to refer one. westchester hospital has an anxiety group of specialists too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:25 AM Flag
[ - ] does everyone like the new site format? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.23.08, 04:23 AM Flag
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Seems ok to me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:55 AM Flag
[ - ] what are kids having for breakfast today? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:22 AM Flag
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Bran Flakes with a side dish of cherios and raisins. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:55 AM Flag
[ - ] nanny not coming today, feel like i can relax......isnt that the opposite of how i am supposed to feel? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:18 AM Flag
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Totally, why do you feel like that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:56 AM Flag
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b/c she's always around and does more than i do and i feel so guilty that its nice not to feel that way for once, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:32 AM Flag
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i get it - a stranger in your house isn't relaxing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:32 AM Flag
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ita, i felt this way too when I had a nanny, a stranger in your house isn't relaxing and you feel like you are not doing enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:36 AM Flag
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so what did you do about it, is that the reason you dont have one anymore? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 06:03 AM Flag
[ - ] How hard is it to take two kids on the subway (2 mo and 3 yrs)? I haven't done it yet but am thinking about doing it today. Not at rush hour. What do you think? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 03:54 AM Flag
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I have a 2.5yo and 9mo and I've never attempted it on my own. No idea how to juggle 2 small kids and all their kit/stroller. If you do it GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 04:57 AM Flag
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No biggie if you have the right attitude! Wear the 2 mo old, take the stroller and put the gear underneath (pack light), have the 3 yo get out of the stroller and stand with you at the top of the stairs-- hang on the to the railing with one hand and hang onto to the 3 yo with the other. Someone will carry the stroller down for you-- thank them SO MUCH. Then the 3 yo gets back in the stroller (bribe, bribe)... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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everyday i pic up 3yo dd w/7 mo ds. i have two systems - 1) going DOWN stairs, put baby in ergo, fold up stroller in one hand, 3yo in other hand to go DOWN stairs 2)going UP stairs, leave baby in stroller, two hands to hoist up stroller up stairs, yo walks in FRONT of you up stairs. Strangers are usually kind enough to offer help, but don't always expect it, be prepared to do it yourself. Oh yeah, snax are a help for the kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:12 AM Flag
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oops, i mean 3 yo walks in front UP stairs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:13 AM Flag
[ - ] does anyone notice that people without kids are the first ones to dispense child rearing advice and correct your children? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 03:40 AM Flag
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Totally. The people with the most dc's give the least advice because they have the most knowledge that every child is different. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 05:05 AM Flag
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