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[ - ] Any Chicago Moms on? Need suggestion of where I could have my 7yo dd's bday party next month. I am drawing a blank! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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I'm not in Chicago, but don't the Field Museum and the Museum of Science and Industry have parties? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it the norm to get pitocin when you go into labor? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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it is not "the norm" as is everyone automatically gets it, but it is quite common, for situations when it is medically indicated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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I think it's more common towards the end when you're getting tired, or after an epidural. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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it's not the norm during labor, though a lot of women do get it. it is pretty much standard after delivery to help the uterus shrink and avoid excessive bleeding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:47 PM Flag
[ - ] On-ramping mom here. Trying to decide b/w law school (trust & estate) or fundraising/development. I have some experience in fundraising and paralegal work, but it's 9 years old. WWYD? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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Considering the expense and time commitment of law school, I'd go with option B [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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Time an $$ are a big drawback to law school, but I think the potential to make far more $$ down the road may offset that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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You don't make "far more money" down the road in T&E, though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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OP:please explain. This is exactly what I am trying to learn but the salary sites are all over the map for both jobs. I live in NY metro area. Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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T&E departments at most law firms are "servicing" departments for clients in other areas. You get minimal pay unless you find a boutique that does it exclusively, in which case the ramp up in pay is like 20 years down the road [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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Can you tell me what the salary range would be at a boutique firm? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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I have no idea [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:17 PM Flag
[ - ] I sense that a guy at my gym may be recently separated--how do I find out for sure? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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Say something like "I'd ask you out if I didn't see that ring on your finger" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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OP. Sorry, but I think that's way too forward. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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Hire a private eye for a day or two. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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just ask him out and see what he says, you'll find out soon enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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Ok, well I have never asked a guy out. How do you do that exactly? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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You wait until after he's done working out, and when you look your best, catch him on the way out of the gym and say something to the effect that he caught your eye and you thought it might be fun to have a drink together. Smile a lot, don't apolgize or say "isn't this akward" just stick to the plan, "I'd love to sit and chat over a beer with you" Or if you think you're hot shit enough just blirt out, "why haven't we had drinks yet?" Believe me, he will be so flattered that you noticed him and impressed with your forwardness that he will have to take you up on it even if it's just to hear what you'll say next. Keep it light and funny, don't ask about separations, rings, kids or jobs...ask all about him, as a person, music, movies, and maybe a little self deprication on your part if you are super confident he'll get it. Try it, it is so empowering, you'll see, this just may be your practice guy, but you will feel like a milliion bucks for having the brass balls and confidence to even try it! I salute you, let me know how it works out! Karroyave69@yahoo.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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so what do you think, would you try that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Why when I hit reply it takes me to a brand new page with a HUGE reply box and then I have to use the back arrow to get back? WTF? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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log out. close your browser. reopen it. log back on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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It didn't work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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Still didn't work [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Moms who delivered at Cornell - did they push an epidural? Did you ever consider going natural? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.23.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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didn't push it but didn't consider natural. I asked for the epi the moment I walked in the door. literally. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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who is your ob? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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sylvestre, but he didn't deliver db. I like him very much, and I like the other docs I've met there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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I was just like you. I was begging for the epi while I was checking in. BTW, I love Sylvestre. He was not my OB but delivered my db. He was amazing that day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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did not deliver at Cornell, but would not consider going natural -unnecessary suffering. besides, I know 2 moms who had plans to go natural but ended up with general anesthesia because they needed emergent c-sections, and because they had not had an epidural placed before, had no other option except to have a general. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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Delivered at Cornell (my OB was Kalish but she wasn't there - I had Zervoudakis, Grunebaum, and Lee respectively, and liked them in ascending order from worst to best). I wanted natural - told Kalish in one of my last visits I wanted to "try for natural, but see how it goes." Yes, they pushed an epidural - hard - but it wasn't the docs, it was my second L&D nurse. I consented to Pitocin after 9 hours at the hospital (water broke at home), held on another 4 hours (trying to make it to a certain dilation) before getting the epidural. Maybe it's just me, or maybe it was the quality of the epidural itself (seemed to range between being ineffective, and totally knocking me out), but I'd almost rather go through the Pitocin labor without an epidural. Which won't be an issue, though, since I had a c-section 27 hours in and hence will either have a repeat c or sure as hell won't be getting Pitocin with a VBAC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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I had the same experience. The L&D nurse was asking every 5 minutes when I wanted it. I accepted Pitcoin because dr. was worried about infection due to water breaking 12 hours earlier, but thought I could deliver w/o the epidural. Finally gave in and it didn't seem to do much, but my delivery was a snap - 4 pushes and done, so I wasn't traumatized by any of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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delivered at cornell, too. ob was leonard but he didn't make it to the hospital for my emergency c-section. grunebaum literally saved my life and that of my ds. we will be forever grateful [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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or: btw, i was pleading for an epidural but grunebaum said no way ... didn't have time. had a spinal in the o/r but they would have done general otherwise [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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I had complications after the epidural, and even w/ the army of anest. staff in the room, it was Dr. Leonard who saved the day and prevented an emergency c-secion. He's incredible and so quiet and kind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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or: i love leonard, too (he delivered first ds). and i don't blame him at all for not being there. i arrived at the hospital at 4:45am and was in surgery at 5:00am [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.03.08, 02:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Do the school registration forms still ask for race? Do you fill it out or leave it blank? Thought it sucked last year that you were only supposed to check one box, and there was no multiracial category. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.23.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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Yes, they still ask. Ours said "check all that apply." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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That's better. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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FWIW - if that option hadn't been offered I would have left it blank. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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op: ditto, or I owuld have checked multiple boxes anyway [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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I would have created my own boxes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 04:54 AM Flag
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Private school do and they have a multiracial category - at least most [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 04:59 AM Flag
[ - ] I need a new job. Can anyone recommend good job sites? Thank you! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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theladders.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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there was nothing in your post to indicate that it was not literal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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huh? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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sorry...mispost! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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Hm. That's the name of the website [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Ok maybe I should have been more direct with my question. Should I hang on to my Mobile Moms Toasty Toddler bunting that is good up to 4 years with the remote chance that I may need it on a very cold bitter day to get DC to preschool. Bus and cab not an option for me where I live. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.23.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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no need [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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No. Just put your kid in snow pants and a hearty jacket with assorted accessories and he's good to go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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no, you can always use a blanket if you need it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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yes, keep it until next march [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 09:12 PM Flag
[ - ] why LL got so high math score? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.23.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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why need to know, tonto? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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really do not understand. I know terc math is very bad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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How do you know this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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everybody complains terc math. LL uses terc math, so they should not get so high math score, at least should not higher than anderson. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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Well, not everyone complains about TERC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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No, it isn't actually. I suspect you don't even have a child in school yet and are going by what you read on UB or hear other moms say. If that is the case, just wait and see how your child does with TERC. It's actually a good program. It teaches higher concepts. It does need a little drill and kill added in there and District 2 schools (Like LL) realized that and they do add in now as part of policy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 04:56 AM Flag
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np. Wow, that was unnecessarily rude. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:32 PM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 04:54 AM Flag
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sort of ironic given how much pissing and moaning goes on here about terc math! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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do they work on math very hard? or have lots of math homework? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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Smart kids going in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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tutors, obviously. everyone has one. same with the downtown schools. TERC schools with parent body that can afford it tutors like nuts and the test scores seem to show that TERC is great. It is not. My 3rd grader has been doing 1st grade level math all year because of TERC -- she is bored out of her mind and now hates math. So much for TERC getting kids to love it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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My 2nd grader loves terc, teacher gives more advanced homework problems sometimes to some kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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same in our case at PS 3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 05:15 AM Flag
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why is your dc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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sorry. I mean where is you dc? obviously not in LL,right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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ITA with this. Ex-teacher df is now working as a math tutor and says it's rampant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:33 PM Flag
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rumor has it that a lot of Lab parents have their kids tutored in math during 4th grade because of concerns over getting into good middle schools. I don't know if this is true, but since Anderson and Nest both have middle schools, it could be that there's more tutoring at LL for that particular test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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Lots of Nest are not happy with nest middle school and try to go to better middle school. they should care about math, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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but there is the same level of tutoring at 234, 6 and 199 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 05:15 AM Flag
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it just looks that way. they're scores don't include any gen ed dcs. if you broke out the g&t scores from the other schools, they'd be equivalent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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LL scores include self-contained special ed class, but if you dig down you can see breakouts of the non-special ed LL student scores, as well as the G&T vs gen ed students in other schools. An way you slice it, LL got the top 4th grade scores of any public school in the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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there are no breakouts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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There is a breakout for LL but not for G&T/gen ed schools [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:30 PM Flag
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that's what i mean. apples to oranges. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:33 PM Flag
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The main point here is that LL scored very high because they had tutors to compensate for TERC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 09:56 PM Flag
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np - No one knows that at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 09:59 PM Flag
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Bunk. The children are really smart. They were tested to get in. They have involved middle/upper middle class parents. Most likely, they would get math no matter what program was used [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 05:00 AM Flag
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np, heck 116 scores are almost as good and they include general ed. 150 had almost perfect scores one year in the recent past and they are completely general ed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 04:58 AM Flag
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Because it is an excellent school with excellent teachers and a great community. For those who think test scores are so important, the question should instead be why did Anderson and NEST not do better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 03:38 AM Flag
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Because state tests conform to the same inane constructivist math program that state/federal govts push onto schools with attractive pricing and training. That's why many fine schools/district with traditional math curriculums have had to switch in order to get training/support for their young teaching staff. It's a trickle down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.24.08, 05:02 AM Flag
[ - ] What should I do with my life? I hate my job, never get to see dc, and am generally miserable. A change is in order. But where to start... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:39 PM Flag
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what do you do for fun? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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same here, and unfortunately dh makes next to no money, so SAH or WOH PT is not an option [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:57 PM Flag
[ - ] I just weened 2nd dc and now thinking of having a boob job. Anyone consider or had one done overseas? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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I wouldn't go overseas for that, for what to save money? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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Yes, since insurance doesn't cover. And don't they have better cosmetic surgeons in Latin America? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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I don't know if they are better or not really, so I should keep my mouth shut. I'd feel more comfortable in the US. How much will you save? You probably won't want to travel right after so you'd need to stay in a hotel and you might need some help with things for the first few days. I think you should consider how much the added expenses are and the fact that you're in a country where you may have a language barrier. Unless I knew several people from the US personally who went to the overseas doctor I wouldn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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Have the boob job if you must, but be comfortable where you have it. I would wnt my medical care here, and no Insurence plan pays for boobs unless it's for reconstructive surgery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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There is no way I would go overseas, you never no what complications may arise and I would want to have a doctor close to home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 08:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Now that the childcare board is gone, how can I find a new job for our nanny (we're moving)? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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Craig's List, post fliers in your nearby schools, tell your preschool parents, tell your building workers, etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:32 PM Flag
[ - ] how many eggs does the average 40 year old have? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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a lot. but the question is, how many are still "good". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:37 PM Flag
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I don't know, but if you're thinking about trying, you have to get cracking, by 43 the answer to your question is almost zero. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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Do you mean zero eggs or zero good eggs? I know a woman who had a healthy baby at age 46. no in vitro or any of that shit either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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yes but statistically only 5% will at 45. She asked about the average women. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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true (np), tho I was an anomaly -- I conceived 3 times at 43 and later (2 dbs, one m/c). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.23.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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