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[ - ] Anyone have experience with hypnobirthing? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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I know someone who did it. She said the techniques were helpful but she still felt like she was dying! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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Yeah, I'm have a hard time believing the stories in the book claiming that labor actually doesn't hurt if you do it right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:48 AM Flag
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np from below again: This was one of my beefs about Hypnobirthing too -- that if you do it "right", it won't hurt. If it hurts, you must be doing it wrong. It really sets you up for failure and regret, IMO. Also, I have a friend who was in a cult, and I found a lot of the techniques too close to the brainwashing she went through: "There is no pain. You feel wonderful."etc. I think it works well if you find that you can easily suspend your own disbelief. If you are a real critical thinker, it's harder to let go and give in to the hypnobirthing concept. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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Well so far I find it helpful for getting to sleep, so if that's all I get out of it, no harm done. The nutter in the book who claims to have had dental work done without any pain meds is obviously in a cult! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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np: This was my experience. My midwife said most people find it's helpful until they hit transition, then it all goes out the window. That's certainly how I felt. I used a visual metaphor of gently floating above the pain waves. As soon as I hit 5cm, I felt like I was being dragged underwater, over and over and over again. Oh well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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OP: this is kind of what I suspected. Oh well, worth a try. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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The CDs *are* very, very relaxing during your pgy. That's not a bad thing! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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I used the HypnoBabies CD course, but I had the Hypnobirthing CD from the book too. That one seemed a little more sane to me. In fact, maybe I'll dig it out. I'm 32 wks pg with #2, and it couldn't hurt . . . [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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Thank you! This is really helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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You're welcome! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 12:04 PM Flag
[ - ] what's the best portable potty? we still need one for when we're not within easy distance of a restroom, and i'm looking for one that is sturdy enough but also easy to carry around with a stroller. tia. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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We had a colapsible one that sat ontop of a regular toilet and fit in a large ziploc bag. Got it at B,B&B. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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BTW, You are always in distance of a restroom in NYC. Please don't get one of those potties people take out on the sidewalk. That is so gross. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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ITD. a lot of playgrounds don't hahve them (and in CP they are surprisingy few adn far between). especialy if you ahve more thanone kid, its a pain to have to pack everything up and schlep to the bathroom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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Well, sometimes kids do have accidents early on because of this. I agree. But then they learn to not wait till the last second to tell you, or they do go before you go to CP. It's not a bad lesson for kids to learn- that there isn't always a bathroom. Other than a few playgrounds I can't think of anyplace that is not near a bathroom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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i'm not in nyc. but nyc is the most active board, which is why i posted on it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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Where are you that doesn't have public toilets? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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when we are at the playground, we are a few blocks from a public restroom. my dd has JUST started using the potty after being traumatized by it, and if she can't hold it until we get to a borders or wherever, i would rather her be able to use a portable potty behind a tree. this is not really that complicated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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I guess that is why they make them. I just think they are gross. I would rather have had my dd have an accident and learn to hold it for a few minutes or go before we left home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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you don't seem to understand. this has been a very hard process for my dd. an accident would really upset her, and set her back, and i don't want to risk that. i agree, they are not so pleasant, but i'd rather be not pleasant that upset my dd when there are other options available. she does go before she leaves home, but if we are out for the morning, that's a long time for her to hold it. i am trying to make this process as easy as possible on her, not you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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how old is she? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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almost 3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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^^and she has initiated using the potty all of a sudden, after a lot of worry about it - we are not pushing her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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^^ and on top of all this, i have an infant as well, so the whole process of getting to a bathroom is even more complicated. so, before you pass judgment, please realize that there may be other reasons that you don't know about for a poster asking a question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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We have the Potette - used it 3x in the past 3 months. Just a good back-up to have - just in case. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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thank you. is it sturdy enough? not too wobbly? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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I always double check that the stand is correctly in place, but it seems sturdy enough. Also collapses flat so can be easily stored in the stroller/diaper bag. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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great, thanks so much. sounds like a worthwhile investment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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You're welcome. BTW, I think it's more gross to have a child go in their pants (as above poster suggests) than to discretely use a little potty in the corner of a playground or behind a tree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:45 AM Flag
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thank you - i agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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We also have the Potette-- much better to have a kid go outside than have an accident in their pants, then go home hysterical and screaming all the way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:10 PM Flag
[ - ] 19mos old was having a meltdown last night. Did not want to sit in his high chair for dinner. In fighting me, he kicked me in m 8mos pg belly..not hard enough to be dangerous. In the emotion/frustration though, i threw his empty food tray to the ground. It really scared him. He started to cry worse etc. I felt horrible that i lost it. Sigh. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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Cut yourself a break. You did not hurt him, and will probably never do it again since you feels so bad about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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Everybody loses it. You'll lose it again. It's okay. I think your response was appropriate -- getting kicked in the belly when you're pg brings out an intense reaction. It's okay for DC to see that. DC needs to learn that some things are way out of bounds and get an intense reaction. I don't see anything wrong with that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:31 AM Flag
[ - ] SAHMs who have hired someone to watch baby one day/week: What benefits do you provide? I want to be fair, but also want to keep expenses from spiraling out of control. I plan on paying $15/hr, but not sure whether I should pay for days I don't have the person work (because I'm on vacation, etc.); what about paid vacation for them, paid sick days, etc?) Thank you!!! First time mom 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.26.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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If you want her to stay with you for just one day/week you should pay her even if it is a holiday or you are on vacation and don't need her to come in. If she is going away I would not pay her for the day, but offer for her to make up the day another day that week. I would pay her if she is sick, but work out how many sick days per year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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OP: thanks so much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:03 PM Flag
[ - ] how many spots in 1st grade of NEST? I heard lots of parents pulled their kids from NEST to local Gen ed after finishing K, so it should have some spots in 1st grade, right? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.26.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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Ask whoever told you they pulled their dc out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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a lot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:25 AM Flag
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WHY DID SO MANY PARENTS PULL THEIR KIDS OUT AFTER K??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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because NEST sucks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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last year nest took a lot of kids who weren't up to snuff there were a lot of kids with behavioural issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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DOes the school ask these kids to leave? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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They did so in the past. Current principal acknowledged this on last year's tour. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:40 AM Flag
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seems weird since no other g&t had to counsel out so many. i think this says more about the school (and their overly rigid teaching methods) than about the dcs. i mean, "not up to snuff" with regards to their behavior?? yuck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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This doesn't make since considering they had onsites. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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eh, yes, as if onsites are a fool-proofed way to find kids without issues only. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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Wow, how did you get "fool-proof" out of my statement? Clearly, onsites will id some of these kids, as opposed to the process this year which is blind to everything except scores. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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np: scores alone may do a better job. our class at ps9 is wondersul, and formed via scores only [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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I believe that they called additional dc's for onsites last year at a late date because they did not fill their available seats with the original group. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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That was not the feeling I got at drop off today. Lots of, "See you in September." (Granted, they could have all been Olivia Newton John fans... but I doubt it.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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Again, this is a post giving false information. I have a child who just finished K this year and I don't know of anyone who is not coming back. There is seriously someone out there who has an axe to grind regarding this school and I don't care what the reason is but its just wrong to delibrately disseminate false information. There are plenty of good people who have kids in that school and plenty of good people who have kids that will be going to this school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:47 AM Flag
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I thought that each program adds a few seats in 1st grade regardless of attrition. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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this and the class size grows. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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WE FOUND THE FAMOUS NEST BASHER!!! SHE IS A LOWER LAB MOM AND SAID THE SAME THING ABT GEN ED IN A POST ABOVE BRAGGING ABOUT LOWER LAB TEST SCORES. BUSTED!!!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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Before everybody gets their knickers in a knot... does anyone except OP have info to confirm this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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The Lower Lab moms out there should shut this woman up. At this point, she is making up bold faced lies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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I think that by bashing another school you guys aren't helping any. Can we all just stop bashing schools? I don't mind reading about how happy someone is that their kid got into a certain school but it really sickens me to see statements like the above. I have friends whose kids went to LL and they said that school was awesome. I have friends with kids in schools all over the city and everyone wants to love and support their child's school. So can we just all stop. I am a NEST mom and I can tell you everyone (that I know of) finishing up K this year was happy and is coming back. Good luck to everyone in the upcoming school year at what ever school your dc is going to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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So are people saying that kids with behavior issues are to be shut out of Gifted and Talented programs? Don't these kids deserve to be worked with too? If that becomes the case we should change the name of the proram to the "Wonderful and Delightful" program only for wonderful and delightful kids. Kids with any behavioral issues need not apply. Stepford Kids only......... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 12:06 PM Flag
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I cannot even believe someone would put up this post. This is obviously not true and very spiteful. If this is indeed a Lower Lab parent, you are not representing your school well at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 12:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Progressive-minded moms: City & Country School or Neighborhood School? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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I don't know, but I'm a fan of progressive ed. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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thanks!! hard choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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did you get a spot at both? we're hoping to get off wait list for C&C and have been accepted at Earth School. if we get C&C i'm not sure which direction we should go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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yes--both are an option for us. I cannot decide what to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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what are the pros and cons for you? (did you already give a deposit/tuition to City & Country?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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yes--we've paid about $3000 already!! (FA) And I really don't want to lose it!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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but you'd save appx. $20K a year for the next 12 years if you went to Neighborhood School, right? if money weren't a consideration, which would you choose? do you think that dc would get as good an education at Neighborhood School? do you have other dc (i.e., other tuition to consider)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:42 AM Flag
[ - ] my son (going into 1st grade) does like camp or the idea of it. prob is all his friends are in camp or away. solution? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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doesnt like camp [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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ummm. camp for him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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skip camp? is it that big of a deal? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:15 AM Flag
[ - ] What is the rep of The Town School? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Teenagers 06.26.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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solid. good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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very small, nurturing, traditional, jewish and insular. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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no one gets into town. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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such bs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 02:40 PM Flag
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you haven't been around long enough. it's an old time UB line. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 02:48 PM Flag
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kids get into prek. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 02:42 PM Flag
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ds's friend older brother just got into K as did our neighbor's dd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 03:20 PM Flag
[ - ] how much do you spend on summer camp? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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$2070 for 4 weeks of full days including R/T bussing for my 6.5 y.o. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:24 AM Flag
[ - ] 100% of PS3 5th graders are at or above grade level in Math? Did I read that right? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.26.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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looks like 93.3% scored a 3 or 4 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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I can't link the post I'm referring to - not that savy but if you search ps3 it has two replies, one with the 100% stat and one saying thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Is a Leapster something my DD could use on the plane? Can you shut off the sound or use a headset with it? TIA! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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Never mind -- found it! Volume control + headset jack. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:33 AM Flag
[ - ] Ps116 question: anyone know if there is a K g&t teacher yet for 116? is the first grade teacher good? second grade etc...? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.26.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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There are two first grade teachers, one better than the other but both ok [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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There are two 1st grade g&t teachers? i thought just one class per grade? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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for K and going forward. But this years first grade has two classes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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No, this year had one g&t K class. Prior to this year they had two. This year's K teacher is wonderful, but she is pregnant. I'm not sure who the K teacher will be next year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 02:39 PM Flag
[ - ] so sick of all the school talk! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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me too. It has gotten SO boring. I was just thinking of unchecking the schools board. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:09 AM Flag
[ - ] is there anyone on who absolutely *never* masturbates? I mean, really never. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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I guess not.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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me - have no idea how to [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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really?? what have you, um, tried? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have any good recs for an OBGYN on the west side? TIA :) 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.26.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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rhee/bradley practice, W. 58th opposite TWC [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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That is actually where I am going, but I am having an issue with them. I posted about this earlier. They seem a bit disorganized and have "lost" (then found) some of my test results. Did you have any of these problems? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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quite the opposite, frankly. they get me results when needed and were very responsive by phone. my amnio results came form teh hospital, though, not them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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Were you with Rhee or Bradley and when were you pregnant? I am just trying to understand why I am having such a strange experience there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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Rhee. and believe me, i know she isn't everyone's cup of tea personality-wise. but i had really very few problems, if any, with the staff, and dr. bradley i thinkis more personally warm and so to more people's taste. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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doula here: Bradley is great. But Rhee is a complete sadist, a liar and a horrible doctor. I wouldn't recommend her to my worst enemy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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OP: OH NO! Could you be more specific. I am already nervous and your response is really upsetting me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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Let me just say that Dr. Rhee could dress up as a big scalpel every day if she was to properly represent herself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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So - you feel that she jumps to surgery unnecessarily? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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^^I've seen her flat out lie to parents over and over again and do so many unnecessary cesareans. Run away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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OR: this really surprises me. dr. rhee was willing to consider a breech vaginal delivery for me, when most docs woudl go straight to c/s. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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Yes. It sounds like maybe this woman just doesn't believe in any surgery [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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she's awful. If you google her, you'll find more comments on her. Check out this link: [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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http://www.ratemds.com/filecache/doctor-ratings.jsp?did=18298 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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Thank you. I wonder about those online rating boards. My guess is that most people don't go on to rate if they are "thrilled" with their doctor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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What kinds of "lies" do you mean? About needing surgery? How do you know they are lies? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:16 AM Flag
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how do you mean "lie"...and how could she maintain a practice on 58th street if she was so awful? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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np: Her name is constanly popping up here - so this is surprising to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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I don't mind Dr. Rhee's abruptness. I know she will say it like it is - which I like. It is just the fact that things seem to keep going MIA there. Maybe it is this way with any busy doctor's office. This is my first, so I am a little more tense than most. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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^^ i should add, dr. rhee was the perfect doctor for me. i just recognize she isn't for everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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Dr. Rhee, is that you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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jsut a satisfied customer! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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Midwifery of Manhattan, Dr. Dinnall, Dr. Paka, Georgia Rose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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Dr. Kathryn Rutenberg on W 60th. She's the BEST. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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