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Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

If you have any questions or concerns, you can email us at urbanbaby-support@cbsinteractive.com.

Thanks so much,

UrbanBaby Support

[ - ] Can any NY mom recommend their housekeeper? Only willing to pay $10/hr. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.26.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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clean your own bathroom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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No, I wouldn't subject her to someone willing to pay so little. We pay $20/hr and she is fabulous. You get what you pay for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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good negotiating..you pay your cleaning person double what nannies earn in manhattan. you must have some special garbage to take out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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Hmm... I pay my nanny (who works for me 20 hours a week) $15/hr. My cleaning lady comes every 2 weeks and works for 4 hours and I pay $80. my apartment is so clean I wouldn't have to clean it again until she comes back (I do), but it is absolutely worth it. Either you can pay someone $10/hr and have them work 8 hours, or pay more and get a harder and better worker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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when your nanny finds out how much you pay your cleaning lady she will quit. Good work!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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My nanny knows what I pay the cleaning lady and she has no problem with it. They are 2 very different jobs - my nanny doesn't have to clean my bathrooms, and she's very happy with her job. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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youre ridiculous. your nanny now realizes your toilet is more important than your child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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I'm sorry you're the ridiculous one for assuming all of this. My nanny works with me (I work at home) to help take care of my child part time after school and occasional evenings. Her job is pretty easy (she is a student and goes to school in the mornings and some afternoons) and she and I both value my dc very much. However, to equate the jobs on your bases is really ridiculous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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1 bet you $100 you offer your nanny $80 to clean the place, she'll take it in a heartbeat. youre fooling yourself and youre annoying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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I don't think she would be interested in cleaning my apartment. She's happy to help with things, but it isn't her job and I would never ask it of her. She knows my cleaning lady well, and knows what I pay her because occasionally when I am not home I have the nanny pay her. I don't understand why you have such a problem with this. The op's post about $10/hr is ridiculously low for a good cleaning person [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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NP: I have one person who works as a part-time nanny and a cleaner. I pay her a different rate for each. She gets $15/hour for taking care of dc. She gets $20/hour for cleaning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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why don't people get this (OR above) - $20/hr for cleaning is absolutely standard [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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not at that price. I pay $20/hour. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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well good luck to you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 03:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Just found out I'm pg with twins! Completely freaking out!!!! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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fabulous! are these #1 and #2 for you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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Yes... I'm 11 weeks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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how far along are you? are these your first? congrats! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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Twins are fun! Welcome to the club [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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Thanks. I was just getting my head around one, 2 seems like SO much more at this point! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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Two is so much more, but the hardest part is the first six months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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Thanks... I just can't believe it. No twins in family, I am young, no fertility drugs, etc... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:36 PM Flag
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Ditto, ditto, ditto, ditto. Hey, it happens is my OB's exact quote [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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lol. thanks. how old are your twins now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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6 1/2 yo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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How was the school situation? are the identical or fraternal? sex? (sorry for all the questions) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone heard from Vani lately? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:26 PM Flag
[ - ] can you recommend a private room in manhattan or brooklyn for a brunch for 20 people? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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michael's, midtown [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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they dont do brunch [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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Park [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 03:09 PM Flag
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Jane, Blue Water Grill, 212 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 03:15 PM Flag
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11 madison park? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 03:16 PM Flag
[ - ] What's a standard annual raise for a full-time nanny - 5% of salary? (We have 2-year old twins in case that matters and are currently paying $16/hour) 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.26.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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$1/hr raise [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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and what if nanny stays with us many years? $1 each year? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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That's what I did, but I knew that I would be letting my nanny go (or she would need to go PT) when my ds started school FT. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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No, you don't have to raise any more if kids are in school and hours are less. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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www.parkslopparents.com just published a survey on their website with answers to this question, among other things [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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someone had too much time on his/her hands! Survey/report probably compiled by some overachiever who became a SAH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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www.parkslopeparents.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Explain, please. Why do UB moms (1) constantly criticize No Child Left Behind and "teaching to the test" and (2) inundate the board with posts about how well their school did on standardized tests? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.26.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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UB moms talk about their dc's doing well on IQ tests who don't benefit from drills and teaching to the achievement tests. But I think one group of moms whose dc's do well say one thing and another group of moms whose dc's don't test well say another. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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THANK YOU [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:22 PM Flag
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excellent point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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it's a double edge sword. Test scores are not the only thing but if the test scores are bad you don't want to go there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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Just because some of us are hostages to the public system (can't afford to opt out into private) doesn't mean we LIKE the way it is structured. It's not inconsistent at all. We're just doing the best we can, within a system that has priorities that we might not agree with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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But if the testing in that system is BS, why tout the test scores at all? It may even be a sign the school pays too much attention to test prep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:43 PM Flag
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There are a number of different --- and all valid --- conclusions one can reach from test scores. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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Before blanket criticism, please look at the tests. I agree that kids are over tested and the financial ties in NCLB create real problems, but if you look at the actual tests you will find they cover all the basic skills we want our kids to learn. "Teaching to the test" mostly means teaching all those things we expect our kids to learn. Among other things testing helps make sure that the kids are getting it and allows Ed departments to see what is going on in the schools. What if you had decided a curriculum that you wanted to make sure every 3rd grader learned - what better way is there than to test on that curriculum? You can download all of these tests to see them for yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 05:07 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the criteria to be an Ivy league university? TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.26.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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it is part of the ivy league conference - like what makes a school part of the big east, pac 10, big 12, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Any P.S. 11 parents on? I'm wondering about pre-k. Is five full days the only option? tia 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.26.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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Darn. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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All UPK is five days. Only privates may have a part-time option. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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But some UPKs have half days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:28 PM Flag
[ - ] ds's bday is 11/4 - explain to me why this is bad? I have a hard time understanding the public and private cutoffs, etc. NYC. does this mean he'll be old for his class, or young for it? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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old. my ds's birthday is 11/2, so we are in the same boat. not that being the oldest is the worst thing in the world, though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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well, I guess he'll be psyched to be the 1st one to get a licence, be able to drink, etc. but id somehow rather him be on the other end, though I guess better for a boy than a girl, in a way, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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NP: the kid will be youngest in public school (will not turn 18 until after high school graduation) but among the oldest in private school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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Old for private school since cutoff is 9/1, but young for public since cut off is 12/31 (calendar year). Does that help? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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yes. oddly, tho, my bday is 9/1, and I went to private but was the youngest in class. how did this happen, then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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honey you are now old and they changed the rules lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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oh well, c'est la vie I suppose [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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this is now the worst birthday to have in nyc! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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He'll be young in public - would start at four and old in private - would turn six right after starting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:51 PM Flag
[ - ] OK, I have a call in to EI but now I'm nervous. My 9.5mo sits great, reaches. He doesn't pull up, roll from back to tummy (does roll from tummy to back), can't get from laying on his back to sitting up. He is no where near crawling, and we do a lot of tummy time every day. He can feel himself really well. I'm worried about "low tone" or something. Am I a nervous nelly? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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^^that's FEED himself really well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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You did the right thing by calling EI. If there is a problem the earlier the intervention the better. If they find nothing you will feel better. GL (signed mom who believes EI - and the related programs saved my child) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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Go with your gut. If you think something is wrong and db isn't progressing, have him checked. Everything is prob fine but always better to have peace of mind. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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always good to call when in doubt, but neither of my dds crawled until 11 months and now they are healthy normal kids (age 6 and 9). your kid sounds pretty normal to me - friends with low tone kids sound worse than this, ie more than one or two things they can't do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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thanks. He seems normal, just mellow, but then I see other kids and I get nervous b/c he basically hasn't done anything "new" in about 3 months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:12 PM Flag
[ - ] If you're dating someone..or sort of seeing them every so often...and thank them afterwards, with a 'let's do it again' and each time get no response, what would you make of it?? Yet a few weeks or months later get asked out again. What do you think? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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he is dating other people or married [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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weeks or months? waste of time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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what do you make of the non response to "i had a great time"?? Would be such a simple gesture to return, dont you think? (at the very least) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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weird [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:05 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone on who's kids going to G and T at 110? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.26.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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probably. I doubt they do UB, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Mandell School-- looking at the website, I see that they schedule parent interviews and require both parents be there--- but what is something comes up for DH? Because they won;t let you reschedule... Anyone BTDT? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:00 PM Flag
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What is something comes up for DW? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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of course, but I'm the OP and I'm a stay at home mom, so other than being hit by a bus... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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They are sticklers. I think only one parent can go to interview if other parent truly has an emergency but it's frowned upon. Signed someone who went through process last year with Mandell but withdrew application. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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OP here-- I got an icky feeling from the tone of the website. Can I ask why you withdrew? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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Just decided not for us although I have some very good friends who are going. I have nothing against the school (since it seems to get a bad rap on UB), just not for us. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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OP here-- something about the tone of the website turned me off. Can I ask why you withdrew the app? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:08 PM Flag
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NP - Mandell is known for being an our way or the highway kind of place. School knows best. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:11 PM Flag
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well, that's it. and the fact that the head of school grew up in the building-- I assume she got an education in a related field, but the fact that she gre up in the bldg is (albeit charming) irrelevant to me. There's just something condescending of parents/potential parents.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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They all expect that - most will let you reschedule if it is unavoidable [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.26.08, 01:42 PM Flag
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