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[ - ] Pumping moms, how did you wean from the pump. I started decreasing my pumping sessions, went from 4x/day, to 3x and then I kind of skipped to 1x/day (i was barely producing and when I did the milk was so thin), today is my first day without pumping and i am SO engorged and so uncomfy. Any tips? Should I pump a little to release? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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can baby nurse a bit? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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she hasn't nursed in 2 months, she was getting bottles during the day since I returned to work and started rejecting me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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I just went through this. use ice packs in your bra (baggies with frozen peas work just fine), and then pump for up to 5 minutes when you really can't take it anymore and need some relief. take lots of tylenol, too. I hear sudafed works but I didn't use it. good luck - you'll feel better in a couple of days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:16 AM Flag
[ - ] Ttc and am ovulating right now . Had sex Fri night- want to have sex tonight, but dh partied way hard this weekend- anyone know if alcohol can nake the sperm "bad?" 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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are you sure he's dad material? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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I don't think that it could do anything to counteract the sex from fri., it's not like they are going to be diseased, it may effect sperm count I think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Trying to buy a couch and I can't make up my mind (and DH is totally uninterested). Like a "cozy", casual look. Considering something from Mitchell Gold, but don't love any of the fabrics (although there is one that I like). Considering something from Crate and Barrel and like the fabric, but the couch shape isn't my favorite (and I'd wait for a sale in August to order). Going to PB later in the week. Any other suggestions? I love white -- but we're too messy! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.29.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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I have a Mitchell Gold chair slipcovered in a white/oatmeal denim. Very comfortable. Washes great and looks amazing 10 years later. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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That's why I really like the Mitchell Gold couch -- I hear the greatest things about the quality and it's very comfortable. Even washable, I worry about the light color, though (but there's a stripe that might work -- I'm bad at decorating which is part of the problem). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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The color isn't the issue as much as the fabric. Get denim or duck or twill - something very very durable that can be washed and stain-treated often. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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Room and Board, Portland Couch on sale we just bought it in toast color, really comfy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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Room and Board [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:58 PM Flag
[ - ] So we are selling apt and are doing an open listing where we are acting as our own listing agent but will pay a buyer's broker 3%. A broker came through previewed the apt, advertised on his company's web site and today brought over a client to see the place. Then as they are leaving they tell him "we have a broker but he is on vacation right now, but we'll have him contact you"- So now I'm thinking...how is this all going to pan out? Should their broker get a cut of the 'deal' if it happens for doing absolutely nothing if the sale goes through? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.29.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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Its not your problem but you are clearly working with a very inexperienced agent (which is why he previewed a FSBO). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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maybe....but he did bring two clients by today and they were both very good showings...but I guess he should have asked if they were working with someone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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What makes you think they were good showings? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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My own unique classification system...bad showing=client(s) stays less than 5 minutes or says something like "I've just started looking and am just in the research phase right now" vs good showing where client stays 25-30 minutes and asks lots of questions such as "what walls are load bearing" and "when are you looking to close?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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how long have you been on the market? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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12 days [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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I thoght the buyers broker had to be present when they saw the house to get his/her cut [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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maybe the broker was covering for another agent [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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OP: the impression I got was that they thought he was the listing agent (aka my broker- but I hadn't signed anything with him). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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as long as he know's he is not, even though he previewed your place [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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yeah, he is from one of the smaller agencies. They are allowed to advertise the open listings I guess with their name on them, whereas the big name firm people do not (but they have brought by some clients because my listing is in their interal database) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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wow this sounds very strange - if their agency name is on your listing and you are not a client that is a gross misrepresentation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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It is, isn't it? A few asked me to sign a paper saying it was an open listing and that I'd pay the 3% if they brought a buyer and asked permission to take photos etc which I gave them-but in westchester for example, when you go to one companies web site they list all the MLS listing so if you don't look closely you may be lead to believe you have to call that agency to view the property...this is really not that different [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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Actually it is quite different. As I recall you have a good lawyer at the ready and it doesn't sound like the newbie broker is going anywhere anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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I guess...is it hard to get a job as a broker at a big name firm? Most of the ones who seem eager to post it on their web sites work for the less-recognized firms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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not your problem, they are going to have to work it out. He should have figured that out before he showed the place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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by the way, I'm glad that fsbo is working out for you. I'm assuming you're the women that asked a bunch of questions a week or two ago [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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yeah, well no offers yet but we'll see. I just feel bad for this guy but I need to toughen up I guess! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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If you feel bad, reimburse him for the ad if this person buys the apt. that way he's not out anything. I'm sure you would have bought an ad if you knew it would work. But really, he's playing the game just like everyone else, you win some you loose some [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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I don't think he personally paid for the ad though, I think his agency did. I noticed my place was on streeteasy for example but he said all he did was put it on his company's web site and streeteasy picked it up automatically...so I'm not sure they paid anything (or maybe they pay a monthly flat fee to link into other sites) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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then if you get an offer from this couple, send him a gift card to a nice restaurant or something as a thank you and move on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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lol...yeah I'm sure he'd be happier with the 50K though...I tried this because I thought maybe I'd dabble in real estate when the kids got older but I don't think I have the stomach for this! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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So your property is priced at over 1 mil? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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1.6 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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the Agents cut would be about 20 - 30k. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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oh, right because a chunk goes to his agency...oh well, maybe they won't make an offer and I won't have to worry about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:25 PM Flag
[ - ] is it unreasonable to buy our 17yo ds a car for his birthday? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.29.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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I don't think so -- but I do think that it depends on the family. I'd d it -- but only if I trusted DS and made a point to make sure that he was "grounded" and not entitled. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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I wouldn't get a nice new one, but something practical is fine if it is going to help you out. He should be contributing to gas and insurance though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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My dh has already decided he will get our 14 yo ds a red convertible when he's 16. Not what I [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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np: ugh this is something I wouldn't do. 16 yr olds are far from being mature enough to be responsible for a car on their own and driving it. Too many accidents. I would wait a few more yrs. Let them drive the family car for experience and when with an adult [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:35 AM Flag
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I had to buy my own first car. Must be nice.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 05:58 PM Flag
[ - ] just learned that dh and i were approved to adopt twins! can't wait to add to our family! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.29.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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yeah, congratulations! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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that's awsome! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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congratulations! do you already know the twins, or are you now waiting for a referral? domestic or international? yay! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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domestic - we have met them - they are 11 months old [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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np: are you fostering right now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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names? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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Brianna Rose and Molly Elizabeth [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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Cute Cute Cute, I am so excited for you! Get sleep now, 11 mos are busy my DS is 11 mos. too and he keeps me so busy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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that's so wonderful you must be so happy! Is this a private adoption? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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Other than the ugly names, that's great! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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congrats. what agency? i'm looking to adopt as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:52 PM Flag
[ - ] looking at houses in nj suburbs - we found three houses we love - one in ridgefield, one in bogota and one in teaneck, willing to look into other towns as well, need input! we have a 6yo dd, 2yo ds and i am expectring 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.29.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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i think teaneck has some good areas [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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my cousin grew up in Ridgefield. It's very nice. She went to a private school, so not sure about PS's. I think it's very Asian now, mainly Korean. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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rather than ridgefield, try ridgefield park - better schools if you are in the right district [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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hackensack is nice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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ridgefield, eh, not the best schools [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:53 PM Flag
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try upper saddle river; great schools, beautiful homes and the taxes are good [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 04:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone seen a therapist for a personal issue (i.e. not a marriage or couples therapist)? Did you find it helpful in resolving your issue/making you feel better? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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yes. I had an ectopic pregnancy, and therapy was great for helping with the surrounding potential fertility issues. I liked her so much and found her so helpful that I also ended up resolving lots of anger towards my parents about growing up in a cult too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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wow, is she in NYC? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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nope, I'm in dc. My best suggestion is not to stay if they are not helping you. It really is more about clicking with the therapist than anything else. If they just let you whine for months on end with no resolution, then they are not helping you. I was very firm in my mind that if I didn't get anywhere in 3 weeks, that I was going to try someone else. Granted, there wasn't a ton of movement in those 3 weeks, but there was enough to convince me she was good at her job. All in all it took about 9 months for everything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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I've been in therapy 4 or 5 times in my life. I am not a fan. Frankly, its like paying for someone to vent to. UB is much more effective (and free!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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Yes -- and she was honest with me and told me to stop therapy after I'd dealt with the issue (not in a mean way!). I went back to her when something else was going on in my life (a huge family crisis) and she was helpful then, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:47 PM Flag
[ - ] my dh just crashed his brand new lexus - this is his second accident - our insurance is THROUGH THE ROOF. i m so angry with him right now. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.29.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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was he drunk? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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I never give dh a hard time about his irresponsible behaviour because it always backfires on me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:58 PM Flag
[ - ] House hunting in NJ this weekend. So many open houses and very little traffic. Gotta believe that prices have further to fall in tri-state area. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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LOLOLOL!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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I totally agree. It is crazy how out of whack the market has gotten. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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No. I think the bottom is right here (2 Q 2008). It is a big vacation weekend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:44 PM Flag
[ - ] just learned that my teenage daughter has herpes and i am MORTIFIED. i dont know what to do. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.29.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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Take her to the doctor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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i imagine that is where op found out about this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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Well what else CAN she do? It's not going away. Ever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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It is nothing for you to be mortified about. There's nothing you can do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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how old is she [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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15 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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Poor poor girl. I hope you are being loving and comforting, I am sure she is devastated. It sucks to make 1 mistake and have the effects last for a lifetime. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:55 PM Flag
[ - ] How can I be more assertive/take charge of my life? I basically had a job that was easy, that I disliked, for 4 years... and instead of doing something about it 2 years ago (i.e. admitting it wasn't the right thing, talking to my boss about it, possibly trying to move w/in the firm, etc.), I just waited and let my performance deteriorate to the point where now I'm for all intents and purposes going to get asked to leave. I'm really disappointed in myself, and obviously have learned a lesson the hard way... but how can I pick myself up and move on, esp. in this job market? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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For starters, make decisions for yourself instead of asking a bunch of anonymous strangers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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It is time for therapy. It sounds like you've got some serious depression issues that are impacting your life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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This is an interesting post for a lot of reasons. The reason you did not do anything was because you didn't have to. You were unchallenged and the work was easy - not a lot of people would bail on a job like that. Can you salvage the situation or are you sure you are out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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The way she put it is that I am on probation for 30 days and can buy more time if I completely kill it the next month. But basically I am done on that team and probably at the firm. She said like 5 times during our meeting that she thinks I really need to start looking for another job at a new firm. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:00 PM Flag
[ - ] what was your most memorable post? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone ever gotten a positive OPK a week before their period was due? Did you find out why? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 06.29.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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some people also use them as pregnancy tests, but I'm not sure how that works... could probably google it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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