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[ - ] VENT: i am so exhausted. spent the weekend at a friend's GORGEOUS summer home and felt like I just ran after the kids the whole time (I did get a break). when does this get easier? (kids are 1.5 and 3...) 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.29.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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I have a 15 mos old and it is exhausting chasing after her. My other two are 5 and 7, so I can definitely say that once your youngest is 5 you can just be sitting in a chair with a drink in your hand letting them run around, up until that age there is no such thing as fun and relaxation for you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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NP: can I just ask about this chasing stuff everyone talks about? I have 7yo twins. When they were 15mo, they toddled around, but I didn't necessarily chase after them the whole time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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I think it comes down to family dynamics: Are you in charge, or are the kids. If the kids are in charge, you will end up "chasing" them all over because they don't have to obey certain rules and commands from you like "stop running", "come back over here", "don't do that". It's all in how you choose to raise your children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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oh please, it comes down to your kid's personality. My 15 mos old will attempt things my 5 yo won't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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Do you spend the day "chasing"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:34 PM Flag
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at home in our child proofed apartment, no. Anywhere else, pretty much. She was walking by 9 1/2 mos of age and running by 10 mos. She is our 3rd dc and by far the most exhausting....she also puts everything in her mouth so we have to be on top of her at all times-outdoors is especially difficult as she goes after sticks and rocks etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:42 PM Flag
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I had my 15 mos old at Herkscher Playground this weekend. She ran around like a maniac trying to scale brick walls that were at a 45 degree angle because she saw older kids doing it. All she wanted to do was walk up and down these brick walls and would not be redirected. That is where the action was. When we go to our pool club, she doesn't want to play in the toddler pool, she wants to step in and out of the pool (brick sides) over and over and run up and down the sidewalk and climb up any set of stairs she sees. She has never 'toddled' around. I wish she did...if I don't stay within [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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arms reach of her at all times (or in the above example am not holding on to her) she would break a limb. Today she got the step stool out of the bathroom carried it out herself and used that to climb up onto our play-kitchen counter and was standing on the toy cash register atop the toy kitchen counter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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Oh, see my twins were toddlers but not wild toddlers. I guess it's just a difference in kid personality. I could redirect from where I was standing, not having to chase them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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my dd is seriously insane. If there were two of her (as in twins) one would be dead by now. She loves to climb and it is seriously scary for us [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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so what did you do at a city park where there was a play structure with steps and ladder openings where they could fall 6 feet to the ground? I haven't met a 15 mos old yet who can safely descend a ladder on his own [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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For starters, they always followed each other, rather than doing the twin split, which is more common I think. For another, they were ok with the openings. I'd just stand at the bottom and tell them to go to the slide and meet me there and they would do that, or insist that I carry them down from the opening one after the other [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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that would never work for me. She'd try to come down herself through the opening and I'd be trying to catch her as she fell [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:28 PM Flag
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^or if she did go to the slide, she would then try to walk down it instead of sitting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:29 PM Flag
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I think it depends on the kid. My older dc sat quietly and played and never got into trouble. Younger ds is now nearly 3 and I have to chase him all the time -- he is constantly in trouble and I have a feeling this is going to last until he is at least 5. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:05 PM Flag
[ - ] i am addicted to pretzels and i can't stop eating them help me! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 06.29.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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throw them in the garbage and stop buying them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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switch to chocolate dipped ones;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Bedtime is out of control. ds is 3 and just rules the roost. Should be story, song, bed. But with all of the potty trips and everything else, it just drags on, and on, and on. I know this is probably normal, but I need to vent! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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Hard stuff. I'm facing it, too. I think it finally comes down to crying it out and then it gets a lot better once ds or dd knows that the clock stops at 8pm or whenever. At least this is what I've been told. Good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:29 PM Flag
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cry it out at 3? I am such a sucker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:38 PM Flag
[ - ] This has been a very dramatic year! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.29.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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yep. dreams were made and shattered over and over again, and you watched it all play out on urbanbaby. really need to stop watching the car wrecks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:25 PM Flag
[ - ] I keep having a twinge on what feels like my right ovary. I think i am on day 19 of my cycle and that i have already ovulated - its been bother me for about 5 days now... thoughts? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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could have ovulated a bit late [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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i get that too occasionally. ob tells me that its normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.01.08, 06:27 PM Flag
[ - ] How much us appropriate to spend on a wedding gift these days. The bride and groom are spending a lot of their own $$$, so we want to be generous. THey are not family but good friends. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.29.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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I usually take their registry as a guide. I would say $200-300 would be considered generous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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but under that is fine too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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how much do you think they'll spend per head? I'd reciprocate, if possible. about $200-300 sounds right, if you can afford it, but you shouldn't spend more than you can afford! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Any ideas on how to find a Hebrew-speaking live-in person 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.29.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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try your local synagogues? I bet the rabbis would know if any there are any immigrants looking for such work [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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tried. nothing. will try again. need young person (student) as I can't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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offer much more than room and board as I already have a full-time nanny. Just want and extra set of hands (some nights and weekends as I'm a single [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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mom. Mostly want my son to be bilingual in Hebrew. Good suggestion though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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try the local universities, many people would probably love this gig so that they can get free room and board. Does it absolutely have to be hebrew speaking though, that might be tougher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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au pair [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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big fee to the agency. like 7k. would prefer to interview a person who is already here. best would be a student at Columbia, etc, or someone who has other work like a teacher but wants to live on the upper west side rent free -- room and board plus a bit of cash. also good suggestion! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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what about Yeshiva University- maybe they have a job board [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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Great idea. Didn't think of it. Too sleep deprived. Will try that tomorrow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.02.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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Try to contact the Jewish Private Schools in NYC Rodeph, Ramaz, SSDS, Beit Rabbin, SAR and see if they can help [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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might be hard to find someone who will do the job for only room and board [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Are capri pants in fashion this year? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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they always are [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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they never are- unless you're over 5'7", a size 0-2 petite or Gidget. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 08:15 PM Flag
[ - ] ttc almost a year. 6 dpo and having some cramping, light pink discharge. any possible way this could be implantation? i'm so afraid to even hope at this point. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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could be [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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yes, it could be... especially if this is abnormal for you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Almost ready to have our second db and dh is such a pisser I don't think I want him at my side for the labor and delivery... anyone btdt? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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My DH did not attend thebirth of #2 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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So what were the circumstances? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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With #1 I wanted him by my head only. Unfortunately he ended up holding a leg and seeing everything. It really put a crimp in our sex life (i.e. we have almost none now). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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What? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Bikini wax novice: there's been a lot of talk about it today on another site. What tips do you have? What's a landing strip, and should I be aiming for that look? In a new relationship and haven't yet done anything. TIA. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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Why are you doing anything? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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Because my bush is not attractive to me and I doubt it will be to him. I need help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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A landing strip is a neat cropped strip of hair; I think it's the way to go as long as you don't mind the pain it requires to achieve and maintain [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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I would probably wax to a thinner than bikini, but natural trianlge and then trim down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.30.08, 03:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Whenever I'm upset and crying dh says something to the effect of, 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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^^^^ "Stop crying, why are you crying, it's so immature and I cannot stand it!" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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I hope that this isn't the same person that dh makes fun of her for going to bed to get up with 1yo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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No. I cry maybe once every couple of weeks and he has never once comforted me. Like wtf? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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that is a lot of crying imo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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Usually he's the cause of it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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then he's doubly a jerk, and I would be thinking about moving on. I've never heard such a horrible response from a guy making a dw cry [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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no it's not... and he's a jerk for not comforting op [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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He obviously was not allowed to cry as a child. In my family - the one who cried "lost" the fight so to this day I have a serious problem saying sorry even if something is my fault because I am so conditioned not to lose". Even tho I KNOW this is wrong it is really, really hard to break my conditioning. Hopefully he can change with come serious therapy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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HE can change with therapy!? OMG are you serious? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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Why? Do you not believe that people can change once they realize the root cause of their behavior? It would be better for him to just blindly continue in this obviously hurtful and damaging behavior? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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Because OP sounds as nutty as her DH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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based on the fact that her dh makes her cry? I really wish that the snarky woman who keeps beating up on others when they are down would just go away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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Have a drink crazy Daisy. OP admits she has a "serious problem saying sorry even if something in my fault..." and she is crying 1x every 2 weeks = get therapy ASAP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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Sorry, you must be the drunk one - you can't even tell the diff bet the OP and and the OR (me!). I was responding to her post. Try reading before replying.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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Try writing OR like everyone else, your response wasn't interesting enough to track very closely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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usually it is only the op that identifies herself... would you please go away now? No one likes you here anymore than they do in real life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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she never said that she had problem saying sorry, I think that was a nr explaining how she has same problem as the dh does and trying to add prespective... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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Is dh willing to go to therapy? It may at least help you understand what is going on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:29 PM Flag
[ - ] So tired..want to sleep but DH makes fun of me for going to bed so early. But I get up at 5 or 5:30 with 1 year old.. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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your dh needs to grow up... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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and you need to grow a set (OP that is) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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sturpid question what does OP mean? New here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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original post, basically the person that started the discussion [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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so what does grow a set mean...don't get it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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Balls. It means balls. It means, have some nerve, be your own person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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yes, I agree I think he just gets bored and wants to hang out but I am on the computer and he is front of the TV not much hanging out going on...so goodnight I am off to bed! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.29.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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