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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] what was your 1st dance song? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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DO you mean at my wedding? We didn't have one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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The Way You Look Tonight by Sinatra [ Reply | More
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ditto [ Reply | More
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Misty [ Reply | More
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they love each other - grateful dead [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Dad (for a change...) posting: looking for a trustworthy real estate broker to help moving to New Jersey (Summit/Millburn). We live in Manhattan with two children (2,5) and both work (we are the "artsy type") as freelancers and need more space, good schools and SANITY. My wife is American, I am European, and while I personally feel any public school we have toured in Manhattan is still ten times better than what I grew up with, my wife very much feels the pressure to send our children to only "the best schools", while we can't afford private. We have pretty much boiled down our options to Summit and Millburn, with emphasis maybe on Summit, as the place to move to, with highly rated schools and still some town feeling, an ounce diversity and stuff to do. I'd like to get a good broker and also hear if we are on the right track. Our absolute maximum for a house is around 850-900 K, cheaper would be nice of course. My wife is Asian, I am white, thought I should throw that in there as well... 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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Ugh, no diversity there. If you want good schools and diversity, go to Fanwood/Scotch Plains. Only place in the area you can really get both (unless you're just giving lip service to diversity) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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I live in Fanwood and it's great. My neighbors are Indian, black, Asian, Latino, Jewish, Hindu, Christian, Phillipino. But the schools are very good. We love it here, people are not so snotty as in Summit, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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We are moving from Ireland to Madison, NJ (which is beside Summit) this summer. Our kids are also 5 and 2 (5 year old starting kindergarten) and we had a wonderful real estate agent called Fran Kasbar. She works for Prudential in Summit -she also lives there and so knows the area inside out. She went out of her way for us. Would highly recommend her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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Hello, I will look into Fanwood, thank you. What do you mean by lip service? I have not actually gone out there yet, will do this weekend, but based on school statistics alone, both Middle and High school have between 26-29% Non-white students, which in my book amounts to some diversity, unlike in Lower Westchester we looked into (and can't afford). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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By lip service, I mean a lot of people talk about wanting diversity but not actually wanting neighbors who are not white stock brokers. I grew up in Westfield and it has become a snotty rich town. In Fanwood we have neighbors who have professional jobs in NY, work for non-profits, are cops, etc. A great mix. Not as ritzy, but you could get a lot for your money. The downtown area isn't much, but Summit and Westfield are close enough for that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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Yikes, can you find a house for that amount in Millburn/Summit? And, I am pretty sure those two towns are not known for their diverse populations. We live in Montclair, and although the schools have a bad reputation among Manhattanites, Montclair High had a more impressive college acceptance list than the regarded Montclair Kimberley Academy. And, you can find a house for the $amount you listed AND it's diverse, for sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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ditto montclair. in summit or millburn you will be surrounded by banker types. in montclair our neighbor plays carnegie hall. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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You're European & think that NYC publics are good? You are the first European I have heard this from. To answer your question I have heard good things about Milburn, not Summit so much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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Ok, maybe I was overstating it to make my point that I am easier to please when it comes to schools than my wife. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:24 PM Flag
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We are moving from Ireland to Madison, NJ (which is beside Summit) this summer. Our kids are also 5 and 2 (5 year old starting kindergarten) and we had a wonderful real estate agent called Fran Kasbar. She works for Prudential in Summit -she also lives there and so knows the area inside out. She went out of her way for us. Would highly recommend her.[ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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Thank you very much, will contact her for houses in Summit, and will say "hi" from the Irish folks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:23 PM Flag
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you didn't like my previous recommendation? Tom Esch at Coldwell is one of the top brokers in the area. Go for it, he's a v v nice guy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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I am sorry, having some issues here at home, with my daughter screaming her had off, and also not familiar with this site, and how to respond. Anyhow, thank you for your recommendation, will contact him! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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head, obviously... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Question for any women out there who've miscarried. I had a healthy ultrasound at 8.5 weeks with heartbeat and have just discovered that I'm in the process of miscarrying. Was told the baby stop developing at 9 weeks. Has any one else had a similar experience? Just wondering if ultrasounds are as "safe" as we are lead to believe? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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yes, happened to me too. sometimes there is an abnormality with the baby. do you have any other dc's? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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this happened to me a few months ago at 10 weeks. not worried about the ultrasound though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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I had two of these. It's nothing to do with the u/s. I'm so sorry. It's very hard to accept when it happens to you even though you know it's common. FWIW, I have a great ds now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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Happened to me, it hurts. I am sorry an hope you can successfully carry to term in the future. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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Ultrasounds are sound waves, that are of no harm to a baby. I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:07 PM Flag
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Happened to me first time I got pregnant. Healthy ultrasound and heartbeat, miscarried at 10 weeks. So sad and I'm so sorry for you. I have a wonderful 6 month old boy now and can tell you there is hope and joy at the other end of what you're going through.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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My db died at 9 weeks too. Trisomy 15. I had a d&C and testing on the fetal tissue. Had nothing to do with ultrasound. The people who say, once you see the heartbeat, you are out of the woods are simply wrong. I'm sorry for you loss. If (God forbid) it happens again, consider a d&c and testing so you won't wonder why. I found it comforting to know the reason. Again, sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 06:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Big Love? Anyone know what's up with Season 3?? tia 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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No but I have been wondering that myself... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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jan '09 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:05 PM Flag
[ - ] I am ebf a 9 mo db. I took a pg test on friday that said it was positive, it was faint though. I took another today, but it said negative. Could my bf interfere with the results? tia 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:52 PM Flag
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I don't see how bf could interfere with the results. I think the concentration of the pregnancy hormone in your urine is the only thing that can affect it (if you tested the first time in the early am, and then the second time midday), that and the test itself- if the dye is faulty or something. Try again in a couple of days. Or, if you're me, try every twenty minutes for the next two days and fritter away dc's college fund on pregnancy tests. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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I took a regular pg on friday in the morning. I took a digital today that read not pg. I suspect that i am pg, but took the test too late in the day for an accurate reading [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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np. I'd bet any amount of money on you being pg. Congrats. You don't get false positives and the digital always seem to show later. I hope you want to be pg! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Financial aid question: in a divorce situation, do schools look at both parent's assets, even if the other parent's name is not on the application. Does sole vs joint custody status matter when applying for financial aid? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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Yes, schools expect both parents to contribute to a child's education. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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^^^ of course, if one parent is a "deadbeat" they might take that into consideration [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:57 PM Flag
[ - ] did you give your ob/midwife and/or doula a thank you gift after db was born? just wondering if this is common. if so, what did you give? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.09.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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I gave my ob a longchamps bag. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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Yes, sent gift baskets of Kiehls products to OB and doula because we were very happy. Don't think it's necessary, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:25 PM Flag
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just wondering approx. what you spent, and what products you chose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:33 PM Flag
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I didn't, but was in my OB's office recently (usually see her only in the exam room) and it was overflowing with bottles of wine. made me feel a little bad for not thinking of it, but made a note to self not to send wine with #2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:35 PM Flag
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Yes, a wrap from India -- about $50. Also gave one to the fabulous nurse in the labor area. Don't think it's necessary though! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:36 PM Flag
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Our nurses were amazing, so we send a letter to the hospital saying how great they were. Send the nurses themselves copies of the letter plus a photo of the baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:18 PM Flag
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A three page thank you/love letter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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no, why should I? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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Yeah. I paid my bill. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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I made an "in appreciation of" donation to the hospital. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 06:56 PM Flag
[ - ] been b-feeding exclusively for 8 weeks now and i got my period??? is this possible? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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Yup. Some people get them back even with ebf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:13 PM Flag
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I did too.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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yep [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:16 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone done lipo / tummy tuck? thinking about it. looking for infor on pros / cons / results. was it worth it? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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Yes. I did. Definitely worth it. Pros: get rid of majority of excess skin, flat stomach. Cons: scar, recovery time, possible complications. I was at an ideal weight when I did it. Did not do because I was overweight, did it primarily to rid of excess skin. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:06 PM Flag
[ - ] I know who "Affair Mom" is! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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who is it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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my awful neighbor. name begins with V [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:17 AM Flag
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Why are you posting this? How pathetic of you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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didn't referring her to "awful" give it away? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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So what? I guess you want to be known as awful too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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the op didn't post that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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since when is there only one affair mom on UB? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:48 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the final word: Does breastfeeding drop post DB weight or not 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.09.08, 01:46 PM Flag
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It did for me and all my friends! You will see the pounds just melt off. The last few though, that is all on you to work off though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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it did with my first, not with my 2nd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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it did for me, but so did not having a lot of time to eat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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There is no final word. It works for a lot of women, probably most, but not everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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not for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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not me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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Does for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:15 PM Flag
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100% [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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not for my wife [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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for me: definitely yes and absolutely not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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I think it does, at least initially, largely for two reasons: You aren't eating out as much because you need to be able to feed the baby all the time in the beginning, so you eat whatever's on hand (which in my house ain't that much) and ALSO because you drink a ton of water. Then the weight loss really tapers off once you get back more to "normal" and you have to work extra hard to lose the last few pounds (if you can at all) because the breast-feeding hormones bloat you (like pms) and keep some extra fat on your body. Most people I know lost a lot of weight fast ebf-ing but didn't lose the last 5-10 pounds until they weaned for this reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:28 PM Flag
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absolutely. burns 500 calories/day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:37 PM Flag
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It did for me, plus another 55 lbs (with the help of WW, which is extremely easy to do while breastfeeding). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:55 PM Flag
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i think results vary by user. for some moms the pounds just melt away and for others it keeps the weight on. and for still others it works one way with one baby and a differnt way with another baby. i'd say, don't count on it, but if it happens, lucky you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 02:57 PM Flag
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didn't for me. I didn't lose the weight until I stopped breastfeeding. I just held onto it no matter what. I've heard the progesterone acts like the pill does in retaining weight, but I am no MD. As soon as I stopped, I fit into my jeans again. Like magic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:01 PM Flag
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