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[ - ] sibling fighting. how much is too much? I was an only so I have no idea what is normal and what is not. I have two boys, 5 and 3. They fight physically all.day.long. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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have two brothers taught me that boys like to wrestle. sometimes the younger one will instigate and then scream his head off like he's being murdered when the older one tackles him to the ground. And my brothers were 5 years apart! Now I have two boys 5 yrs apart, and can just see what I'm in for. It's going to be a loooong 18 years or so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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I'm with you sister. I have only sisters (4) and DH is the only boy so we were beside ourselves. They hit constantly and weaponized, and while things are not totally smooth sailing now that they are 9 and 7, it has gotten MUCH better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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the high-pitched "pe-ew pe-ew pe-ew" noise of imaginary guns being fired is driving me insane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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we have banned noise making toys [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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they make those noises themselves, LOL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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have you read the book Siblings Without Rivalry? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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no, what is the gist? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:32 PM Flag
[ - ] thoughts on Jesse Jackson's slip today? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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News 07.09.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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I think among other things he has the Sharpton Virus. You turn green from envy and all sorts of trash come out of your mouth. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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OP ITA. I thought the exact same thing. Pretty embarrassing for him though! (Which I am laughing about since I can't stand JJ!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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what did he do ? I'm managing sick bay here and have not heard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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was at some function or other and made a comment on what he thought was a dead mic about ripping Obama's nuts off. Pretty funny really. I think the story is everywhere by now. It was on Drudge earlier. Talk radio is going to have fun with this! ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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so, I guess he's off the ticket ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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HA! Funny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Talk me down, Dh has habitual marijuana smoking problem. Decided together he would stop but he can't, now I am catching him sneaking and lying to me. I could kill him and when he is caught he screams and yells disrupts the entire house and dcs cry. I have had it! 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.09.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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my DH is the same more or less. "quits" and then devises some schedule to keep it in control but it always slides back into every single day. Very frustrating. I don't understand it at all. And I don't know what to do either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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Ok now I see why UB can be a good place sometimes. Does he lie and hide it from you, I think that might be why i want to kill him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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no he doesn't. He tells me when he is going. I have done everything from yelling and with holding sex to crying and trying to explain why it bothers me. I understand liking something. I like to drink beer. But if it was interfering with our relationship, I would stop or at least cut way way back. I dont get why he can't do the same. I mean, I guess I know he is addicted, but I have a hard time understanding it. you know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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Yes I know believe me. Feel like I am living with someone addicted to crack. Violent mood swings when he doesn't have it childish behavior when he sneaks it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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Least he doesn't seem to ruining your family life though. If my dh doesn't get what he wants everyone back away because the roof is going to collapse [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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sorry I disapeared. DD needed something. No, it's not ruining my family life but it's hard when I feel so distant from him sometimes. He doesn't seem to get it that I need him. I need to be able to talk to him and not have to cram everything I need to say to him into 10 minutes after DD goes to bed. Really frustrating. My DH doesn't get really petty or throw fits, but he can get annoying and irritated sometimes when he doesn;t have any for one reason or another [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:52 PM Flag
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mine too...makes me crazy and filled with hatred...get over it already he is way too old to be smoking anyways [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:38 PM Flag
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this sounds so much like some alcoholics I know. perhaps meeting w/ a group like al-anon can help put you in touch with people in similar situation? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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Good advice. Do you happen to know what al anon is about, what is the point if we can't make them change, is it to get us to leave? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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I don't know. I have not been to al-anon myself, but I know people who have found it very helpful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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Thank you I will give it a try! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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not to leave, more to learn to deal with them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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i have heard that being addicted to pot is as difficlut as any other addiction. Will he talk to someone else about it ? We have a good friend with this problem and his wife and I think he's loathe to quit because it represents his being young, carefree, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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He won't talk to anyone about it. We see a couples therapist who says I am controlling but that he has to stop and he pretend he wants to in therapy and then screams and makes it about me and breaks things when I try to take it away. I hate him. Hate him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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I am so sorry... I know from the hearing from my girlfriend (she is one of my BF's and her DH is my DH's BF since they were about 6 months old) that it is a crippler. What happens when he smokes ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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Nothing, his personality is the same - more tolerable even because he is getting what he wants I guess. But he will smoke from the moment he wakes up until he sleeps if he can, disgusting, we have children! Sorry, very upset [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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has he always been this way or has his addiction worsened? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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worsened, he has always smoked a lot though but now its always in his mouth [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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What is it - other than "it" - that upsets you ? The fact that it's illegal ? Does he not get his work done ? Are you afraid for the kids' safety ? Did he smoke when you met and married ? And how did you respond to it then ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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Well for one, we WERE going to try for #3 and his sperm levels are so low not to mention the doctor says the sperm could be defective and alter the health of the unborn db. He does work but he is lazy about it wants to call in sick a lot probably to sit around and smoke we fight about that. When we were young I figured it was like everything else, youth, but its not normal for a 45 year old to behave like this and as dcs get older they will understand what is going on and yeah that is a sh$tty example [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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Again, I am sorry. I know the stress in this one and I can only hope that maybe you talk to someone like the other posts have said. I know what the studies say about the sperm counts, but I know so many many stoners with healthy children that I think I doubt some of the stats. That being said, if you;re so unhappy wouldn't #3 make the stress levels even worse ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:47 PM Flag
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You are very nice thank you for your words, yes, and you are right #3 is not what i want or need any longer! I have found an Pot anon chat room and I am logging off to log on there - thank you!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:51 PM Flag
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GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:00 PM Flag
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Alanon saved my life and my marriage. It's not to keep you together or split up it's just to help you. Don't judge it by 1 meeting, make yourself go to at least 10, try different meetings to find a place you are comfortable. I never even spoke, just listened but it was the best thing I could have done, with regard to my husband and my life. We are togher now and he is in recovery, it could not hsave happned without Alanon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:32 PM Flag
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that's inspiring. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:35 PM Flag
[ - ] when do moms get summer vacation??? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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the same time we get weekends.......NEVER! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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and sick days [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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when we die [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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in about 20 years or so... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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My MIL says that divorced moms are the only ones who get a vacation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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and on the w'ends they don't have custody the ones I know are miserable, bored and lonely... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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well, then my MIL is wrong about this too. At least she's consistent ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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my friend isn't, she's happy, her house is clean and quiet and she's getting laid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 06:17 PM Flag
[ - ] I have tried really hard to like MIl I just cant 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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do what I do, smile a lot, keep your mouth shut and drink heavily ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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np: smart lady [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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oh trust me already doing that - just hate how many fights she causes bt dh and I [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:21 PM Flag
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oh that sucks. Mine doesn't manage to get in between us, but we are pretty good about not allowing that to happen. I could totally see how easy it would be to go down that road. Can you talk to DH about it in general terms sometime when there is no big issue? Maybe he will be able to see your side [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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he is on my side - it all stems from how she behaved when I was planning our wedding treating my mother and I like morons - dh never said anything to her I literally walked out of dinner with her in tears multiple times yet she doesnt know she hurt me - never apologized and still treating me like a moron [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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look at her and treat her like the unfortunate neighbor child - with neighborly concern, but without killing yourself - and remove yourself from difficlut situations as she is DH's responsiblity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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op - thanks good advice - there are no difficult situatins really - other than when she snickered through dds baptism - mostly just alot of "no no dear, do this" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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Then maybe treat her like the "slow" neighbor. A smile and the knowledge that she's going home soon may help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:38 PM Flag
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op - i like you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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I like you too... maybe more than our MIL's like us ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:43 PM Flag
[ - ] what's the story morning glory? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:14 PM Flag
[ - ] I love my mother and we have a great relationship but I wish she had more of a social life - when dh, db and I make weekend plans she that dont involve her she gives me a guilt trip 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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oh yeah that's hard. Is she a widow or single? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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nope dad is still around - they are great he is just not active at all and if up to him is perfectly happy at home - a little bit of a hermit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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I totally understand. My mom isn't very active but more than my dad. She gets upset when she wants to do something and he wants to stay home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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op - yep exactly the case - i keep telling her to join a class, volunteer etc but she doesnt - they moved to the US when she was older but her english is good very social when we lived in our home country just here has trouble but I cant not live my life - I hate how guilty I feel [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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yes my mom won't take a class either. She counts on my dad and then gets upset. Gl with your mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Westchester moms: Want to start taking classes w 6 mth db to meet other mothers. How many and what classes do you recommend? Tia. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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where in westchester are you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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Scarsdale [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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Broadway Babies in Mamaroneck, Little Gym or TumbleBugs in Scarsdale [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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Gymboree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:33 PM Flag
[ - ] SIL is TTC - got a positive pg test, bled moderately heavily for a few days around 6 wks and then bleeding stopped, and also had mild cramping. She can't see OB for another week. What do you think the chances are that she miscarried? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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why didn't her OB bring her in earlier? Cramping is very normal. I had it for many weeks with my first 2 pg. I never bled but know many ppl who have. I hope she's still pg. I think I have read on here that ppl say it depends on teh color of the blood BUT my mom bled with my sis really heavy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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OB said it doesn't matter since if they miscarried, they can't do anything about it anyway. (This is overseas - not sure if the timeframes for visits are different.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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ugh I know what he means BUT that's the last thing someone who's nervous wants to hear. My OB would bring the lady in. I hope your SIL will get great news next week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:14 PM Flag
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That stinks. My OB would have had me come in for an ultrasound asap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone's dh have an emotional affair? Are you still with him? If so, why did you stay with him? How long ago was the affair? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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What is your story [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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Yes and yes. Convinced myself it wasn't sexual, this was two years ago [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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np but you have doubts? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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Sure I have doubt, I don't believe men can have emotional affairs, tell a woman he loves her if he hasn't met her seen her etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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they are human you know. They can be emotional without being physical [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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I don't know your situation, if you want to share we can discuss it, maybe your situation is different. In my case I saw the emails, no one is that sexual or emotional w/out... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:24 PM Flag
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I'm not OP. I'm just saying men have feelings and are perfectly capable of having non sexual involvements - as a species. Obviously I dont know your DH [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:26 PM Flag
[ - ] low 90s ERB score--performance not as good as verbal-- but really good write up. Realistically, where should I apply DD for K? 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.09.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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everywhere you want to. The ERB's aren't the end all of the process. The schools report and child's visit carries more in my experience [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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OP-thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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2-3 Reach schools, 5-7 range schools, 3-4 safety schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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np; there are NO safety schools anymore. OP should apply where she wants. the score is good but not the golden ticket like many ppl assume [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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only if you register early enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:30 PM Flag
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I know I know but by safety, I mean 3rd tier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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nope..not even 3rd tier. Apps are up even with the so called 3rd tier [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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That doesn't mean much at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:39 PM Flag
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Of course there are safety school don't believe UB drivel [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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no there aren't. I'm talking from experience discussing things with friends I have working in admissions. Things have changed a lot just in the last few yrs. Not as easy as it used to be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:29 PM Flag
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Well, my friends in admissions all who grew up here like me say not that much has changed just UB makes it possible for people to spread lies to support their failures and make them look like its not their failure but the system. I have done this three times as well, but maybe we are both right and both wrong [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:37 PM Flag
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With only the anecdotal evidence of the other families at my DC's preschool, I'd see things were MUCH tougher this year than in past years. So many good families were SO. Some of that was bad advice from PSD, but not all of it... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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If you send FC letter to any of the lower tiered schools with a 95+ erb, you bet your dc will be accepted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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you are really dreaming. Apps are up and # of spots the same. Even at the schools that UB considers 3rd tier, ppl are getting Rj and some hold lotteries for an application because demand is up..but unfort. the schools don't have space to increase with demand [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:27 PM Flag
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Pulease. With a FC letter with a high ERB, you're in! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:32 PM Flag
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That is so not true. We FC'd Nightingale and DD had a 99 and was waitlisted - and she is going to one of B S C. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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Nightingale is not 3rd or 4th tier school. They are practically up there with B, C, S. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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Just bec applications numbers are up, doesn't mean all those people will come to that school if they get accepted from a higher tier school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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OP- Wasn't planning on applying to Trinity or Dalton. But would like to consider some of the SS schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:40 PM Flag
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I read several posts about Brearley accepting low 90 and some 80 girls here. I read also Spence is getting more score conscious (so not a good candidate). Chapin - who knows? I'd say CSH and Marymount won't rule dd out bec of low 90. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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Those scores at B would be very rare indeed. And I know for a fact Sacred Heart wants 95 and up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:45 PM Flag
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And Spence wants 98 and up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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Oh, I know. They want the highest of all the schools. HM is probably the only other one as picky about high 90s. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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I don't know about Spence. Of course, they want 98+, but they can't get all their girls to score that high. 98+ girls are split among all privates and not enough to fill Spence K. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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If you're not a sib or diversity, you're 98+. Without a doubt. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 08:53 PM Flag
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all 5 of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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Huh? In my dd's pre k, there were at least 5 girls with 98 or better (saw report). 2 of them went to Spence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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My DD got a 98 and was dinged at Spence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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If performance is low due to coding, don't worry about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:20 PM Flag
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what did dc get the lower scores in and i'll tell you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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if there is nothing that sets you apart, i.e. diversity, intense amounts of money, incredibly interesting career- then i doubt you'll have much of a shot at the coveted schools like Dalton ect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 08:42 PM Flag
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MOST writeups are good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 09:26 PM Flag
[ - ] How long a walk is it from the Central Park zoo to the Carousel? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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not sure but my 4yr old's camp just took them to both so I assume it's not that far [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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Around 5 to 10 minutes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:00 PM Flag
[ - ] If my husband dies will I inherent from his parents my husband's share? I don't think he has updated his will since we were married, probably gives his $ to his brother in old one. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.09.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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your dh has to update his will to include you and the kids. As for his parents money..why would you inherit your dh share if god forbid he dies? Wouldn't they have to write you in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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No. When he dies nothing happens. His parents would have to write you in now or after as beneficiary [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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OP: What if they (parents) die first & husband never has written a will at all or there is just this old one indicating brother? If no will, I inherit, yes? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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no you will not. its not your money it is the ILs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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no your BIL will inherit. Your dh needs to ammend his will asap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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NP: the wife doesn't get husband's estate automatically? (this is assuming ILs die first and the money becomes DH's) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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if ILs die first, yes. But if DH dies before ILs, no. My FIL died many years ago. When his parents died, money went to DH and his brothers. MIL got nothing from her IL's estate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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If the ILs die first, and money goes to DH, then it's his money. If he dies, then his money is left to you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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planning to off him ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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op: funny, no, but I do have objectionable motives. In a bad marriage with no money & 3 kids, except for ILs, but think it makes sense to stick it out so I will have some retirement & not divorce on a meager income. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Help me imagine what this could be: Heavy constant thumping, bam bam bam bam from upstairs family, lasts for 20 min then large thud then jumping then back to thumping. Anyone? 7 year old. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.09.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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a 7 year old [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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Maybe if he was 350lbs and could bench 400 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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treadmill. I lived below one and thought it was serious house music or something until I finally figured it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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are they jumping off the furniture on the floor? Or maybe are they banging on the floor? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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Could be [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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sorry I meant to reply to the org [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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sorry, I replied to a reply. I meant to reply to org. post. I swear it sounds just like the treadmill I had above me for months before I knew what it was. maybe the jumping is jumping jacks in between jogs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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np: this is my guess, too. Is the noise from a bedroom? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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Yes from a bedroom but 7 yo bedroom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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mini trampoline [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:43 PM Flag
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I have a 7 yo boy so I can picture this: bouncing a basketball for 20 minuntes or throwing a tennis ball against a wall repeatedly and then catching it in a mitt, then getting a bit bored so climbing up on a piece of furniture, like the bed or coffee table and seeing if he can jump off and touch the ceiling, then landing on the ground. Then jumping up and down to see how high he can jump without jumping off the furniture the deciding to go back to his basketball dribbling. When it stops for good do you hear "MOM! I'm SO BORED?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 05:55 PM Flag
[ - ] I am wondering if anyone with a child with low muscle tone (hypotonia) has any suggestions for extra curricular activities for their young child to encourage improvement. Almost 4 yo gets PT once a week, fatigues and gets discouraged easily. I was thinking of gymnastics or maybe tae kwon do as opposed to a team activity for the fall. Any suggestions or experiences? TIA 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Special Needs 07.09.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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How about swimming? The water might provide very nice support and resistance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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Thanks, great suggestion, I'll see if I can get her into swimming this fall. Added bonus, she should learn to swim! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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Yeah! And during the summer, see if you can introduce her to just splashing around in the pool so she thinks of it as a fun place to be and not scary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:03 PM Flag
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Where do you live? If in NYC, try Columbus Gym on 89th/Columbus. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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I'm in NJ, but thanks anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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We are starting martial arts with our DS who has dyspraxia, which is different but also discourages DS from doing team sports. Our therapist recommended this over gymnastics (unless in a SN gym) because kids are less likely to notice that DS is lagging behind. Also recommended guitar or piano for fine motor, but not sure if your child needs this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:09 PM Flag
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Thanks for this suggestion. I had been considering tae kwon do as well. My daughter has been to birthday parties at the place where they have the gymnastics so I thought it might be good because she's familiar with the environment (she has other developmental delays that make transitions challenging.) I may see if she can sit in on a martial arts class to see if would be appealing to her. I think the appeal of tae kwon do is that it focuses on large muscle groups which would help improve her gross motor. Thanks for the music suggestions--fine motor is also something we are trying to address. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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^^the gym is not a SN gym, so I will definitely take your suggestions under advisement, as well as the consideration that martial arts may be a better individualized activity over gymnastics. Thank you, and everyone, so much for the suggestions! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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Horseback riding made a huge difference for our friend's dd. You have to find a stable that works with special needs children but it really does work wonders and the kids love it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 08:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Due any day. Been having cramping all afternoon. Part I don't recognize is this almost stabbing feeling that seems to be coming right from my cervix -- like, deep inside, rather than down low in front, which I associate with my uterus. Anyone BTDT? This is my third but I don't recognize this, thanks! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.09.08, 03:32 PM Flag
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OP: C'mon, anyone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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are you sure it's not your pelvis bones stretching? I get a stabbing pain that stops me in my tracks and DR said it was that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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round ligament pain? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Is Princeton, NJ a sociable town? Would you rather live in Princeton or Greenwich (not commuting to city) 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:17 PM Flag
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Greenwich [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:18 PM Flag
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y? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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are you into intellectualism or money? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:20 PM Flag
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I guess intellectualism, but which is more fun [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:21 PM Flag
[ - ] I live on Long Island, How much should I expect to pay someone to take my 2 dc for 2 hours before school (7-9), bring them to school, pick themup from scool at 3, and then keep them to five or 6, looking for a weekly salary type thing 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:17 PM Flag
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$40 a week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:21 PM Flag
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np. 5 hours a day for $40 a week - no one would do this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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thats what i pay, and i get 3 more hours a day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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are you sure you don't mean $40 a day, then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:28 PM Flag
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Yikes! For two children, $40 for 40 hours? np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:29 PM Flag
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1 dc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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Oh I see. So $1 an hour for one? That makes sense... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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np- I think she means in today's dollars, not 1968. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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$75/day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:28 PM Flag
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no way, thats crazy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:31 PM Flag
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what is this person doing from 9-3? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:32 PM Flag
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shes on call in the event my kids get sick [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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so, basically you need a full time nanny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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no, because most of the time my kids will not need to be picked up from school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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will this person be able to pick up a part time job for a couple hours midday? probably not if you need them on call. do you expect soemone to sit around waiting for your kid to get sick to make money? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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i was hoping to get a sahm or something [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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she'll have her own children to take care of, no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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i would assume, anyway, what do you think i should pay her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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more than you seem to be capable of [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:41 PM Flag
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I think OP needs a mom for her kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:35 PM Flag
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Wait, you have 1 DC remember? See above. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:36 PM Flag
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10/hour [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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you think thats even worth it for gas? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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11 hours per day = $100 to average out the on call/on duty time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.09.08, 04:34 PM Flag
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