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[ - ] Is there a directory of NYC camps? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 07.10.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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try parents league when they reopen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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there is a directory -- don't know the name, but i'm sure if you google new york city camps, you'll get something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:29 AM Flag
[ - ] BF and I broke up yesterday pm. Nothing really went wrong. I sent him an e-mail early this am and now I regret it. Didnt want to grovel and didnt think my e-mail sounded needy. Just trying to get clarity. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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That sucks. My rule of thumb: always wait 24 hours before hitting the send button on anything that I might regret. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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I know I should have waiteed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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live and learn. At least you won't be seeing him much anymore, so it won't be in your face. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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how long dating? who dumped who? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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2+months, he dumped me. It was awful, we never ever had any issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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maybe that was it. some guys need drama. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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I am not sure. My thinking is he is going to Europe for 3 weeks for pleasure and he didnt want it during that time. Also we were getting closer and maybe that bothered him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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just move on, clearly he's not one for a loong-term relationship with you at them moment [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:06 AM Flag
[ - ] how many private schools should I apply to for better odds? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 07.10.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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one, your odds aren't necessarily improved by applying to a ton of schools. your dc has to go through the playdates and is bound to have some off days if you apply to 15 schools. two, if you want to improve your odds, should have focused on being a non pita parent in ps and and helping dc in school (enrichment, not tutoring, etc). three, you should only apply to schools where you would send dc. don't apply to a school to improve odds if you don't think you or dc would be happy there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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np: BTDT and ITTA. Only apply to places that you would send. It's a pita to waste their time and your dc if you are just sending out apps but just to do it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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With this in mind, you may end up pulling applications at some point in the process. There were a couple schools we thought we'd love based on research, then the tour and interview completely changed our minds. It can be hard to know for sure going in... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:17 AM Flag
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ITA. Plus some schools don't schedule the interview until you have gone on the tour. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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Apply to 10. Make sure at least 2 are "safe" schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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there's some debate as to whether there is such a thing as "safety" schools anymore. Parent's League and many PSDs say no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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Right, but you don't just apply to the tt's unless you have a good public option. There are less competitive privates. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone hear Elizabeth Hasselbeck bought a place uptown for $3 mill? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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that sounds like peanuts for her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:45 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone become a certified spin instructor? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.10.08, 10:43 AM Flag
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no but I'd love to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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no, but I should. I need to get into shape [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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so go to they gym, you dont need to become and instructor to get into shape... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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i am, just tough to find the time right now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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this kills me--why would anyone want to take a class with a spin instructor who was out of shape?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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what do gyms pay for someone to teach a spin class? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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not much, from what I remember. maybe $60 a class? but this was 5 or 6 years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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my gym is doing highlights of the tour. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:56 AM Flag
[ - ] Does everyone here have life insurance? We have a 2 yo and a 4 yo and keep putting it off, but figure we better just do it. Advice? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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we went through a broker. We hold insurance through different companies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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read the chapter on it in Smart Women Finish Rich, it is really good. There are a lot of basically scam insurance policies out there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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The fact that you haven't gotten life insurance already is shameful. If something happened to you or DH - what would happen to your dcs? What money would there be for someone else to take care of them - or if something happened to one of you - how would the other manage? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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THAT'S your advice? With advice like that, no wonder she's put it off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:51 AM Flag
[ - ] is madonna pregnant? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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I doubt it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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she just contacted a divorce lawyer and is like 50 yrs old, so chances are not likely [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:43 AM Flag
[ - ] if you had a kitchen renovation, did you stay in your home or move temporarily? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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I didn't, but my sister and my SIL both did; both stayed in their homes throughout (about 4-6mos) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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wow, that's a LONG time. We just renovated our kitchen (lived there at the time) and it took 5 weeks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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how did they manage? did they have a hot plate, micro, etc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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FWIW, we attempted to complete a kitchen reno--a major gut job with taking walls down, etc--before we moved in to our last apt. All that happened before we moved in was the old walls came down, new ones went up. All else happened while we lived in the apt (700 sq ft one bedroom with 2 cats). We survived, but it was not fun. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:40 AM Flag
[ - ] needa makeup artist to come to my home for a wedding any reccomendations, like the smokey look 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.10.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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I would try to hire someone from MAC. I know you should have trials with a few ppl before you hire someone. My friend hired a MAC makeup artist from their professional offices (the usually do photoshoots..not the counter make up artist). I think that office is located near 23rd and 5th (that area). Her makeup looked AMAZINE [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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Claudia Pedala. She's awesome. Whomever you choose, get a free trial... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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second this. I used her a few years ago and I still daydream that my makeup will ever look that good again. nice woman too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 07:33 PM Flag
[ - ] I had my first dc at NYU Tisch Hospital. I thought the nurses and doctors were very good, the facilities left something to be desired. Now thinking about number two and just wondering should I stick with a known quantity or is there much better to be had out there? I already know I want a hospital birth with epi (no judgment, just my personal choice) I would love to hear advice from anyone who loved where they gave birth, or who can compare NYU to other places (hospitals only please). Thanks! 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.10.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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I know of no one in NYC who has been satisfied in all areas of their L&D and post-partum experience. I would, therefore, stick with the familiar just to lessen stress. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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ITTA. i have yet to hear a story about anyone loving pp care (birth center a possible exception). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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poster below. i had a great experience at Roosevelt. Great Dr's, great facilities and loved the nurses [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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i love SLR too but the pp nurses were very uneven plus they lost my breakfast one day. so yeah, it was not horrible but also not good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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ditto. I delivered there 2x and had great exp. the 2nd time, the pp nurse helped with my latch too, when db wasn't getting it. emily, the pp nurse who helped me, rocks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:51 AM Flag
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I had a terrible time there. The toilet was not working so they gave me a bedpan and left me on it for 2 hours. I kept calling, but they would not come. Could not move due to C-section. Eventually I fell off and they still would not come. (blamed it on shift change) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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I think it's more important to have great Drs and nurses than pretty facilities. I just prefer NYU for everything but my OB isn't affiliated with them. I gave birth at Roosevelt and had a great experience. I'm due in Oct. and will go back to Roosevelt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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How do you have a choice? Don't you need to deliver where your OB is associated? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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If you know you want the epi, I would go to Cornell. They have the best facilities, imo--much nicer than NYU or Sinai. If you DON'T want the epi, steer clear--they will put a million tubes in every part of you the second they get you into a room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 03:07 PM Flag
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that's ridiculous. totally up to your doctor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 03:19 PM Flag
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NYU is known to have awful facilities. I had a great experience at Cornell (NY Hosp/Weill Medical--whatever you want to call it). Great rooms, great nursing, great doctors. Can't say enough great things about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 03:18 PM Flag
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me too. great experience there and I didn't feel pushed to get anything. the opposite if anything regarding the epi--I wanted one, they wanted me to go home and wait! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 05:49 PM Flag
[ - ] why does classmates dot com advertise so much? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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because they're desperate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:33 AM Flag
[ - ] Any thoughts from BTDT on having a d&c vs. trying to let the fetus pass naturally? I am opting for the d&c but I am having doubts. The baby was 7.5 weeks when the doctor found no heartbeat. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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i recommend a d&c with general anesthesia. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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I recommend d&c and fetal tissue testing. Sorry for your loss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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I had to have d&cs b/c wasn't passing. also, I wanted to find out what the problem was (i.e. chromosomal abnormality). I'm so sorry for your loss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:32 AM Flag
[ - ] My parents (mostly my mom) raised me VERY "intentionally" - no commercial TV (only PBS, 1 hour/day), no cartoons, no Barbie, etc. Lots of classic movies and books, homemade dinner every night at the dinner table with my parents, etc. Of course when I was a kid I wanted Barbie and cartoons, etc., but now I look back and am so happy with the things I was taught and the way I turned out that I wouldn't have changed a thing. Unfortunately, the world is a much faster place now, 25 years later, and it is impossible to keep kids away from as much tv and computers. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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the world changed and im glad you're happy how you were raised. It is however no better than how other people were raised [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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np: really, no better than any other way of raisign kids? i have to disagree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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np: i don't think she meant "any other" to include neglect, abuse or anything overtly terrible. but did withholding barbies make op a better person? prob. not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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a better person? probably from her parents' POV. personaly i hope i raise non-sexit kids. is that hte only fgood way to raise them? dose it make them otehr wise good people? no. but its the kid of people i'd like there to be more of. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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I think there's a lot more to it than not giving your child a Barbie [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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of course. but usually its part of a larger philosophy/approach. as it seems to have been in OP's case. part of parenting is transmitting values adn if your values are that commercial tv is bad, or barbie is bad, then you go. or ifyou think barbie is perfectly fine, you go, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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and my parents didn't pay much attention to tv viewing, never helped with homework, and sent me out in the yard to be home by dark and I turned out really well too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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I disagree. i keep my children away from it but their peers know so much about Ninja Turtles, Power Rangers, Hannah Montana they might as well sit and watch it themselves. Its better to learn to swim in the tide without getting pulled under. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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my parents didn't allow any tv and basically kept us as sheltered as possible - I was that kid in college who gained 20 lbs from gorging on fast food, watching tv 10 hrs a day, and drinking WAY too much. There is definitely a happy medium to be found. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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the influence parents have on children is vastly overated. My two siblings and I could not be more different. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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but you probably have soe shared values, traditions, things like that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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ita. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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Sure, but I think as parents it is best to try to avoid extremes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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OP's parents don't sound extreme - they sound like a LOT of the moms on this board [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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in life its often best to avoid extremes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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op - I meant to write this in response to that other post about pareting "back in the day" but mis-posted. However, I never said my parents never let me do anything, and I went to college "normal" and healthy and never did any of those things. Plus, a lot of the "rules" relaxed when I was 11 or so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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and here you are like the rest of us on ub [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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your point? op didn't say she was better than anyone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:36 AM Flag
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I don't agree that it is impossible to do now, it is just we keep getting lazier about saying no to our children's pleas. My parents were very similar to op's parent, and I am so grateful for it as are all of my sibs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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I think it is difficult to do now, moreso than 20-30 years ago. But no, not impossible [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:37 AM Flag
[ - ] A business colleague and I admitted we are attracted to each other. Now he is coming to town and I think he thinks we will hook up. How do I handle this? Would not mind seeing him and hanging out as we have in the past - he is nice to look at - but seriously don't want to be in an uncomfortable situation. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.10.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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are either of you married? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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Yes, both married, both have kids, both well aware the other is married with kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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and to put it mildly - things got racy in email [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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You have already put yourself in an uncomfortable situation by admitting that you are attracted to him. Sounds like you can no longer just hang out as you have in the past. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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so then say no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:32 AM Flag
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you know the answer to this. you already said that you think he plans to hook up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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I made it clear to him that would not happen. But he is writing to me telling me he is thinking about me, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:34 AM Flag
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I would tell him you were just joking around and you're sorry he took you so seriously. Hopefully he'll believe it and feel embarrassed, but if he pursues, ignore any correspondence that is the slightest bit suggestive [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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I am shamefully addicted to the attention. I have grown disgusted with myself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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ITTA...and to think you can is just fooling yourself (or you are playing dumb) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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ITA--run, don't walk away from this situation. If you meet him it sounds like a hook-up will be inevitable and you will really regret it, trust me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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^^^or, if you do decide meet him, do not have even ONE drink [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:53 AM Flag
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nip it. this guy probably casts a wide net [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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You know the answer- you just want us to rationalize your attraction to him. You want to have sex with him & put your marriage at risk? Then go meet him. You & I both know that is exactly what will happen so you can't pretend anything else will happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 11:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Those of you who had colicky babies, when did it end? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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Never got a true diagnosis, but my dd turned a corner at exactly 3 months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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My pediatrician called it the fourth trimester [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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that's what dr. harvey karp calls it too -- the happiest baby on the block guy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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when we finally found the right reflux med [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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Karp's "Happiest Baby on the Block" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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OP: have the book and the dvd...have done it ALL. Just wondering when other people's colicky babies turned the corner. I've heard 3 months, but wondering if it could possibly last longer?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.10.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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