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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] When you and DH are home together in the evenings after dcs asleep do you plan stuff to do together? Or just chill? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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tonight we were planning to sneak off to the pool (Westchester) after ds is asleep but I don't think it's happenning [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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one of us is on the computer the other on the couch communicating occasionally with what is on...lame but relaxing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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same here. DH is usually playing PS3 while I UB or read. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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Honestly, we sit with our laptops and watch TV...sometimes together and sometimes not. Once in while we make "plans" to watch a movie or order in food or have a drink or 2 in the backyard, but that's not very often. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:26 PM Flag
[ - ] 18 mo dd swallowed a barette (1-in x 1/2-in). Have x-ray. doctor said to wait to let it pass. Anyone btdt? I've thrown away all barettes. I feel like an aweful mother. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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you're not an awful mother bc of a barrette. people are bad parents bc of neglect and abuse or negligent oversight. who thinks a child's barrette could be swallowed? fwiw, we had to go the ER with dd when she got a raisin stuck up her nose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Random but I was surprised to learn AA population in the US is less than 15%. I thought maybe 25%... 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.11.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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The stats in NY and many urban areas are different. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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don't forget there are many caribbean and african immigrants living in the city who are black but not aa. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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Those people are counted as AA. Makes no sense, but they want to see how many blacks they have in this country. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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No, they are not. Caribbean hispanics are counted as hispanics and many are black. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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now you are splitting hairs. a puerto rican who looks black still thinks of himself as a PR. an african thinks differently. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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np: they actually make the distinction of non-hispanic blacks and non-hispanic whites. I do not consider myself AA, as I am of Caribbean heritage, but I will fill in the box for AA/non-hispanic black as that is the best description for my ethnicity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 07:28 PM Flag
[ - ] what do braxton hicks feel like? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.11.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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pressure, squeezing, no pain [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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in stomach or lower area? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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uterus, wherever that happens to be on you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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ha. like tightening that i feel like i have to breath thru untl it loosens up? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] BF and I have drastically different parenting styles. I constantly feel like a terrible mother after I've been with her despite hating the way she is with her kid. Can we stay friends? We each have 24mo boys. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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I eventually faded as a friend becasue it was too much differences [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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If she is your bf, why can't the two of you go out without your chidren and enjoy each others company? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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Good idea but all she talks about is her kid. She's a SAHM and she is obsessed with motherhood. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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i have this with a friend but our life styles are drastically different, as well as our parenting styles. i pulled back and found it much easier to hang out after i got some space. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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OP: okay I'm actually stressing right now because she has asked me to babysit this weekend and this will be the first time she has EVER been apart from her 2 year old. The kid cowers when he sees me and I'm sure something terrible will happen. But she watches my kid for me all the time so how could I say no? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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nothing terrible will happen. you're too stressed to relax for one second and let that happen. lay back, be calm with the child. she trusts you. the child will be fine and she needs your help. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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also, read your post below. chances are she'll give you explicit instructions, since she's a planner and knows you are not. if she doesn't, ask for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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you're right. thanks for encouragement. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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you'll be fine. next time, since she's you bf just be frank -- say, (jokingly) you want me? but am i not the opposite of you parenting style-wise? you;'re sure? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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how do you styles differ? and what ends up making you feel bad? also, what don't you like abt her parenting? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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She has very well-thought out approaches whereas I just wing it. She has read all the books and can defend her every move. To me she seems hyper-vigilant. The other day I let my kid climb too high on the jungle gym and he got stuck. No big deal. I got him down but she reacted like I'd risked his life and I felt guilty and terrible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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she needs to lay off. your ds learned that sometimes you try things and they don't work out. it shouldn't keep him from climbing again. and it shoudln't keep you from letting him. but then, i'm also a bit of a winging it sort of parent. i don't get along with those who read about parenting to decide what's good for their child. maybe say something to her if she makes you feel bad about your choices. what did she say in that parituclar case? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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Thanks. She said, "Please don't ever do that again." Then packed her kid in the stroller and stormed off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:28 PM Flag
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lol.. i'm laughing at her. please don't do what again? let your kid climb? let your kid explore on his own? geez. i think you can still say something to her about this. she has her right to parent as she wishes. but she has no right to judge you in front of your child abt your choices as a parent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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this is really helping me feel better - thank you! I think the fact that this happened yesterday and she's probably very worried about leaving her DS for the first time didn't help her reaction. I should probably be a good friend and try to support her through this challenge... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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you can also reassure her that you understand that she has different rules and guidelines for parenting and you would treat her kids as you think she'd want them to be treated. but it still doesnt' give her the right to criticise you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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i stopped hanging out with very good friend for same reason- glad i did. we still talk and email- but do not hang out with our kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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did you mutually decide on this? How did the discussion go? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone been to Aureole Restaurant on E 61st. (No stupid jokes please) 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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yes, it was OK. Great service... but had trouble choosing something on the menu...nothing really appealed to me. I think there are better restaurants out there for the money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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thx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Today (among other things) I made a pecan pie, a blueberry lattice pie and five miniature apple pies. (this is not a normal day for me) 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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can I come over, I'll bring vanilla icecream! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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by all means... the pecan is my specialty... choc pecan btw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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drolling, yummy I love to bake but I also need to lose weight, it's a catch 22! I bet your hubby is happy tonight [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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lol.. they're for my mom. she's having people over for lunch tomorrow. i made the miniature pies (each smaller than a reg piece of pie.. i made it with the leftover dough) for dessert tonite. but otherwise, we won't be eating much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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best wife and daughter! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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ok, so you just made my night. thanks. who are these people on UB these days. I haven't been on in weeks. you people are so... decent. where are all the snarky bitches with an axe to grind? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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life is too short to be snarky plus everyone needs a boost (me included) I like nice UB, and serioulsy you take the cake 3 pies...! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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thanks.. (wish my mom said the same... i was supposed to make a salad too. said i'd make it in the morning bf we leave for a bday party. my mom says "you're making it tomorrow? no you won't." that's it abt the stuff i did today. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:28 PM Flag
[ - ] are braxton hicks when you get those tight spots that hurt for like 20 seconds? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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My youngest DD is 5 so its been awhile - but yes that sounds like braxton hicks... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:26 PM Flag
[ - ] looking for a masculine chandelier for my son's room..suggestions? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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potterybarn kids helicopter light [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Tall ub'ers 5"8 -5"9 What is your ideal weight? I was 150 after my 3rd and have been losing weight - not sure how low to go. I'm older and don't need the extra fat. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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I am 150 and a little flabby right now, although I do have a good amount of muscle too. 140 - 142 is my perfect weight. I am 5'8. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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ita. I was 124 at 30 and the weight has crept up a pound a year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:20 PM Flag
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You just seriously depressed me - I am 27 and have never ever been below 140 as an adult. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:22 PM Flag
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but 124 at 5"8 isn't a good goal, so don't let it depress you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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^^^ I should add that I have only had 1 dc! sniffle... Op is a superstar next to me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:25 PM Flag
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I am pregnant now, but usually at 5"8 I look best at like 136 or 137, I am oddly small boned though. I'll be happy to get back to 140 though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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140-145 would be great for me at this point, but I'm nearing 180. I hate it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:24 PM Flag
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i am you... it is very hard. but keep working on it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Dh has been a sm0ker since 14 yo, 33 now. Seriously quits for 1+ months about 3 - 4 times per year. Always goes back... Will he quit eventually? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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I am a genie in a bottle. It will take one time to the cardio dr. to make that happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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my hubby was on the patch for 3 years before he could finally quit, we finally ended up putting about 3 patches on him so if he smoked he would get really sick and that fianlly made him quit and he hasn't smoked in over 2 years!! He even hates the smell of smoke now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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i will tell you... i never stopped liking the smell of smoke. altho i don't hink about smoking so much most of the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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if he really wants to quit, he will. i quit on dd's bday. told all my friends about it. told dd about it. that was almost 3 months ago and every time i think of having a cigarette, I also think about having to tell dd that i started again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:10 PM Flag
[ - ] I have to get my daughter out of the house for a few hours tomorrow and don't want to go to the playground (I am enormously pregnant). Can I take a 3 and half year old to see Kit Kittredge? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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no. my 5 yo just barely got it. what about wall-e? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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I don't know if I want to see Wall-E with its armageddon-y messages. She would be fine. I am a little insane right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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to be honest, i haven't seen it yet. thing about kit kittredge -- it's set in the depression. so if you're in any way bothered by the economy i wouldn't see it. maybe i was feeling ultra sensitive, but that part of it sort of got to me. go look on gocitykids for somewhere to go...puppet show or something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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what abt kung fu panda? dd is 4 and she LOVED it. i did too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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wall-E is totally cute, way better than the panda movie imo, and has some really good messages [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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the library might be good [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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The library by us is closed for renovations until 2010, I believe. We love the library. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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96th and lex has a toddler playgroup from 10-12 I think [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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is kung fu panda still out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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kung fu panda is pg, so i hesitate to take her there. anyone know why it is pg? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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because half the movie is fight scenes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you approach family members that smoke often around your own children? How do you do that? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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Yes I would - Please no smoking in fornt of my kids. Can you please go outside. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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They are outside, but it is a small area and the smoke just stays there. I HATE it. DH is too scared to say anything, and I know that I am going to say something real soon. WHy can't he just fucking say something? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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I'd stop coming w/ dcs, honestly and if I was asked why, I'd say I am concerned about the health hazards of the atmosphere [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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If someone smokes at a family gathering, I just walk ds away and play with him in another area. Is that what you meant? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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But you don't say anything to the person that is smoking? You just move the child away? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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To say something would be condescending, no one smokes right in his face, and it's always outside [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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shouldn't we be condescending when it comes to our children's health? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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If it's really health of your kids you're concerned about, you can protect them by walking them away. Being condescending will not teach ppl anything, it will just make you feel angry and controlling, and you'll look like an ahole to others. You can't change everyone, just your own situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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No. unless they are blowing smoke in my dc face. people smoke it's a fact of life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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the smoke does go right in their faces..and they all smoke..at least 5 relatives [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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yes, or just stop hanging around them w/ the kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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at my house I would make them go outside and we probably wouldn't go to their house, ever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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wasn't their a recent study that debunked the whole second hand smoke issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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absolutely not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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no! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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i assume not. i grew up with smokers and my health was miserable until I left for college. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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outside is ok. inside, no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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but outside, the smoke sits in the air [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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If it's just once in a while and you moderate the time you spend there, I am sure it's not too harmful. A campfire, smog from the bus, etc. are as harmful, but you are not trying to get rid of those, I assume. Just don't go if you're so concerned. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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people walk thru big cities with their children. there's all sorts of smoke, exhaust and all other kinds of things in the air. the smoke from one relative's cigarette isn't that much of an issue to me. not if it means starting a drama with that family member, anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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I grew up with a mother who smoked constantly, as did her friends around me. I hated it. I will not allow anyone to smoke near my kids in a social situation -- family member or not. Not only does the smell make me sick, but I don't want them having that kind of role model. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:31 PM Flag
[ - ] My sil keeps asking how many people gave my dh cards for his mother's death with $ going to a charity. She keeps bragging that she had to send out 70 thank you cards and do we need any????Urgh. I told her it's a jewish thing. (I"m not jewish). Dh just got cards and no $ to charities in him mom's name. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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That is nasty. so sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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Sounds like a bizarre thing for her to want to compare. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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some people need those cards and donations to justify the parents existence. I much prefered the heart felt letters to the donations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] This week has been exhausting... 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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For me, too! But I finally had a good day at work, so that's a relief! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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ITA! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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why so exhausting? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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just had a lot to do. i was up early every day and went non stop until i fell into bed at night. all good stuff. productive week. although, i barely had two hours each day to actually attend to my work (I wah, so things can be flexible) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Are Jehovah's witnesses considered Christians? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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hmm...not really. They do not believe in Jesus as the Son of God. They believe he is the Archangel Michael. Not sure how they came to this conclusion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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I don't think so..? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Continuation from my earlier post... what did i do that lead to my friend dumping me? I yelled at her. I lost my temper and yelled at her. I also apologized for it later on. I lost it bc I felt like I spent a lot of time, effort and energy listening to her (a boyfriend had just ended things in a relatively nasty way). But when I wanted to talk abt something serious related to my parents, she told me she didn't have the time. And I lost it. That was pretty much the end of the friendship. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:56 PM Flag
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Sounds like a fairweather friend. I know it's hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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mid-twenties. now mid-thirties. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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think you meant to respond to my age question. i'd say, we do stupid things in our 20s. so maybe see her, go slow. you both have grown up, no? and real friends are rare. it means something that she's trying now. you're both older...who knows. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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yes, i did mean to reply to your age post. i agree with you on all your points. but my life is rather complicated at the moment. not bad complicated, but complicated. we don't live anywhere near each other. and i'm not sure what it woudl even mean to reconnect. altho, she may be visiting our home town at the same time we will be. so we might be able to see each other. it makes me very nervous to see her. the last time i saw her was right after I yelled at her. we had dinner and i apologized. she was not very kind or gracious. and she was a difficult friend to begin with. in my 30s, i would not choose to become friends with a person like her. (and i'm scared to give her the benefit of the doubt only to find out she is at core, too similar) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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so you haven't seen her for 10 years? well, she's probably the same person but you guys also were close to begin with no? you both screwed up. you seem to feel like she could hurt you again, but you're not really open to her -- therefore not really vunerable. in some ways you have the upper hand. i'd say meet her for coffee. if she pisses you off, you'll know she's a total write-off. if she doesn't...take it one step at a time. be cautious. what do you have to lose? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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in my list of priorities, I'm not sure she falls high enough for me to give up time with dd, my parents, or my work to spend a couple hours talking with her over coffee. we're in the middle of a huge international move. I'm staying with my parents and helping them with daily life (my dad has some health issues). and so much else going on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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oh. well then clearly, it doesn't make sense to see her. she may no longer be a difficult friend, but it seems like you don't have room in your life for much else at the moment -- friends, difficult or not. so move on. not a big deal. if she's a real friend she'll wait and resurface. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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you're right. absolutely right. i'll just deal with this on my time when i'm ready. she'll have to understand. thanks for reading and responding to this. it's very appreciated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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you're welcome. it's great that you're thinking about it. but if you were in a less stressful moment in your life, it wouldn't be such a worrisome issue. good luck. just tell her you'll call her after the move. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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Didn't see your earlier post. Does she always blow you off or maybe she was just busy this one time? If the latter, I would say good riddance she sounds very self-centered. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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this was about 10 yrs ago and after this she dumped me as a friend. i heard from her recently saying she wants to reconnect. she also apologized and said that she acted immaturely and didn't give me as much as i gave her.total apology. but i'm not sure i can get back into the friendship. i was badly hurt. don't know that i want to get into it again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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go with your gut [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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my gut goes back and forth. her apology was so on the mark. dealt with every feeling i've had about this. on the other hand, i don't quite get why now and can't help but feel there's an alterior motive. (altho what it would be i have no idea) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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you could just see how it goes, you're not signing any contracts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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true. very true. (and your response made me smile). i already asked her why now adn that's when she apologized. i haven't replied yet. not quite sure what to say. i'm thinking i'll just be honest, tell her how hurt I was and that I'm not sure how i feel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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how old were you guys when all this went down? hold old are you now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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I make it a rule to spend my time with people I like and like me. I never waste my time on people who want nothing more than to such all the air out of the room. sounds like your "friend" is a suck the air out of the room person. be glad and move on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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funny you say that. this happened abt ten years ago. she recently reconnected with me. after the friendship ended back then, after I got over the hurt, i realized that i hadn't been happy in the relationship and that it was better it was over. but when we were friends, i treated things as if we were sisters. she was as close as I had to one. and you don't just walk away from a sister. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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