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[ - ] My personal prayer: G-d, never let me behave as poorly as my Mother in Law. Give me the strength not to stoop to her level. And let me live long enough to inherit all her money. Amen. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.11.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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tee-hee, that's my prayer too! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:49 PM Flag
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looks like you have already stooped... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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Oh, no. There's a HUGE difference between mere musings and divisive, thoughtless and cruel words and actions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:53 PM Flag
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I bet her mil wouldn't be so graceful as to post on an anonymous board. Instead it would be broadcast to the whole family [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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EXACTLY and it IS! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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and, yet, no qualms about taking her money, nice... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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It's being given, not taken. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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And trust me - for what I have to put up with I have earned it!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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Watch out. MIL may well leave it just to DH and/or grandkids just to spite you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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Of course she will. She owes me nothing. She is leaving everything to her kids...hopefully DH and I will still be together than and can retire! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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horrid, not funny at all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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Um - you don't know my husband's family. You would feel the same, hon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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By bashing her, you are stooping to her so-called level. I hav relatives I like and those I don't care too much for, but I don't make a big thing of it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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I love your post and I understand your sentiments. But I can't help feeling that's one reason she's so difficult. Imagine if you had a sneaking suspicion people only put up with you for your money. Even if you knew you were a bitch, that would eat at you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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Plus, why can't OP go earn her own money? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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OR I'm sure she does. I think most of the ORs on this post are taking this whole post too seriously. We all get really steamed at people from time to time and this is a safe place to vent those emotions. Well...safe if the rest of us try to come at a post with compassion first on our minds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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I think that venting promotes more venting. I find MIL jokes really cheesy. I don't need to bash someone to bond with others [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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AMEN! :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 07:08 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone else here find it ironic how so many people complain about the new generation coming into the workforce and how they won't work, are entitled, etc. when it seems that so few parents here are actually disciplining their own children? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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yes, very [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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I thought I was the only one here that really appreciated the irony;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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why do you assume people here aren't disciplining? a lto fo the questions are about more effective means to do it, clearly people want to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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most of these posts show how little they are doing though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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example? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 02:18 PM Flag
[ - ] If I have a bunch of petunias that are really thriving, can I take some of it and plant it in a different pot? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:44 PM Flag
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i probably wouldn't move them. but if you do, be sure to water and fertilize REALLY well when you replant them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:46 PM Flag
[ - ] holy smokes, i can't believe i just paid $125 plus tip for a haircut. dh would DIE 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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how does it look...any different from Supercuts? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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it looks great right now. but i'm sure when i have to style it myself, it'll look worse than before! i had no idea it was gonna cost so much. i almost fell out when they told me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:42 PM Flag
[ - ] first time home buyer and interested in a home in Northern NJ with $15K in annual taxes. Is there anything that can be done to get a tax rebate or to reduce taxes somehow? doubt it, but just thought I'd ask for ideas... 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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Curious why you think you should get a break? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:39 PM Flag
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well, the interest on the home will help to offset some of your tax liability [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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income tax liability, that is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:40 PM Flag
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unless you qualify for AMT [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:41 PM Flag
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we qualify for AMT and somehow, it still helped us. i don't really understand how/why, as i'm certainly no accountant. but if we hadn't bought a house, we would have been eaten alive [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:43 PM Flag
[ - ] my almost 3 yo old son who still needs to nap has been pooping everyday during the nap I've tried to give him alone to to poop before, puthim on the potty. He eats lots of whole grains for breakfast at 7:30-8am . this should be enough time to poop before the 1:30 nap. any advice b/c once he poops he rarley goes back to sleep 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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btdt. my dd poops on a 24 hr schedule - meaning every 24 hours (approx). If something happens and she gets on a nap time poop schedule, it's a pita to get off of. What generally works for us is to not nap for a day - stay away from home (she only poops at home). Basically distract her so she doesn't poop until later evening. Weird sounding, I know. But it usually only takes 1 day and then she's on an evening poop schedule. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:35 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you do if your 3 or 4yr old talks in a voice that's really not nice? (Like yelling, or talking rudely.) She doesn't do it often, but it does happen. When I tell dd that I don't like that voice, it almost makes her more defiant. Is ignoring better? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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"I can't hear you when you use that tone." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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respond to her in a very sweet voice and let her know that you rather hear her speak like that then in a rude tone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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tell her that she can't speak to you like that, and if she does it again, she'll go on time out/get toy taken away/whatever works for her... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Going to do sleep training this weekend on dc, and I can't decide if to do it for naps at the same time as nighttime. For my first dc, we did nightime first, and I think it created confusion that naps were with a lot more soothing, paci, etc. So I'm tempted to do it all together this time. But is that just too much for the kid to handle at once? Can't make up my mind. What have others experienced? Thanks. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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Sleep training? You mean cio? You don't need to use euphemisms here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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I think it helps to have the same routine for both if nao is in the same place as the sleep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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Sorry- didn't mean to "hide" it. Yes, CIO. Or Ferber. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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we did CIO at night only, never with naps, mainly because I just couldn't handle all of the crying at both times. Eventually, the night-time and naps pretty much sorted themselves out, so I don't think you have to do the naps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 03:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Why do people think CIO is cruel? Because we let the child cry? I let my dc cry when she throws a fit about wanting ice cream for breakfast and I say no. Is that cruel, too? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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uh - yeah. There are things you could do to distract or in some other way get her to calm down. Maybe you think she's crying for icecream but she's just crying for you to love her. and she thinks you don't because you abandon her at night when she needs you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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Wow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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Sorry, but you asked why. That's why I think it's cruel. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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You are an odd one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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lol. you are weird [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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tell me about it, she is actually just trying to test mom's boundaries. At 3 they should know that no means no. It's not like we're talking about a 18mo who doesn't really get rules yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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Wait a minute, this is about cio for a 3yo? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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did you do that when he was 4 months old? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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I couldn't let my infant cio, but I'm certainly willing to let my 3 y/o if that's what it takes. Of course, I prefer to find other ways of disciplining, but if that's what's necessary, that's what happens. A child who can understand "you can't have ice cream for breakfast. your choice is either to sit and eat or cry in your room" is totally different from a baby who just wants to be held [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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ITTTA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:32 PM Flag
[ - ] This summer camp is my first experience with busing for DS. Is it common for buses to be 15 minutes late? His bus seems to always run late, and it annoys me greatly because it makes me late to drop off #2 at her camp. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.11.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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on the first day or tow, sure. once the routine is settled it shouldn't happen regularly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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we are at Yomi and bus is never late...but they only pick up at select locations...it's not door to door service [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 03:20 PM Flag
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The morning bus is always on time; the afternoon bus home is often late, which is very annoying but probably unavoidable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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15 is not bad. consider traffic or other kids not being on time or whatever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.14.08, 08:56 AM Flag
[ - ] my almost 4 yo ds constantly needs to be entertained. i set up play dates, take him out, etc. but still manages to scream "somebody play with me" at least a dozen times a day. btdt moms, is this typical behavior for this age? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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put your foot down. he needs to learn how to play by himself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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what if you get him set up with something adn then leave? (art, trains, etc) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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that is my trick my dd does like to play alone but often if I come in for 5 min then say I have to go to quickly make dinner, feed baby etc. she will keep playing for quite a while [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Grocery shopping - how often do you go? Do you freeze meat if you know you won't use it in 3 days? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:10 PM Flag
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big shopping is once a week. 1-2x during week i might pick up a few things. we don't buy meat, but fish or shrimp i use w/i 1-2 days of purchase (that's something i often buy during the week). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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Big shop once a week via internet. We routinely freeze fish and meat to keep stocks in the freezer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:55 PM Flag
[ - ] How much do you spend on food (groceries, going out, take out,etc) a month? How many dcs? Where do you live? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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$200 a week 2 adults 2 dcs (toddler and baby) NY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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Same as above poster [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:55 PM Flag
[ - ] when did you stop sippy cups and go to straw cups? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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I want to know this too! I still use a straw cup for my just 3 y/o dd when we're out. Wondering what the alternative would be. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:37 PM Flag
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oops. sorry, i read that "stop sippy cups and straw cups". I went to a straw cup around 2 y/o [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:38 PM Flag
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a cup [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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my 3.5yo still takes a sippy cup to bed. The straw ones all leak if left on their side. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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I never used sippy cups. We went straight to straws at 10-11 mos., when we were out and about and open cups at home. Sippy cups are trouble. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 04:04 PM Flag
[ - ] Any recommendations for programs for 5 yo in August? Had to cancel plans to travel in August, and now looking for something fun for dd to do (in Manhattan). Thanks! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.11.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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with you ro without? if the latter, chelsea piers stil has sapce, i bet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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Art Farm has a nice summer camp that I don't think is full in August. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:02 PM Flag
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Oasis in Central park has August too, and you can go by the week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:06 PM Flag
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Do you/your kids have experiece with the program and what do think of it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:09 PM Flag
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My DD went last year and she really liked it. It is mostly outside, in the park, sports-oriented and probably better for kids that are at least somewhat athletic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:13 PM Flag
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my son is enjoying it, but the downside is, especialy if your child takes the bus, that it can be a very long day. (for him its basically 8-5:45). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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Friends School has a good camp. Also check out Kids Club. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 02:44 PM Flag
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np: No Friends camp in August, though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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Together with you? Get a copy of Time Out New York. It's a treasure chest of ideas. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 04:34 PM Flag
[ - ] How essential is it to set up playdates for your 4 year old to help her adjust at school? Will my 4 year old be at a serious disadvantage if I don't? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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If you don't, how will she know how to play with others? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:01 PM Flag
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she goes to preschool 4 days 8:30 - 4 - doesn't she learn to play there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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After that long of a day I would not do playdates either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:05 PM Flag
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thats sort of how I feel. she is the type of child that really enjoys playing alone in her room. with the limited amount of time I think it is OK for her to have her alone time. she doesn't seem to have any "issues" at school. However I am wondering if I don't do the 1:1 thing if it will be more difficult to have friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:12 PM Flag
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Not necessarily. But maybe you can try to get a playdate with someone she likes on a weekend? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:14 PM Flag
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I think this may be the only option. Just so much tougher b/c i don't speak the language fluently so I am weird "foreign mom" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:03 PM Flag
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i find that playdates outside of school really help - the 1:1 thing is good. my nanny does a lot of it, but i try to at least stay moderately involved. ds usually asks to play w specific kids also. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 01:04 PM Flag
[ - ] i bought some mini Crab cakes today...I have a roasted Red Pepper Sauce to serve with them, but what else goes with Crab Cakes?, Pasta?,Potato's?, Veggies?, Rice? Help! 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 12:49 PM Flag
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nice big salad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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we eat a TON of salad's...I wanted something a little more interesting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 12:51 PM Flag
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we always treat them like junk food, so just scarf them down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 12:52 PM Flag
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Hmm... I like that one!...but how does creamy Garlic Mashed Potato's sound...and maybe some asparagus? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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1. heavy; 2. over-apostrophed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 12:55 PM Flag
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These are mini crab Cakes....I agree the regular sized ones are too big and rich, but these are perfect size [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 12:58 PM Flag
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that sounds good! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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where'd you get them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.11.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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