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[ - ] Anyone else woken up by their screaming DB at the ass crack of dawn? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:25 AM Flag
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Weren't we all? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:30 AM Flag
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I much prefer her usual cooing to screaming [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:32 AM Flag
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1am to 2pm last night my 2.7yo screamed. He usually sleeps well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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^meant to say 2am (lack of sleep!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 08:08 AM Flag
[ - ] what to do in this heat today in nyc? 22 m.o. and newborn. thinking about pool on 23rd st bc we're desperate and they have a kiddie pool - anyone btdt? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.20.08, 04:52 AM Flag
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not in the city, but I'd stay out of kiddie pools. ds kept getting various illnesses, rashes, ear infections, eye infections. Each time we took him to the Dr. we were told to keep them out of kiddie pools. They are so small that they get pretty warm, and between the diapers and snot, etc. the amount of chlorine they would have to put in to really kill everything would be dangerous. Stick with a bigger pool. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 04:56 AM Flag
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sprinklers in shady park at beg or end of day. museum which has a/c. get a day pass at one of the ys (most post their open swim times). kiddie pool is fine too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:24 AM Flag
[ - ] Heavy drinker here pg with dc #2 found out by Dr. Friday I am 4 wks. This question is asked a lot on here but the last month has been regular hevay drinking, 3 glasses/night for functions, work dinners. Reading up and many sites say brain development and not drinking now is more crucial now than ever. Doctors on here please confirm or deny or just help out! TIA. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.20.08, 04:45 AM Flag
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just stop drinking now, and you will likely be fine. if you are drinking so much that you might have physical withdrawal from stopping on your own, please see a doctor. could be dangerous otherwise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 04:55 AM Flag
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yes have stopped but have I likely done damage? drank heavy first three weeks w/out knowing I was pg. Thank you BTW for answering. No withdrawal will occur [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:10 AM Flag
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the placenta does not form until week 6-7, so no blood shared. db will be fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:22 AM Flag
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Sorry I am in fretting not as every article I am reading is saying that first 4 weeks are crucial. I conceived probably three weeks ago which put me at week five or 6 now. Every article is saying my chances of a mentally deformed db are v. high [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:26 AM Flag
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call your dr and find out. fwiw, i found out i was pg with my first dc after one halloween where I had a ton to drink. ob told me it was fine-happens to many people since they dn't always know they are pg. but call your doc tomorrow and ask. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:28 AM Flag
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TY appreciate the answers, binge drinking is they say not bad but heavy drinking almost every night like I have done this month is awful. I will call dr.! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:31 AM Flag
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from the poster below- I went on a 2 week wine tasting tour of France- imagine the number of glasses I had pere day! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:37 AM Flag
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hmm...and this was which week of your pregnancy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:42 AM Flag
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6-7 weeks, found out at 10wks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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not to sound sanctimonious, but maybe use this time to re-evaluate how much you drink. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:37 AM Flag
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yes, not drinking anymore but so so scared about what i could have done to db already! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:43 AM Flag
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I was 10 wks pg before I knew. Drank quite a bit during those weeks. Stopped the minute I knew. Have a healthy, happy 16 mo. No apparent damage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:29 AM Flag
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ditto from OR- went to see a genetic councellor since I also had x-ray and MMr jab (and was on the pill). No effects [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:31 AM Flag
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TY! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:32 AM Flag
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3 isn't so much and it's early. It will be fine! You stopped now just relax [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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ita. don't stress - congrats [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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I found out I was pregnant at 7 weeks. Had NO clue, was not trying, was not married. Conceived right before Thanksgiving, didn't find out New Year's. Holiday parties, lots of drinking, cough medicine for cold. Baby was 100% healthy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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not to downplay the risks of drinking during pg, but honestly i don't think 3 drinks/day for that short a duration is going to cause any significant harm. please don't put so much faith in the 'sites' you're reading. talk to your doctor instead. so many websites and books overdramatize everything about pregnancy. they pretend that one drink will permanently scar your baby because they don't think women can be trusted to make judgement calls. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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I didn't know I was pg until wk 6, drank as usual plus went on wine tasting. Dc turned out fine and just fyi, ERB/SB 99th percentile, so don't worry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 06:48 AM Flag
[ - ] How Do I Help My 10 YR Old Brother Socialize? He has been getting bullied since Kinder. He wants to be everyones friend and just always ends up getting rejected, insulted, or made fun of. I have always spoken to him, but he always tells me that no one wants to be his friend. Hes a genuinely sweet kid but no one gives him a chance. What can I do to help him socialize. I was thinking maybe joining him in boys scouts. Where else can i take him to meet other boys besides the kids in his school. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 07.20.08, 12:50 AM Flag
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Try Karate [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 04:44 AM Flag
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What else could be contributing? Is he really smart and having a hard time relating to other kids? Does he have something-one thing that he really likes? Maybe there's some kind of club that he could be a part of and meet other kids who share the same interests. And, karate is a good idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 04:50 AM Flag
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yea, I will look into Karate. He is very smart. Has been a straight A's student since pre-k. Likes to play the Piano, and is awesome at drawing. His first drawing was at 3.5 of the ninja turtles and it was very detailed. Almost like anime. He doesnt like painting, but he loves shading. I've taken him out of 2 schools. Once in 1st grade and again at 3rd grade because the kids wouldnt leave him alone. Also, he would do anything to fit in, so he has been getting in trouble lately. the teachers lets it slide at times because they know hes a great kid. He goes to a reg charter school in the south bx. Ive been thinking of where to send him after he finishes this year the 5th grade. I just feel so bad. And now he lives with me because my mom left the country when they killed my other brother. Im trying my best to help him out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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what do you mean, you've taken him out of two schools? is this bullying or is this just not having good friends? have you spoken to his teachers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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Both. He always got bullied. I guess the other kids took him as a joke because they knew he wanted to be their friend. They would make fun of him. The 2nd school we took him out of was because i thought the teacher was racist or had something against him. she was a black teacher in like a 99% black school. it was a local catholic school, and 1 of the kids would hit him, he'd go tell the teacher, and the kids would say he hit them first and he would get detention or wont go on recess. around here, most of the little black and hispanic kids act like savages, and he's so sweet. it breaks my heart, he gets home a 7 out of 10 he's sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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It sounds like he's had a lot of turmoil in his life, but I wonder if he is a little Aspergery? Children with Aspergers are highly intelligent, often gifted in drawing or music, but have a lot of trouble socially. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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Actually, I remember my mom took him to a psychologist, i forgot the reason why. I wonder if he wouldve picked up on it, or if the teachers would have. But this was like 3 years ago. I will make an appt for when he gets back in september to get a referral from his ped. He's visiting my mother in The Dominican Republic for the summer. Thank you for the advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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Church groups are pretty good. My sister and I were in Pioneer Girls (like Girl Scouts) at our local baptist church when were we young, and it was so nice and accepting. And a lot of the girls I did end up going to high school with, and it was nice that, whether they were popular or nerdy in high school, we all were still kind of friends because we'd done that together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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I will def look into church groups. Even if its the bible studies for children. Im sure some of the kids will be sweet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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I like the karate idea and the church groups idea. Basically, any sport that kids don't do from the time they are 4 (so, soccer, swimming, those will be out). Maybe golf lessons or wrestling at a local gym, or art lessons. You sound like a wonderful sister, by the way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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Im off to look online for some art lessons. Im sure he'll enjoy that because he loves drawing. He cant meet anyone new that he doesnt make them a drawing. He has such a good heart, and im trying to preserve that in him. I dont want these kids to jade him. Thank you on the compliment. Im 23 and have an 18 month old daughter, and we dont have any other family but ourselves in this country. But theres so much violence right now in my country, that i told my mom I rather struggle with him here, then have him grow up over there, so she let him stay with me. My brother was shot in the head, even though he gave his chain to the robber, and im scared of losing my only live brother. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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Does have a dad, big brother, or male figure in his life? He sounds like a smart sweet kid but the other kids are picking up on something about him--a desperation? maybe he doesn't follow the social cues they're sending out? I know it's different for boys and maybe an older male would have some ideas/guidance? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 02:06 PM Flag
[ - ] HOllllla ladies 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:20 AM Flag
[ - ] I feel like crap. Flirted with a childhood friend way beyond appropriate. (We're both married.) Felt so bad that I deleted his number (we were texting.) Now I'm thinking about my life, I hate the way I look, I'm fat and my finances are out of control. I do have a great dh though, a good job and my dd is adorable. I've never felt so out of control. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:49 PM Flag
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You've saved yourself, actually. That's a lot to feel good about. Now keep doing it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 03:55 AM Flag
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Don't understand, you are in touch with childhood friend and you were texting flirty stuff? So strange dh just did same thing with HS friend, I was furious. But no harm done~ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 04:48 AM Flag
[ - ] db is 1.5 y/o and a handful. i want to try for #2, but now dh is pretty seriously leaning towards just having 1. anyone btdt? i'm 37.5 now. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:43 PM Flag
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i hate to tell you but it doesn't really get easier until they are more independant(4), but than they develop serious 'tude and it's hard mentally. just be honest with your dh and tell him if you really want a second. but don't force him, he'll just end up resenting you and possibly checking out of the marriage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:35 AM Flag
[ - ] Which is a good college for a very test-smart dd who lacks organizational skills. She has tutors, etc now, but will need a real go-to person at college. Within 3 hrs of NY metro by car or plane 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Special Needs 07.19.08, 09:30 PM Flag
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Special needs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:35 PM Flag
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op: yes sn, but vv hi iq [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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What does a "go-to person" mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:39 PM Flag
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either the child has a learning disability, or the problem is one of an excess of helicopter parenting [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:41 PM Flag
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oh boy. if she has legit special needs, I hope that she was fully dx before getting to college. if not, well, better get cracking on building org skills, mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:43 PM Flag
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At this point, she's getting ready to go to COLLEGE. You should not be worrying about her organizational skills. She should. Time to cut the apron strings. Really. Or she'll never be independent, never have a career or life of her own! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 10:09 PM Flag
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There are rarely tutors or "organizational support" assistants at the college level in general ed. I'd say it's really a question for the college counselor at her high school and/or a college placement advisor. I'd say you'd want to steer her clear of the funkier places like Bard that actually require self-discipline to learn because it's more relaxed. She might do better in a smaller school, maybe even SS. Look upstate NY, the Amherst and Bostson metro MA area, and in Pennsylvania (the Bryn Mawr cluster). Or someplace like Clark -- I have a friend with serious dyslexia who went there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 03:03 AM Flag
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i don't know which colleges they are, but there are a few colleges that have special programs for kids with learning disabilities. do a google search. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 04:33 PM Flag
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http://www.college-scholarships.com/learning_disabilities.htm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 04:44 PM Flag
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op: thank you -- I hadn't seen that web-site [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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My brother had learning issues - almost failed out of highschool - he went to U of Hartford in Conn - they have a special program for kids who need extra help. He is now very successful and making tons of $$ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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NP and I hate to say this but if DD still has issues entering college that you feel requires outside help, no matter how smart she is, you need to let go, unless she is seriously disabled and will need outside support forever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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^^ signed person who has relatives that were super-smart but turned out to be schitzophrenic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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Princeton is close to NYC. Columbia, NYU, Cooper Union, Cuny, Suny (many campsuses), Yale, CT State, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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I don't think that the Ivies like Yale, Princeton or Columbia would be good schools for OP's dd. And Cooper Union is specific for engineering, architecture or art. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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op: ita, but thanks for your thoughts. dd needs college with excellent support system [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 07:17 PM Flag
[ - ] while we are on the topic of vaccinations, this was in the NY Times this week: 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:22 PM Flag
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http://www.nytimes.com/2008/07/18/world/asia/18briefs-POLIOFOUNDIN_BRF.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:23 PM Flag
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(polio found in baby in area of pakistan controlled by militants who oppose vaccination.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:24 PM Flag
[ - ] looking for ideas for baby gift: twin boys (they have an older brother and lots of boy cousins). tia. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:03 PM Flag
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personalized towels from lands end. can use as db's post bath and use for camp later on. surprisingly nice and affordable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:36 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD??? My DS just finished Freshman year..husband wants to switch to another catholic h.s. that is $3,000 cheaper..money is tight. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:00 PM Flag
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that seems extreme if he was doing well -- $3000 may seem like a lot right now, but ds' education will last a lifetime. 4 yrs at 1 hs is better than a switch soph year. Maybe ds can earn money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:24 PM Flag
[ - ] how long did it take for you to lose all pregnancy weight? am 35 weeks preg. have gained a total of 40 lbs - 10 from IVF and the rest from being prego. i didnt eat a ton of junk and i worked out constantly throughout preg and i still gained this much. i want to get this weight off as quuickly as possibly - i am so uncomfortable!!! did breastfeeding help you take the weight off? have heard yes and no... 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.19.08, 08:48 PM Flag
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i gained about 45. Breast-feeding really took it off. Had lost all weight by 3 months pp with no exercising other than walking pushing a stroller. Unfortunately, as soon as I stopped breastfeeding, I put back on 5 lbs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:51 PM Flag
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10 months. Don't worry about the weight, focus on the baby (def BF!!!), and the weight will come off slowly but steadily. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 09:53 PM Flag
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I focussed on the baby and didn't worry with #1 and it took a loooong time to lose the weight, largely because I was living on high cal snack foods and not worrying about ME enough. -np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:42 AM Flag
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by 6 wks pp had only 5-10 to go. bf. the rest off in a few mos. still bf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 06:12 AM Flag
[ - ] How are the schools in Miami? Do kids grow up to be intellectuals at all? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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I grew up there and everyone I knew went to private. I think the schools have gotten better, but they're not great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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what are some good privates there? we may be relocating. also, what is the range for tuition? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:20 PM Flag
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I was there 20 years ago so I couldn't say. Gulliver, Ransom Everglades, and Pinecrest were the schools back in the day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:21 PM Flag
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thank you. what areas are nice to live in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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Haven't been back in a decade. I lived in Cutler Ridge, which was nice enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:24 PM Flag
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thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:26 PM Flag
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np: do the schools have tiers there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.19.08, 08:32 PM Flag
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