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07.20.08, 00:50 AM Preschool/Kids
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How Do I Help My 10 YR Old Brother Socialize? He has been getting bullied since Kinder. He wants to be everyones friend and just always ends up getting rejected, insulted, or made fun of. I have always spoken to him, but he always tells me that no one wants to be his friend. Hes a genuinely sweet kid but no one gives him a chance. What can I do to help him socialize. I was thinking maybe joining him in boys scouts. Where else can i take him to meet other boys besides the kids in his school. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
Preschool/Kids 07.20.08, 12:50 AM Flag
 

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General Topics 07.20.08, 04:44 AM Flag
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What else could be contributing? Is he really smart and having a hard time relating to other kids? Does he have something-one thing that he really likes? Maybe there's some kind of club that he could be a part of and meet other kids who share the same interests. And, karate is a good idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 04:50 AM Flag
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yea, I will look into Karate. He is very smart. Has been a straight A's student since pre-k. Likes to play the Piano, and is awesome at drawing. His first drawing was at 3.5 of the ninja turtles and it was very detailed. Almost like anime. He doesnt like painting, but he loves shading. I've taken him out of 2 schools. Once in 1st grade and again at 3rd grade because the kids wouldnt leave him alone. Also, he would do anything to fit in, so he has been getting in trouble lately. the teachers lets it slide at times because they know hes a great kid. He goes to a reg charter school in the south bx. Ive been thinking of where to send him after he finishes this year the 5th grade. I just feel so bad. And now he lives with me because my mom left the country when they killed my other brother. Im trying my best to help him out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:50 PM Flag
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what do you mean, you've taken him out of two schools? is this bullying or is this just not having good friends? have you spoken to his teachers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:54 PM Flag
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Both. He always got bullied. I guess the other kids took him as a joke because they knew he wanted to be their friend. They would make fun of him. The 2nd school we took him out of was because i thought the teacher was racist or had something against him. she was a black teacher in like a 99% black school. it was a local catholic school, and 1 of the kids would hit him, he'd go tell the teacher, and the kids would say he hit them first and he would get detention or wont go on recess. around here, most of the little black and hispanic kids act like savages, and he's so sweet. it breaks my heart, he gets home a 7 out of 10 he's sad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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It sounds like he's had a lot of turmoil in his life, but I wonder if he is a little Aspergery? Children with Aspergers are highly intelligent, often gifted in drawing or music, but have a lot of trouble socially. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:56 PM Flag
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Actually, I remember my mom took him to a psychologist, i forgot the reason why. I wonder if he wouldve picked up on it, or if the teachers would have. But this was like 3 years ago. I will make an appt for when he gets back in september to get a referral from his ped. He's visiting my mother in The Dominican Republic for the summer. Thank you for the advice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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Church groups are pretty good. My sister and I were in Pioneer Girls (like Girl Scouts) at our local baptist church when were we young, and it was so nice and accepting. And a lot of the girls I did end up going to high school with, and it was nice that, whether they were popular or nerdy in high school, we all were still kind of friends because we'd done that together. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:04 PM Flag
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I will def look into church groups. Even if its the bible studies for children. Im sure some of the kids will be sweet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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I like the karate idea and the church groups idea. Basically, any sport that kids don't do from the time they are 4 (so, soccer, swimming, those will be out). Maybe golf lessons or wrestling at a local gym, or art lessons. You sound like a wonderful sister, by the way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:07 PM Flag
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Im off to look online for some art lessons. Im sure he'll enjoy that because he loves drawing. He cant meet anyone new that he doesnt make them a drawing. He has such a good heart, and im trying to preserve that in him. I dont want these kids to jade him. Thank you on the compliment. Im 23 and have an 18 month old daughter, and we dont have any other family but ourselves in this country. But theres so much violence right now in my country, that i told my mom I rather struggle with him here, then have him grow up over there, so she let him stay with me. My brother was shot in the head, even though he gave his chain to the robber, and im scared of losing my only live brother. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 02:09 PM Flag
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Does have a dad, big brother, or male figure in his life? He sounds like a smart sweet kid but the other kids are picking up on something about him--a desperation? maybe he doesn't follow the social cues they're sending out? I know it's different for boys and maybe an older male would have some ideas/guidance? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 02:06 PM Flag
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