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[ - ] best crib? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:14 PM Flag
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There's no such thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:15 PM Flag
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depends on what you are looking for everyone has different things that they want there is not one in particluar [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:16 PM Flag
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sorry, best crib for small space. my db will be sharing a room with his 2yo big sis. don't want to spend a fortune. tia [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:20 PM Flag
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Stokke Sleepi - it is the best crib for a small space but it isn't cheap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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OP: Just looked up Stokke and you are right! it's very expensive but did you use yours as a junior bed or is that just a pipe dream? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:24 PM Flag
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The stokke sleepi is really expensive. Do you have a good consignment store near you? It would be worth it to browse there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:26 PM Flag
[ - ] 3 days post-delivery and my milk has started coming in. my breasts are killing me. how long does this pain last? when will the suppy get regulated so my breasts don't feel like rocks? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 07.20.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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I was you two weeks ago. It really does get better, just know that the first week or so is a bit brutal as your body figures out how much milk the baby needs. Make sure to pump BEFORE your breasts become as hard as rocks; otherwise, you risk getting mastitis. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:12 PM Flag
[ - ] 3 days post-delivery and my milk has started coming in. my breasts are killing me. how long does this pain last? when will the suppy get regulated so my breasts don't feel like rocks? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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are you bf'ing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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yes i am [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:05 PM Flag
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so it will totally get better, just keep bf'ing on demand (whenever baby wants) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:10 PM Flag
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you might be engorged, if you pump just enough to relieve pressure it will help [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 04:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Other than the birthing center at St. Luke's, is there another one in Manhattan or Brooklyn? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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You sound like a VERY high maintenance individual I'm sure the drs are happy when you leave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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Just because she asked if there is more than 1 birthing center? You're crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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OP: I know that the one at St. Luke's is nice but wondering if there was one closer to where I live (downtown). Geez! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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not another one in manhattan. i live in chinatown / les and used roosevelt (couldn't use the bc in the end b/c I was late). there's a freestanding one in brooklyn called the brooklyn birthing center. gl... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 04:46 PM Flag
[ - ] any moms on that had PPD with first baby and had a second. Anything you did to help prevent it with the second? I am so scared to have another child because of this. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:52 AM Flag
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I don't think you can prevent it, but you at least you will now recognize the symptoms and be able to act more immediately. Did you take anything for it last time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:13 PM Flag
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i had it with my 1st and not my 2nd. made sure i had more help with 2nd. got pp doula, had family come in, etc. luckily 2nd baby was much easier than first [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:21 PM Flag
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np: i agree with this. if you are aware what's going on and what triggers you have, you can alleviate the symptoms. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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Had PPD the first time and was on anti-deps the second time. Also, the second baby was easier because I was healtheir - the infant totally fixes on your own anxiety and stress level. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:41 PM Flag
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i had it with my first-pretty severe. with my 2nd, I had changed jobs to something less stressful, i had found a good therapist, i did yoga. with the 2nd dc, you also do not have the adjustment to motherhood that you have with your first. I still had some tough times but I was in a better space when I had my 2nd dc. I want to go for a 3rd now (2nd dc is 2), though not sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:46 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone go to Westchester Medical Group in Rye? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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yes, I go there. I have seen Dr. Grano and Dr. Sharma. My first two were delivered in the city at Columbia Presbyterian and this oen will be delivered at greenwich. I like Sharma a lot, Dr Grano is more serious, but seems very competent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know anything about DIC? I am currently recovering from an emergency C section, where DIC was one of the factors. Looking for those who have btdt. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.20.08, 11:49 AM Flag
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what does that stand for? (obviously i don't know much about it) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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lolo, np....Disseminated intravascular coagulation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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wow. sounds scary. how's your baby doing? are you the poster with the 2yo? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:54 AM Flag
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Actually, the baby did not make it and I am told I almost died as well.. Just looking for someone who can relate.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:56 AM Flag
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so sorry. i had an emergency c-section with my last dc and she was in the nicu for a short period of time. i also had a second trimester miscarriage a few months ago. i'm terribly sorry for what you are going through. how are you handling it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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Not sure it has all hit me yet... Feeling so crappy from the DIC and C section, I'm thinking it will be awhile before reality sets in [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:01 PM Flag
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Sorry about your loss, how far long were you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:04 PM Flag
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thanks. i was in my fourth month. not that far along, but far enough for me to have thought i was safe from stuff like that. i'm still up and down from it. there are some online message boards that i found were really helpful for the times i was down. i can suggest some, if you'd like. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:08 PM Flag
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Thanks.. I was 8 months along and never expected this to happen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:09 PM Flag
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i know. in theory, i always knew it was possible for things like this to happen, but it wasn't supposed to actually happen. i was sort of too shocked to be upset. i really wish you the best of luck. it'll be hard to deal with it in the next few months. please let us know how you are doing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:22 PM Flag
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i am so sorry for your loss. i might suggest going to a grief counselor or looking for a therapist to help you through this. gl to you in your recovery (both emotional and physical). and again, so sorry for your loss [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:49 PM Flag
[ - ] So I had a C-section a couple of weeks ago. I have been told I can't lift my first - 40lb dd. I couldn't go to a family function, and DH was relaying a story to me... a friend was telling him "Oh, I lifted both my older kids after my C-section, even though they told me the same thing". How to interpret this? WHY is DH sharing this stupid story? Is it hormones making me over-react, or do I have a right to be pissed? It's like he's telling me I am making a big deal of the C-section and should pick up dd? WTF? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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take it from me. you are way overreacting. take a deep breath, take it slowly. do what you feel comfortable doing. besides which, your 40yo has to be old enough to manage much on her own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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She's not even 2 yet! Tops the charts - very pudgy. She has tantrums- more now with the new arrival. It's been worrying me. I don't understand why DH would relay this to me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:38 AM Flag
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take a deep breath. (sorry for the wrong assumption. i have a 3yo and a 5yo who aren't even close to 40 pounds yet!) it's hard having two under two, it's hard having a c-section, it's hard having a newborn. combine it all together and you are going to need to stay calm over the stupid stuff. and believe me, your dh telling you that someone else lifted kids before the doctor's ok counts as a stupid stuff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:50 AM Flag
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I agree your dh shouldn't be sharing this personal information, I also think it was extremely insensitive and stupid for the woman to comment she had the 'same exact thing...' and did xyz. Discuss your privacy concerns with dh when he gets home and g/l. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:50 PM Flag
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Try not to worry about anyone else and just take care of yourself. Tell you DH--very kindly & calmly--what you need to get stronger. I haven't had a c-section but had a surgery w/ a similar incision & procedure. I was a personal trainer @ the time, very fit & healthy. I had a rough recovery and could barely walk right afterwards, let alone pick up a toddler. And they told me not to lift anything that weighed more than 10lbs. Hang in there, and good luck w/ both kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:55 PM Flag
[ - ] posting again because there is a problem with previous post. how much does it cost to skimcoat and paint a 2 bedroom apt. (approximately 1200sf) in manhattan? tia. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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skimcoating is really expensive and a huge mess. if you plan to do the whole apartment, i think it would be at least 10k, possibly more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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ask your super to do it or one of the building staff. it will be cheaper. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 02:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Worried about Dr. Moritz -- please advise! 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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hi all -- so i'm 10 weeks with my first. i went to a doc at weill-cornell, who was extremely thorough in her initial exam, but i was very uncomfortable with her answers about delivery style. she was dismissive when i asked about whether an IV and constant monitoring was required -- "This isn't a birthing center, and you wouldn't run a marathon without fluids." I did some research, and decided on the birthing center at SLR. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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Thats not dismissive - that is correct. If you want no intervention go to a birthing center. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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sorry for the multiple posts everyone. please scroll down for the final full post with concerns. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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OP here again, sorry, the kid hit return! So, more on Moritz. He was fantastic. He's not a worrier. But he's incredibly capable, smart, and responsive. I had an easy pregnancy and I went with the midwives in his office, but anytime there was a question he made time to see me right then. And twice after the birth, even though he wasn't the one who delivered me, I've had to email him a concern late on a Sunday night. He's gotten back to me within 20 minutes both times. I can't recommend him highly enough. and P.S. - the wait times weren't nearly as bad as you'll read. The longest I ever waited was 45 minutes, and that was for Sandy Woods. Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.09, 08:51 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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hi all. pregnant with my first, 10 weeks along. i first went to see dr. sharma at weill-cornell, who was extremely thorough, but dismissive of my questions about labor. after some research i decided i'd prefer the birthing center at SLR. i went to see dr. moritz a few weeks ago, and came away incredibly concerned. he didn't do a physical exam, didn't do a history, and didn't do a pap smear, even though i told him it had been over three years since i'd had one. he had pics of celebs on his walls, and talked about book parties instead of my pregnancy. now i just don't know what to do. should i stick with the extremely competent doctor when it's not the delivery style i want? go with dr. moritz, even though i don't feel like i got a good exam at all? or try someone new? (i was thinking of dr. bradley, also at the birthing center. ) please help! thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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He was my OB, he's fantastic. He didn't end up delivering my baby though, but his whole group is very competent. My guess is he probably sensed how nervous you are and was trying to get you to lighten up a bit. If you want the birthing center though, maybe you should see the midwife he works with, I talked to her once and she seemed nice. Basically if you need more medical attention, if you are breach or something for example, then Dr. Moritz will take care of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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I would try the birthing center at St. Lukes--ask around and find a good midwife. I've delivered twice at Cornell, and they really want to get those tubes in you. I had natural with the second, and still had to have the iv fluids. Cornell's really not "all that," if you know what I mean. Even if you skip the epi, it's going to be a highly medicalized experience which isn't for everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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I think the midwives he works with are called Manhattan Midwives. They have a website. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:51 AM Flag
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thank you! i'm the OP, and this is exactly what i needed to know. the Cornell doc is just so *thorough* though, it made me question whether i'd get everything i needed from moritz. seems like a lot of people trust him though. still questioning whether to see dr bradley instead though -- even my husband was made really nervous by lack of exam and history at my first visit. thanks all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 06:31 AM Flag
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Sure. GL! You could also find a doula first, and ask her about OBs. They know who's good at all the hospitals. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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Does anyone know if Dr. Moritz has a high risk dr. he consults with? I may have to be monitored by a high risk but hoping not to have to be fully followed by one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:53 AM Flag
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I think he does high risk. Are you the OP from above? If you are high risk I would see OB, not midwife. Although if it is a group that works with OB's I guess it's fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:55 AM Flag
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I am not the OP, but I would like to use a midwife that consults with a high risk dr. I will see when I am pg...most midwives don't want to deal with anyone with issues so I'm thinking I may have to go to an OB. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:58 AM Flag
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Hi all, OP here. It's now almost exactly a year later, and I'm sitting here with my perfect little boy. Just in case anyone searches for Moritz the way I did, I wanted to update this post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.07.09, 08:47 AM Flag
[ - ] How do you explain to your daughter that her step father has a wondering eye. she caught him and is pretty upset 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 10:54 AM Flag
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This is your husband? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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aren't YOU upset? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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Yes I am but what can i do, i dont want her to see my upset. Do all men do it?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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np: I don't think so. What exactly does your DH do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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he literally read her from from front to back, he actually turned around, he didnt know we saw him and my daughter hid inthe store she was so embarrassed. I didnt know how to explain it to her. I made sure he saw me looking at him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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Well, I can say I've never seen my DH do anything like that. So to answer your question--no, not all men do that (I'm sure my dh looks, but nothing like that). How does your dh defend that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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I havent addressed it yet. Any suggestions on how to address it to her?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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I have no idea. What did he say? Wouldn't it helped if he admitted that what he did was gross and apologize to both of you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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i was going to let it go away but i will address it and see what he says [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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She should see you upset! At least you won't show her this behavior is acceptable even he won't change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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IS she a minor? If so you need to talk to her. he might be a pedophile. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 06:07 AM Flag
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this is absurd [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 06:39 AM Flag
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how do you explain it to yourself? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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no kidding...your step-daughter will dismiss him as a pig. You on the other hand have to sleep next to him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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Not sure how I can. Inside I am upset but I am more upset that my daughter caught it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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sorry. no idea what to tell you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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I know what to tell you. Lose they guy! And tell your dd that her sf did something that is not right [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 12:12 PM Flag
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I knew a guy who had this problem. He stared at every woman that went by, even if you were in mid-conversation with him. I am not sure he had a wandering eye, but he LOOKED at every woman that walked by. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 05:25 AM Flag
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My DH does this all the time when he thinks I am not looking. Doesn't upset me too much. His porn predilection is more disturbing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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have him explain it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.21.08, 08:08 AM Flag
[ - ] are there still for sale ads? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.20.08, 10:49 AM Flag
[ - ] Linden, NJ? What kind of place is this to live? We just had an offer to live there rent free for as long as we want, in a house. Would mean moving two DC from good public school on UWS, but saving $5000 rent monthly. WWYD? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 10:42 AM Flag
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stay put [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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such odd advice...why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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Who cares if the schools are any good - you will be saving $60k. a year and could easily afford the finest private schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 10:45 AM Flag
[ - ] found out at 15 1/2 week sonogram that we are having a boy. doc could clearly see a penis. we did,too. he has a big hightech machine. said he was 95% sure after saying it's a boy. think it really is a boy. wondering why he said 95%. do they always say that? think it is most likely a boy? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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yes, they cover their butt, but a penis is pretty hard to miss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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even at 15 1/2 weeks? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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even at 15 weeks what? We saw the penis at 13 weeks, plain as day. A penis looks nothing like an umbilical cord. Do people make mistakes? Of course, nothing is fulproof. Do you know anyone irl that was told one thing and then had another? I don't. I know people sometimes post about it on UB, but that means nothing. You are having a boy. Congrats. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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thank you!! very excited!! the 95% threw me a litle but i guess they alway say that no matter what. the doc actually pointed out the umbilical cord and then the penis [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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It's a boy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.20.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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