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[ - ] Anyone on ever had to fire a nanny? Can you tell me your story to steel my resolve to fire mine... 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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She wasn't a great match for us but I hung in there despite the fact that I felt like she took advantage of our generosity in many ways. She was having financial troubles and asked to borrow money (which I gave her). She then didn't show up and called later to say that her dh had been arrested. Her explanation didn't make sense and her story changed. I just didn't feel comfortable but felt badly that she was having so many problems. Dh let her go and gave her 2 wks severance. She had only been working for us for a couple of months but we had given her a weeks bonus for the holidays (in the interest of setting the tone for the future-before we knew the situation stunk). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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Wow, similar to our situation. Her life is totally dramatic, always leaving early to see lawyers about this or that latest drama, telling us about her financial troubles. I think you said it right -- she isn't a good match for us. I'm just dreading finding a new nanny and letting her go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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or: I totally understand. I got flamed on here at the time for firing her right after her dh got arrested (accused of kicking someone while they were down). It was just too crazy and now that we have someone who is the right fit, a lot of the stuff that made me uncomfortable with previous nanny was really just my gut telling me that something was wrong. Dh and I were just saying the other day that we probably would have had much more serious problems with her if things had gone on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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You had me until you sent your husband to fire her. Why do grown women act like such girls? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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or: I know what you mean but I can be such a pushover hence the money loan etc. I had just had a new baby and chose to take the dc out in the stroller while dh dealt with it. He was her employer too. He had more emotional distance from her situation as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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not me! I had no prob telling her! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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i'm not one to defend women with nannies, but YOU SUCK. why can't her husband (and mine, too) do something for once??? we do all of the birthing, teaching, cleaning, hiring, etc....why can't her dh do something? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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how about either one can do it - and just take the gender thing out- if we are 50/50 in the relationship, then it is a toss up as to who gets to do it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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You know exactly what I mean. Otherwise capable women can't seem to man up when it comes time to do something uncomfortable. Firing a nanny does not replace the expectation that a man will participate fully in the rearing of his children and the maintenance of hishome. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:09 PM Flag
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yes, i get you, but sometimes we women do all of the shit and leave the uncomfortable things to our absent husbands. i think it's a fair trade. if you stay at home all day (and work from home on top of it, as do i), you might agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:12 PM Flag
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I am a WAHM mom too - am taking a break as I type. I am just noting the ease with which some women hide behind their husbands when it comes to uncomfortable confrontation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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yes- told her to pack up, gave her money for a hotel for a week and took her housekeys. This was a pretty severe situation though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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Can you share the details? Was she live-in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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yes she was live in, there was neglect and abuse (found out bc a neighbor dropped in) - then we started to put things together and it seemed to be true - it was not horrific, but bad enough to warrant immediate removal from our home- for everyone's safety! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:02 PM Flag
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what happened?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:03 PM Flag
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I am on my way out, but here is my advice FWIW- she had our 3yo scared to where she wouldn't tell us there was a problem- which I guess is pretty common with abuse. This was in a very short amt of time about 10 days and the abuse was not obvious- dc was very scared but did say some odd things, like when I am 4 will nanny still be here?......anyway moral of the story always be careful- this nanny had great refs and seemed so cheerful and sweet....you never know :( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:08 PM Flag
[ - ] i feel crappy and generally achey today, almost sore. could it be the weather? anyone else? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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pg? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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I feel the same, but I have my period. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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Could be a virus [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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i am ovulating- could that be it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:56 PM Flag
[ - ] so what is everyone doing this weekend? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.22.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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sample sale, niece's bday party, and that's about it... i just want to rest and get the house more organized... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:51 PM Flag
[ - ] did I miss the Gray's and Ugly Betty finales? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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Grey's is tonight (and it's 2 hours!). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Weird. There are dust clumps in the tub after every bath dc take. Has been happening for past few weeks. Have NO idea where its coming from. Anyone BTDT? I know its a long shot. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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sock stuff from in between the toes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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Are you sure it's not dried soap scum. Kinda looks like dust [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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DC use body wash. I scrubbed the tub before bath tonight and its covered now. Maybe something in the pipe, or coming up from the drain? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:51 PM Flag
[ - ] How does one become an Occupational therapist? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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it has to be a subset of teaching, right? like special needs stuff? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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NO! It is a health related profession. You go and receive a B.S. in Occupational Therapy. My sister is one. You normally do two years pre-reqs at a university and then finish at a medical institution. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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np: OT is soon to become (if it hasn't already) an entry level master's. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:18 PM Flag
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play with stuff [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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I worked with some in a nursing home. It was kinda cheesy if you ask me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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not cheesy to the ppl who need them. I had spinal therapy and had a OT come in for 2 wks while I was in the hospital and show me how to do the simple things (like get up, tie my shoe, grab for something high, ect) and do it safely. They are needed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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^^^meant I had spinal surgery [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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very very cheesy, but necessary [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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you can do it as a 5 yr bs/ms program at some schools or a 2 year grad prgm at some. similar to physical therapy or speech therapy prgms- under the umbrella of rehab services [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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and she doesn't need it from any kind of serious school. you just need the degree to get the license. the school matters nada [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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??? weird comment. it is usually a fairly challenging program, but do you need a diploma from harvard to get jobs? no. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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the level of licensed health work like OT, RT, etc really don't look at what school you attended or care. it's about your license and how quickly you can learn and do your job well. it's not like some other professions in the hospital because OT training/education is pretty standard across the board. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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RT is actually a much easier/less skilled job. you can be a licensed RT with only an associate's degree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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np: ita. Plus, OT/PT/Speech are competitive programs to even get in to. It's something like 1:8 ratio of people that get accepted to programs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:19 PM Flag
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HARDLY! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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hmm the licensing is more important than where you got the degree in my experience. once you are qualified to work you can either suck or be great and your schooling sometimes has very little to do with how well you perform in the occupation-- kinda like law school :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:31 PM Flag
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if you want to be really respected, choose something more specific, like speech or physical therapy. (signed, mom of child getting ST, PT and OT) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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i disagree- as a sped teacher, i have worked with very good therapists in all 3 specialties. and depending on the kid, OT can be integral their progress [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:12 PM Flag
[ - ] There's no way we had this many days off when I was in school. Why oh why must this weekend be even longer than just Monday off? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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my DS has tomorrow, off, monday, tues, and wed!!!! ugh! it's because we didn't take any snow days... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:54 PM Flag
[ - ] WE GET IT sarah mclaughlin. it sucks to be an animal. funny thing is, my charitable contributions is gonna go to human children 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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i hate that song [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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kinda a downer, yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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they should go to your own education. wow.lear to pluralize. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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it was a typo, just like you just made [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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mine was a typo. the letters I and S aren't very close to A R and E [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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typographical errors can go far beyond the slip of a finger. wow, is this so important to you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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lol! you suck! no body likes a grammar nerd. NO BODY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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learN to put spaces between your sentences [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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why can't there be money raised for all kinds of causes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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tight economy. family budget, and i actually have a priority about helping human beings first. this is just my judgment [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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boy you are self centered. other people might have more money available for donation and can spread it around. everything is not about you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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but... i was talking about me. not everyone else.. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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clearly you show disdain for people who would donate to animal causes over human causes so not entirely [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:48 PM Flag
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where did you get disdain from? you're leaping seriously [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:49 PM Flag
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the whole tone of the original post was snotty, did you miss that? the all caps and the "funny thing is..." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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who cares if op is showing disdain? if a person actually has to make a choice between helping an animal and helping a human child, most people WOULD show disdain for the person picking the animal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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ITA. and have never understood how dogs got elevated to the level of people. dogs are great, but when there are more animal services in a community than services for kids and families , something is wrong with that community imo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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first you say she's self-centered for not realizing that some other people may have enough $$ to spread it around and help everyone, but then you take issue with someone having disdain for a person choosing animals OVER people. which point are you making? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:52 PM Flag
[ - ] i defrosted chicken on sunday. can i use it tonight? (chicken breasts)? i have no more chicken and i reeeally want to use it, but i'm afraid it's not good anymore 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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does it smell ok? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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I wouldn't. I only do two days in fridge after thawing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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ita with this chicken turns so quickly [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:44 PM Flag
[ - ] i learned today that my father hit my mother once, many years ago. yipes! i did not need to know that 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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How the eff did THAT come up? Thanks, Mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:39 PM Flag
[ - ] POLL: What color looks great on you? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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any "Autumn" color (redhead, fair skin) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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jewel tones and white. however i mostly wear black. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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ditto, black looks great on my skin, too. makes me look alive, ironically [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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or - me too. i am olive skin, med-dk brown hair and very dark brown eyes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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black looks amazing on women with this kind of skin and dark hair. ita, it totally makes my eyes pop and i love the compliment to my jet black hair. it always makes me look richer than i am :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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np: ditto. I'm hispanic with olive skin and brown hair and eyes. I love black on me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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same, but i bet rich creams look amazing on you, too. i have this oh so so so cute max azria dress that has a real glowing cream color. i looove it against my skin and dark hair... and some bronzer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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yes creams look nice and so does a reds but dark wine colored reds too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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GOD i wish i could pull off red. just once, a red lip even. my yellow/red undertones are too strong. red never looks amazing on me like it does on other dark haired women [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:57 PM Flag
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gray, because i have very bright light brown skin with yellow undertones [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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lilac/lavender. i own it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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strong colors, red, blue, purple, black (I have fair skin, black hair and blue eyes) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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they all look fine. i have dark hair and medium skin. i never even think about what color I wear [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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I feel as though I'm never sure! Maybe brown and green and possibly navy. I have freckles and pale skin and brown hair (on the dark side, but not super dark). Eyes are green-ish blue-ish. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you believe in the Chinese Gender Calendar that predicts your db's sex based on your date of conception and age? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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it was right once and wrong once... [ Reply | More
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it was wrong with both of my kids, so no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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#1) nobody answered you before #2) if you post this to the special needs board again, I'll scream. post to general, for pete's sake. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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absolutely!! its right 50% of the time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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no. it said my girl would be a boy. so did every other "method", except when they actually looked in there and saw the lack of a penis. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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BOARD WHORE BOARD WHORE [ Reply | More
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I have 3 dc and it's been right every single time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know of any sites that would have weekend rentals in Upstate NY? Failing that self catering cottages/chalets.. tia 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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vrbo.com lists rentals and prices for day/wk/month or contact local realtor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:43 PM Flag
[ - ] How much of a raise should I give my TV this year? It's doing such a great job with the kids. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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a girl after my own heart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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just a general upgrade to digital will keep it happy. don't know what we'll do for it next year, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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ordinarily I'd give some time off but ... perish the thought! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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haha post of the day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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