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[ - ] SJP is so gross looking at the beginning of the 5th season--the Las Vegas episode. Ick. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:57 PM Flag
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seasons 1-4 too. woof! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:10 PM Flag
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she's not gross looking. really, she's not. i saw her in real life, she's incredibly tiny and dolllike and cute [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Troop or Troup means WALK? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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troup is not a word [ Reply | More
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troop, troupE is a group of actors/performers etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:01 PM Flag
[ - ] how do you erase the search history on google? using safari. tia. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:49 PM Flag
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go to the safari menu and choose "reset safari" which will delete all your markers (cookies, history etc.) turn off autofill as well, in references. And then enable "private browsing" when you're searching for german scat porn! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:16 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:47 PM Flag
[ - ] i have never known of a couples to divorce who got "that feeling" when they met (and you know, not charlotte 'i think he could be the one!' feeling, but that really deep premonition) 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:46 PM Flag
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meet me. both DH and I had "that" feeling. but things happen. we lost a baby last year and it just isn't the same. we are not going to survive it and are heading for divorce. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:48 PM Flag
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wow, that is a lootttt to go through. so is the divorce amicable? do you think it's happening for 'a reason' (if that makes any sense) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:49 PM Flag
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well, we're just at the beginning. trying to work on separation. hope it will be amicable. I don't think its happening for a reason. I think we had a horrible thing happen, and we reacted to it very differently. I do think we were meant to be together (and who knows maybe after some time apart, we will find our way back), but right now we are so lost there really is no way to keep this marriage together. not even for the sake of our other children. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:52 PM Flag
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for some reason you are reminding me of What Dreams May Come... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:53 PM Flag
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can you see yourself married to someone else? do you think it's time for you to just part ways from him and be single and grow from this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:54 PM Flag
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no, I don't really see myself with someone else. I think what we had would be very hard to duplicate. but at the same time, we can't stay together. too much fighting and we have other children to think of. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:57 PM Flag
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oh, so you do have other children currently [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:58 PM Flag
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do you want to stay married or are you ready to part ways? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:49 PM Flag
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when did you get 'the feeling'... and when did you realize things were heading south [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:50 PM Flag
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I think we both knew instantly that we were meant to be together. I still think we are, but sometimes things happen that you just can't overcome. Like I said above, it started heading south a few months after we lost the baby. DH went into denial and pretends the baby never existed and, well, I just can't do that b/c I had to deliver her. Its really driven a wedge between us and I now am very hurt, resentful and angry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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oh i can completely understand this. i didn't get 'that feeling' instantly either and can only imagine what a man does psychologically to cope with the loss. wow. you have some strength that i can only envy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:57 PM Flag
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That experience should have bought you closer [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:53 PM Flag
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that's a really presumptuous thing to say, isn't it? i know several couples who didn't make it thru the loss of a child. it is HARRRRRD [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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No. It is very hard to stay together in the face of tragedy -- this very often happens to couples who have lost children for any reason. Very very hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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very, my aunt and uncle lost both dss in a car crash-- my uncle was driving. the guilt, it tore them completely apart [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:56 PM Flag
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OR here. that must be incredibly hard. part of what we struggle with is that I blame him. I don't mean to, but i can't help it. he didn't want a third child and he was not very happy about the pregnancy. told me that over and over and then we lost the baby when I was 6 months along and in some ways i can't help but feel he wished the baby away. I know he didn't, but its really hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:03 PM Flag
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i understand this. blame seems a very natural place to deposit pain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:04 PM Flag
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sadly, it is. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:06 PM Flag
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my uncle blamed himself so much that he went into like an emotional abyss. and they had an infant dd as the time, who is now 24... and no, i can't say things have turned out well for her. her parents were kind of mourning zombies for most of her childhood. still not a day goes by they don't think of it. EVERY time i cross that intersection i think about it... and this was 25 yrs ago [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:08 PM Flag
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oh, that is so sad and tragic. partly why I think its time to go our separate ways is the toll it is taking on our other 2 kids. I think they would be happier if we could be nicer to each other and I don't see that happening unless we are on our own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:11 PM Flag
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you have some serious courage, woman. and you are seriously thoughtful as well. from my experience with this in my family, i can only say that i think you are by far making the right decision. the living children deserve your attention and health and happiness. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:17 PM Flag
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don't speak too fast. I am totally petrified. I hope it is the right answer. and I hope one day we find our way back to each other, even if just to be friends. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:20 PM Flag
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i don't think the love ever ends, it's just buried beneath the pain. when the mourning ends and erodes the pain, there the fondness is again. people say life is short, but it's very long (god willing). you have some chapters that have yet to unfold, and you get to write them (or at least co-author them with the Creator i guess) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:24 PM Flag
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I know many [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:50 PM Flag
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i know many couples who say "i knew he was the one" but i never really know what that means. i think it means "he checked off all my boxes". but the couples who really talk about the premonition that comes with being in the presence of your future spouse? i don't know of any who split. maybe i need to meet more couples [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:52 PM Flag
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maybe. I am a divorce attorney, so I know a lot of divorced people [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:54 PM Flag
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i'm curious, what are the trends you see in these couples? i don't know how into their personal lives you get [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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it can get quite personal. I see a lot of couples married 7-10 yes with a couple dcs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:01 PM Flag
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so trends? i heard divorced couples tend to say things liek "we have sex, you know, once a month, normal"... like everyone thinks their normal and no one knows what it is [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:04 PM Flag
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No, I don't hear that. Its not mainly about sex. Its more about not being able to maintain that connection through rough periods, mainly when your dcs are young and life gets crazy. Sex is a symptom but not the main problem [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:10 PM Flag
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I'm the one who first posted above who is heading to divorce and I would totally agree with it. our sexual relationship was the last thing to go (and acually, its still pretty good by most standards - a few times a week), but more often that not its totally emotionless and all physical - its passionate only when we've recently had a fight. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:16 PM Flag
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sex is definitely the symptom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:19 PM Flag
[ - ] buttermilk pancake mom on?? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:45 PM Flag
[ - ] i hate the feeling of having a big booger at the back of my nose, trying to blow it out, and knowing at the most inopportune time i will sneeze and it will land in some very undesirable place 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:44 PM Flag
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kleenex [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:46 PM Flag
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i have gone thru like 8 already [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:47 PM Flag
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the best feeling is when you pick one and the dry crusty part drags up like a two inch long trail of wet snot from the back of your throat.... second only to multiple eargasms via q-tip. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:14 PM Flag
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LOLOL eargasms rock. i just love the relief of hocking the mucus membrane. I LOVE that we can't post inside anymore! GROSSS OUT! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:15 PM Flag
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Use a Neti Pot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:29 PM Flag
[ - ] inwood, washington heights, harlem, morningside moms on? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:42 PM Flag
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Bloomingdale mom here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:47 PM Flag
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apt? rent or own [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:47 PM Flag
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^^and how do you like bloomingdale. never meet anyone who lives up there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:48 PM Flag
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Own a coop and Bloomingdale is between 96th & Columbia, along Riverside Dr, West End and Broadway. More or less. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:05 PM Flag
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when did you buy? what's your monthly? how many BRs/bath [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:06 PM Flag
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Bought in 1992. Paid it off. Maintenance is $1300 for 2 BR, 2.5 bath [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:11 PM Flag
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wow - when I went to Barnard that area was called Manhattan Valley. I lived right there and would have never known where Bloomingdale is! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:25 PM Flag
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Here it is (Bloomingdale is older than MV as a name): http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manhattan_Valley [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:28 PM Flag
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I believe you - just refering to common parlance ca. 1985 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:29 PM Flag
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Maybe we old-timers (I've been in the neighborhood since 1978) call it Bloomingdale more. Also the library we go to on 100th bet Amsterdam & Columbus is the B'dale branch and the music school my dc goes to on 108th St is the Bloomingdale School of Music. So there are still remnants. It's prettier than MV (which I've never heard in real life except maybe some realtors). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:46 PM Flag
[ - ] so have been with SO for 5 1/2 years. I went nuts yesterday when we went to an art shoe that had one of his works up and was announcing me to everyone as "this is my girlfriend." we are not married adn I would like to but he is not "down" with it, I told him having a dc will help a bit financially and he says that is bullshit. I am still furious. I felt like just Wednesday night girl instead of the "wifey" that he calls me. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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so do something about it. this can't be new. it's 5 years [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:45 PM Flag
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that was me and my DH before we got married. cincher was he had his appendix out, I took him to the hospital, stayed with him in the ER, called his parents, waited there all night and when the dr came out, he didn't include me b/c I wasn't "family". I told DH after that either we got married or I was out of there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:45 PM Flag
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^^and we lived together at the time and had been together 6.5 years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:46 PM Flag
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op- hah if say that he would call me crazy and probaly say leave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:48 PM Flag
[ - ] This is my first time back since they changed the site. How is everyone liking it now? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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its very slow. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:42 PM Flag
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everyone left and went to youbemom . com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:58 PM Flag
[ - ] morningside heights and harlem moms on? RE question 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:39 PM Flag
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yes, im in lower harlem [ Reply | More
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[ - ] What's a non-religious way to say "Lord knows..." 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:38 PM Flag
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"who you telling" -- if you're black or [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:40 PM Flag
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^^you have to tell me the whole phrase you're trying to say though [ Reply | More
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I declare - with a strong southern accent [ Reply | More
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DING!-- signed southerner [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:41 PM Flag
[ - ] if it came down to dh or guacamole... ehhhh... if you threw in lime wedges i'd have to kiss him goodbye 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:34 PM Flag
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you tried too hard on that one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:48 PM Flag
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Depends on the kind of chips you have [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 10:17 PM Flag
[ - ] my dvr totally f'ed up the last hour of grey's. i can't see the show, it's frozen on a commercial but i can sometimes hear the dialogue. can you watch it online or something? F#$K!! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:34 PM Flag
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sounds like the cable not the DVR. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:35 PM Flag
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I caught the ending and can't find the control so that i can play it off the DVR! Want to know the ending? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:51 PM Flag
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Yeah, you can watch them online. It might take a day or two before it shows up on the website, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:32 PM Flag
[ - ] repost: what size is your jr 4 alcove?? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:32 PM Flag
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about 10x10 - it's now our ds' room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:32 PM Flag
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that's a pretty nice size. what'd u do for closet/storage [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:34 PM Flag
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I have a dresser with most of his clothes in my room (we still change his diapers on our big bed), but the alcove came with a small built in closet, which we still use for storage, but will use for his things when he's a little older. Otherwise we have a cubby and a via toy box unit (that we can add to if necessary) - works quite well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:29 PM Flag
[ - ] So what are the odds of a 98%ter getting into NEST? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.22.08, 08:30 PM Flag
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why would you want to subject your kid to that horror? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 08:59 PM Flag
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What horror? Have you visited the school? It's a terrific option with good facilities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:54 AM Flag
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np. good facilities (and we're talking decent by public school standards) do not a great school make. there are too many question marks at that school imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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What makes it horrible? I liked Anderson more but thought we had zero chances at that one so I ranked NEST #1. Either seemed better than our district schools [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:07 PM Flag
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i hope reasonable. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.22.08, 09:00 PM Flag
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I think the odds are pretty good that some 98%ters will get into Nest, the question is how many of them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:00 AM Flag
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I'm guessing nearly 100% odds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:51 AM Flag
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no, I don't think so. There will be room for some of the 98s, but not all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:53 AM Flag
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My gut is that there will be a very good chance as many didn't list the school and there are a relatively large no. of spots. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:03 AM Flag
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from your fingertips to God's ears. NEST Rocks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:21 AM Flag
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"NEST rocks!" is precisely the kind of remark a NEST parent would write. You're in! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:22 AM Flag
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That doesn't sound good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:24 AM Flag
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So what do you hate about NEST? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:24 AM Flag
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Overall, the parents I know there have a "my kid is so wonderful" attitude that I don't find with Anderson or Hunter parents (yes, I know parents at each of those schools). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:29 AM Flag
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I would think my kid is wonderful anywhere he went. Some parents like to brag. I only talk of my DD when asked.Yet, that is not a reflection on the school but on the parents. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:37 AM Flag
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some have kids in both schools so you can't generalize [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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Maybe 50-50 at best? 98 mom here. We ranked it but aren't holding our breath. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:23 PM Flag
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Did you rank it 1st. If you don't get in what are your other options? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 04:54 PM Flag
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I'm not sure. Waiting for the 41/3 lottery results. Otherwise 11. The rest were too inconvenient. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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Well I guess all I can do is hope. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.23.08, 08:56 PM Flag
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