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[ - ] if i'm not jewish but find myself saying "oy" am i welcoming a stare/cultural slap from a jew 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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Of course not. It's universal now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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why? are you wearing a burka when you say it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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I uttered it to a friend who is an old orthodox jew and he was delighted. gave a big belly laugh... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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and then he proceeded to dance with a bottle on his head and do high heel clicks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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yes! and then he stroked his beard and got back on his sleigh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.24.08, 11:12 AM Flag
[ - ] wwyd -- ds started swim class two weeks ago and he's the youngest; was kind of ok the first class but refused to go into the pool the second and is really clinging. should we pull him out of the class and try again in a few months? just turned 3. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.24.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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yup. he's not ready. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:44 AM Flag
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Well I will say this...they tried to force me in the pool at the YMCA classes at age 3 and I refused and still cant swim. Wish they had waited. Maybe try one more class though and see if he might want to try it this time (but whatever you do, I wouldnt force him) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:55 AM Flag
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sorry for big delay -- but thx for advice. dh is intent on making him swim, and I just think he needs a few more months before being in the class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 08:51 AM Flag
[ - ] i still dont understand the war in iraq. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:36 AM Flag
[ - ] when i drink non-organic milk after being organic for quite some time, it's like i can taste the bleach. am i delusional? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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yes you are. i drink organic and i think it tastes better, but no, you cannot taste the bleach. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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Do a blind taste-test. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:44 AM Flag
[ - ] WOHM seriously considering SAHM. Money will be incredibly tight which is scary, but I am miserable WOHM, I hate my job, I work too much, I miss DC... these are the right reasons to SAHM, right? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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yes- is there anything you can do on the side/from home that could bring $ i? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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We're selling our apartment and I've proposed that we "pay" me $30K a year, which I will then put back into household expenses and will hopefully make me feel less dependent on DH (my issue, not his). We can do that for 2 years before we're dipping into principle. My thought was I'd SAHM for 1 year and then start WAH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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pay from from equity? not such a good idea. if dh makes enough to support you, that is smarter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:27 AM Flag
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he doesn't, that's the problem. Why not smart? not flaming, just trying to understand? We made a 10% profit on the sale of our apartment and we're not planning to roll it over right away (we're renting) as we're not sure where we plan on living long term... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:35 AM Flag
[ - ] working class nyers on? where do you live? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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What is a working class nyer? Define. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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meaning two incomes (because you HAVE to), maybe working class occupation like hospital worker, secretary, cop, etc. maybe no college or not exactly a ritzy college. for lower middle class i'd include RN, schoolteachers, etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:33 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:37 AM Flag
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np: where is that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:38 AM Flag
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queens [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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like it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:39 AM Flag
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love it...beautiful navbe, lots of parks, great elementary and jhs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:40 AM Flag
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ues, rent stabilized [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:48 AM Flag
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how'd you get this deal. older relative? family's apt? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:50 AM Flag
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ive lived in the bldg for 11 yrs- and FWIW, DH is working class, but i make more than he does [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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^^^we really need to move, but we cant beat our location/rent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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apt too small? everytime a rent stabilized apt is handed over, a butterfly died [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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yep, too small, wish we could stay, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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jersey. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 11:05 AM Flag
[ - ] WWYD- dh deposited cash in an atm to cover a check that was being written. the cash and the check cleared onthe same day, but he was charged a $35fee b/c evidently they processed the check before the deposit AND he made the deposit 2 days before the check cleared 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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op- he also tried to get customer service to extend a courtesy and reverse the fee- $35 for unavailble fund and $15 for below minimum balance- but they refused [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:14 AM Flag
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try again. and push it hard. does he have a recipt of the deposit? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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push again, and change banks if they don't help. Sounds like Chase-- very poor customer service. We switched to Commerce b/c of things like that, and they're so much better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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it was commerce :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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oop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:30 AM Flag
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Tell them very clearly that they can either waive or you will close all accounts immediately. Always works. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:30 AM Flag
[ - ] exdh (not finalized) wants us to try again.... help me out 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:13 AM Flag
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Do you want to try again? How are the kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:41 AM Flag
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dd seems fine... but i have that guilt about raising a dd without her father in the home... my friend told me she was expressing some real guilt/shame. something about what her friends weren't gonna let her do now because her parents split. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:47 AM Flag
[ - ] anyonen get their public preK letter today, i didnt 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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didn't check mail yet. which school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:28 AM Flag
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198, 158 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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I did -- we didn't get a spot. I'm so bitter about this sibling priority policy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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which school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:57 AM Flag
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87 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 11:01 AM Flag
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well, if it makes you feel any better, we supposedly had sib priority and didn't get in either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 03:28 PM Flag
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We received ours on 5/29. Got into our first choice PS 158. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 01:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Need a cool newborn gift -- something original. Recommendations? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 05.24.08, 10:09 AM Flag
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nothing monogrammed. I think a really nice outfit (read: not Carter's, not pink or baby blue) is always welcome and needed. Personally, I don't like receiving "keepsakes." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:47 AM Flag
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^^and also, a bottle of champagne, some edible treats for m&d. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:48 AM Flag
[ - ] What's a good gift for a mom of 3 kids. She's quitting work so she'll be at home with them now. Trouble finding a gift for her because she's not into accessories or pampering herself. ideas? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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membership to a museum/zoo, etc? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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I am that same mom. I'd take good chocolate any day of the week. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:24 AM Flag
[ - ] I am nearing the end of my 2nd pg. I have to say the thing I dislike most about pregnancy is people's obsession with whether I am having a boy or a girl. I understand it is just a coversation starter for most, but it is getting so old 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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well, once you have db then you can have the 'trying for a third?' conversations, btdt [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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ah, well, if that's your worst problem... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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ita! I'm having a second girl and the response is..Oh, well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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np- wow i thought i got that b/c we're asian and the boy obsession. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:25 AM Flag
[ - ] id you or DH make way more money than the other, and you have sep accounts, how do you proportion the household spending or decide what to contribute to the shared account? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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I would not marry someone who wanted to "proportion" the bills in that way - we are a family. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:00 AM Flag
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but for some couples proportioning the contribution to a joint account really works... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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Again, I don't understand this. Dh and I both pay different bills and make sure that we each have the same amount left over [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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but how do you mean the 'same amnt' % of your check or a $ amount? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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Well, dh makes more than me. I'm in charge of some bills and he's in charge of others - he makes sure that we each have say, $1500 "extra" in our checking accounts a month [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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i don't think it's nearly as formal as it sounds, but some couples don't put all their money into one pot. makes for too many arguments i guess [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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np: we do this very informally. basically, we're lazy enough that we never got around the the joint account. but it also makes me feel somewhat more secure, b/c my dh is famously bad with money-- he spends it when he has it, without thinking about the upcoming bills. I like to know the mortgage isn't in the account he's drawing from... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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ita, i also like to have some power in my relationship as in "this is OURS", etc... i learned this lesson loong ago when i was bumming off my lawyer/roomie sister. every argument ended with "this is MY house!" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:07 AM Flag
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np: it seems to happen sometimes when the woman makes more. Not always, but some women seem to feel justified keeping "their" money separate, while they view their husband's money as shared. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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and some women like to have some power in the relationship by sharing the household expenses. it's this way for me, anyway [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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I think sharing the household expenses is a great thing. I'd feel very uncomfortable being totally financially "kept." But by the same token, I find it odd when women view their money as theirs alone, but their DH's money as "family money." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:22 AM Flag
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yeah, i definitely agree. i don't spend my money on my clothes and then dh's on everything else. my salary goes to school tuitions for the most part, and investments. i think women who view their money as theirs ARE kept women just the same. it's the same mentality at the heart of it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:25 AM Flag
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thanks to good old white collar sexism, dh makes many times my salary. sep accounts (even though we have them) are a gimick because i end up spending most of my money on things for dcs, where he actually buys things for himself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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to a shared acct you would contribute proportionate to what you make. IF dh makes 75k and you make 25k- you would 'pay' for 25% of the bills [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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I don't get it. Don't you have the same finacial goals, views, etc? If not how can you stay married? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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what does sharing/not sharing an account have anything to do with your financial goals??? so silly to think sep accounts mean you don't have shared goals [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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you'd divorce someone you loved over differing financial views? wow. That one I haven't heard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:24 AM Flag
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np: meet me. i thought mutual and hedge funds were a better investment than cocaine. exdh disagreed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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oy. You got me there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:29 AM Flag
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We don't have separate accounts, but we do have two accounts--one that DW uses solely for groceries etc. (which she likes to help her budget) and then a main account with everything else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:33 AM Flag
[ - ] Found a sick baby hamster in the park, felt sorry for him and took him home. Not sure what to do with him if he survives. Hate rodents, but what could we do? Anyone know what to do with a hamster at least in the short term? Is lettuce, etc. okay to feed? Can they drink out of a tiny bowl or do they need on of those drippy bottle things? I think it's a Campbell's Russian dwarf hamster (google images) if that makes a difference. TIA 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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diseases anyone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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Call a pet store...they'll know what to feed him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:26 AM Flag
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It would eat any fresh fruit you had, mash it up. or maybe any ceriel. rehydrate it it moistened foods. good luck with nursing it back to health, but maybe keep small children away from handleing til you get the ok from vet or pet shop. also try dog or cat food, moistened. We have one of the Russian dwarfs. They are so fast, I am amazed you were able to catch it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 11:53 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know i there is a good bagel place in Forest Hills Queens? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.24.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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There's a bialy/bagel place on Queens blvd near Turnpike that's pretty good. [ Reply | More
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Name? [ Reply | More
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[ - ] best nabe for progressive middle/upper middle class black family? (schools don't matter, just want my taxes to support a progressive system) 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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You have no idea what Harlem is-and yes 110St is Harlem; Ever heard that body of water called the Morningside Meer? Columbia University is in Harlem, like it or not. [ Reply | More
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