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[ - ] SHould I stay home 6 more months until dc is 1 yo? This is what I want to do even though it is going to be even more of a financial burden for my family. My job will be waiting for me when I get back. WDYT? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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How much of a financial burden are you talking about? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:53 AM Flag
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DH have to work more. Maybe spend some savings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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Will dh have to work so much more that you won't see him? If so, you shoul dgo back now. As long as you don't have to drain your savings and can cover all of your bills, I would stay home for the year. If staying home for 6 months is going to put you on the road for bankruptcy, then you should go back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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i wouldnt spend savings and have a dh work extra hours- takes away from the 'family time' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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Well, I would wait until 1yr and just really cut back if you can. This is for myself personally. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:07 AM Flag
[ - ] What's a good gift for friend's 3rd dc? She has a boy (5) and girl (4yrs) already, so she has lots of stuff. Need to run out to store to find something today. Newborn is a boy. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 05.24.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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get some boy clothes -- I had kids in this order and felt #3 got gypped out of new outfits (lots of hand-me-downs) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone have any idea how long we will have to respond once the G & T "acceptances" have gone out from the DOE? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.24.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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why would you need more than a minute by that point? this has been going on all year. you can't possibly need time. just figure out your plan now and submit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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we're still going back and forth -- it's for 1st grade, and we're still undecided as to whether we want to switch her class or stay in the current one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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having a day or a week won't really matter then. you need to decide now, and when you have the letter in hand go with it. alll the dragging it out and being undecided and conflicted will not be helped by more time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 04:33 AM Flag
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VBA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:18 AM Flag
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np: what is bragging about this question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:21 AM Flag
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What does VBA mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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in this context, veiled bragging alert. but when i first saw it all i could think of was VBAC (vaginal birth after caesarean). guess that shows where my mind is... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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i always think vbac when i see vba [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 01:47 PM Flag
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Does anyone know the answer to this question? If I remember correctly, last year, we had to respond within a couple of days for pre-k, but I don't know about G&T. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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It wouldn't be long. Maybe 2 weeks at most. But I am just speculating. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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I don't think it is an acceptance process.........it is a placement. Why would we have to accept it........either we go or we don't. It is not like there is a waiting list. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 04:56 PM Flag
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OP: Placement does sound better. I wasn't sure how to phrase it. I am hoping that we'll be able to accept or decline the placement if that seems necessary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:26 PM Flag
[ - ] DH and I both lost our mothers in the past year, within weeks of each other. They were named Frances and Charlotte. DD is six weeks old and we still can't decide: Frances Charlotte or Charlotte Frances. We just gave up. UB decides. Majority rules. We have a very simple last name, like Smith. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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Charlotte Frances [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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Well, you win by default. Thanks for naming our baby. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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NP: this is what I think too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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np- same here, the flow is better [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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Your mother wins [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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charlotte goes first bc it is a much prettier name [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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I'd go with Frances Charlotte. Both beautiful, and Frances is somewhat less popular right now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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what are you calling her now? baby girl? or have you defaulted to one name? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:58 AM Flag
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my MIL is named charlotte, too. i'd go CF [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:06 AM Flag
[ - ] Tough Situation. I am living with ex-boyfriend in his family's house (they retired and live elsewhere). Ex wants to fight for primary custody and no support. If I move out tomorrow with DC - will I be in legal trouble??? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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In my state (and might be every state), either of you could take the child and move to a different home (I can't move more than 60 miles from my ex, unless he says i's ok). What you need to do is consult a family law lawyer (does not matter that you're not married) for a free consultation about custody issues, especially for not marrieds. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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If there is a custody fight, the odds are in your favor, unless you are abusive [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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I have a lawyer - it got ugly today. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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What did lawyer tell you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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There is no reason for him to have primary custody, really- are you abusing your child? are you a drug addict? Ie, custody is mostly shared these days unless there is a reason not to. For ex,my exdh travels for his work 1-2 wks/month, and it is unpredictable,so I have primary physical custody,but we share legal custody (the two are different, pls note). Start googling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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why does he think he should have primary custody? does he deem you a bad parent for some reason? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:01 AM Flag
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so sick of these trailer trash posts. my god, woman! how do women get themselves into these situations with children??? why are you making babies with someone like this, and why are you living off the family and not working or taking care of yourself and your dc? get it together, for the sake of your dc!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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np: i agree w/you, sort of, but life is not black and white like this. Following your reasoning, physical abuse, mostly perpetuated by men on women, is the woman's fault, for "getting herself in this white trash situation". Or rape: the woman drinks too much, gets raped, and bingo- "she got herself into that situation" herself. So, yes, op needs to start taking care of herself better, but that does not mean that if she started working or living in her own house, her custody situation wd be different, or her boyfriend would become a better person. So have some heart, really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 12:00 PM Flag
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yes, but now she is dragging a dc into this mess. it is more long term than a night of boozing and getting raped. she made a child with this guy, lived off the family, did not earn a living, did not get married and now is up a creek. would just like a bit of acknowledgement from her that she has screwed up her kid, not just herself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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Why are you posting to 16 boards including the speciality boards?????? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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np: aw, give it up. This new format is not good, and ppl will always do this. Just go to the other side:youbemom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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Are these bastard children? I think that makes a difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 01:35 PM Flag
[ - ] any riverdale moms on? I need a decent manicure and don't feel like going into the city for it. any suggestions? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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a Touch of Sun Salon on Kappock, across from Century's garage. They are nice there [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:23 AM Flag
[ - ] Dos anyone know anything about ps 183? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 05.24.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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183 parent here, what do yuo want to know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Any thoughts on ps 183 for kindergarten? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:15 AM Flag
[ - ] If your FIL passed away the week before your DD was born, would you feel you should name her after him? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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if your dh wants to yes. My father died 6 weeks before my nephew was orn and my sis did name her son after him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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At least use a name in his memory as a middle name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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yes, I was thinking maybe this. It's hard, b/c there's really no feminine version of his name, and the first initial is so common in our family, it wouldn't be significant on its own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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What's the name? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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Jon [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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How about Jon Benet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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how nice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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joanna, joan? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:06 AM Flag
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Is Jon short for Jonathan? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:46 AM Flag
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that is what i did with my ds. my dad died when i was 6 mo pg and I used his first name as ds middle name. so glad i did [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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of course [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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No. Maybe first initial for middle name or even first, but I wouldn't feel obligated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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Only if you're Jewish [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:08 AM Flag
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not particularly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 10:50 AM Flag
[ - ] My mom keeps giving me the crooked eye because DD is still taking bottles (she's 13.5 months). Only bottle is the first feeding, in AM. I will admit. I could cut them out entirely. But I am lazy in the AM and she has her first bottle at 6AM in bed with me and DH. She needs to be sitting up in high chair for sippy cup. When do I really need to get my ass up and feed her from high chair for that first meal? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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big deal.no reason to give up the bottles at 1. We did easily at 17 mo. Dd is none the worse [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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no. Your mom needs to MHOB. You feed your baby however you want. My ds took milk from a bottle until he was 2, with no ill effects whatsoever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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ditto. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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OP: Thanks ladies. Why is my mom such a freak about it? We're African-American. is it a Black thing? Or an age thing? She keeps saying, "i had you and your brother off the bottle on your first birthday. threw them all out right after the party." WTF? (Of course, my brother and I sucked our thumbs until we were TWELVE) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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I don't know if it's cultural. Once in the grocery store my ds was drinking from a bottle-- and only just over a year at this point, and an AA woman loudly told him he was "too old for a bottle." I thought it was strange-- he was such a baby still! But that's only one example. I know my ped says it's a good idea not to let it go past 18 mos, for teeth, but she told me she'd rather my son drink enough milk, and as long as we were brushing, not to worry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:21 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm 14 weeks and I need to start buying maternity clothes. Where should I go? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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gap maternity (online if not in your area), old navy, h&m, target [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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belly danceis the best, they have a really selection and the prices arent awful. they also have a good website [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:08 AM Flag
[ - ] ladies, can you advise. 13 month old's sleep patterns are all over the place. She's been up since 8. shouldn't she be ready to nap? I put her down. And she's screaming bloody murder. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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I'm afraid that's about when ds decided he would no longer be sleeping in the am. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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OP: damn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:13 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm afraid ybm may be lame but they're smoking UB for feedback today 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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Not lame at all. It's awesome. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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what is ybm? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:37 AM Flag
[ - ] having neighbors oever tomorrow, burgers etc, what else should i serve? foreigner here, non cook, will eat outside. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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chocolate cake, corn, green salad, sausages, burgers, potatoe salad. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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wine, beer, cole slaw and potato salad - easy, something for dessert [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:07 AM Flag
[ - ] i'm the only person replying to anything 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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