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[ - ] If you live in NYC at what age did you (or do most) allow dc to stay alone in apt or walk/take subway alone in City? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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It depends on the the DC. Most families I know - between 10 and 12 for staying home alone for more than 15 or 20 minutes (between 8 - 10 for "I'm going to the deli, don't let anyone in" trips). Also between 10 and 12 for walking to/from school, a little older for subway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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I have a 10 and a 13 year old and don't agree. No one walks to school until mid-6th grade, which is 12, and many not until later. 2 13 yo's I know have ever taken the subway alone, and only because they live far from school. Staying home alone for a few minutes starts at 10, but for 30 minutes or more, at least 12. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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You have to know your dc, but 11 for walking to school,12 for taking the subway (easy, no change trips) and 11 for staying home alone for longer perods of time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 05:41 AM Flag
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this right on the money for everyone I know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 05:36 AM Flag
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6th grade [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:27 PM Flag
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home along for a run to the deli, around 9. most kids start going to school on their own when they start middle school, which is 11. most kids travel in groups on the bus. alone on the bus or subway varies greatly and really depends on parents situation. those that did it early (11, 12) did so because they didn't have a choice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 05:56 AM Flag
[ - ] newborn caught big sis' cold at 2wks old. she's 4wks now. ped says it can last a month. any btdts w/ advice? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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aw poor baby. if she gets congested, you can try a drop of saline in each nostril. sometimes, that's enough for her to sneeze out and clear up. if not, you can use a aspirator after the drop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 07:41 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm giving all of dd's newborn stuff to a friend who just had a baby. The clothes were washed, then put into storage (in zippered plastic bags). Should I wash everything again before giving it to my friend? My mom says she'll just wash it all again anyway. WWYD? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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Give to friend and just tell her that they were washed before they were put in storage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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just give it to her, she'll definitely wash it again anyway [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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just give it as is. your mom is right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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op: thanks, guys [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:31 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone get their nyc public pre-k letter yet? still waiting here 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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I didn't but now I've heard of several people who didn't get in anywhere and I'm freaked [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:21 PM Flag
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no, but we are using daycare UPK [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Curious for responses from the other boards... do you think you have the right to ask Grandma not to smoke indoors when you're visiting with the kids? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 05.24.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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Yes, your baby, your choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:09 PM Flag
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NP: but it's her house. You've always known that she's a smoker, so if it's that important to you, stay in a hotel. A guest doesn't get to dictate how their host behaves in their own home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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a daughter is not just any guest, by any stretch of the imagination; and when other guests are children, that makes it even more okay to make the request. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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It doesn't matter. It's not your house, you don't get to make the rules. If you are in someone else's home, even your parent's home, you can dictate the behavior of your own children, including what they get to eat, but you do not get to tell other adults how to behave. If you don't like what they are doing, you leave. Even at your parent's house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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np: i don't see how staying in a hotel would fix it. i'm sure they're there during the daytime, too. grandma should be able to bring herself to smoke outdoors for a couple of days to be able to see her grandkids, for god's sake. what's her problem? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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absolutely!! or stay in hotel if she doesn't agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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I wouldn't wait until I got there--when she tendered the invitation, I'd probably say, "We should stay in a hotel because I'm uncomfortable with you smoking around the kids." But, truthfully, the house will reak of smoke whether or not she's actually smoking indoors while you're there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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Staying in a hotel is not an option, and if I mention not coming becuase of it she says I'm emotionally blackmailing her.Addiction is ugly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:15 PM Flag
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if staying in a hotel is not an option, then just say you can't make it. why do you have to tell her why? say it's a difficult time to travel with the kids, and invite her to stay with you instead. and, at your home, you can insist she smoke only outdoors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:17 PM Flag
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agree with this. It is grandma's house so she can smoke, does not mean you have to visit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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np: y'know, that sounds awful. you have every right to put the health of your children first. if she can't understand that, I don't think she deserves the time with them. it sounds to me like she's more interested in proving some point about herself being the victim here than spending time with you all anyway. why do I say this? because my own mother is insane (although in very different way). anyway, i wouldn't put up with it. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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My father is a horrific chain smoker and has been his entire life. He has had NO problem with my request that he refrain from smoking indoors when we visit with dc. He even goes to the trouble to try to be as discreet as possible about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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np- her house her choice, but if no-one wants to visit it is still her problem [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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right, totally agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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yes, and if she can't comply, i'd say i'm sorry, we won't be able to visit you here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:36 PM Flag
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agree [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] My dd is 10 wks old. When do I stop the midnight feed? Currently she nurses approx every 2-3 hrs from 7am - 12am then sleeps. When she cries at midnight she only nurses a little then goes back to sleep. any btdt tia 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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I always fed mine at night until they stopped waking at night. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:12 PM Flag
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i stopped mine at like 16 weeks, keep doing it for a bit more, she may be drinking quickly at that feed and getting more than you think, how long does she nurse for at midnight? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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ok I will do. She nurses on one boob for just about 5 mins. I'm frightened to stop right now, as her not waking in the night is a godsend (I have twins age 2) Just wondered if what I'm doing is normal. thank you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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it is a god send you are so so so lucky! i would do the 5 minutes for a while, she'll eventually skip it, my db finally just skipped the meal when he didn't need it, slept through it. if she continues past 16 weeks or so you'll just end up soothing her with a pat on the back instead of the breast, the first night is not fun but they get it quickly and will just sleep through once they are not fed at that age. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:23 PM Flag
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thank you so much - having the twins was so totally different so I feel at a loss of how to handle one! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:26 PM Flag
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is it much easier having one? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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I put mine on a good daytime eating schedule (Gina Ford's book is very helpful), then waited until she stopped waking up at night to eat (which was around 8-10wo). I wouldn't have been able to CIO if db was still eating in the middle of the night. This worked with both my kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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there is no one size fits all answer to this. i fed my daughter at night for many months because she was just fairly high need and it was the best way for us all to get some sleep. when we added a bottle, my husband took over that feed. and one day, it just kind of stopped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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7 mo is still waking up at 10pm for a feeding. She cut it out on her own but then went through a growth spurt and it came back. I hope it just takes care of itself again...would prefer to not do any sleep training. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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eta. Even the weisbluth acknowledges that breast fed babies may need to eat during the night up to 9 months. SO 10 weeks is way, way to early to expect a breast fed baby to sleep through the night. If they do - great - but do not actively "stop" the feeding. The only active thing I would do is see if a pacifier works. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.25.08, 11:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Have the higher gas and food prices effected you and your family yet? What are you doing, if anything, to save $$? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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we don't drive [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:10 PM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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not visiting friends we have to drive to see, which is sad, eating things in our cupboard that i would let gather dust, not eating out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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It hasnt mademe change any behaviors except that I have been very light on the gas pedal (and I usually have a heavy foot) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:14 PM Flag
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nope [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Antipersperant suggestions? I use Mitchum but lately it does not seem to be working as well. I'm not sure why, but maybe something else is better? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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sometimes a brand I've been using for a while stops working and I have to switch to another one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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yah switching works, i'm on dove now and it is great [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:16 PM Flag
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switch it up -- maybe secret [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 07:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you know any boys named Nico? What are they called as a nickname? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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That's a pretty short name to make a nickname from. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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Nico is a nickname for Nicolas. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:13 PM Flag
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I knwo one and thye seem to call him nico [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:16 PM Flag
[ - ] help me do the math. if i have 2 bedrooms 18x13 and one living room 12x16 and kitchen 15x9, bathroom 9x9. what is the approx sq. ft. of my apt.? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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876SF [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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^^^but it may be larger b/c SF counts all the dead space like columns and structural walls. you pure living space is 876sf but you entire apt could be up to 950-1000sf [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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thank you so much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:03 PM Flag
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you are welcome. also, don't forget, all your closet space counts too as well as your apt entrance/foyer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:05 PM Flag
[ - ] DH just finished putting 3yo DS to bed. comes out and says did you hear that? i didn't. apparently DS was saying he wanted to be a girl. kind of weepy, do he could have long hair. mmm. phase or gay? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.24.08, 05:59 PM Flag
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probably neither, just a random thought (that would be my guess) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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OP: he did get his hair cut a week ago. but it wasn't long or anything. also came back from a business with a haircut [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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what does wanting to be a girl have to do with being gay? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:02 PM Flag
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OP: i really don't know. just throwing it out there as i new someone would. i guess because many gay men or effiminate, but you're right that doesn't mean they want to be the opposite sex. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:05 PM Flag
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my 3 yo dd said to me that she wants to be a boy. she is neither super girlie nor super tom-boyish. she loves all the girls' stuff- really into princesses and ballerinas and of course anything pink. i wouldn't read too much into it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:04 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm so afraid to have my 9 mo CIO, but I'm starting to feel like there's no choice!!! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:58 PM Flag
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is she on a schedule of feeding, playing, sleeping during the day? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:00 PM Flag
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not much of a schedule. What do you think i should do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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I'm one of those people who needed things spelled out for me. I was tearing my hair out with all the crying, etc when ds was a baby. My friend told me about a book called Babywise. It spells everything out for you, how to get babies on a schedule, and helps you interpret their crying. Helped a lot!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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thank you so much. I have heard of this book, but wasn't sure if it was very good. I think i'll get it! Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:07 PM Flag
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Babywise is trash. Stay away. Google it and see what I'm talking about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:11 PM Flag
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ITTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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Babywise has been called very harmful by many other authorities on the subject. I totally sympathize with the lack of sleep, but only in America in 2008 would parents be so obsessed with controlling their children's sleep and getting them on a schedule. They're babies, people. Relax and go with the flow a little more. Find a way to work it out that isn't abandoning your kid! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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of course you have a choice. Don't fool yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:08 PM Flag
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tell me my options... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:18 PM Flag
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does db go down for naps by him/herself in day? if yes then it is probably developmental and db is working on self soothing, some babies it just takes longer, try to cio a little for naps if db still cries for those. start with naps, and see if db can do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:19 PM Flag
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he cries for naps, too. so I should start CIO for naps, and then once he gets those down, do it at night? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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read up on the anxiety it causes kids later…I have seen this…you are already at 9 months…I swear I think you only have a month more to go and the baby will sleep on it's own [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.09.15, 06:14 PM Flag
[ - ] when did you dc give up night diapers? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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after dc was pee pee trained during the day. My kids never pooped in their pull ups at night so I stopped using them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you ever wonder if other moms like you? (moms you only know casually). Ever feel like no one likes you? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:51 PM Flag
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yes and yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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in my neighborhood, it's like junior high all over again! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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I know most of them don't, so I don't care [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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I rarely have time to see the women I have been friends with for 15 or 20 years. I like the parents of DDs friends, that's good enough for me. I don't have to be prom queen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Where can I hire a great costume complete with accessories - without it costing as much as buying? tia 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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you mean rent? abracadabra. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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sorry yeah I'm British, so I say hire haha - ok I'll look there - everywhere I've called has been ridiculously expensive [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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cheaper to look online and buy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] what's up with pre-k? we didn't get our letter today, what's the word out there? I have only heard bad news so far... 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.24.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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We never even got our OLSAT results, can you believe that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:41 PM Flag
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woa. that inspires confidence... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:47 PM Flag
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We got our letter today. Applied to 5 park slope schools. Dinged everywhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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There are five public pre-ks in park slope?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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321, 282, 107, 59, 10 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:54 PM Flag
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that is so crazy. I have only heard a few stories so far, but that is what they all say. how can that be? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:50 PM Flag
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where in your list of 5 did you put your zoned school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 05:57 PM Flag
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321, our zoned school, was first choice. But they only have one full day class. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.24.08, 06:01 PM Flag
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