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[ - ] How old is too old to have a baby IYHO? 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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My aunt had a baby when she was 54. All is well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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What ethnic background are you/is she? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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60 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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35 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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for me? I'm almost 36 and TTC #3. so, I hope 36 will be the end for me (had hoped to be done by 35, though) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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^^want to be done w/diapers by 40 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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good question. i'm 36 - going on 37 this year and have a 2mo db. hoping to have one more and am wondering if we should just start now or wait. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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It's relative. I don't think it's a matter of chron age, but a matter of lifestyle. I think if you're a "young" 40s woman in excellent health with energy and vitality I think it's fine. Do you want to chase a toddler at age 50? Do you want to have a kindergartner in your ealry 50s? I mean it's all relative. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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i completely agree with this. live in nyc area and have noticed a real change...had my oldest at 30 and felt on the young side had my youngest at 38 and i feel that most of the moms of kids her age (2) are my age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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The "health" of your eggs and reproductive system has very little to do with how well you take care of yourself and much more with genetics which you have no control over. I know for me that is the biggest reason to stop at at a certain age despite a youthful appearance. I feel there are too many risks both for myself and for the child past age 40. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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OR. I agree with you. My statement presupposes that the mature mom has had any and all necessart tests possible to detect birth defects or abnormalities with the embryo. My sister was just short of her 43rd birthday when she gave birth to her youngest child, who arrived in perfect health. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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And also that mom is willing to terminate. For example, I would not go past age 35 because I would not terminate except for a life threatening condition. And 35 is my hypothetical limit-- I'm 32 and done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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My DD always points out when a mom of a kid in her class looks "old". And she did not get that habit from me. "Why does so and so's mommy look like a grandma?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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she sounds darling [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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Sounds like you need a serious conversation with DD. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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so-where did she get this habit from? and where do you live that moms in their 40's look like grandparents? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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seriously. Ony 65 yos look 40 these days. And yes 65 yo is to old to be having kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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Maybe in CA or FL. that's the case, but in the Northeast many women just let themselves go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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itd with this. all the "older moms" at our preschool look better than the younger moms and have more $$ which helps [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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not in the Northeast I live in. I am of the age where most of my friends parents are in their 60's and none of them look it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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Better to have one a little older than preferred than not at all. So depends on situation. I would say 45 is too old. Mostly from an energy point of view and not being 50 when dc starts kindergarden. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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I would agree with you that personally for me 45 may be too old. Although if I had oops pregnancy at that age I think I'd keep the baby regardless. But I think it's silly for people to be obsessed about what others do. If someone wants to be a parent at 50, it is their choice not mine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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i think 44 is the upper limit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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I don't think chron age is the issue. I think it's your lifestyle. I posted above about this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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i definitely agree, but when you are 45, you have to think about more than the present. Am i ok with being 50 when dd is in K. Am i ok with being 72 when she graduates from college, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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np: The thing I find hillarious is that it's just women obsessing over this. Several kids in my dd's class have dads in their 60s already (second families) and the guys never give it second thought. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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its cause the guys dont give birth to them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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no, but the whole my kid will be in college while I am 70 sort of thing just does not mean anything to them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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For me, I think at least one person in the parental relationship must be able to see the kids through adulthood. My friend married a guy 15yrs our senior and he's in good health but you never know...so good she is younger. I would say the same if the woman were older and the man were younger. I do have issue with single moms getting pg when they are older b/c there is no one there for the kids..or when both are older. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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You never know these things. Some people live healthy well into their 80s these days, and others die in their 50s suddenly. There are no guarantees in life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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GREAT POINT! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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Varies from person to person. I had my second at 38, and I'm pretty exhausted so I can't imagine having another baby when I'm older--but that's me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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For me-- I would not have one past 35. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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funny. none of my friends even started having kids until their mid 30s. Many of my friends had their first near 40. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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My husband is older by 9 years (that is one factor) I also know myself very well-- I wanted to have young children when I was at my most energetic. I am glad I did. For some people it makes sense to delay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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I had my 4th at 41, now 46. If I could get pg again I'd do it in a heartbeat but has 3 m/s before last db so no chance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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When you are too old to conceive on your own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:06 AM Flag
[ - ] toddler sleep help needed, please. my 2 yo dd who usually sleeps well is fighting going to bed. she doesn't want to go into her crib, only wants to sleep with dh and/or me in our bed. if we just put her in her crib, she will scream for us until we take her out - as long as 30 minutes. any suggestions as to how to get her back into her crib? tia 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.27.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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imo you are going to have to let her scream at this point [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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how long is too long to let her scream? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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you said she's scream for as long as 30 minutes - i don't think that's too long [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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after 30 minutes, we give in and take her out of the crib. she would keep going. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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i'd probably let her scream until she stops. she knows 30 minutes will get her what she wants so who knows how long she'll go. i'm guessing not much longer really. she just needs to realize there's no alternative to her own bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:24 AM Flag
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thanks. i just hate to hear her cry and she really screams. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:26 AM Flag
[ - ] Is it common for a grown woman to be stuck communicating at the level of a 14 years old? Someone pointed this out to me about someone I know recently and it's true. I've always thought she was just kind of offensive but really it's sarcasm, defensiveness, etc. like my teenager. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:15 AM Flag
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My sister is like this and she is 53! She acts like a high school kid. She reads into eveything anyone says. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:33 AM Flag
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how do you deal with her? i must admit it makes me crazy (and I'm talking about mil here unfortunately) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Looking for a great NYC restaurant for about 15-20 people. Would prefer a private room within a restaurant if possible. Any ideas? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:12 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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Many thanks! Looks wonderful! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:22 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone gone car shopping recently? we can't afford to buy, so i'm wondering if there's a lease deal out there for under $200 that will fit our 2 toddlers... we're thinking jetta, corolla or civic. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:08 AM Flag
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we leased a jetta and love it. corolla's aren't great cars- you'd be better off with a camry for slightly more. my tip is to download the leasing software before you do and read up. you can get ripped off with a lease so badly. but if you know that you are or arent planning to buy the car at the end of the lease, you can get a much better deal. we got a great deal on ours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:26 AM Flag
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we're big fans of civics. take care of it and it'll last for very long time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:28 AM Flag
[ - ] how did you potty train your toddler? trying to decide the best way. Not looking forward to this stage... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:07 AM Flag
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put on big girl undies, sat her on potty every 10-15 min for a few days, rewarded for success. after a few days, she was telling me every time she needed to go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:11 AM Flag
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we are sucking at training our 3yo boy. he refuses to go in potty but can hold it. did you just stay inside for a few days? (not op) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:28 AM Flag
[ - ] why doesn't ybm work during the day? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:07 AM Flag
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what do you mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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I can't get on - can you? maybe my work blocks it? never have trouble from home [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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than it's blocked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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just weird because I've never encountered anything that was blocked before. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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anyone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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It works during the day. Not sure what you're saying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:10 AM Flag
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see above - so weird. It takes me to the google search pages where it says it doesn't find the site. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:12 AM Flag
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Works fine for me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:52 AM Flag
[ - ] do you think it is ok to chew sugarless gum when pg? ive been averaging about one pack of orbit per day- it is the only thing that helps with the nausea. concerned about the aspartame. ty 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.27.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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anyone??!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:08 AM Flag
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ask your doctor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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i did it from time to time. i'm sure it's fine but db's not out yet so I can't be sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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I did that. I had to my mouth was so dry otherwise. DD is great! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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It's probably ok, but I chose to chew regular gum b/c I didn't want the chemicals. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:31 AM Flag
[ - ] so i posted last week about putting in an offer on a house in bergen county for $375K. Well, we got it! Suburbia, here we come! 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:01 AM Flag
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congrats! which town? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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river edge. it's a tiny house, but it's a start... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:02 AM Flag
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good for you! enjoy :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:04 AM Flag
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thanks! we'll try. i've lived in apt. in the city all my life, so it's going to take lots of adjusting... i'm doing it for my babies (2.5yo and 1yo) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:04 AM Flag
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good friends live there- which side of town are you on? It's good town, decent schools. Good luck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:04 AM Flag
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definitely in the poor side of town, lol. i don't know which side... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:06 AM Flag
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it's great town! enjoy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:07 AM Flag
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where on earth did you pull that off? Best wishes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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see above. can you believe it?!?! we HAD to get it even if we're going to be house poor (hhi $100k). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:04 AM Flag
[ - ] How much should I tip the guys delivering two small trees, soil, and rocks to my rooftop garden? In a walk-up TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:54 AM Flag
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just "buy them lunch." I'd say no more than $15 each. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:56 AM Flag
[ - ] Nap schedule: I keep hearing I must get baby on a schedule. My 8 week old resists napping except when put in bouncy seat at times or in the stroller, please advise and help!! If it is too early for this, how does it happen? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 05.27.08, 05:52 AM Flag
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don't worry about this until at least 4 months [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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^^all you need to know right now is the 2 hr rule [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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op: I know the rule and I have tried to get her back to a nap within 2 hours but mostly won't do it unless we go for a stroll and then it might only be a 20 minute nap or so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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at 8 weeks my ds could only handle about an hour of wakefulness. try to get db down earlier. really at that age it's - wake, eat for 45 minutes, and then back to sleep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:58 AM Flag
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np: itta [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:59 AM Flag
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op: VERY tough but I am trying!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:06 AM Flag
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thanks good to know just trying to get her in the habit now if at all possible, will her willingness to nap evolve? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:56 AM Flag
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or - absolutely. i wasted so much energy trying to get my db on a schedule early on. it really doesn't happen until at least 4 months. now at 6 he is finally napping on a regular basis. gl! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:59 AM Flag
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op: thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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ita. 8wks is so young but read the contended baby by gina ford. i didnt use it bcoz i was too lazy but i know people who did and raved about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:58 AM Flag
[ - ] tyler always sounds like he has a cold 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:50 AM Flag
[ - ] speaking of television - my MIL keeps asking me if db is "watching tv yet." he's 6 months old and she's been talking to me about this since he was a month old. she thinks there is educational value in baby einstien videos. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:49 AM Flag
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she could do some research and read how there isn't that much value in baby einstein, at least not at that age. my ds didn't watch tv until he was 2 and he can entertain himself for hours reading, playing. when my IL asked about the tv I just told them I wasn't ready to relinquish control of the remote just yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Just found out pg (about 5 weeks) and just had two weekends full of drinking (weddings).... I didn't know. Should I be freaking out? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:47 AM Flag
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absolutely not. congratulations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:50 AM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:53 AM Flag
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nope had the same with my second- and she's the smarter one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:53 AM Flag
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no there are tons of other things to freak out about later! Congrats! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:54 AM Flag
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congratulations! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Going to wedding in August. Semi-formal and outdoors. Will be extremely hot & humid. What shall 18 mo ds wear? Any suggestions? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 05:47 AM Flag
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a white shirt and a nice pair of shorts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:06 AM Flag
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Linen shorts and a polo shirt. Children's Place has washable linen shorts for about $15. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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