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05.27.08, 06:18 AM General Topics
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How old is too old to have a baby IYHO? [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 05.27.08, 06:18 AM Flag
 

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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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My aunt had a baby when she was 54. All is well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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What ethnic background are you/is she? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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60 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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35 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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for me? I'm almost 36 and TTC #3. so, I hope 36 will be the end for me (had hoped to be done by 35, though) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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^^want to be done w/diapers by 40 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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good question. i'm 36 - going on 37 this year and have a 2mo db. hoping to have one more and am wondering if we should just start now or wait. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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It's relative. I don't think it's a matter of chron age, but a matter of lifestyle. I think if you're a "young" 40s woman in excellent health with energy and vitality I think it's fine. Do you want to chase a toddler at age 50? Do you want to have a kindergartner in your ealry 50s? I mean it's all relative. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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i completely agree with this. live in nyc area and have noticed a real change...had my oldest at 30 and felt on the young side had my youngest at 38 and i feel that most of the moms of kids her age (2) are my age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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The "health" of your eggs and reproductive system has very little to do with how well you take care of yourself and much more with genetics which you have no control over. I know for me that is the biggest reason to stop at at a certain age despite a youthful appearance. I feel there are too many risks both for myself and for the child past age 40. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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OR. I agree with you. My statement presupposes that the mature mom has had any and all necessart tests possible to detect birth defects or abnormalities with the embryo. My sister was just short of her 43rd birthday when she gave birth to her youngest child, who arrived in perfect health. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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And also that mom is willing to terminate. For example, I would not go past age 35 because I would not terminate except for a life threatening condition. And 35 is my hypothetical limit-- I'm 32 and done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:38 AM Flag
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My DD always points out when a mom of a kid in her class looks "old". And she did not get that habit from me. "Why does so and so's mommy look like a grandma?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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she sounds darling [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:42 AM Flag
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Sounds like you need a serious conversation with DD. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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so-where did she get this habit from? and where do you live that moms in their 40's look like grandparents? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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seriously. Ony 65 yos look 40 these days. And yes 65 yo is to old to be having kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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Maybe in CA or FL. that's the case, but in the Northeast many women just let themselves go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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itd with this. all the "older moms" at our preschool look better than the younger moms and have more $$ which helps [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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not in the Northeast I live in. I am of the age where most of my friends parents are in their 60's and none of them look it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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Better to have one a little older than preferred than not at all. So depends on situation. I would say 45 is too old. Mostly from an energy point of view and not being 50 when dc starts kindergarden. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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I would agree with you that personally for me 45 may be too old. Although if I had oops pregnancy at that age I think I'd keep the baby regardless. But I think it's silly for people to be obsessed about what others do. If someone wants to be a parent at 50, it is their choice not mine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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i think 44 is the upper limit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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I don't think chron age is the issue. I think it's your lifestyle. I posted above about this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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i definitely agree, but when you are 45, you have to think about more than the present. Am i ok with being 50 when dd is in K. Am i ok with being 72 when she graduates from college, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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np: The thing I find hillarious is that it's just women obsessing over this. Several kids in my dd's class have dads in their 60s already (second families) and the guys never give it second thought. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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its cause the guys dont give birth to them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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no, but the whole my kid will be in college while I am 70 sort of thing just does not mean anything to them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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For me, I think at least one person in the parental relationship must be able to see the kids through adulthood. My friend married a guy 15yrs our senior and he's in good health but you never know...so good she is younger. I would say the same if the woman were older and the man were younger. I do have issue with single moms getting pg when they are older b/c there is no one there for the kids..or when both are older. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:18 AM Flag
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You never know these things. Some people live healthy well into their 80s these days, and others die in their 50s suddenly. There are no guarantees in life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:24 AM Flag
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GREAT POINT! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:30 AM Flag
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Varies from person to person. I had my second at 38, and I'm pretty exhausted so I can't imagine having another baby when I'm older--but that's me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 06:49 AM Flag
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For me-- I would not have one past 35. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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funny. none of my friends even started having kids until their mid 30s. Many of my friends had their first near 40. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:13 AM Flag
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My husband is older by 9 years (that is one factor) I also know myself very well-- I wanted to have young children when I was at my most energetic. I am glad I did. For some people it makes sense to delay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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I had my 4th at 41, now 46. If I could get pg again I'd do it in a heartbeat but has 3 m/s before last db so no chance. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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When you are too old to conceive on your own. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.27.08, 11:06 AM Flag
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