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[ - ] Good God this place is so dead? WTF happened to all the people? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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come back in the afternoon. It's starting to pick up. Give it another couple of weeks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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fridays are always quieter. the problem is that the board is at the point where quieter is still really really quiet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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Lot of people on vaca, leaving for the weekend, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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Went to a different site. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:09 AM Flag
[ - ] What is your 7-10 mo eating? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 05.30.08, 08:49 AM Flag
[ - ] It really drives me crazy -- DH invoices me for all kinds of stuff at the end of the month -- only big items (rent, nanny), but it still does not feel to me how a marriage should be. We both work & earn abt the same. If you are a couple that puts $ into a joint acct to deal with this, how much do you put? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.30.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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I have a joint account and I have no idea what you're talking about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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how much do you each put in? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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All our money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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np: Same here. Way too hard to do it any other way IMO. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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I know. And then, from the joint account, we figure out what goes into either investments or savings or whatever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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np: ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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NP: All our cash goes in the joint account too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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not what you asked, but dh and I have always maintained separate accounts. We just pay for different things...and I do give him a bill about every 3 months or so for big-ticket items [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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we keep our money seperate but take turns paying for things. Actually we don't track it very carefully. Salaries pay expenses, bonuses get banked for savings [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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is this a written invoice or does he just say "i paid for x and y, can you reimburse me". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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He "invoices" you? That's pretty demeaning. Sit down with him and make a budget. Plan for who will pay for what. Then there should be no need for humiliating "invoicing." [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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Why would having a joint account preclude you from leaving/divorcing your husband? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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NP. I think the OR's Dad handled the money, and this was probably a common/legitimate thing - that women wouldn't have $ to leave? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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Oh, I understand her mom feeling that way but not someone who is the primary wage earner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:45 AM Flag
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NP again. Oh, yeah - I see. I guess she's just very sensitive to it? BTW, my Mom had credit cards only in my Dad's name and no account in her name only but they were happy and my Mom was a SAHM but if anyone says their son bought their daughter-in-law x,y or z she spazzes. Totally thinks of it all as their joint money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:48 AM Flag
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all our accounts are joint -- we don't have separate accounts (except for IRAs and 401ks of course). been that way since we got engaged. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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dh makes way more than i do, so rather than how much i put into the joint account (it's all money he made), i have a separate account w money i've made. we both like it that way--everything related to household and kids and joint things comes out of the joint acct, whereas my personal purchases (purses, shoes, etc.) comes out of mine. i like it this way to see how much i spend (i also have my own cc card for this purpose.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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- Plus, who wants them to see the shoe bill! Each person needs a little freedom as long as everyone is in sync on how much to put away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:49 AM Flag
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my dh and i make about the same money and all of our accounts are joint. he doesn't care about the shoe bill and i don't care about whatever luxury items he spends money on -- if i'm going to pay $1000 on a single item, i'll give him a head's up -- otherwise, he doesn't care, and neither do i. we bank our bonuses and discuss how investments are allocated. but otherwise, the cc bills come in and get paid. there's no invoicing or whatever going on. it's a shared pool and we spend as we please, within reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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DH earns much more than me so he pays for most things and I pay for a college savings plan, groceries. I agree that going through the bills like that is too roommate like. Maybe you can either send some $ into a joint account automatically (the amount would be the amount you need for the bills it will cover) or pick and choose bills. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:46 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:54 AM Flag
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you should invoice him for sex [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:57 AM Flag
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I make more than dh and manage the joint account. He has his own personal account and we are each responsible for paying certain bills each month. It works out well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:59 AM Flag
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I only have one word for this: ridiculous! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 10:09 AM Flag
[ - ] doing something wrong with this new interface, why can't i get the filters to work right, i'm constantly resetting the filters, settings never save 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.30.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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Are you hitting "save as default" and then "Use my default"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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i thought so, but i guess not fully...but will try again [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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^thanks for the technical support [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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LOL, thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:03 AM Flag
[ - ] So now that the Anderson placement is by lottery, what effect do you think that will have on the "status" of PS9 G&T, since kids are assigned to one or another randomly? Do you think the PS9GT will have to accelerate their program even more? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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What? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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You are making no sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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PS9 G&T is not accelerated at all, neither are any other G&Ts. They move faster and go deeper into some topics as they don't need to spend so much time on basics, but that's the extent of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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ps9 G&T has been getting very smart kids with 99s for quite some time. most would do very well at anderson or hunter or anywhere. this year is not new. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:08 AM Flag
[ - ] what is the process for getting a variance? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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^the public school close by is good, but i'm zoned for a bad one further away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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variances are for the most part done with. They RARELY give a dc a variance. We tried 4 yrs ago since our zoned public is failing but no luck. We went private [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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so there is no process? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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well 4 yrs ago I was told that the failing schools in the outer boroughs were given preference to attend a Manhattan school before the dc from a failing school here in the city. This was 4yrs ago so things may have changed but I've heard they have done away with variances [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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where? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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I live near I think its ps41 (2nd ave 19th str), but am zoned for a bad school in the east village [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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np: are you zoned for ps40? that isn't bad. Now PS 19 (13st and 1st ave) is a bad school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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^^^I posted above (the one that applied out 4 yrs ago). I live on 11th and Ave C. Our zone school is PS 34. That place is a joke [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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that's PS 40 that you live near. PS 41 is on 6th ave and 11st [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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yeah you're right, but i'm not zoned for that, but live 2 blocks away, am zoned for east village one 13th and 1st and that is bad and further away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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yes that's PS 19 and it's bad (you are right). My friend taught there and left after a yr. She said she found it took difficult to teach when the parents don't want to listen to her suggestions. She hated the place and couldn't leave fast enough [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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so what can i do, maddening since across the street gets to go to the good school, i understand ps 40 is actually pretty good [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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np - But you're in a different district. So you have to work within D1. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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what does that mean? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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PS 40 is in D2. You are in D1. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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so i'm SOL? variances are only within the same district? sorry, I'm so clueless? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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As far as I know, yes. So you have D1 options which include lotteries (I believe) for the East Village progressive schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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am too traditionalist for those schools, and someone in my building goes to the earth school and they really don't like it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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yes I heard PS 40 is good too. You can try for the G&T schools like Nest that is on Houston and Columbia (M14) leaves you on the corner..or you can try for a lottery at Neighborhood school, Earth school (if you would like). We personally went private. Not sure if catholic school is an option but EPIPHANY is a very good school and so close to you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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yeah, am catholic, and stupidly am parishioner at st. francis xavier, just called today to become parishionner at epiphany. I drove past Nest on Houston and my DS said no way in hell is our kid going to a school that looks like that, we'd move first. I'd love to go private, but [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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^ btw, meant DH said no way, but, DS is summer birthday and I'm trying to be realistic about his chances (as wonderful and gifted as i think he is) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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yes so try Epiphany if you could. I know their admission season is in Jan or Feb. but they start tours in Late Nove or Dec [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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np - What's wrong with NEST? I thought one of the best things about it was their facilities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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maybe her DH wasn't happy with the neighborhood [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:05 AM Flag
[ - ] WooHoo..turning 40 this weekend. BRING IT ON! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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I like your attitude [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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op: thanks :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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Happy Birthday! what are you doing to celebrate? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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op: THANKS..going away for the weekend [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:00 AM Flag
[ - ] OK, my 14mo is transitioning from 2 naps to 1, the problem is she likes to nap in the morning and she takes and 1 - 1.5 nap and then is up until bedtime. She gets cranky around 3, but that's to late to take another nap imo...I'm trying to push the morning nap later but having a hard time...what to do? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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this was my dd exactly. She gave up her 2nd nap at 12mo and would nap at 10am for about 1.5hrs. She would stay up all afternoon and did get a bit tired around 3pm but great thing was that she went to sleep at 6pm without a problem [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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op: my did is the same! Has it gotten better? Does she still do this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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or: she is 3.8 yr now and about a yr ago gave up naps completely. She still us up at 6am and down to sleep at 6:30pm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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op: when she was napping, was she still on that nap schedule you said from before? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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yes she never changed from a late morning nap [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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^^this was new to me since my #1 dd gave up the morning nap first [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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I would stick with 2 naps for a few more months. The average age to go from on to two according to Weissbluth is 16 months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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op: after her morning nap she refuses an afternoon nap most days. so it's hard to do this..she jsut wants to nap after it's too late(around 3 like I said)....driving me crazy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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np: don't let her nap too late. It will throw her entire schedule off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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np: I have 2 kids (one on the way) you cannot force a dc to take 2 naps. If they are giving it up they give it up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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True however you can spend more time soothing. I can still get my 4 year old to nap by laying with him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:50 AM Flag
[ - ] Need opinion on best umbrella stroller for NYC. Will be used heavily year-round, rain or shine in Manhattan. Also, which extras should I get with it? And who are the best-priced local and internet vendors for strollers? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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maclaren volo or triumph. albees has good prices usually. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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thanks. why not techno? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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heavier. but it too is a good stroller. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:26 AM Flag
[ - ] So many crane accidents. I feel like things are being rushed to be finished. I wonder if this rush to complete the build has something to do with all of the mishaps 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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Of course. It's all about money. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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op; so sad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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True, but I blame Bloomberg, who has been very pro-development, but has not been as proactive in making sure that the building frenzy is being regulated sufficienctly. And don't get me started on lack of foresight to make sure infrastructure and schools can support these new developments. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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op: Oh I agree. I'm in the village and they aren't doing anything about the school situation with all of the new developements [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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what developments? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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in the east village we don't have the high rises BUT we do have many of our small empty lots and old buildings being renovated and developed. More kids than ever [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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np - I see lots of cheap looking developments along Houston on the west side. What's that - LES? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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how could the lower east side be in the west side? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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I'm sorry - I meant Houston on the east side [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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oh, thought you meant west village [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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Of course that building *was* building a new middle school - but they received air rights for that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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don't you think that the blame should go to the contractors who freaking installed that crane in the first place (and probably made a lot of shortcuts)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 10:03 AM Flag
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If there were thorough building inspectors and a likelihood that you will get caught and severely punished for cutting corners, then the contractors would be much less likely to do take shortcuts. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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you should put the blame a few steps higher. God is to blame for putting dumb human beings into this world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 10:12 AM Flag
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True, but we don't elect God. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 10:23 AM Flag
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I heard that the crane had been inspected and was in compliance w/ all codes. perhaps this was a manufacturer defect. poor crane operator, though. weeks away from his wedding :-( [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 10:05 AM Flag
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Or the building inspector was bribed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 10:11 AM Flag
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that's a pretty hefty accusation to make considering how the accident happened. apparently the cab and arm fell over. I would think even the most evil contractors out there would have a vested interest in a safe crane b/c (1) cranes crashing hurts their construction site, (2) costs them a LOT of money, and (3) it's a big expensive mess to clean up, and (4) cranes are usually contracted out anyway because it's such a specialized piece of equipment, so even the contractors have sub contractors for cranes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 10:19 AM Flag
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That is a whole lot of logic and rational thought for a post like this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 10:24 AM Flag
[ - ] I love reading about the school craziness! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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I find interesting the crazy school post during admission season when you obviously can figure out the poster has no first hand knowledge of the school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Bloomie is going to have someone's ass. Watch out 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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Did you watch the press conference? He sounded s PO'd! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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Wouldn't you be? Such bad PR for the city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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I don't blame him -- but it was very noticeable. Also thought he was snappy with reporters (again, I get why). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Any Chicago Moms on? Can you recommend a moving co? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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Golans is decent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 04:17 PM Flag
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Golans sucks. 1st Class Moving & Storage or Midway [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 08:57 PM Flag
[ - ] my nearly 4 year old has gotten very difficult in the last few weeks, everything is no and throwing, hitting (occasionally)...always been so sweet, what is going on? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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welcome to the f*cking fours [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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when my kids went through that mI found it helpful to get down on their level and do a craft or activity together- focus on what you are doing together instead of focusing on your child. fwiw [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Moms whose kids have year-round CPSE approval: Do you still give your therapists end of the year gifts even though you'll see them in the summer? Thanks. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Special Needs 05.30.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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yes. Always do June and Dec. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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No, only at Xmas. And then a parting gift when they finish with us for good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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no, i have always done end-of-the-year (aug) and dec [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:28 PM Flag
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I do holiday and end of summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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