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[ - ] HELP! DD (2.5) was toilet trained with no accidents in two weeks... now she's had 7 accidents in two days~! Doesn't want to sit on the potty, didn't even tell me when she pooped in her underwear.... Any advice appreciated. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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It's a process. You have to help make it a success for at least 6 months by asking "Let's try the potty" every couple of hours. I have a 6 yo who will still grasp her vagina and dance in place while she colors and I have to say "I see you have to go to the bathroom, so go". The get absorbed and forget and at 2.5 have accidents and then shame. Help her out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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I want to reinforce the notion that poopinjg in her underwear is not OK (of course she knows) without shaming her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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thats not how it works (and - with that attitude - i am not surprised you are having problems) you reward GOOD behavior - not punish bad. its the most effective way to teach (proven in animal, adult and child studies) np [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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are you kidding me? my attitude is fine, I don't shame her, of course it's all positive reinforcement, that's how she trained herself in the first place.... just wondering if anyone has any thoughts on handling regression. Helpful thoughts, not lecturing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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whatever - poster below and i both think its you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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whatever indeed. the poster below was helpful, thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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Poster Below here. ITA. OP, you are expecting too much. You need to be nice and help your dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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WTF Is the matter with you people? I am very nice to my DD! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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Below poster here. I think it was the comment about it NOT being ok to poop in panties (seemed like you were annoyed and she should know better). She is 2.5 and can't alwasy remembers. She spent 2.4 years pooping in her pants and can't unlearn that in 2 weeks without help and a few forgetful moments. That's all. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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Ah. Well, I wasn't saying that to HER, I was saying that to you anonymous folks to just vent a little bit. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:43 AM Flag
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OP, regressions are VERY common-- not necessarily your fault but just try to keep your wits about you. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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But she didn't tell you because she is ashamed and worried about your reaction. You have to say "You're learning to use the potty, mommy will help you remember next time. It's ok you had an accident." and then tell her to try the potty every 1.5 hours or so. Kids poop around the same time each day. Be home and ask her to go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:21 AM Flag
[ - ] carat cc or erwin pearl for fake diamond earrings? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.30.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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I have erwin pearls that I wear everyday and I get complimented on them all the time. The setting is very delicate which makes it look real. Often fake diamond are given away by the setting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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fake diamond earrings? are they jackets? don't like fake diamonds or cubics under any circumstances. ditch the fakes; buy pearl studs instead. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:27 AM Flag
[ - ] can you return things at la perla with no receipt that has tags on it for an exchange? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.30.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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shouldn't you check with them instead of us? I don't get these sorts of questions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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np; ITA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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ditto (or tritto) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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its faster to ask on here. if someone knows, it saves half an hour on the phone. and you never ask questions that you can get the answer from somewhere else? please (np) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:34 AM Flag
[ - ] 38 wks pg and yesterday was feeling terrible--back pain, tons of braxton hicks, sour stomach. Are those signs of early labor or just that I overdid it and ate badly? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 05.30.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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it could be either honestly. Did you overdo it (activity-wise) the day before? how do you feel today? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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I did overdo it a bit yesterday afternoon. Back still killing me today, not as many bh and stomach a little bit better. Exhausted and no appetite. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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hmmm...labor could be coming soon. Did you back just start hurting you? My back didn't start bothering me until 38 weeks and then I had back labor (at 39 wks) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:41 AM Flag
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Back's been hurting on and off for the past month, but it's escalated. Also the acidy feeling in my stomach is new. Could barely sleep last night I felt so rotten. Hoping it's labor! Thank you so much for helping. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Can we talk lice in schools? In a general sense; experiences with liceneders, hair fairies, over the counter shampoo, preventitive measures, old wives tales that work etc? I don't know why but families are so incredibly afraid to admit that their child had lice (even when the class is notified that its in the classroom) - maybe on an anon board we can all share tips? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.30.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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We had lice about 5 years ago - me too, YUCK!. I looked into the services, but got really nervous that we'd shell out around $1000 (5 in family and they'd have to do all even the 2 that didn't seem to have it) when the school really didn't monitor all kids that well and lice notices had been coming home for months that year. So we bought otc shampoos and washed the hell out of our hair, washed all sheets, pillows, etc and wore olive oil in our hair all day for about a week. We haven't had a problem since. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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np thanks! we got a notice from DD's school but she didn't seem to catch them, but we were wondering how we'd deal with it b/c we don;'t have tons of $$ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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We did pay 1k for entire family and then became reinfested because the other parents in the class didn't treat properly. The next time we did otc for weeks on end. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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What are hair fairies? We haven't been hit yet - knock on wood - but I haven't seen any reluctance to admit dc had lice among the families we know. What school are you at? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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hair fairies is a place you go where they treat and comb out t he nits for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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the otc shampoos (rid) have chemicals and only kill live bugs, not nits. we've never gone through this, but i've been told that the best thing to do is use a nit comb, and make sure you comg every day for a few days, to ensure you have ridden yourself of all the nits. the bugs die easily -- they need a head to host and cannot live on sheets, stuffed animals, rugs, and the like. they're head lice, not bed bugs or body lice. do the combing, vacuum your couches and rugs (for sanity more than anything else), wash your sheets, and that's that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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I have a question on this one - all the places that treat you in nyc say that a)rid doesn't work that the lice have become immune and b)that they have harsh chemicals. So what is in the shampoo that Hair faires and the like? You can't kill a living thing with something that isn't harsh. So, what is the ingredient that kills them if not a harsh chemical? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 10:56 AM Flag
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The chemical shampoos do not work in my experience. Hair Fairies will sell you a shampoo with Tea Tree (which is not so great as it has phytoestrogens I think) that you can use in the kids' hair. They also show you how to put tons of conditioner in the hair, let it sit, and then comb out the hair with long metal tooth lice comb wiping after each stroke against a white towel to look for nits. Keep doing it until you are clean wiping for a few days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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Thank you, so what you are saying is that Hair Faires sells you something just as harmful, but because it is "natural" people think it isn't harmful? I'm being serious, not snarky - honest. I'm trying to figure out how you could kill a living organism without a pestiside (natural or man made). Not the nits, I get that part, but the animals themselves. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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Did you use Rid and it didn't kill all of the lice? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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There's a really amazing orthodox lice lady in Borough Park (Abigail Rosenfeld - she was written up in the New Yorker a few years ago). It's a schlep from Manhattan but her work is much faster and much, much less expensive than Licenders, Hair Fairies, etc. Very effective treatment - she took care of me and both our dds and we had no recurrences. Highly, highly recommend her over Licenders (cost us $1200 the time we used them, much more painful, had to oil our hair for a week). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 12:52 PM Flag
[ - ] If you have a newborn, do you keep her in long sleeves/pants during summer to keep the sun off her? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Newborn 05.30.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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ummmm, no, you keep her out of the sun alltogether [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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no. first they will overheat. newborns can't regulate their body temp well and can get overheated quickly. second, most clothing has an SPF of about 4, so long sleeves actually do very little. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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hell no. Not good to overheat them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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No, just lather dc in sunscreen i love the aveeno baby SPF 60 it is great. we are always outside and she has yet to get any type of sun burn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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a newborn?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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Yes. well not fesh out of the oven but 4 weeks and up yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 10:04 AM Flag
[ - ] when does your kid go to pre-school 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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MWF 8:30-11 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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sorry, at what age [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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Oh. Started at 2.4 yo T/TH 8:30-11, went to 3 days this year for the 3s program, next year M-F 11:30-3:30. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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3 (was 2.9 in Sept.): M-F, 12:30-3:30 (I like being in the PM class!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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3 days at 2.5, five days at 3.5 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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4yo dc: 8:15 to 3:45. 3yo dc: 9 to 1. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:24 AM Flag
[ - ] I have been separated from DH for about 3 months. Reconciliation is a possibility, but I think odds are better that we'll actually divorce. We're moving forward with a mediator, etc. Lately I've been in touch w/ an ex-bf. Do you think it's cheating if I went on a date with him (or even more)? Technically, I'm still married. I'm on the fence about it, and was curious what others thought. Thanks! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 05.30.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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I think if you are still trying to reconcile, you should focus on that. If you have given up and want a divorce, then go ahead and see exBF. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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what did you and dh decide on when you separated? Did you say you both could date? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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DH wouldn't really talk much about it, but I think we agreed not to date. If I decided to move forward with ex-bf, I probably would talk to DH and tell him that I think we should be allowed to see other people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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imo if you are thinking of recociling I would start dating at this time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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I assume you meant "not start dating" (and ITA) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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LOl yes not start dating. Thx for picking that up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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I think you should decide which way you want to go with DH. It will be a lot harder to reconcile if you go further with ex bf. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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don't muddy the waters. it's not fair to your dh, it's not fair to the guy you'd see, and it's really stupid to confuse yourself like that. just my opinion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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ITA. It'll just confuse the situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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you might weaken your legal position if you start dating while you're still legally married and contemplating reconciliation. Talk to a lawyer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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op: I guess it's unanimous -- thanks all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:19 AM Flag
[ - ] what do you think about adults going on the slides with little children? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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that they are having fun [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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do you seriously have an issue with this/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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I don't have an issue with this..I said they are having fun [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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sorry, that was meant for OP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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yes, i do. if your child can't go down, they won't go down. it would never even occur to me to go down the slide with them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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too big??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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for going down a slide? yes. i'd fit on the slide but i'd never go on it. it's for kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:13 AM Flag
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i defer to the hair parting question [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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np: I think there is nothing wrong with a parent that fits down the slide to go with their dc. Maybe the dc is scared but with a little support the first few times, the dc will get the hang of it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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ok. thanks. i was curious to see what other people thought. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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Why do you ask? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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my mil took neice to the park and came back and proudly told me she took neice on the slide. i thought it was weird, she thought it was great. curious what other people think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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I think that's great of your MIL. You've never done it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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no. it never even occurred to me. and i've never seen anyone else do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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often the safest way to go down with little kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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I think you need to find new things to ponder about. Because this ranks below what I think about what side people part their hair. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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hey, i got plenty of responses. i'm doing a public service for the people on this site. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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Those who part on the right side are just wrong wrong wrong! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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I think it is totally normal and a nice way to help your child work through a fear of sliding. I have seen tons of parents do this (myself included, with 2 kids) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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my child isn't afraid, he just can't do it without falling off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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ok, well there is another perfectly reasonable reason to go with him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:25 AM Flag
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i had never seen it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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um, when the child is too little to go alone, you go too. so? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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what age is too little? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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I dunno. 18 mos? 2? when the kid wants to go but is too little to go alone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:41 AM Flag
[ - ] what time does your 7 or 8 month old go to bed? by 5:30 mine is exhausted and sleeps from then until 4 or so. it's fine with me, but seems skewed a bit early... 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 05.30.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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Try to stretch it to 6:30. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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in your experience has this meant that the child slept later too? the books keep saying that it works in the opposite direction. TIA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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maybe db still needs a 3rd nap in the midafternoon. 5:30 is too early imo. getting up at a normal hour would mean sleeping 13 hrs straight [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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mine goes down at 7...used to be 6:30, but we are stretching it a bit. He wakes up at 6-645 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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seems way to early. but my 12 mos goes to bed at 7:30 and still gets up at 5, so don't ask me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:19 AM Flag
[ - ] The 2008-9 District 3 Kindergarten Lottery will be held: Date: Thursday, June 5, 2008 Time: 7:00 pm Place: JOA Complex, 154 West 93 Street (between Amsterdam & Columbus Avenues) in the Auditorium All are welcome to observe 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 05.30.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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Ah - they've finally announced the D3 lottery! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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Hijakc of helpful smart persons post - are they publically doing the 41/3 lottery? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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will Jimmy Carter be there to make sure it is honest? sort of like the elections in Latin America [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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ROFLMAO! You I like [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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can we request a recount? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 10:34 AM Flag
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Half the people I know that go to 87 do not live in the zone and did not get in through lottery. Gotta love NYC! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:12 AM Flag
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There were legit ways of geeting into schools, however - this is the major reason the DOE is taking over K admissions starting next year. While it won't be without problems and mistakes (it is a huge system) - I think it is a good idea and one that was derived at because they are trying to make the process fairer to all. I agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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arrived at or derived because sorry composing as I tyupe and breastfeed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 10:29 AM Flag
[ - ] I've lost all the weight from the baby, but my figure is now matronly. I have all of this fat and flab on my belly and my hips are wider. Woe is me. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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well you are now a young matron [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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OP: Is 35 still considered a "young matron"? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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EMBRACE...that is what I tell myself. EMBRACE IT. I'm turning 40 this weekend, am pg and fatter than ever. I just think...EMBRACE LOL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.30.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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