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Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

If you have any questions or concerns, you can email us at urbanbaby-support@cbsinteractive.com.

Thanks so much,

UrbanBaby Support

[ - ] top chef anyone? it's like the sam finale all over again! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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i am so nervous for carla! and stefan is way too full of himself! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.25.09, 07:20 PM Flag
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Carla, Carla, please Carla [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.25.09, 07:25 PM Flag
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so sad for her... casey, man, wtf?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.25.09, 07:42 PM Flag
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top chef finale... blahhhh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.25.09, 08:00 PM Flag
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What happened during that season again? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 02.25.09, 08:39 PM Flag
[ - ] 1001 Park, did MG host that Obama fundraiser? great guy (Private equity guy, wife E is very nice) 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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ooooh, i feel so excluded. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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booo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 10:08 PM Flag
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why don't you walk over to 1001 Park and ask the doorman? What a bizarre, faux insider-y post. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 10:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Problem--just found out I am pregnant by a guy that I know will NEVER make me happy in life. What should I do? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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Have an abortion or have the kid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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right. either or. not much else I can do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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you do not need a guy to be happy. signed, very happy single mom of 3 DCs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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congrats to you strong lady! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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why would you even sleep with him then? I don't get it. He should not be the one to make you happy, you need to find happiness within yourself, not from others [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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you are 100% correct. I slept with him on the rebound after a break up with the man I really love. What a disaster. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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well, then only you can decide, but you need to search within yourself, and whether you wish to include him in your decision, or whether you choose to continue without him. Is he someone who can be a giving person? Often a baby does transform people into being more giving, etc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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he is very giving --of whatever little he has. I will do some soul searching. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:07 PM Flag
[ - ] is it me or are there way fewer people posting now that we're well into the redesign era? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.04.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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not just you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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fewer- it is too complicated to keep up, and less fun [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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way less fun. tonight is my last here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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i agree. the simplicity of the old site really kept things moving. i hate that you have to check a box on where your post will end up each and every time, among other things. and the busyness of the layout still gives me a headache. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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i feel like it's deserted most nights that were hopping at this hour, before the redesign. kind of sucks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:58 PM Flag
[ - ] how do you get rid of the "browsing" posts? So annoying. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.04.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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I have no idea what you're talking about. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Grrrrrrrrrr, if your DH can run 8 miles during lunch hour, he can cut that down to 3 or 4 and spend more time with his kids. Sister, you have to sit him down and explain how important it is to be more involved with his kids and what a major difference it will make for DCs in the long run. Not to mention make you happier and even get him more sex because you are satisfied emotionally. He's a biz guy, he will understand. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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it sounds like sitting him down will not help. i have a dh who does try and pariticipate if it involves after work hours- and even then I have to tell him. BTW i wohm and make more than he does, yet I get my butt to most everything at the school for the kids. some men will never get it until it is too late. they never understand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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do you feel bad that you chose a guy who just can't step up to the plate? I'm engaged but froze our engagement until I am convinced this guy will either do his fair share, or will never change in which case I'll move on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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I don't feel bad, I feel bad for him that he is missing out. but, when he is with them, he is great. And, if you are waiting, there is no way to know if someone will step up to the plate until you are in that actual situation, yes, there may be clues, but if you are generally equal now, that should not change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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he's a guy whose own needs come first. always have, always will. it's something dc will have to deal with later in life. i do what i can and hope that makes up for some of it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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what kind of childhood did he have? it sounds like he is successful but yet narcissist with you and his own children [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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that sums him up. he had a very successful father (plastic surgeon) who was an alcoholic and verbally abusive and a mother who drank with his father and never stood up for dc when the abuse was happening. my perception is that dh felt so out of control in his childhood that he has lived his life since leaving making sure that he always takes care of himself and everyone else comes second. i can take being second, but never realized the price dc would pay for that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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but has your DH been to therapy to understand how his childhood has adversely affected his behavior and attitudes as an adult, parent and father? would he consider going to therapy on his own and/or with you? or not open to change? I worry that so many men are opposed to therapy (sadly). And we wonder why women are the ones who initiate most of the divorces.....because they are fed up, men won't make change and make for miserable marriages and family life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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he spent years in therapy from high school through college - all paid for by his father. It was the therapist who told dh that his parents were alcoholics. Like other dc he thought all families were like his. I actually believe this therapist help create the narcicism - the put yourself first mentality. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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OMG, that is terrible. Better for the therapist to have helped DH become a better person, to forgive his parents (alcoholism is a disease and it's genetic!!!!), to rise above it and maybe give back to kids who suffer from having alcoholic parents. I help with Hedge Funds Care and so many parents who are abusers have a high alcohol and/or drug problem (it's correlated) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:17 PM Flag
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I agree- and dh is not abusive at all with dc. (other than the benign neglect) I truly don't think he'll change - just trying to get through if with a best case scenario for dc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:21 PM Flag
[ - ] any teachers on? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.04.08, 07:51 PM Flag
[ - ] My personal view is that women short-change themselves on so many fronts: at home with their spouses, at work in looking for new jobs/opportunities, etc. -- if we were tougher like men, we'd have more equality in pay, men would do more at home (like housework, organization of kids' stuff, etc) AND would be more equal partners. It's up to US to read men the Riot Act (if we must) and then leave them if they don't make positive changes. Why sell ourselves short? Too many women don't insist men do their fair share, repeat the cycle of their MILs spoiling them, AND kids suffer by not seeing equality between their own parents. I wish there were a way to help girls and women be stronger. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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(many) women are natural compromisers, appeasers, or pleasers. nature of the beast. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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No, it's because we are SOCIALIZED to be demure and not stand up for ourselves, to settle with x pay when getting a job offer when men think, "OK, great, let's start negotiating". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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my dh does plenty around the house, but I actually enjoy the domestic stuff much more than my career. I wish I had more time for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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I do expect all that you described above, and I get it, too. It's not always easy, but it's worth it to ask for what you want. It's also fair to your partner to be clear about what you need and not resentful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 08:30 PM Flag
[ - ] If you were to be fired from your job would your boss have to tell you why? I'm in education, trying to find out if this is normal in all fields or if it's just a special perk of being a teacher. tia 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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Not sure but I wonder if this is a union-related thing? Unions are strict about who can be fired and why. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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If I was your boss' lawyer, I would advise him/her not to tell you why. Setting them up for a lawsuit. Without a contract, you can be fired for no reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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it depends on the job, in many jobs you are considered an 'at will' employee. you work at the discretion of the employer, they need not give you a reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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someone at my magazine just got fired and was upset because they didn't say why. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:56 PM Flag
[ - ] John Malkovich held the door for me at the deli yesterday. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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did he leer at you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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No, but he did kind of look annoyed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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cool.where was the deli? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:48 PM Flag
[ - ] any of you have a baby with an "older man"? If so, are your children healthy? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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how old is that? 40's? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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he is 56. I am 36. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.04.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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