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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] Hillary did a great job in her run. I don't think anyone whe donated to her campaign is unhappy with what she did for us. She did what we wanted her to do, those who tore her down deserve what they get. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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I get the sense you're the pro Hillary spammer I've put up w/ for months. No one tore her down. She lost. By a slim margin. It happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:18 PM Flag
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I've been trying to figure out why Hillary supporters are so angry. It's a political campaign. People lose, people get nasty. I started wondering if it had to do with identifying with her maybe too much as a woman who is less respected than she should be. The older I get (I'm pushing 50), I find that my opinion is rejected by people (who don't know me) more often, and I imagine it will be worse when I'm pushing 60. Women don't get the respect we deserve. That said, I voted for Obama for what I felt were sound political reasons, and I get a little tired of people attacking me for it, or, ironically given their anger over a lack of respect for Clinton, assuming I have been taken in by his charisma or something (a few friends have done this). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:18 PM Flag
[ - ] How bad is a couple of glasses of wine most nights of the week? Does it mean I am an alcoholic? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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It is A LOT of alcohol. Why do that to yourself? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:14 PM Flag
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I think it's fine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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depends on how you use it. only you can know, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:25 PM Flag
[ - ] what is pound ridge liek? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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^like [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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woodsy and quiet [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:48 PM Flag
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horrible commute into the city [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 03:11 AM Flag
[ - ] are tingling boobs a pg sign? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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they can be for some people, yes. i had a "glass in my nipples" feeling that i've never had before or since. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone else live w/ a smoker who just doesn't care about meals? I thought DH was going to order dinner tonight, but when I was done w/ the dinner /bath / bedtime routine for our 2 yo tonight, he had decided he wasn't hungry and didn't get anything. It was 9pm and I was starving. I swear it's like living w/ a humanoid. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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Make dinner. More importantly make him make dinner [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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What does this have to do w/DH or whoever it is you live with being a smoker? Are you saying bc this person smokes that they dont eat?? Or bc they are a smoker they dont care for your DC? I think more underlaying issues here, not smoking related. BUT if you mean by "A smoker" you mean POT then that puts a big spin on things. If you are leaving DC home w/drug user then yes you have issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 10:19 PM Flag
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np - i get so sick of this. if you would feel okay leaving db home with someone who has had a glass of wine, then pot smoking is pretty damned equivalent. it is not the same as harder drugs - plenty of very responsible people smoke pot [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 10:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Expecting #2 this month, and need to stock up on some formula as backup for bf-ing. Which is considered the best now? I used Similac Advance w/ #1, but I think there are better ones now, right? Please tell me which one to get! Thanks! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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from what I have read, similac advance is one of the best out there. if there is something better that people have used, I'm interested in hearing about it as well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 04:43 AM Flag
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Is it still? There are all those organic ones out there, but I read that those have a lot of added sugar (especially the similac organic). No idea what to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 12:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Every time I try to reply to a post, it takes me back to the log in page. Grrr. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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Site Feedback 06.07.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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every post or just some posts? And yes, UB, please fix this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:07 PM Flag
[ - ] I feel like my dh doesn't do as much with our kids as other dads do, although he's a good, loving and gentle dad. I'm always hearing about dads playing ball with their kids, or bike riding with them all day or taking them to T-ball practice... he doesn't do any of this! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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Please, at least he cares. My ex-DH wanted NOTHING to do with our kids. Nothing at all. Wouldn't even bother with parent teacher conferences or their own birthdays, much less the park or t-ball [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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argh, I'm trying to respond to you and this stupid site keeps taking me back to the log in page. Argh. Anyway, that is awful!! (OR, I mean.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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I had that problem last night with the site. Anyway, try to include him in this stuff. Maybe ask him if he would teach DC to catch ball or something [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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I'm in the same boat. DD is almost 3 and DH has never taken her to the playground. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:12 PM Flag
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dh really started doing stuff with our oldest when he was about 6 yrs old. His younger brother now tags along (age 4) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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Same here. Mine is terrific about being hands-on at home, but he rarely takes him to the park or on outings. I wish he would so that I could get some alone time at home sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 11:24 AM Flag
[ - ] Looking for feedback on pros/cons of whether to attend Upper LAB or NEST for 6th grade? Particularly interested in posts by NEST MS parents on their childs experience? Currently attend a Dist.2 school, so lots of positive feedback from older siblings who attend UL already. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.07.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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Did you get acceptances from both Lab and NEST and have to make a choice? Or are you trying to decide which one to apply for next year? They are very different schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:27 PM Flag
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DS accepted into both schools. Yes, I know they are very different. He comes from a school similar to LAB (lots of collaborative work), but has a personality that seems to fits well with NEST. However, I do have some concerns about NEST re: support provided for the MS students. LAB seems to be more nurturing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:31 PM Flag
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Also,I understand only 30% of NEST middleschoolers go on to NEST HS. Does anyone know what HS NEST students attend? Also, what percentage of LAB students stay on? From what I understand, it is a much higher percentage. Is that correct? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 04:39 AM Flag
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UL here. Lab has historically retained more students for HS. Usually, we only lose students to the specialized HS. Some of the students who got accepted declined the specialized HS placement and opted to stay. Some went to the specialized High's and came back within weeks. However, this fluctuates from year to year. It is in no way even near 30%. It is way much higer. With that said, one thing that a lot of people are not aware of is that Lab is no longer a 6-12 school. It became two schools about 3, 4 years ago. The separation is more apparent this year because DOE caught up with Lab and basically told Lab that they have to operate as two schools. The Principals this year told the parents and students that acceptance into MS does not gurantee a HS seat anymore. See, the Chancellor's Reg. note that a student at a school is guranteed a seat until terminal grade and the MS terminates at 8th grade because Lab is not a 6-12 anymore. I cannot say which one I will pick since I never pay much attention to the NEST MS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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^^ Sorry meant UL parent here. I cannot speak for the school!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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You should read (if you haven't already) Helicopter Mom blog re NEST middle school(www.goodcityliving.com/blog-helicopter-mom). She seems a little nuts, but if there is even a modicum of accuracy in what she is reporting there is no way I would choose to send my dc there for middle school. Sounds hellish. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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Thanks for the feedback to all who've responded so far. Just getting back to my computer tonight to check responses. Does anyone (particularly interested in feedback from NEST parents) know which HS NEST MS students are attending? Since there seems to be such a high percentage of NEST MS'ers that don't go on to the HS, I was wondering why that is & where those students are going? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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Beacon is one--I can't answer why. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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Alot of them go onto Stuyvesant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 08:10 AM Flag
[ - ] what did you get your DH for your 5 year anniversary? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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Twins. They were born on that day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:01 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone have a nanny you pay over time for evening sitting? Ours keeps charging us a half hour even if we come home at 5 past 8, and it's really starting to annoy me. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.07.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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So start coming home at 8 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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not the point [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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It is the point if your nanny is there all day with your kids and is looking to leave at 8 and you get in after that. Maybe she has a long commute? I'm always really aware of the long day and the long commute home. If 1/2 hour extra pay for you being late is the payoff for a content child care provider, maybe you should not feel so bitter about it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:08 PM Flag
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she lives 5 minutes away [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:11 PM Flag
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So you feel like you can take advantage of her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:15 PM Flag
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see below -- op said the nanny routinely arrives 5 minutes late. The nanny is the one taking advantage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:28 PM Flag
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I pay overtime for babysitting outside regular hours. My babysitter is occasionally 15 minutes late, though, so I don't think she could see herself asking for extra if I am occasionally 5 minutes late. I will round up to the half hour if I'm 10-15 minutes late, though, or at least throw in a few extra dollars. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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exactly, i think that's only fair. She can be 15 minutes late and I don't take it out of her salary. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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As long as it is not the norm that you are coming home late, I agree. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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I always round up anyway with an evening sitter. But are you saying she is working extra evening hours, or are you saying that her normal hours end at 8 and she charges you more if you are 5 minutes late? Also, does she always arrive on time? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:03 PM Flag
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we would go out to dinner and she never needs a time for us to get home, she always says whenever. But for example, tonight we got home at 10:08 and she charged us for the 1/2 hour. No, she isn't always on time, she is always at least 5 minutes late and I don't doc her on it. She gets $900/week to start and charges us an additional $20 for over time sitting on the weekend and during the week. I think at some point there should be a judgment call when it comes to charging for that 1/2 hour. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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Can't reply to your post. $900 for how many hours. And is that 20/hr for extra babysitting. Yeah, asking for the 10 seems like overkill, especially if she is regularly late. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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If your nanny is always late then you need to talk to her about this. This is just a matter of fairness. If she doesn't want to be docked 1/2 hour pay for being 5 minutes late, she can't charge you for being 5 minutes late. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:28 PM Flag
[ - ] If my 3 yo ds had his way, he would only eat pasta, avocados and chicken tenders. Oh, and pizza, cheese and apples. I am not interested in being a short-order cook and expect him to eat what the rest of the family is eating. I am nice about it but firm. I put everything on his plate and ask him to taste it. I try to offer at least one thing I know he will eat. But sometimes he melts down and won't eat anything. How should I handle? I am trying to be consistent about this but it is hard. He used to eat a greater variety of foods so I'm sort of flummoxed about this. TIA 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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In my experience, kids who used to eat a wide variety of foods revert to a few things ONLY when they turn 3yo and they come out of it at 6yo. My two kids did this. And my brother's kids did this. All of a sudden at 6yo they were back to eating a variety. Who knows what's up with that? Maybe toddlers require more carbs and less vegetables and meat [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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np: peds call it the beige stage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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Yes my ped said this to me (I'm the OR). He said kids do this and it's nothing to worry about [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:03 PM Flag
[ - ] how/when to wean my 13 mo ... nurses at am, naptime (2x) and bedtime ... no sign of stopping anytime son. He is #3 and first 2 weaned easily at 1 year. Advice? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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give him a bottle am and pm and sippy during the day [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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Hi, just want to mention that cups are great but sippy cups are not a good idea for your child-only convenient for parents. Look for a cup with a fitted lid & a straw. Sippy cups can really complicate speech and cause low tone. Sucking through a straw promotes higher tone [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 12:02 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone know what the 5 year wedding anniversary gift is? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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Whatever you want it to be [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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toilet plunger [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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wood [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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teehee [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.08.08, 02:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Saw Juno last night ... cried cried cried ... am I hormonal or what? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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it was stupid, stupid, stupid....so, yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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I enjoyed it, but can't believe it won an academy award. At points it was just like a lifetime movie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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guess so. nothing to cry over [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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giving up your baby for adoption ... perfect couple gets divorced ... boo hoo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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eh [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:49 PM Flag
[ - ] sorry for this one- have you seen your husband's a**hole? I watched "Friends with Money" and Frances McDormand has this line "Can you believe she's never seen his a**hole?" to which the husband replies, "Is that even possible?" After 8 years I have never seen my dh's and I wonder, is it so common a practice, to look at at it? is our sex life so tame? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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I have never seen it either. and have NO desire to! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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No and I don't go looking for it either [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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Yes. Just wanted to say, though, that I thought that was a TERRIBLE movie. One of the few nonkid movies I've seen in the theater in 5 years. What a waste. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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agreed. and i have seen my dh's a-hole... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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true. i loved that the couple with the most dough is the happiest. nice touch, filmmaker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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that did seem to be the theme of the movie. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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I've seen hints of it when 69ing, but i certainly don't look for it. I am not into that at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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we have never 69ed! i used to with others but dh is a bit reserved. oh well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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ugh. I hate 69. too much going on for me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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DH is sleeping. I'm going to go peek at it right now... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Holy nether regions ... I am having no fun here. Rrhoids flaring up, think I have a yeast infection, some kind of rash on my butt ... the got a tear after very mild sex this am .. WTF??? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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lol and yuck. Thanks for sharing. Hope everything clears up soon [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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believe me ... I held back on sharing the gruesome details! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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And believe me when I say we appreciate that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.07.08, 08:06 PM Flag
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