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[ - ] WW moms—what's the points range if you are nursing? Have done ww before and think of doing it to lose the baby weight but can't decide. TIA 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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if you are nursing, you will lose your weight. you are not supposed to be dieting at this point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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I have a lot to lose! I thought WW was the good way to lose while nursing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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you will loose lots of weight by nursing ! when did you give birth ? how much do you need to lose ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:02 PM Flag
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not everyone loses while nursing, each person is different. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:01 PM Flag
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you get an extra 10 points for nursing (about 2 pts per feed) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:29 PM Flag
[ - ] I need a gift idea for a girl who is graduating from 8th grade. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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Ipod [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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she has one. i think every kid has one [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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Perfect. Itunes gift certificate [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:57 PM Flag
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we already got her on another occasion [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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Hmmmm. Does she need a new laptop computer for school? A camera? How about a camera? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:00 PM Flag
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dont want to spend that much. actually i think it is stupid idea to have a graduation party [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:04 PM Flag
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So then just get her a card and put $50 in it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:05 PM Flag
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looking for interesting gift idea [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:09 PM Flag
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A Tiffany's Bracelet/Necklace, A Gift Cert to her favorite store, and ipod gift card, a nice journal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:59 PM Flag
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my niece who is that age loves those ed hardy shirts.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Going to a wedding in Paris the first week of September with 6 month old and 3 year old. Would like to make a vacation of it and spend a week at the beach prior to the wedding. Any suggestions for a short flight or drive from Paris where the weather will still be nice enough to enjoy the beach? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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You can take the TGV (fast train) from Paris to the south of France. Nice or anywhere around there. The beaches will still be warm [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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Biarritz is the place to go. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:58 PM Flag
[ - ] how to wean db from bottle and pacifier by 1 year old ? db is almost 9 1/2 months old. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.13.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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why the rush [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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Seriously. I didn't toss the bottle until after 2yo. The pacifiers were a different story. My kids never really took to them, so they were gone by 9mo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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it is recommended by ped [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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Peds recommend all sorts of stuff that isn't necessary. No kid ever died from having a bottle of milk after 1yo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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i wouldn't mind getting rid of the bottles and nipples.. big pain to wash [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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So just toss them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:57 PM Flag
[ - ] please let me get my letter tomorrow, I leave for vacation on Sunday for a week 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.13.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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I hear you. I wish you luck :-) (I want to get THE letter tomorrow, too.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:51 PM Flag
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GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 03:42 AM Flag
[ - ] db is 9 months olds and still falls over when sitting up. what can i do ? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.13.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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prop him up better? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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shouldn't db be sitting up solidly at this point ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:52 PM Flag
[ - ] How come when I try to respond to some posts UB asks for my username and password, then I type it in and it still doesn't let me reply. But I can reply to other responders in the same post. I haven't been here in a few months I'm confused with this whole format. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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It's some glitch. I have the same problem [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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It's good to know it's not just me, and at least it let me respond to you [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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See if you can respond to this. I have a theory that the OP can't respond more than once to the same OR [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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I guess this blows your theory...my theory is that you can't respond to the really long rambling posts. But who the hell knows! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:49 PM Flag
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np I'm pretty sure it is random. I wish they would fix it though! So annoying! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:50 PM Flag
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At least we tried! lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:52 PM Flag
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we did, and challenged the theories! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:54 PM Flag
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This has been going on for many days now. That's the trouble with UB. There's no one working on the problems. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:55 PM Flag
[ - ] how often do you work out? and is it mainly to keep your body fit or bc you enjoy it. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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I run 4 or 5 times a week. Both [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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op... i never could get into running. it's such a great choice for exercise bc you can do it anywhere. not much equipment. but i've always lived in cities and hate running on roads. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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that's where I run! I am so used to cars and hoodlums and city things that a few weeks ago when I ran at my IL's nabe, I was startled by birds and squirrels a few times! Cracked me up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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i was in france last summer nad ended up on this path through the woods. no one around. beautiful. it freaked the living crap out of me. bc that kind of place in the city is dangerous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:48 PM Flag
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LOL! Yep! Funny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:49 PM Flag
[ - ] am i nuts or what ?!?!?!? dh and i were talking about trying for db#2. i am going to be 44 this year. db #1 is 10 months old. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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if it's what you both want, then do it. nuts (esp by UB standards) is something people say when they are threatened by other's behavior. ok, not always, but with something like having kids, it's your choice. who cares what others think. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:43 PM Flag
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i am old! the conversation started by saying how db is so cute and that if i was a few years younger i would try for db#2. dh says why not try now [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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old is 85. if your body can get pregnant, then you're not too old to get pregnant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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i say good for you, 'cause i'm 30 and don't want to do it again...i can't think about starting all over with a little one at this point...ds is almost two. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:51 PM Flag
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maybe i will change my mind when db starts walking and touching everything ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:53 PM Flag
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yeah, I thought it would get easier but it actually gets harder because when they can actually understand what you're saying it's when the real parenting starts...and that's more frustating and time consuming than sleepless nights and tons of feedings. In my experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:00 PM Flag
[ - ] how to redo a basement with a concrete floor, really short ceiling with air conditioning etc.. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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"Rec room" carpeting (if you know what I mean) and some bean bags or smallish furniture that the kids can toss around on [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:40 PM Flag
[ - ] i have a mess of really painful pimples on my chin, right next to each other. I always get them when I'm stressed and not pregnant (3 is 5mo). I pick at them, even though I know I shouldn't. Anyone have any advice for me? It's inflamed and red and awful. My skin is normally greasy with big pores, but no eruptions like this. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:33 PM Flag
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Put white toothpaste on it (not gel). It'll reduce the redness and the swelling overnight [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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If you are not going to get pregnant in the next year try Accutane. A low dosage, like 10mg and watch your beautiful skin show through. FLAME AWAY, but acne is horrible to deal with, I had it horrible as a teenager and nothing worked, at 31 my skin started flaring up again and I couldn't stand the thought of red scabs on my face every couple of weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:52 PM Flag
[ - ] looking for suggestios for a restaurant in little italy. tia. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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la grotte azzura, il cortile or parigot (which is the best of the 3) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 04:49 AM Flag
[ - ] thinking of buying a house in nj that's old but updated. still the basement is more like an old cellar and kind of creepy. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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So redo it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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where in nj is it? can't you finish it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Bad habit or need? 15 mo is in this pattern where he wakes up 2 or 3 times a night crying, and then i go in and give him water, pull his musical toy and leave and he goes right back to bed. I've kept doing it because it's easy but wondering whether i'm creating a bad habit. But he often drinks quite a lot (just now he sucked down almost a whole sippy cup). Don't want to leave a cup in his crib because every cup i have leaks if banged around. wwyd?? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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Leave a sippy cup of water with the leak guard in the crib but do not pull the musical toy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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But dont' they still spill with the leak guard? And why not pull musical toy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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They don't spill, at least not more than a drop. The musical toy thing is a bad habit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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okay, will try this. i'm sure he'll still cry but then i guess i'll have to cio. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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Yea, well he's 15mo, so a little CIO is fine and probably necessary [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:37 PM Flag
[ - ] What are you doing for dh for father's day? I'm at a loss... he's so hard to buy for. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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Kids made him a mug from one of those paint your own pottery places. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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OP: that will be good. we did a frame two years ago. can't remember what I did last year. he's impossible to buy for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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Get him a digital picture frame for his office [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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OP: thanks for the suggestion. the problem is, he doesn't have an office. sigh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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Oh, well, get him an office then. With a door [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:10 PM Flag
[ - ] i'm finally back in one place and can now actually go to the gym regularly. i work out while watching tv adn then spend some time in the hot tub, sauna and/or steam room bf showering. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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wow - how old are dcs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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one 4 yo. i have been traveling A LOT for work the past year. left no time for the gym. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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so who is with the kid while you are doing this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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she is either at school, at camp, at her cousin's house. with her dad or with her grandparents. such an odd question. and while i was traveling, dh and dd were traveling with me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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You find that odd? I think 90 minutes or so during the day multiple times during the week is a lot of me time with a 4 y.o. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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op ehre... i'm having trouble posting below... i never said it was multiple times a week. i just said i'm finally back in one place and can go regularly. it's only been one week so far. so yes, this week i have been 2x. don't worry about my dd. she gets a lot of attention and is never left waiting doing nothing while i'm at the gym. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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calm down lady - you were the one trumpeting your success [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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success? lol.. i was trumpeting how happy i am to finally do this thing i find relaxing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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are you just looking to judge? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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isn't the or asking a question that seems beside the point of the post? op is happy she can work out again. OR is asking where her child is. presumedly bc the underlying thought is that op should be with her child. not at the gym. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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can you repost this in English? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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if you don't speak it, i can do nothing about that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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my gym limits babys itting to 1 hour so you must work out very fast [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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she's never in the gym babysitting. always at one of the places i mentioned above. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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probably in preschool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:08 PM Flag
[ - ] When do you start time-outs? I have a 13 mo old and I feel like I do is say NO, I always said I never wanted to always use NO, but what do you do? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.13.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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that is young for so many nos so try redirecting "use this toy instead of the cat", "We throw balls outside not in the house". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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use this toy instead of the cat. lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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Never. I get goofy! Sounds like your dc needs more access to activities that are fun for her and not "no-no"s! Can you spend more time just playing w/ her? Get someone else to help? As much as possible, I try to look at things from dc's perspective too, and try to be her partner. Silliness definitely helps around here... good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 08:56 PM Flag
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Under 2 yrs they do not have enough memory developement to remember rules so it is up to you to keep her out of trouble - get rid of all delicate objects & anything that can hurt her, make sure all markers & such are stored out of sight. Give choices you can live with (green shirt or white shirt?) not "what do you want to wear? And give reasons instead of just "No!" I mean, say "that is not a toy" instead of "don't touch" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:05 PM Flag
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What are you usually saying no to? If it is safety issues, you have to throughly babyproof and then just never take your eyes off her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:06 PM Flag
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when the kids were really young i would explain to them what they did wrong even if they didnt understand and they would have to sit in a special chair for a few minutes, started timeouts when they were 3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 09:21 PM Flag
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We never used them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Not even divorced yet (but soon)and my husband has moved on and moved in with his new girlfriend who is pregnant, we have been separted for over a year and a half, I don't know what to tell my kids about any of this. Any advice? 48 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:03 PM Flag
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Isnt it up to him to tell his kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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how old are the kids? Do they know the girlfriend is pregnant? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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Then everyone is right. It's for dh to explain. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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i assume they know you're getting divorced. beyond that, let your ex deal with it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:05 PM Flag
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we haven't talked to them about the divorce they just know that Daddy lives somewhere else. He still comes to our house to visit them, he hasn't had them stay with him yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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Your kids are 6 and 11 and they don't know you're getting divorced? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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NP: the 11 y/o must know, he's not saying anything b/c he doesn't want to upset OP, but he knows something is up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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i'm betting the 6 yo knows too. and i woudn't be suprised if the two of them talk about it. i was 7 when my parents moved cross country. they somehow forgot to tell me about it. i knew something was up. enough to be worried and scared. but i didn't know enough to realize that my life was about to change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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what happened - your parents deserted you and moved cross country?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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oh.. .no sorry. we all moved. they just never told me the move was going to happen. i knew something was going on but coudln't figure out what. then one day, a truck came. carted away all our things. and we drove across country and moved into a new house, new school, etc. i had no idea. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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NP: I think what the OP should do is get herself and her soon to be ex in front of the kids by themselves and tell them about the divorce. Sooner rather than later. Then the dad can carry on with the rest of the story, at another time. But the kids should be told by both parents of the divorce [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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a very good point. i wrote below about telling the kids and preparing them that both parents may find other partners. but i agree that it's prob best for both parents to tell them at the same time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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They are already apart. They don't live together. If they have not already discussed what that means with the kids, that would be very strange. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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The kids should hear from both parents at the same time what the official status is, even if they've already been living apart, etc. Kids need certainty. This will solve the question of their parents, at least. Then they will have to move on to sorting out the new sibling [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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how recently have you decided to get divorced. i'll tell you, kids know more than you think. they see and hear things and will put together things for themselves. far better for them to hear it from you. bc what they put together may not be entirely correct. they may also feel very out of control and not know how to ask what's going on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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OP: Agree, we seeemed to be doing fine with the situation while separated and needed to be separated a year anyway, so we did not file right at the year mark, but we have since. Yes, I'm sure they realize we are getting divorced at least my older one. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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i think you can talk to them about the divorce. what may or may not happen. how you feel about it. perhaps even mention that you and your ex may find other people to live their lives with (along with the but we'll always love you, etc stuff). then let your ex introduce his gf. that is soemthing he shoudl do for many reasons. how has he been as far as giving your kids attention? are you worried he'll sort of "drop" them once he moves in with the gf and esp when she has the baby? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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Not your job to tell kids, should leave it to him to break the news of his rather poor behavior. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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I don't know whose job it is to tell them, they haven't met her yet. They are 6 and 11. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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np it's a tough one. on the one hand, i can see you woudln't want your dc to find out last minute in some messed up, shocking way. on the other, it's really your ex's issue and he shoul dhandle it if he doesnt' want it to effect his relationship with his kids too badly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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i will work w/latter part of your reply then - who's job is it to make the introduction to the mistress? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:10 PM Flag
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she is not a mistress [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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NP: yes she is. They're still married [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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I don't think by any commonly understood measure of the antiquated word mistress you would call the live in, pregnant lover of a soon to be divorced man a mistress [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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Look, I'm the poster, I don't care if she's called a misress or home wrecker, I don't consider that our situation. If I had met someone in the last year who I liked I would pursue that,I don't care that he has found someone else and he is happy , my concern is my children, and how to explain this, that's all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:17 PM Flag
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if he's not divorced yet, she's a mistress in the old fashioned sense of the word. in a really really old fashioned world, that child would be considered illegitimate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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if the parents are unmarried ta the time of the childs birth [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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not if they marry before the dc is born [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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OP: well they can't get married until we are divorced and that will be hopefully in the next couple of months, she's got to be at least 6 months pregnant, so I doubt they will marry that soon even if they legally could. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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just don't be surprised if they get married the day after your divorce is final. Seems like you have some blinders on here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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op: maybe they will marry the day after we divorce, do you think anything would suprise me at this point? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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You seem so blind about what your kids may or may not understand or know or be guessing at. Also you just said you didn't think they'd get married too soon. I think you still might be in shock. Just a random thought [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:38 PM Flag
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who says mistress anymore? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:34 PM Flag
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please, some people here must be living in th 50's...nobody says mistress, they say whore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:40 PM Flag
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well, I can understand introducing a new person, but I'm more worried about the fact that they have a sibling and what that means to them. I expected him and I to move on, it's been a dead end marriage for years I just didn't expect for him to jump right into a family situation so soon, but she is in her late 30's or early 40's so I'm sure that was a factor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:14 PM Flag
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You want to tell the kids because you're pissed off at your almost ex. Don't do it. They don't even know her or the situation. If they ask about something specific, talk to them, but try to keep your own issues out of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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No, I don't want to tell the kids, I'm just wondering if anyone has had this experience. I know it's my husband's job to tell them, but they are eventually going to meet her and their brother or sister and come home and ask me a bunch of questions, I REALLY would not have a clue how to answer. I'm still trying to figure out how to explain the divorce. I need help! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:23 PM Flag
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What kind of questions are you anticipating? It seems very straightforward. New baby. Done. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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np there must be books on this. or perhaps a counselor for you or all of you. it's tough and i wish you much luck. how are you doing with all this? from your posts, it sounds like you're very even handed nad not overly emotional. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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Whats to tell? When he is ready he will talk to them. They will have a new family. When they have questions they will ask. Its actually quite simple. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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np i can only imagine you have never been in a situation like this. i haven't either. but it doesn't seem simple to me at all. leaving kids to figure this stuff out for themselves or when the questions arise is probably not the way to go. i think kids need preparation. a lot of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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OP: Yes, well I am anxious about it, I'm sure it will work out ok, I just wanted some advice, maybe someone's BTDT and can share some info. I know the two of us haven't handled this too well, it's not because we dont want to, it's because we really are lacking the skills and experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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NP: you really need to open up with the kids about the divorce. You and H meet with them and say the word out loud to the kids and say it's happening soon and add all the reassurances about you both still loving them, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:36 PM Flag
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may i just suggest talking to a counselor. there are so many resources that can help you. google it. call places. etc. i'm sure there are countless books on it too. there's definitely helo out there for you, i'm just not sure here is the right place. you know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:41 PM Flag
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thanks, you are right, just wanted some feed back and to talk about this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:44 PM Flag
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i hear you. you just never know what you get here. i do wish you much luck, tho. it's a lot to deal with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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