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[ - ] We're starting to think about sleep-away camp for dd next year. We'd prefer to send her somewhere relatively close to home; maybe PA, NJ or NY state. Does anyone have any suggestions for camps to look at? A friend recommended Lake Bryn Mawr Camp in PA. http://www.campbrynmawr.com/ It looks great, but it's all-girls and dd is already at a ss ongoing, so we're thinking a co-ed camp might be a nice change. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:26 AM Flag
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Am wondering too - have not gotten any responses. Seems like so many camps out there - I really don't want to do a school-type search for camp!! Too exhausting!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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Oops, sorry. I posted on the wrong board. Will try again on Schools and Kids and hopefully get some responses. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:36 AM Flag
[ - ] How will the schools fill in the empty spaces in g&T? Move kids from gen ed? Have smaller classes until 1st grade testing? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.17.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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i mean when people don't accept [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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They overaccepted, so they built it in. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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what if everybody accepts? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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then we'll end up with slightly larger classes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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my district has taken away the G&T program from some of the schools that were slotted to have it due to low register [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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Which schools/districts? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:16 AM Flag
[ - ] GOOSE EGG - 2.9 y/o dd fell off bed last night and had big goose egg. We applied ice/pressure. Today she seems fine. Swelling is mostly gone. Just bruising left. Anyone btdt? We just moved and don't have a new ped yet. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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sounds fine. but why don't you have ped? are you waiting for an emergency? find one NOW [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:20 AM Flag
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yes - swelling out is ok - it's swelling in (what would that be called?) that is dangerous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Please give me some recommendations for a good, not to $$$ restaurant in the vicinity of 43rd and 8th. we want to try something new. tia 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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not one person can give me restaurant recommendation? really? please, c'mon! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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There's a great Ethiopian restaurant, Meskerem, at 47th and 10th. Cheap and delicious. I've seen someone recommend Trattoria Daniela many times here before on 46th and 8th but I've never eaten there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:24 AM Flag
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marseille [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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nizza is very good, same owners as marseille & right next door, on 9th ave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone here have a Sunshine Kids booster seat? Trying to decide between this and the Compass one. Thx. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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we have the compass and like it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:19 AM Flag
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Thanks. I like that the head wings are smaller than the Britax boosters. I think DS would wiggle around if he couldn't see out the window. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:30 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm due Dec 22 and starting to get asked if I am returning to work after my maternity leave. I work for a non-profit doing fundraising and special events. My boss has mentioned the idea of me doing PT special events. I always thought this decision would be easy, but I'm struggling. Need advice/help/anything! I also do not want to regret spending the first few years with my little one. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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I think many many women consider PT work to be the ideal situation. Not always readily available either, so if you have that option definitely give it some serious consideration. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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I can't imagine regretting time spent with my child. I'd talk to your boss about the part-timeoption to see if it's valid. will your salary (and your partners) cover full time childcare? what do you want to do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:11 AM Flag
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unfortunately, most of my salary would go towards daycare - so it's not about the money. we can live on my husbands salary. I'm afraid I'd miss the adult interaction. Although, my mother 'warns' me that once I hold my baby, I'll never want to leave! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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I'm expecting my first (3 weeks after you) and I'm worried about this too. I'm leaning towards staying home with the kids, I'm not sure what I would do if part time was offered though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:25 AM Flag
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I know, right?! I mean I would LOVE to stay home and play all day. I just fear the non-adult world. On the other hand, sometimes work is sooo petty and stressful - that it's not worth it. What do you do? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:19 PM Flag
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No matter what your "real" answer, your answer to your employer is, "Yes! Absolutely." they can't hold you to it and they won't take any of your benefits away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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I think that it is wrong to string your employer along if you know that you're not going back to work. This makes it a lot harder for women who do go back and makes employers much more hesitant to offer extended benefits from what is required by law. Would you want to offer paid maternity leave if you found that 50% of the women that said they were coming back didn't? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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I appreciate your feedback. But in all honesty I really like the people I work with and would not want to leave them in the lurk. If I say I'm returning, I will. It's just hard to guage what I'll feel. Thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:22 AM Flag
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np: it's lurch, btw. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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part time is great. it is also worth it to try returning to work, whether full or part-time, because you can always leave after a few months. much harder to choose not to go back and realize a few months in that you wish you had! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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I really don't think it's fair that your office is pressing you for an answer this soon. Tell them you need a little more time to figure it out. I mean, you only just discovered your pregnant a few weeks/months ago. Really hard to know what you're going to feel like. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:23 PM Flag
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in terms of what response to give your boss, i'd say very firmly but politely that you don't want to make any decisions until you see how things are going. (you might want to add that you would like to know what options will be available to you.) and as for yourself, i can say that for most people it's very common to have children and then feel some sort of regret/nostalgia for whatever road you are not taking. but you'll be much better off putting off any decisions until after you have settled in with the baby. otherwise you'll be putting so much pressure on yourself. every time you'll have a hard time putting the baby to sleep or having woken up four times overnight to feed your baby, you'll be saying "i'm going back to work". and then you'll give your baby a bath and he/she will smell so good and you'll say "forget it, i can't go back to work". you'll tie yourself up in knots instead of just focusing on the challenges and wonders involved with caring for a new baby. so what i'd suggest is that you take a look at your finances to know what you'll need or what options you'll have in terms of working or sah'ing. then i'd maybe make a list of pros and cons for working vs. sahm'ing, as you see it right now. then shelve that list and readdress the issue when your db is 4 weeks old. best of luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:26 PM Flag
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^^^darn. i put so much effort into that post. here's the summary: when you have a good moment with your baby you'll say 'i'm not going back to work'. you'll tie yourself in knots instead of just focusing on the baby and dealing with the normal ups and downs of having a newborn. i'd suggest making a list to yourself of the pros and cons of working vs sahm'ing, as you see them now. also look at your finances. then shelve the list and readdress it with your dh when your baby is 4 weeks old. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:30 PM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:35 PM Flag
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If you feel like there is a chance you'd want to come back - and it sounds like there is - you should say you're coming back. If you figure out during pregnancy, maternity leave or back at work that you'd rather be at home, then that's that. You have a right to change your mind. It's your life. In the grand scheme of things, it won't be too much of an inconvenience for your employer; replacing workers who leave is something they all ave to deal with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:27 PM Flag
[ - ] We really like Horace Mann so far: Great teachers, very smart/well behaved DCs, a lot of nice (and some not nice)parents 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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what is "so far"....2nd grade, 4th grade? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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finished 2nd grade [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:13 AM Flag
[ - ] 6 wks pregnant and have dr appt today. Should i be able to see heartbeat? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.17.08, 08:08 AM Flag
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No, not till around 12 weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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Is this your first appt? They usually schedule your first appt around 8 wks because you can see/hear the heartbeat by then. You MIGHT be able to - but dont freak out if you cant. Good luck & congrats! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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Sorry, you can hear it at 12 weeks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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I heard mine at 7 weeks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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impossible... you saw it flicker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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I both saw and heard mine at 8 weeks... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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it was done with an intervaginal ultrasound, you can't hear it on a doppler until about 12 weeks, but on an ultrasound you ca. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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i heard you could see hb at 5 wks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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With my first child, I heard the heartbeat at seven weeks...... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:23 AM Flag
[ - ] Why good zoned school near your home (eg, 199, 87is better than a mediocre G&T (eg, 166, 163): 1) Much better social life (playdates); 2) easier commute/more sleep every night; 3) Racial tensions at "ghetto" G&Ts, black DCs, rightly, hate that white DCs get all the resources; 4) Holding Racial/Socio-economics constant, the likelihood that your DC will score "4" and go to Delta/Anderson for MS is the same 98 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.17.08, 08:05 AM Flag
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That is your opinion. Others disagree. We chose 166 over 87. Difference in commute is negligible. If we find that it has racial tensions etc. we will re-evaluate but the zoned school will always be there as a backup if we need it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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May I ask why? I see in your case the social aspect is not a big deal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:10 AM Flag
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had to step away: 1)Has friends attending from preschool 2) Somewhat worried about inclusion classes at 87 3)7 kindergarten classes seems like a lot at 87 4)Like that classes are enriched and taught at faster pace 5) Really like the class offerings in afterschool program (more sports than at 87 from what I see on the web sites)6) We both work so "playdates" are through afterschool or on weekends [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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1) The kid doesn't care if her friends are close to her home or somewhere else. 2) How many minutes does it really add to your commute? 15 minutes? 30 minutes? 3) You are overly dramatic. You are blowing this out of proportion. 4) Ok. So you pick your school and let others pick theirs. Why the need to comment? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:13 AM Flag
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The DC doesn't care but the parent/caregiver who would have to arrange to bring and take the DC back cares. BTDT Most DCs don't have more than 2 hours for a playdate after school anyway, if 1 hour is schlepping it makes a big difference - [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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Okay, I do not live on the UWS but you cannot tell me that D3 is so huge that the commute is going to be an hour or more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:17 AM Flag
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np - Of course it's not. I have no idea what the above poster is talking about. From 116th St to 72nd St is around 20 mins, if not less, by subway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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btdt, dd has been in magnet school since kinder and is not in 9th, I believe it has affected her circle of friends, because it is very hard to get together...and it only gets harder when parents aren't involved in taking and picking up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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^^^is NOW in 9th [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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Magnet school? Are you in NYC? Do you live on the UWS? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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yes, in nyc. that's probably not the right word. it was not a zoned school. there were kids from all 5 boroughs...and her middle school and high school are the same [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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But we're talking about D3 G&T - all schools are on the UWS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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so what you're saying is, although they may not be neighborhood schools, they're not that far away? fair enough [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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No. The district isn't that large, not like D2. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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no child left behind really starts screwing up smart kids at around 2nd grade, and the entire school cares only about 2 scores - math and reading. peer group is very important, and a commute usually is not such a big deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:15 AM Flag
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but NCLB screws up DCs at G&Ts too - right? Are you making an argument against publics in general? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:16 AM Flag
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it's less likely to have underperforming kid in G&T, plus they can loose a spot at G&t if they fall behind, or have low attendance rates [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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I have never in my many years w/dc at PS9 G&T seen a child lose a spot - the kids who fall behind stay in the program - some get tutoring to keep up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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if they don't attend they get dropped out, that happened at ps 116. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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and the mother of the child says there is a HUGE difference between g&t and reg class there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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there isn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:16 AM Flag
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how do you know? i know for sure since i personally talked to this mom. you have no clue since you seem to be sure only about ps9. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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you are confusing your posters. My chid is at 116. One mom does not the truth make. The curriculum is the same for g&t and general ed. 116 has NO problem with xfer students under nclb - that is utter nonesene. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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Another PS116 mom here. ITA there is no difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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gen ed ps116? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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I am not above poster, but I happen to have one in each. It is ALL teacher dependent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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Of course, but in PS116, I have friends in gen ed who have had better experiences than my dc in G&T. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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both [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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The poster is fos and my guess is doesn't even have children. She's the crazy nclb poster [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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Have not found what you say re NCLB, or what you say about scores, to be true at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:21 AM Flag
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my dc's private pre-k teacher, who used to be a public school teacher, told me that. that is not a secret even. schools are ranked on attendence, reading and writing. if you want us to give up g&t place so you can retest your kid - a nice try [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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Soory, but my dcs are in 5th and 8th grades. Never drank the GT kool-aid, and good schools -- like our elementary -- make school rankings take a back seat to giving kids a good education. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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so you are not in g&t - sorry. you can say whatever you want to make you feel better [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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no apologies necessary. dcs both tested into G&T - we chose not to send them. now entering selective MS and HS. enjoy your narrow little world. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:48 AM Flag
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lol...np: not every WANTS to be in g&t [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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right, not everyone wants to be tall and thin also [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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you're ridiculous. it is possible that not everyone thinks the way that you do. you do know that, right? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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OMG, its the crazy nclb poster. Where have you been? I thought the new format might have made you quit. Darn. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:55 AM Flag
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nope, or here, i am new and just posted about nclb for the first or second time. but you seem quite crazy with your over-reaction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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lol! i was just thinking the same thing! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:43 AM Flag
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I've asked you this every time you post about nclb and you have yet to answer. Please tell us the school your child attends that has taken so many children from failing schools (under nclb). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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i posted about nclb only a couple of times, so it's not me. but i know for sure that at ps 116 there is a huge difference btw g&t and reg class, and reg class is supposed to be great there. we have tons of friends there both and g&t and reg classes. i am not sure it answers your question about failing schools though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:02 AM Flag
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you said nothing about nclb in your answer. You are the one who brought up the fact that it was harmful. How many children are at 116 under NCLB or are you just talking out of your bottom? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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right, out "my bottom" - very classy indeed. I see why you are happy in your gen ed class. I don't think you can even tell the difference, so stay put. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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np - Once again you didn't answer the question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:31 AM Flag
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She (or he) Never does. But its always fun to call her on it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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Is your child currently attending 116? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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and where does your child go? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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PS41 why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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I answered your question, now will you please answer mine. Does your child attend 116? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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Yes, but I have 2 dc there in G&T and gen ed, and there is really not much of a difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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see above - she has no idea. her dc is in private pre-school and these pearls of wisdom came from pre-school teacher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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it's not me in a private pre-k [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:05 AM Flag
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so if you are not that poster then where does your dc go that gets all the NCLB kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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gosh, i don't think i like you. but i dont' think you can even know the difference since your kids are in gen ed school and you are happy. so stay happy in a gen ed, but don't make us feel bad that we want to have a better education for our smart kids. EVERYBODY knows that gen ed is not so good for smart kids, it's ridiculous you are so adamant about it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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Just so you know, there are two different people who asked you the same question. I can tell because I asked above and mine is highlighted and the other isn't. And, you still haven't answered. Who cares if you like OR or not, just answer the question [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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np - You didn't answer about where you get your "knowledge" about NCLB kids. Where does your dc go to school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:20 AM Flag
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She posts constantly and has never answered. But, at least we all know the deal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:22 AM Flag
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where does yours go? and where do you get your knowledge? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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You have this annoying habit on not answering a simple question. Why is that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:28 AM Flag
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What are you babbling about. Simple question - what school does your child attend and how many children are there on NCLB? Do you even know what NCLB is? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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lol - unless you are talking about profoundly gifted kids, this "everybody knows" blanket statement is asinine. "Better education" depends on particular school, particular teachers, particular kids. In some cases G&T may be better, in some cases gen ed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:56 AM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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In our house, rightly and hate don't belong in the same sentence. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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playdates are overated. The children spend seven hours, five days a week together. They have homework. They can get together quickly after school at local playground or see each other on weekends. Its not preschool anymore. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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exactly. I do not see how play dates are really going to happen during the week. Even at my kid's preschool (full-day program) there is no desire for those kids to go to each other's homes after school. They see each other for so many hours already. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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kids still want to get together, whether you call it a playdate or not. and as they get older, they want to spend more and more time together, meaning a longer amount of time [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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and they have more and more homework and it just doesn't happen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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I have teens and I'm telling you it does. geez [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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funny. we are talking about elementary schools here. Teenagers is an entirely different thing and it is not YOU who has to schlepp the kids from one place to the other. They are on their own and do whatever they want to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:19 AM Flag
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you didn't have any friends as a teen that you knew from elementary school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:27 AM Flag
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no. Only the ones that came along with me to the same school. Except for one good friend (who I slowly lost touch with, though) I did not carry over a lot of people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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oh for crying out loud. Teens don't have g&t. We are talking about elementary [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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I'm not talking about g&t. I'm talking about friends, which you theoretically keep from primary school IF they are in your neighborhood. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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This post is about goint to a g&t and not your zoned school. That applys only to elementary. Middle schools don't have g&t programs. Come on. Just give. you know you are wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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But there are selective MS vs zoned MS... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:35 AM Flag
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Exactly - so your arugument while not releveant to elementary and g&t and playdates also makes no sense for middle school either. The children split up and scatter [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:47 AM Flag
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but if they have friends in the nabe, presumably from attending their zoned school, they will most likely keep those friends through middle and high school no matter where they go. and that is a good thing [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:02 AM Flag
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you're missing my point, which is that it's easier to stay friends with someone in the nabe even if you end up at different schools in later years than it is to stay friends with someone who lives in another boro AND you no longer go to school with [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:42 AM Flag
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np - So what's your point here exactly? ITA that teens get together with their friends but of course, it matters less at that age where the friends live. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:32 AM Flag
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I'm just speaking from experience. we sent dd out of neighborhood, so now all her friends live in Brooklyn and the Bronx and it limits her socializing. I know this post is about elementary school; I'm just saying the friends you make in elem school are often friends for life, but only usually if they're in the neighborhood [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:38 AM Flag
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And I disagree that elementary school friends matter. For me personally, it was HS & college friends (and I lived in the same small town my whole life). And I see my MS dc moving away from his elementary school friends (at the same MS). So IMO it doesn't really matter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:50 AM Flag
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oh good! now I don't feel guilty about my decision to send dd to an out-of-nabe school. ;-) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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yes, of course. They will do homework together, go out at night. That is all cool and only really relevant when they are a little older. Definitely NOT in Kindergarten. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:18 AM Flag
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right. but I was looking at it from the point of view that if you're in a neighborhood school in primary school, your friends live in the neighborhood. when you get older you make new friends but keep the old, so you still have friends nearby. but as someone pointed out, D3 is so small it's not really an issue. this is a perfect example why UB would be so much better if you could only post to one board. I'm not on NY Schools, but I am on New York City. I responded to a post that seemed relevant to my experience but turns out really isn't [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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But you are assuming that the children go to a nabe middle school. They don't. They go to specialized schools all over the place. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:37 AM Flag
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I know. but the neighborhood friends are still in the neighborhood, so it's easy to maintain a connection even if you are at different middle schools [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:40 AM Flag
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np - Not really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:51 AM Flag
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ok [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:04 AM Flag
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my experience is that school friends trump neighborhood friends by far. I don't think it matters if you have friends in the neighborhood where you live or somewhere else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:10 AM Flag
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I sit corrected. My only experience has been with having sent dd out of nabe for school, and now that she's older, it seems really hard for her and her friends to get together because they live so far apart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:16 AM Flag
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I wonder what the % of 166 G&T kids going to Delta is compared to the % of 87 or 199 kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:23 AM Flag
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and why are the g & t's at 166 and 163 mediocre? i know a bunch of kids (older than my dc) that went to 163 and did great, loved it - got into good middle schools [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:26 AM Flag
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ITA at both 166 and 163. I think OP considers them "ghetto" schools FWIW. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:29 AM Flag
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what does ITA and FWIW mean? ( sorry) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:33 AM Flag
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"I totally agree", "for what it's worth" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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I'm smothering under all the blankets. Not all G&Ts are equal. Not all Gen Eds are equal. Not all kids have the same needs. Some Gen Eds might just be better for some high-scoring kids than the G&T they were assigned to. That's all. It's a matter of individual needs and meeting them. G&T isn't always better academically, Gen Ed isn't always better socially. Blanket statements are made by idiots. And boy are there a lot of them here today. It’s OK to feel good about your own choice without insisting it is the best one for everyone else too. Move on with your own life and realize that your choice isn't the only choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 11:32 AM Flag
[ - ] How do I get a variance application form? Can I get it online? I am in district 2, but want to attend a District 1 school. Please advise. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.17.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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anyone know? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:12 AM Flag
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thank you so much! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:18 AM Flag
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they aren't called variances anymore, they are called placement exception requests, and they are very, very difficult to obtain unless there is a legitimate medical or safety reason that makes your zoned school not an option. here's more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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^sorry. meant to post this link. http://wwww.insideschools.org/st/ST_transfer.php#3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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Usually you have to pick it up in person at the district office - call District 1 and ask. Getting variances (or "placement exception requests" as they are now called) is very hard these days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Why good zoned school near your home (eg, 199, 87is better than a mediocre G&T (eg, 166, 163) 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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I really don't see this going anywhere productive. a) some people don't have that choice; b) different schools are "good" for different kids; and c) you've already called some schools that people love "mediocre," which is no way to start a dialogue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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what's to love about a G within a G (white G&T within a Ghetto GenEd) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:06 AM Flag
[ - ] Favorite weekend escape without the kids - not too far from Manhattan. We can go by car or train. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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Honestly, a high end hotel in NYC. Go downtown if you live up town (and vice versa) and have the concierge set you up with a great dinner reservation. We also like Thomas Hunsiger (sp) House in Greenwich. It is a Relais and Chateaux [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:02 AM Flag
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the chanler in newport, ri [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:07 AM Flag
[ - ] Does Purplestork offer coupon codes? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:57 AM Flag
[ - ] Just got a letter from IRS saying we are getting a stimulus check, but it could take up to August 30 to receive it. What's up with this? I had assumed we weren't getting one because they were supposed to go out last month. Why is ours so late? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:56 AM Flag
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I haven't gotten mine yet either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:58 AM Flag
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Did you get a letter saying you would too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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No, not yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 07:59 AM Flag
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I'm pissed because we decided against visiting my brother and his baby because air fares were so expensive. This would have paid the difference, and now I bet rates are even higher. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:03 AM Flag
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they screwed it up. some people got 2 checks while others are still waiting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:00 AM Flag
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Huh. Do they get to keep the money?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:01 AM Flag
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I doubt it. Our government can't run a war but you know there would be feds at your door if you got an extra $300 check... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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Ours is $1800. Posted above I'm mad that we didn't at least know the money was coming before now. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:04 AM Flag
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If you knew your income you must have known you were getting a check. We didn't get our letter until 2 days before the check came. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:07 AM Flag
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No, we are right at the borderline, it was unclear. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:09 AM Flag
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It depends on the last 2 digits of your social security number. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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