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[ - ] Can anyone give me some good tips for lunch with boss today? The purpose of the lunch is to "celebrate my 4 year anniversary." I like her as a person but she's limited as a leader- I think she senses that I want to leave. I guess just sit & keep my mouth shut? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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I remember you. I'd suggest mouth shut and enjoy the food. Just get it over and done with and get back to work. Have fun! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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Today is the day. I can work on my idle chit chat skills [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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Are you considering leaving? Is your boss just thinking that you might [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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i'd only speak up if there's something you want from her that she can give, i.e. a promotion, new assignment, etc. it's a good opportunity for asking for something like that. but if you don't want anything, just chat. though i'm guessing if she senses you want to leave and she's taking you out, she might offer something or probe how she can keep you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:07 AM Flag
[ - ] My 14 month old DS has started biting my back when I pick him up and laughing about it when I disipline him. HELP! It's not funny~! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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He probably likes the fact that he gets a reaction from you when he bites so tell him no but don't make a big deal out of it. Trust me it is a phase (btdt) and he will probably soon move onto something else soon. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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not sure how you dislipine him but when my ds started doing this (to be funny, not out of anger) I said NO very firmly and loudly and never smiled, made it seem very serious. He figured out quickly not to do it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:03 AM Flag
[ - ] Need gift ideas for SIL- she's 39, single, doesn't like gift cards, likes clothes (Lucky, Anthropologie)...I tried looking for summer jammies at Anthropologie, but didn't find anything. thanks! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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What about a "nice" t-shirt or 2 (Splendid, Ella Moss, James Perse, etc.)? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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Do you know any good places online that carry these brands- I think she would like that. Everyone can use good, fancy t shirts [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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Shopbop.com or revolveclothing.com. ITA -- they're comfortable and flattering and a nice gift! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:56 AM Flag
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The Lucky 50% off sale is happening right now. go there and get her something. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:08 AM Flag
[ - ] DH and I are tall, and therefore of course we only want our tall children to go to school with other children so blessed. So many of the children at their current school seem to be short and its holding Trevor back. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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from what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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he's not maximizing his height potential. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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^ incidentally, when I say that the other children are short, what I mean of course is that they are in the 97th percentile of height, rather than Trevor's 99th %-ile [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:01 AM Flag
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that is just funny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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My tall child (99%ile)is thriving in a gen ed public school. Only on of the 31 kids in his class is taller than he is. He is doing great. Can see the teacher and blackboard better than any of the other kids. If he were in a school of all tall kids he wouldnt be as confident and might have an obstructed view sometimes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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excellent point. wonder if there's any analogy to be drawn to G&T programs........ NAAAAAH [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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i hear you. i'm very worried my dd won't reach her maximum style potential at a school like nest. it's practically in brooklyn for god's sake. she'll never be able to compete with those style mavens on the ues a la gossip girl. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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please be a fake post [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:11 AM Flag
[ - ] Young energetic college educated woman seeks nanny position.2007 Hunter College graduate (English major) seeks long-term nanny position. Have extensive experience. References available - Available two weeks after offer 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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do you babysit as well as nanny? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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Currently I am a babysitter, but looking for a nanny position. If you need an occasional babysitter I am avaible, just let me know in advance so that there is no conflict in schedule. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:03 AM Flag
[ - ] I can't believe that yet another parent from dd's preschool has sent out a mass email asking for others to detail their summers so she can schedule her child's birthday party when the most people are in town. I have two summer bdays and we've always scheduled a party and hoped for the best. And guess what - it's always just worked out. People really try to micromanage, don't they? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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I can understand (slightly) with the amount of people who leave NY in the summer and the probable cost of the party. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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I would like to know what you're doing every day this week so that I can find out if you are more boring than I am ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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this is pretty much it. so yes, i am definitely more boring than you are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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except that I'm here too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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i hate parents like that. i will just not reply. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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But its really about the party- your kid celebrating another kid [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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obnoxious [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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So just respond that your schedule is open, these are the best days/weeks for you & move on... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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What do you mean she asked others to detail their summers" We have a dc w/ a summer bday, and we usually just send out a message asking people if they expect to be in town on X date; sort of as a save-the-date reminder for them, and for us to get a general sense of how many dc might come because it has an effect on what kind of party we'll plan. I don't think we're micromanaging. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:46 AM Flag
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that's not the same as asking 25-50 people to go through their calenders and list when their available. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:48 AM Flag
[ - ] any thoughts on Albee Baby store in Manhattan? good experience? bad? haven't yet been there, but about to check it out. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 06.17.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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I ordered my stroller from them, it was fine. they sell previous year's maclarens at a discount. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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got my stroller there. experience was fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Did Anderson sibs get PS9 G&T preference? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.17.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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Wasn't that a crazy PS9 parent spreading that rumor? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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actually it was a crazy A parent! ;) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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More like a hopeful A parent. I wonder if it happened. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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Not at all. The posts I read made it clear that it was a PS 9 parent. Something about "bastard A sibs" and "I'm going to work to get Anderson out of my school" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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This board is anonymous… who knows where the crazies are really from. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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I think there's someone posing as an Anderson parent and probably also as a PS 9 parent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:08 AM Flag
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agree. I think there are a couple of angry people, or maybe one who did not get a spot at either school trying to make trouble. Making it appear that anderson and ps9 are practically at war. really is not the case at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 04:28 PM Flag
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I heard from reliable source that there was some agitation for this; so I wonder how it all panned out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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Don't know, but they shouldn't. A screams they are a separate school, special, a city wide and then tries to talk out of the other side of their mouth and get non qualifying sibs into PS9 g&t. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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ita. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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I don't think that Anderson is "screaming" that. They just are a citywide G&T school and separate from PS 9. I do agree that their sibs should not get PS 9 preference at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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I know one A sib who got into PS9 G&T. D3. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:54 AM Flag
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I think that is why the A moms are complaining and lobbying to change things [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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wrongly so [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:57 AM Flag
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I don't get why that's the reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:09 AM Flag
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If this is true, I'm sure with a little extra prep next year she;ll try to get her kid in A. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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doesn't mean she got in as a sib though, right? A sib could have scored a 99 and ps9 was the second choice. Lots of A sibs have gotten into ps9 when entry was just based on scores. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:03 AM Flag
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sib did not make the citywide cutoff. definitely got in as a sib. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:06 AM Flag
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this process is a joke. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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Anderson sib would automatically be in A with a 99. Wouldn't need to go to 2nd choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:07 AM Flag
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that's right. anyway, I think it was wrong to give A sibs preference at ps9 if it wasn't reciprocal for qualified ps9 sibs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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This is also very unfair for high scoring catchment kids that are placed in gen ed since they did not have an older sib in G&T or A. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:14 AM Flag
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This is also unfair for G&T sibs that had a 99, but did not even try for Anderson for fear of losing their sibling spot at 9. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:30 AM Flag
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exactly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:36 AM Flag
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ITA. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:21 AM Flag
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But who is to say that that dc didn't get in like other kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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as mentioned above the dc must have scored below a 97 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:15 AM Flag
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But of course this poster could be lying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:24 AM Flag
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That wasn't due to sib preference. It was just luck and she got her local choice with a good draw in the pile - getting picked early. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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This makes no sense. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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No, but they were supposed to because PS 9 kids were given same sib preference for being in the same building as Anderson sibs. They had said it would either go both ways or not at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 05:12 PM Flag
[ - ] We're starting to think about sleep-away camp for dd next year. We'd prefer to send her somewhere relatively close to home/NYC; maybe PA, NJ or NY state. Does anyone have any suggestions for camps to look at? A friend recommended Lake Bryn Mawr Camp in PA. http://www.campbrynmawr.com/ It looks great, but it's all-girls and dd is already at a ss ongoing, so we're thinking a co-ed camp might be a nice change. TIA! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Preschool/Kids 06.17.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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echo lake in the Adirondacks is supposed to be very nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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NP: I was just going to suggest Echo Lake! I worked there in college and my DC are now campers (and counting the days until they leave for camp at the end of the month!). Other friends are happy at Walt Whitman and Indian Head. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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we toured echo lake and walt whitman and liked both of them very much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:04 AM Flag
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Thank you both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:27 AM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone give me some ideas for a camp for a 7yr old girl? Not sleepaway. I'm researching for next year. TIA 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.17.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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Fieldston Outdoors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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Ramapo. Great day camp. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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Only have recs for LA, sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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My dds love Ramaquois. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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Yomi, through the 92nd St Y [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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Riverdale [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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Elmwood Day Camp (Westchester) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Ideas for good take along snacks for 1yo? TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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cheerios, buy a bagel or banana form a fruit vendor as you walk along, zucchini bread (and make it, slive and freeze it so I can grab it and run), cheese sticks, raisins, rotini pasta.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:33 AM Flag
[ - ] my husband told me last night that he no longer loves me and wants to leave. im devastated and i dont know how i will get through the day with two little ones. we would have been married 7 years in september. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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Tell him not to let the door hit him when he leaves. It is amazing to me how some people think it is so much greener on the other side. Truth is he has a lot more wrong with himself then you do. Keep your head up be strong and remember that your children need one stable person intheir life and that is you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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Drop kick him out the door immediately. Ask for the address where his stuff should be sent. He's a punk and he'll be crawling back, but you need to impose some rules on this infantile jerk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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I am very sorry for you. You WILL get through the day because of your two little ones. They need you now more than ever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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i'm sorry. what did you say? is there a chance that he needs you to fight for your marriage right now and he will come around with time or do you think he's already gone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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I tend to agree more with the people who say don't let the door hit him on the way out. Begging is not the way to go, if you stand up to him though, he may realize how dumb he's being. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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is he serious? it's not a 7year thing? suggest some conseling. try to save the family. pride does not help, he might be feeling terrible after what he said and will try to come back but if you shut the door he won't be able to. people are stressed these days. try to talk to him, but be realistic why he feels that way, and perhaps you can change something about yourself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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She shouldn't have to "change herself" to make someone love her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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no, that is not what i meant. but sometimes we (wifes) get over-critical (for example) of dhs, and that kills love. that is what I meant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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In this case, it would seem better if the dh voiced his complaints all along rather than a sudden "I don't love you anymore." I doubt that just happened overnight. Given that we don't know the details of their relationship- who knows what the problems are? She could at least suggest counciling to see if anything can be done [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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np: This asshole didn't say he was unhappy in the marriage - he said he didn't love her anymore. It's over, and don't you dare blame this on OP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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in no way i am not blaming it on her. i am just telling her that love is a two way street [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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Marriage is a two-way street. When one person checks out of the marriage, the other person can't fix that. Semantics matter in a situation like this - by saying he doesn't love her, it means he's been gone from the marriage for a while. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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totally agree wit hthis advice. and very very sorry. but try to work it out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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That's a brick- you didn't see it coming? Well, I guess you need to figure out plan b [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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I would say "I'm very sad to hear that. Let's see a family counselor so we can figure out how and when we're going to tell the kids. In the meantime, where can I reach you?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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I suspect family counseling will lead to a different outcome, but if the marriage is going to end you both have to be smart about it for the sake of your kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Its very important to separate the smartest children very early on in life so that their minds are not polluted by meeting anyone below the 97th percentile. There is such a vast difference between 99th and 97th percentile that in time they will likely become separate species. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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LOL, are there crazies on here that are actually stating this. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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Yes, and happiness, success and fulfillment in life can be precisely predicted by a short standardized test administered to a 5 year old. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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LMAO, what is funny is people actually believe that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:35 AM Flag
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Please, they feel sorry for the kids going to a --gasp--public G&T. everyone knows that a private preschool is the only guarantee of success in life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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Exactly. Because associating with people who are exactly like you is the best way to build a cohesive and vibrant culture. Everyone know that! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:58 AM Flag
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Oh good lord I hope you are joking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 10:45 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:32 AM Flag
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what do you mean? 99s go to school only with 99s, did not you see the results for A and N? it's all fair here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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yes, and they are all preped by ktss. here you go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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seriously - and have you seen those awful kids in the 94th percentile? destined to sweep floors [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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oh tell me about it! Mouth-breathers all the way! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:42 AM Flag
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Ya know, if we segment them out like that and don't teach sex ed, a couple of millennium from now... That could be a cool experiment. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:46 AM Flag
[ - ] Just starting eggs w/1yo dd. Has no texture aversions and eats anything but has been spitting out scrambled eggs. Ate a bit but then began to spit out. No reactions to speak of but do you think she is allergic and is having a slight hive reaction in mouth? I can't tell but have read an article that a db would spit eggs/products with eggs in them out and she was allergic. Just wondering... 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:28 AM Flag
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Some dc's just hate eggs. My dd did too, unfortunately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:31 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:29 AM Flag
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why is it on the NY board? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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np. because people in NY eat eggs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:39 AM Flag
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no, this is no NJ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:47 AM Flag
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god - i hate it when the board police are on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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if you put anything school specifil on gen board you get immediately flamed. reciprocity :-).plus we have to live up to the reputation - crazy school moms [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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sorry, still getting used to what categories to check. Thought it would get more responses w/NY board checked as well as the others. I'll be better next time :o) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 12:28 PM Flag
[ - ] a friend just told me she had a horrible miscarriage at 14 weeks. would it be weird to buy her a small present? should i send a card? ideas? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:27 AM Flag
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card [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:30 AM Flag
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get her a card. and give her a hug. she probably just wants your friendship more than anything right now! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:36 AM Flag
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definitely a card, if she's still pretty depressed maybe arrange for some food to be delivered so that she can take a load off one or two evenings. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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Was the m/c recent? I'd probably send a card but no present. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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I would send her a card letting her know that she was "in my thoughts and prayers" or that I was "thinking of her night and day". And say I'm so sorry for her loss. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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and if you know her well enough, get a gc to her favorite local takeout place so you can take a night off from cooking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:51 AM Flag
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