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06.17.08, 08:29 AM General Topics
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my husband told me last night that he no longer loves me and wants to leave. im devastated and i dont know how i will get through the day with two little ones. we would have been married 7 years in september. [ Reply | Watch | Flag ]
General Topics 06.17.08, 08:29 AM Flag
 

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Tell him not to let the door hit him when he leaves. It is amazing to me how some people think it is so much greener on the other side. Truth is he has a lot more wrong with himself then you do. Keep your head up be strong and remember that your children need one stable person intheir life and that is you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:31 AM Flag
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Drop kick him out the door immediately. Ask for the address where his stuff should be sent. He's a punk and he'll be crawling back, but you need to impose some rules on this infantile jerk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:33 AM Flag
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I am very sorry for you. You WILL get through the day because of your two little ones. They need you now more than ever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:34 AM Flag
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i'm sorry. what did you say? is there a chance that he needs you to fight for your marriage right now and he will come around with time or do you think he's already gone? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:37 AM Flag
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I tend to agree more with the people who say don't let the door hit him on the way out. Begging is not the way to go, if you stand up to him though, he may realize how dumb he's being. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:43 AM Flag
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is he serious? it's not a 7year thing? suggest some conseling. try to save the family. pride does not help, he might be feeling terrible after what he said and will try to come back but if you shut the door he won't be able to. people are stressed these days. try to talk to him, but be realistic why he feels that way, and perhaps you can change something about yourself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:41 AM Flag
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She shouldn't have to "change herself" to make someone love her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:45 AM Flag
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no, that is not what i meant. but sometimes we (wifes) get over-critical (for example) of dhs, and that kills love. that is what I meant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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In this case, it would seem better if the dh voiced his complaints all along rather than a sudden "I don't love you anymore." I doubt that just happened overnight. Given that we don't know the details of their relationship- who knows what the problems are? She could at least suggest counciling to see if anything can be done [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:53 AM Flag
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np: This asshole didn't say he was unhappy in the marriage - he said he didn't love her anymore. It's over, and don't you dare blame this on OP. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:49 AM Flag
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in no way i am not blaming it on her. i am just telling her that love is a two way street [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:50 AM Flag
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Marriage is a two-way street. When one person checks out of the marriage, the other person can't fix that. Semantics matter in a situation like this - by saying he doesn't love her, it means he's been gone from the marriage for a while. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:52 AM Flag
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totally agree wit hthis advice. and very very sorry. but try to work it out [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:11 AM Flag
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That's a brick- you didn't see it coming? Well, I guess you need to figure out plan b [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:44 AM Flag
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I would say "I'm very sad to hear that. Let's see a family counselor so we can figure out how and when we're going to tell the kids. In the meantime, where can I reach you?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 08:59 AM Flag
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I suspect family counseling will lead to a different outcome, but if the marriage is going to end you both have to be smart about it for the sake of your kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.17.08, 09:00 AM Flag
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