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Dear UrbanBaby community,

Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

If you have any questions or concerns, you can email us at urbanbaby-support@cbsinteractive.com.

Thanks so much,

UrbanBaby Support

[ - ] Interesting article, there's a potential link between TV watching before age 3 and autism. http://www.slate.com/id/2151538/ 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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maybe now people on here will vaccinate their kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:24 AM Flag
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Why in the world would you bring up such an old article out of the blue? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:30 AM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know about the Alexander Robertson School? We pass it all the time. It seems cute and small. The price is reasonable. What's the catch.. that it's k-5? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.24.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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First, it's very very small. Which should actually attract a lot of private school types, you would think. But second, it's pretty diverse, which conversely drives away a lot of private school types. And third, great art but it's not known for its academics. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:52 AM Flag
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It's a pretty average school in terms of both academics and facility. If you live in a terrible public school zone, it's a good option. Also, if your child needs small classes, a small environment, then it's a good option. But if you are zoned for a good public school and your child has no issues with size/noise, then I don't see the point. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:23 AM Flag
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Maybe the fact that it is church-connected makes it closer to a parochial school than an independent school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 04:13 PM Flag
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It's a school that, quietly, caters to a lot of families with kids who have "issues" ranging from behavioral to learning disabilities with a range of intellectual capacities, too. A lot of what you might usually call "immature" kids that need supplemental services to more challenging problems that absolutely need the smaller environment and low adult-to-student ratio. They're discreet about it, as opposed to the Churchill or Winston schools. There's no social prestige there, too, so it's not on the usual radar. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 01:25 AM Flag
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OP HERE. THANK YOU EVERYONE!!!!!!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 12:48 PM Flag
[ - ] what are good activities to do with a 10 week old? he is awake more and more and beyond talking to him and tummy time...we don't do much more. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:06 AM Flag
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stroller him around the neighborhood? Newborns don't do much [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Just got new insurance - seems as if dd's pediatrician does not take it. Any one have a good pediatrician who takes Oxford? TIA 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 05:53 AM Flag
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we have oxford and are downtown, so have been going to soho pediatrics for the past 5 years. marie keith is dd's pediatrician there, but all the doctors are good. i think that tribeca pediatrics also takes oxford. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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Dr Cammerman at Uptown Pediatrics. We love him! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:31 AM Flag
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Thank you both [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:36 AM Flag
[ - ] When I collapse a post, it (aggravatingly) re-opens whenever I refresh, post anywhere, etc. ... ??? How to stop this? TIA 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 05:47 AM Flag
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OP: HELP? Anyone...? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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You can't - they are "working on it" according to the site feedback site - But it doesn't hurt to send another post to site feedback. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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nothing you can do... many of us have complained about this [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:21 AM Flag
[ - ] I think our house was hit by lightning last night. we live in west orange, and at about 10:30 (I was sleeping, DH was up), I was jolted awake-the house actually shook from the force of it! Feel lucky it didn't cause a fire but am a little freaked out. anyone ever experience this? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 05:31 AM Flag
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our building in greenpoint was struck by lightning a few summers ago. if your house was struck, you're lucky your computer still works. in our building, there was a design studio a few floors above us, and their computers were all fried, despite being plugged into surge-protectors. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 05:46 AM Flag
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op: that's why I'm wondering if we were really struck. Something happened, either really close or on the house, because the house definitely moved, but the electricity didn't even flicker. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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well - you bought a good house! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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Wow. I would want to check this out. Not sure how I would go about it though. Maybe call your local Fire Dept and ask them? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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Take a walk around your house. Usually things (well, trees in my experience) struck by lightening have a very pungent acrid smell. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:51 AM Flag
[ - ] In Shrek 3rd, what is the story with the transvestite princess? Serious btw, totally confused. TIA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 05:27 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.31.08, 07:07 PM Flag
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shes the ugly stepsister [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.31.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks. But why make her clearly a man in drag? Odd choice imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.31.08, 07:21 PM Flag
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It's common for the ugly stepsisters to be played by men if you want then as ugly as possible. Uncomfortable for most to laugh or make fun of an ugly woman. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.31.08, 07:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Did they ever reinstall "Most Active?" TIA. First time here since they changed the formet (which I now loathe, hence my avoidance). 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 05:19 AM Flag
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Yes. Most Active is the default setting. If you don't want it, click on Sort by Recency and then "Save as Default" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 05:40 AM Flag
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OP: Thanks! : ) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 05:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone here on a coop board? Is common for the coop to hire an accountant to review the financial statements of a potential buyer? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 05:17 AM Flag
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ours doesn't...but we do pretty much everything ourselves. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 05:47 AM Flag
[ - ] Going back to work imminently, DB 6 months - How do I convince DH that I cant have MIL live with us for 4-6 months in small NYC apt to watch DB? DH thinks fantastic and does not understand issues of being in control of how DB cared for (MIL would second guess my childcare desires and not do it) and privacy. And the ability to find top nannies now - not randomly in winter. Fine with MIL coming to visit whenever she wants and training nanny etc. Also, DH travels a lot for work. I would feel like prisoner in my own home. Also MIL not even going to watch DB 5x a week - just 3x a week (so she can go back home to CT) and then I would have to find someone to cover. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 11:09 PM Flag
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How does DH respond to your concerns? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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Sounds like a mixed blessing. As annoying as my MIL is, knowing someone I trust would be there, who loves and is competent with DS, is a hard offer to give up. I think you have to flat out tell him that you don't want to do that and want to start interviewing for nannies. You can find a good one, don't kid yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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op: if she didnt have to live with us in our small apt....and if i thought she would actually follow my directions (and my husband would back me up) - i would have a different opinion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:33 AM Flag
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op: thinks i am being selfish.... but says he understands my concerns but that we can just work through them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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I'm trying to think about how that would go for me. I think my dh would see the point that if I'm the one home most of the time and he's not around then whatever impact it had on me (pos or neg) would bear more weight in the decision-making. Of course, my MIL is completely useless (although she doesn't know that) and too wrapped up in her own stuff to offer something like that. GL figuring it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:32 AM Flag
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op: thanks so much. it is such a touchy situation as DH feels like I am "dissing" his mom.... and i am not. she is welcome to come visit here and there whenever she wants but to live with us for 6 months in an apt is just too much. and i dont think i am a bad person not to want to have dinner with my MIL (and sometimes FIL would come) every night. and not be able to "speak freely" because i have to be deferential to DH's MIL....... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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If your DH travels a lot for work, you might seriously reconsider your position. Having MIL there 3 days a week could be HUGELY helpful to you. I work f/t (so does DH) and have 2 kids, and MIL babysits 2-3 days a week. I cannot emphasize enough how much of a lifesaver this arrangement has been. Can you arrange her days so that she's only staying overnight 2 nights/week, but babysitting 3 days? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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op: i dont think so. i dont think she or my DH would want her traveling back to CT late at night so would probably want to stay until the next morning to leave. But how did you find coverage for the other 2 days your MIL not around? I would think finding someone parttime for consecutive days would be really hard (Thurs/Friday). And does your MIL respect your desires? My MIL bought curtains for my apt and just put them up without consulting me........... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:41 AM Flag
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We found a p/t sitter to cover the other days. Re: boundaries, you need to lay down the law NOW. Firmly but respectfully. Don't hide behind your DH (I have seen many posters on UB recommend this when it comes to MIL issues, and I think it's terrible advice). Of course you need DH to support you, but he may legitimately feel that he's being forced to choose between 2 women he loves and might not want to be in that position (it just depends on your DH). Anyway, stand on your own 2 feet and remember that YOU are the boss here. We still occasionally need to lay down the law with MIL, but you choose your battles. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:45 AM Flag
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^^^ Anyway, good luck. Once you're working full time, you might realize how important it is to have flexibility with your child care arrangement (something that can be much harder to get with a paid sitter than with a family member, especially if it will often be just you and the baby. It's exhausting and you will need a break, if only to get your hair cut and buy new clothes for work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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How dismissive! If you feel strongly about this, and it seems you do, you need to make sure you are "heard". Or this dynamic will appear again and again in your marriage. I am certain you can do this is a non-confrontational way, "I really appreciate your offer MIL, however I feel it will be best for our family to have a regular, full-time nanny. However you are more than welcome to visit db during the days and we will visit you at your home also". Good luck Lady! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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op: thank you so much. i knew i would get the support i need for this family drama. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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Make it a "mellow-drama" (ha, I'm a hippy) I' [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:53 AM Flag
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^^^db kicked me, whoops! I'm glad that neither your dh or mil are pressuring you to stay home. And I sah. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:55 AM Flag
[ - ] can i just say that we are having an "empty the fridge and the freezer week" and i have only bought bread, milk, and a box of cheerios the whole week. i'm so proud of myself. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:29 PM Flag
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we do that too. i've actually made some meals (out of desperation) that i still make [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 05:36 AM Flag
[ - ] 20 weeks. missionary position. tell me i didn't squash the bebe. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.23.08, 09:59 PM Flag
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guy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:11 PM Flag
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OP: nope, i'm the mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:13 PM Flag
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you didn't squash the babe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:15 PM Flag
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Not even at 40 weeks is your darling partner's wand magical enough to squash the bebe, my dear, though missionary will get more challenging. Many partners use intercourse to initiate labor! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.23.08, 10:33 PM Flag
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