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[ - ] i could just cry. we have carpet beetles. and dh (who i've been very annoyed with lately anyway) is poo-pooing it and thinking i'm overreacting. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:02 PM Flag
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You probably are overreacting, but it sucks anyway, and I'm sorry, and dh should try to be more supportive. What are carpet beetles, anyway? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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wtf are carpet beetles??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 04:02 PM Flag
[ - ] can someone tell me the logic behind jehovas witness members not voting? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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they do not participate in government at all. they don't care about earthly things.i am sure they won't do jury duty either; not sure about taxes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:20 PM Flag
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they better pay taxes, they live here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.03.08, 02:57 PM Flag
[ - ] i am hiring waitstaff for a party this weekend. i orinally wanted 5 people. this includes 2 bartenders and 3 people to pass and serve food. well i cancelled one of the bartenders. i decided to hire another bartender who i felt could best make the type of drinks being served (martinis). anyway my contact for the first group sent me an email stating the revised price plus a $25 flat fee if they had to provide any assistance to the other bartender, i.e. stock glasses and get ice. wtf????? i am paying them to work the entire EVENT, not portions of it. not sure how to handle. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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clearly they're not happy with you dropping the 1 bartender. How do the increased costs they're hitting you for match up with your $$ savings with the new bartender? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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it actually evens out if i had used their bartender but it really isnt about the money and i stated that. i told him it was the principle and i felt like he was nickle and diming me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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pay the $25? what else are you going to do at this late hour? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:59 PM Flag
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not about the money but i dont like the way he is nickel and diming me. i told him there will be an event planner so everyone will go to her anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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I don't understand - everyone will go to her for glasses and ice? How will your bartender get this if he needs it? Surely he will use what the caterers bring? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:03 PM Flag
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then pour your own drinks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:04 PM Flag
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You are a fool to micro manage these people. If you hire people to staff and event you cannot just fly in and decide someone else makes a better martini. Don't be silly, pay up and shut up. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:08 PM Flag
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ita. it's $25. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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np: i'm not totally sure if i agree. i've seen too many people who hired caterers for important events (weddings, etc) and just assumed the caterer was going to do a nice job and they don't always. i think a good hostess does micromanage to a certain extent. that said, i don't understand the op's post very well. is the extra bartender bringing his own equipment? is the equipment being supplied by a third party, other than the waitstaff? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:14 PM Flag
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Sorry but OPs judgement on martini-making ability seems marginal at best [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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can't comment on that. i have never had a martini in my life and i have no idea if some people make them significantly better than other bartenders. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:18 PM Flag
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Well that is OPs rationale for firing the 3rd bartender [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:21 PM Flag
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Did OP have a martini contest to judge everyone's performance? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:19 PM Flag
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I have to wonder how she's going to manage the flow of guests to the martini bartender vs. the regular guy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:22 PM Flag
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I can't comment on any of this but one thing is for sure: you have way too much money on your hands. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 04:29 PM Flag
[ - ] In NYC do 3 yo have to take standarized tests to get into school? From PA and can't imagine 3 yo can't even read? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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they're not expected to read. some may take Hunter/SB as an "old" three (mine did), but most take it and the private test at four, and it's less of a test, and more activity and verbally based. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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some schools require the ERB test for pre-K admission (Columbia Grammar, for example), so if you're applying for private pre-K, may need to have dc take the test. My dc took the Stanford Binet right before turning 4 because of Fall birthday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:29 PM Flag
[ - ] is obama pro choice? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:55 PM Flag
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are you an idiot? he's a democrat - yes, he's pro choice! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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what is with the name calling?? good grief! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:58 PM Flag
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np: being a democrat does not guarantee one is pro-choice, not all democrats are. Just like not all republicans are pro-life. That said, yes Obama is pro-choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:16 PM Flag
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basically, yes, but he's recently said a few things about restricting late-term abortions that i, personally, have some problems with. But practically speaking in office he's going to have pro-choise policies (as opposed to bush or mccain) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:22 PM Flag
[ - ] If you suffer from bouts of depression in pregnancy are you very likely to suffer from PPD? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.24.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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that is a great question. i am keeping this on watch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:56 PM Flag
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i did, but got on meds and was fine post partum. ssri's are v safe during pg -- dd is perfect. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:17 PM Flag
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i think so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:57 PM Flag
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I was slightly depressed durning 2nd pregnancy and had nothing but joy after ds came! but I think having depression puts at greater risk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:58 PM Flag
[ - ] 1 yo ds likes to hit people in the face. i know he does not know any better, but is this a phase? any suggestions on how to get him to stop. it hurts... 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.24.08, 01:48 PM Flag
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my ds did this and at 3 yo still sometimes hits not often anymore. we would take his hand and gentle rub it on our cheek saying gentle touch. it good if you can catch it before he does it and tell him gentle gentle. if he keeps doing it put him down and walk away. Hitting sucks- people often don't have sympathy for the mom of a hitter- but it's not your fault some kids just do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:51 PM Flag
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I hold dc's wrist, look her in the eye, and tell her, "no hitting." Then I make her stroke my face, and say, "gentle." She's 16 mos, and seems to be getting it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:54 PM Flag
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just grab his hand, move it gently away and try to distract or move away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:01 PM Flag
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Hold his hand look at him in the eye and sternly say "Hitting hurts don't hit". [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:14 PM Flag
[ - ] ds took erb on Tuesday. How many weeks until you hear over the summer? Three? Four? Longer? Thx 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 07.24.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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My dc took it in July a few years ago. Had the report in hand exactly two weeks later (was shocked to see it in mailbox--was expecting it two to four weeks later--and had a huge adrenaline rush. Was shaking when I opened it... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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Two weeks one day for friend's dc who took it about 4 weeks ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 04:25 PM Flag
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Definitely less than 4 weeks right now. Friend got it back in less than 3 wks I think and took it last week of June (this yr). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone gone against their doctor's wishes? 39 w preg and doc wants to induce me for pregnancy induced hypertension. I do not want to be induced and have no other complications. Not my first child either. Thoughts? What will happen if I say no? 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.24.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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i would not mess with hypertension [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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me either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:24 PM Flag
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why? There are actually theories that mild hypertension is fine and the risks of induction are greater. BTW had it with #1 too and never amounted to anything [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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you hired your doctor b/c you appreciated his medical expertise. i wouldn't say you have to blindly follow him, but he has a valid and medically accepted reason for giving his advice. i think you're a fool to ignore it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:34 PM Flag
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I was induced b/c of low fluid which was related to HBP. Can you see if they will induce with cervadil instead of pitocin? That and having my midwife strip my membranes is all it took with DD. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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My sister is a NICU nurse and she says that she would not go past her due date--she sees to many kids come in with complications (miconium, etc) from late deliveries. That plus the hypertension, I think I'd listen to the doc. But you have to decide for yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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39 weeks isn't late! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:26 PM Flag
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Sorry, you're right. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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Hypertension is a pretty serious complication for both you and the baby. Get induced. If you say no, you'll probably proceed into a crisis that will require emergency intervention and puts your and the baby's life at risk. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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OP: so it seems that no one goes against their dr's wishes. I have done a lot of research on this and it seems there is no evidence that stable mild hypertension late in preg has material risks. I know that the dr. wants to prevent that 0.1% chance, but honestly I don't think that is worth trading into a 25% chance of c-section with induction. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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How mild is "mild?" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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140/70 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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I think you're underestimating the risk of hypertension-related complications AND their severity, while overestimating the risk of a c-section from induction. The severity of the risk of the former far outweighs the severity of the risk of the latter. But if you're comfortable with your decision, then discuss with your doctor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:31 PM Flag
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op: I went with dr. advise for #1 because I didn't know my body in pregnancy, but now that I'm on pregnancy #3, I know myself pretty well [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:32 PM Flag
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I think, you need to think again. You are not a doctor. The internet is not "research". If you don't think your doctor is up to par then find another one. But to put your health and/or the babies health at risk because you fear a C section is not prudent. You have delivered vaginally before, chances are very good that you will again. Many, many are induced and have uneventful vaginal deliveries. Actually far more than end up with a c section. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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OP: I consider reading peer reviewed medical articles on the internet acceptable research. That is what the drs read too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:20 PM Flag
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Yeah, but they know what it REALLY means, and you don't. Or else you could get to be a doctor by surfing the web. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:27 PM Flag
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I think you make a mistake considering this to be the doctor's "wishes." It is the doctor's medical opinion of the best choice for you -- disagreeing is dangerous unless you are really qualified to make a medical decision, or get a second opinion. From a doctor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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Are you doing your research online? I agree with the others. If you're not confident with your doctor why are you with him/her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:18 PM Flag
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Happened to me & I was induced & all was fine. In general, I trust my doctor's opinion. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:28 PM Flag
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op: I've been induced before and it was fine, but my preference remains to not be induced due to the other risks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:30 PM Flag
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What risks? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 04:48 PM Flag
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risks of putting the baby into distress as a result of the strong contractions due to pitocin [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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You are minimizing the risk of pregnancy induced hypertension on the babies. Perhaps your dr is worried because of other mild signs, a little protein in your urine, a little swelling? other signs of pre-eclampsia? search DIC... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:46 PM Flag
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actually, no. no protein, no swelling, no headaches, no pains. Otherwise I am in great health [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 04:57 PM Flag
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I was induced, delivered in 3 hours, no epidural, it was fine. Had high blood pressure and thought reason they induce is because there's a chance placenta can fail if go too far over. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:33 PM Flag
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I had high blood pressure throughout my pregnancy. While my doctor was a little concerned and watched it closely she never pushed me to get induced. It really depends on the doctor. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:35 PM Flag
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Can you see another Dr. in the practice and get their opinion? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 02:10 PM Flag
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I was in the same situation and had the induction. Although the induction was hard, I would do it again. No reason to risk the complications of hypertension. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 05:53 PM Flag
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Sorry to ask, but are you crazy?? What's the point of saying no....what do you know that would make you go against the judgement of a man who has probably delivered hundreds of babies?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:35 PM Flag
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Do it. Why take a chance? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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fwiw, I agree with you and think you should go with your gut feeling. OBs are not necessarily up on the latest research. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.26.08, 07:13 PM Flag
[ - ] i know its late but any recs on a camp for a 3.9 yr boy? i need at least 2 wks in aug. we are in bklyn btw. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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Kim's kids? (at PS 321 in PS) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:20 PM Flag
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oooh, do you have a number? can i just google or is it on psp website? thxs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:21 PM Flag
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got the # from psp website. thxs again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:23 PM Flag
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np. our kid is there. it's pretty good but they actually might stop by mid august. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:25 PM Flag
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really??? ok. i may give a call anyway. dc camp ended today and i thought i could be home the entire month of august but i work has become busy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:43 PM Flag
[ - ] For those of you whose DCs had dermoid cysts or one form or another: Did you take progesterone during pregnancy? Just curious about my theory. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:19 PM Flag
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I can tell you that I was pumped up on a lot of progesterone due to a deficiency and several miscarriages. No cysts at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it ok to bring DB to nail salon so I can get a pedicure? Has anyone else? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:16 PM Flag
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personally, I don't want ds breathing in the fumes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:17 PM Flag
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Fumes not good for infant [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Where do you store homecooked baked goods (muffins, cookies, etc.)? Are they ok at room temp for a while? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:15 PM Flag
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they get stale if left out. muffins, especially. use an airtight container (rubbermade, tupperware, etc). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:27 PM Flag
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I hope so. I just baked muffins yesterday and have them in a glass cake dome. Delicious today! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 01:29 PM Flag
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