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[ - ] My 1 y.o. is in the 50th weight percentile but looks small, and today one of my best friends (who is not married and does not have children) called my baby "anorexic." I nearly fell over I was so surprised that someone - much less my good friend - could have said something like that about a baby - much less my baby. Of course, she wasn't serious, and this is just her tongue-in-cheek way of talking, but it upset me nonetheless. Am I being oversensitive? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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she's insensitive, but maybe since she doesn't have kids she doesn't understand [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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my dh says that about my ds he is skinny 30th for weight. toddler often look skinny don't be too sensitive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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I think so. People just say things sometimes without thinking when it comes to kids, especially people who don't have children. As dd gets older comments like that can be annoying, because she shouldn't have to look in the mirror and wonder what your ditzy friend was thinking when she said something. But for now, I would blow it off. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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I think the hard part for me is that I was anorexic for a few years and my friend knows how badly I struggled with it and how it nearly ruined my life. So "anorexic" is not a word I ever use lightly to describe someone. But I guess I shouldn't expect her to fully understand how much that word scares me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Need a name that starts with a "G" or "R" - family initials we want to use. Not sure if it's a boy or girl. Thanks! 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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rebecca, rachel, renee, grace, gemma,gayle. robert, roger, george, geoffrey. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:58 PM Flag
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Rebecca, Ruby, Rory, Geoffrey, Gina, Ginny [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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rose, georgia, ralph, gary [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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Do you want traditional? What is your background? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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Traditional is fine, I'm not picky at this point, we just can't find one that we love! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:42 PM Flag
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genevive,gregory,glen,glynis, genna, rosie,rolf, randall,reese, ryan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:45 PM Flag
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Graham, Garrett, Gabrielle, Ryan (Ry), Rosalina, Remi/Remy, Rema [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:55 PM Flag
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^^These are all names in my DC's preschool... I only know 1 of each of these kids so not super popular, but used. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:56 PM Flag
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Do any of those appeal to you? Curious what you think of our suggestions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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Gavin, Gregory, Geoffrey, Gabriel, Gus, Gail, Gemma, Gillian, Ramses, Rasputin, Randolph, Richard, Robert, Rebecca, Rose, Rhiannon, Rachel, Rhonda [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:19 PM Flag
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Rolanda, Royce, Reginald, Rhesus, Razzie, Rookie, Roteesha, Rotarian, Rip, Ranit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:21 PM Flag
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Gordon, Garth, Grandy, Geenanne, Gomer, Gastlee, Groosum [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:23 PM Flag
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Griffin, Gunnar, Guy, Rupert, Reggie, Ronald, Giselle, Gaileen, Gidget, Rosamunde, Rosalind, Rosemary, Raina, Rainey [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:50 AM Flag
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Girl: Gabi or Ruby Boy: Garrett or Ryan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:11 AM Flag
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Gwendolyn or Gordon (Gwenn/Gwennie & Gordo/Gordy) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:12 AM Flag
[ - ] name poll: Teddy, Jack, Aiden 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.24.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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love jack [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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too common though? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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np: If you truly love the name, use it regardless of how common it may be. In our parents' and grandparents' age, it was "common" for there to be many children of the same name in a group or school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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Jack and Aiden are way too popular. Teddy is cute [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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My dd is called Teddy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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like that show with the 4 sisters: frankie, teddy, can't remember the others. sela ward, swoosie kurtz, suzannah from thirtysomething [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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Sisters - Teddy, Frankie, Georgie and Alex [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 04:44 AM Flag
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And then the 5th sister Charlie appeared towards the end? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:48 AM Flag
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did you marry a kennedy? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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both super common and for some reason most the Jacks we know are terrors - I don't know why [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 06:58 AM Flag
[ - ] Was there an UB knock off that started when UB changed formats? If so what is the URL? TIA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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yes & it's more popular now than ub itself [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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URL? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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www.youbemom.com [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:15 PM Flag
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please? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:14 PM Flag
[ - ] remind me again what "good" first nuchal scores are. i should get mine back tomorrow. the tech said everything was beyond perfect but want to get the number. thanks. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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1 in 270 is the cutoff for a positive result so apparently anything better than that is desireable [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Oh, my god. My 5yo is making me nuts tonight He will not stay in his bed, has been coming out dancing around, kicked me in the butt, and will not stay in his bed. I finally lost it and screamed at him, and not he's in tears. On the one hand I feel guilty, but on the other, I am seething. WWYD? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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apologize & talk to him later about his bratty behavior [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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I did apologize, but he still keeps coming out..."I want cold water, not room temperature", "I can't sleep" (he has yet to even close his eyes), "I need you to lay with me", "It's dark", "I'm having bad dreams" (yet you have not even been asleep)...it's neverending. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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sometimes you scream at kids big deal sounds like he had it coming. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:02 PM Flag
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oohhh...picturing the dancing kid coming out of his room made me LOL. But then I am not there yet. Just keep telling yourself it's one night, it will pass. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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op: unfortunately, it's not one night. It is at least once a week for the past 2.5 years. I'm so, so tired of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:22 PM Flag
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I hear you. This would drive me wild -- I have good sleepers, but little patience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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you are a lucky person [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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^^or you may just be lots better at consistency than I am. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:25 PM Flag
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Nah, I've come to believe that almost all of this stuff is genetic. My dh and I are sleepers, so the dcs are too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:26 PM Flag
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OP: I am such a great sleeper, but dh is not. Unfortunately, seems that ds inherited his dad's sleep habits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:28 PM Flag
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Can you lay with him until he is asleep or will that set a bad precedent? (This coming from a mother who coslept with her dd and who still has to lay with her 5 yo to get her to sleep....ugh!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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I do lay with him for about 10 minutes every night right after stories. I don't stay longer because for that 10 minutes, he crawls all over me, talks nonstop, and tonight kissed me with his tongue sticking out (ew). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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i have found 5 to be a tough age, and I really pray this isn't a glimpse of what the teeenage years are like. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:08 PM Flag
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op: unfortunately, I'm afraid that they probably are. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:24 PM Flag
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Here's something to try. Just stop talking to him period when he does this. One warning "it's time to stay in bed and go to sleep." And then just start walking him back. Don't rise to the bait, no reaction at all, totally silent w/ zero affect. It takes some effort but it worked here (with an often v. difficult DS). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:32 PM Flag
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thanks. I'll try it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:16 PM Flag
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We put those plastic things over the door knobs so they can't leave their room. If my kids keep misbehaving at bedtime I just leave, And I tape down the lightswitch so party time is over. Once they are asleep I leave their door ajar. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:47 PM Flag
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I would never leave my kid alone crying in his room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 09:53 PM Flag
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That's what you say now...... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 05:01 AM Flag
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That's what I have been doing with all my kids and they are all teenagers now. And yes, there were phases when they would walk out of their room. Staying with them until they are asleep is one of the things you could try. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 10:35 AM Flag
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My kids would never stay in their room w/o the plastic knobs. They learned the protocol pretty quickly & don't cry very long. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 08:18 AM Flag
[ - ] What are the differences between traditional and progressive schools in NYC? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 07.24.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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Progressive: more self paced, go into depth on fewer subjects, kids pursue their interest (rather than being told what to research) within structure. Traditional: cover more subjects but not in depth, spends more time at the desk, takes more instruction from teachers [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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I think this is a good description (from helicopter mom blog): Traditional schools believe that, by the time students graduate, they should have been exposed a certain body of information and they will all be expected to know the same facts. They will be quizzed and tested to make sure they have acquired these facts. Progressive schools believe students learn best by constructing their own knowledge. That means exposing them to a topic and then letting them investigate that topic and learn on their own, generally through lots of hands on activities or self-directed research. Traditional schools tend to cover a lot of information, while progressive schools tend to pick fewer topics and allow students to delve into them deeply. Some private schools (such as Dalton) begin with a progressive approach in the lower school and then switch to a traditional method of teaching in the upper school. “Traditional schools see their role as transmitting knowledge,” writes Clara Hemphill in her book, New York City’s Best Public High Schools. “They emphasize what teachers call `content’—dates in history, formulas in math, good grammar and spelling, knowledge of the periodic table in chemistry…Progressive schools, on the other hand, seek to give students the tools they need to gather and analyze information to weigh evidence from different sources, and to form their own opinions. These schools emphasize `process’—developing the skills needed to research a problem, rather than knowledge per se.” Progressive educators believe kids should not be “passive vessels,” simply learning what the teacher teaches them. Instead, they should be actively participating in their own education. In an ideal educational environment kids would be taught “both broad general knowledge and analytical skills,” Hemphill writes. She warns what “inadequate traditional schools treat education as a list of facts to be mastered. Inadequate progressive schools, on the other hand, encourage kids to voice their opinions—even if they haven’t read the books on which their opinions should be based. Inadequate traditional schools can be oppressive, while inadequate progressive schools can be chaotic and unchallenging.” Posted on Monday, October 15, 2007 at 10:03 by Registered CommenterHelicopter Mom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:58 PM Flag
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Fantastic...thanks so much. that helps an ENORMOUS amount. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:28 PM Flag
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IN the end, not much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:07 PM Flag
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But the experience is totally different and my friends who went to prog schools are very diff from me. Their approach is diff and motivation is diff, too. I kinda envy that. Decided to send dc to prog. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:10 PM Flag
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ITDA. I went to a progressive & find that not to be true at all, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:13 PM Flag
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You wouldn't know it. But I'd notice it. I went to a very traditional school. Trust me, it's diff. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 07:39 AM Flag
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Pls explain more....what do you mean "their approach is diff and motivation is diff..."? thks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:22 PM Flag
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np: Almost all of my friends who went to truly progressive schools (especially Waldorf schools) turned out to choose architecture/interior design or graphic design (men and women) as their career, with a few dancers, actors to round it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.25.08, 01:14 AM Flag
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I disagree. I think there can be quite a bit of difference in the educations offered by traditional and progressive schools. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 08:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Can you get a Social Security Number if you are not a U.S. citizen? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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yes. when working here legally it's needed for taxes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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Can you get a SSN just based on a Visa? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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No, but on an American Express you can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:55 PM Flag
[ - ] We inherited some art from DH's father, including some well known American artists from previous century. We don't have room to hang them all and want to sell. But have NO idea how to go about doing this. Looked Ideas? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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contact Sotheby's or Christie's [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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I don't think they're fancy enough for Sotheby's or Christie's! There are about 100 worth in the 2 to 4k range each... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:54 PM Flag
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ebay [ Reply | More
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totally [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Hi! I am brand new to this group and came across it by doing a search for adoption. My husband and I are hoping to adopt a baby or toddler soon -- we have a current home study and all clearances in order to adopt. If anyone knows of someone who is wanting to place their baby in a loving adoptive home, please let me know. My toll free # is: (888)659-1121 and our website is: www.cathycharlie.hopetoadopt.com 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.24.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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Age and amount saved for retirement? Me, 38. DH and I have 300k. I guess I feel ill-prepared for it all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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What other outreach have you done? I'm not sure this audience is going to yield any real results for you. Have you done a mass mailing? One of our children came to us that way. We also worked with an agency and I highly recommend finding a good one to help you. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Ever tried tasting your own breast milk? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Can this be true re John Edwards affair ? - feel so bad for family 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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I always liked him and have a hard time believing he could be so idiotic... so hoping it's not true [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Any ideas for prepping toddler for the arrival of a baby sibling? She'll be 2.5 when the baby arrives. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.24.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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we bought my son a doll and let him hold it and care for it calling it baby brother. once the baby came we talked alot about how he had a turn being a baby and now in was brother's turn. we looked at baby pictures he helped with the baby getting diapers rocking him singing to him. someone also told me if they are both crying tend to the older one first because he will remember and the baby won't. mine are 7 mo and 3 yo and the really enjoy each other it's quite beautiful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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I made the impending birth all about her, which, to a 2.5 yo, is the only way they can relate to it; I made it into a "sister day". I kept telling her that the day she becomes a big sister is a very special day, and celebrated it like a birthday, as it is the birth of her new role. We got a present and wrapped it. We instructed the caretaker to give it to her as soon as I went to the hospital and make much ado about her Big Sister Day. Worked like a charm. She has been great to DS since the minute she met him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:53 PM Flag
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this sounds brilliant--I will not forget this one if I am lucky enough to get pregnant again! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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great idea. I just ordered her a gift so I like the idea of big sister day... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 07:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone like the name Grace? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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Too popular [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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I don't know one person with this name [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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there are four in my daughter's preschool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:57 PM Flag
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Too Christian-y for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:55 PM Flag
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love it popular or not [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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I think it's a very pretty name, but agree with above poster that it got very popular for a while (though all the ones I know are older than 3, so maybe its mini-boom is over) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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I like it and wanted to use it myself but there are at least 5 Graces within our area. at least 5 within our area/ circle. Way too overdone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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Definitely using Beatrice for a middle name (mother-in-laws middle name too). Just need the first name! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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Think it's better for a middle name [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:52 PM Flag
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love it -- popular or not. its my middle name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.24.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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