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[ - ] DOes anyone know the avergae size foot for a 4 yr old. My dd wears a 10 and I am wondering if that is big. I wear an 11 and pray she gets my dh's smaller feet!! 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:56 AM Flag
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That is average. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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Oh please let go of this! No matter how you think you are hiding it your subtle concern about her size is going to have a deep impact on her. Please! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:57 AM Flag
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op: lol, I wear an 11 and so does my mom. We always bitch about it, but hardly did it deeply affect me! Geezzzz [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:58 AM Flag
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really because your post doesnt make it sound that way [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:59 AM Flag
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np: she doesn't sound crazy in the post. You are reading way too much into it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:01 AM Flag
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What are you talking about/ I certainly didn't say or imply she was crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:08 AM Flag
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I'm a 10 and hate my giant feet too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:01 AM Flag
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10 sounds normal or even a bit small! You may be in luck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:58 AM Flag
[ - ] Moving? If you could send your kids to private school in New York (grandparents pay for it) but you can't afford an apartment and would have to rent -- would you stay and rent forever or would you move to the suburbs where you could buy a house and kids could go to public school (assuming good district). WWYD? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:51 AM Flag
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burbs and public school [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:56 AM Flag
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that's what I was thinking, but I feel guilty not giving my kids the private school (since older DS already accepted). Will the suburbs be as good of an education? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:05 AM Flag
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It will be a different education, but your family will be better off financially, saving DC from the burden of caring for you in your destitute later years. There are always trade-offs. And, of course, there are private schools in the burbs. If the g-parents feel strongly about it, you could have both. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:12 AM Flag
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I'm guessing that if OP has $2M for a place to live and rich parents/ILs, she is not going to have destitute older years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.29.08, 04:10 PM Flag
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you'll do better financially to own a home... buy a home close to the city in a good school district - your kids will thrive and it will never depreciate too much - gl! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:09 AM Flag
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I'd stay in the city. You & save until I could buy something. I'd look above 110th street & in Brooklyn, parts of Queens & parts of the Bronx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:14 AM Flag
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yuck [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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Yeah, not so into that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:19 AM Flag
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Okay, but I prefer Manhattan above 110th street. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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And Brooklyn is much cooler than Manhattan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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The parts of Brooklyn that are cool are pretty much as unaffordable as Manhattan. I doubt the OP would like, say, Bushwick or Flatbush. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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OP: School is uptown...so brooklyn won't work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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So, look in Harlem to buy. It is still affordable in some places and very nice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:27 AM Flag
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I guess that's my issue...I really want to stay in my neighborhood and I can't afford to buy. Is renting forever depressing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:32 AM Flag
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There are many great neighborhoods in NYC. If you really like your Manhattan neighborhood, you probably will not be happy in the Burbs. I'd seriously look in Harlem. Where do you live now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:39 AM Flag
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Parts of Flatbush are quite nice, especially near Prospect Park. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.29.08, 03:55 PM Flag
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Depends. If you both work in the city, I would stay because it's a huge pain for both parents to commute and you will barely see the kids. If you can get jobs in the burbs or one of you stay home, I'd likely do the burbs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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How come you can afford a house but not an apartment? A decent house in a nice town within commutable distance does not cost any less than apartment in the city, especially considering taxes, cars, commuting costs, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:36 AM Flag
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OP: Not true. We can get a house for under $2M in suburbs. Hard to find a great apt. in our neighborhood for that..unless it's a shoe box [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.29.08, 02:54 PM Flag
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np and suddenly I no longer care about your dilemma. You have $2M to spend and private education paid for and you can't find a way to be satisfied in NYC? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.29.08, 04:04 PM Flag
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(sound of fingers snapping in beatnik agreement) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.29.08, 04:05 PM Flag
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Please...I am so sick of people on the board acting like if you have a little bit of money, you still don't have choices and issues. Money isn't everything. And, frankly, it is hard to find a nice, family sized apt. in our neighborhood for UNDER $2million. I never said I had that much to spend. I said UNDER... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.30.08, 09:10 AM Flag
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You can get a great apartment in NYC for under 2 mill!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.29.08, 04:49 PM Flag
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^^^ In Manhattan too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.29.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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Upper West...where? how many BR? I haven't seen anything like that in the low $1m range. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.30.08, 09:17 AM Flag
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I recently bought an apt. for that on UWS in the 70s with 3 BR plus maids. You can find 3 Brs for that if that would be enough space. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.30.08, 10:20 AM Flag
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I assume by "nice" you mean it has to have a doorman and I assume by :"my neighborhood" you mean the UES west of 3rd Ave. You can easily get a 3BR apt in low 1m range if you can forego UES and a doorman. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 08.02.08, 08:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Any recommendations for a playground in Central Park that is good for birthday parties? It's for a 2 years old DS. Thanks 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:49 AM Flag
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there are picnic tables in the Pinetum (well shaded area). It is in the Center of the Park and not far from the Great Lawn and several playgrounds that are more on the Westside. The Billy Johnson Playground has one picnic table, but I don't think it is great for a party. The Hippo playground in CP has one picnic table, but not may favorite park. The best is Hippo Playground in Riverside Park. Picnic tables, good shade, good playground, good sprinkler and you can rent the little preschool house/room and there are bathrooms. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:59 AM Flag
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thanks! I will look into it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:06 AM Flag
[ - ] Is there a medicine I can take for irrational fear? I'm going to drive myself into a mental institution with my thoughts. "What if dh turns out to be a molester?" "What if a car plows into the sidewalk and kills us all?" "What if I have a blood clot that is going to kill me while I'm bfing and the baby drops to the floor only to be discovered hours later" See?! I'm not supposed to be thinking things like this! If there is no medicine, is there a self-help book anyone can recommend? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:40 AM Flag
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Is this a chronic issue for you or relatively new? Lots of new moms have this and it does go away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:53 AM Flag
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That falls under OCD Spectrum Disorder. It is called Primitive Fears. Read up on it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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Oxytocin (released in bf moms) actually induces OCD-like fears and behaviors. Are you a new Mom? It will pass. If it doesn't, you can visit a psychiatrist. Not a big deal, know that they are just thoughts and don't reflect reality. Don't personalize the thoughts. GL... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 09:34 AM Flag
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Anxiety is very treatable. You need to see a psychopharmacologist. Don't ask people here what to do or look for some self-help book. Where are you? Does your health insurance include behavioral medicine or is that a separate plan? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 11:18 AM Flag
[ - ] How do I stop being so critical of dh? It's like nothing he does is ever good enough,and he does do an awesome job as a father to our newborn and toddler and as a husband; it's just that the little things he messes up on drive me crazy. I know I sound like a whiny nagger, which I probably am, but I'd love to figure out a way to be more appreciative and not sweat the small stuff. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:37 AM Flag
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you're just stressed out - this happens to me when there's too much going on, feeling overwhelmed. It's easy to lash out at the little things. Take time for yourself and take deep breaths - learn to walk away when it gets to be too much! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:16 AM Flag
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The next time you see him, say this exact thing to him. Start "I wonder why I'm so critical of you when you do such an awesome job as a father and husband." Go from there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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I actually like that... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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I think you would really like the book "How To Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It". It focusses on practical ways to start focussing on the positive and reaching out as a habit even when you don't necessarily feel like it at first. I *totally* btdt... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 09:30 AM Flag
[ - ] help! 2 week old baby seems very gassy. grunts & whines & flails when on her back. tried swaddle - she hates it, tried mylicon, i bup, and she's only happy over my shoulder. functioning on no sleep & i have a 3 yr old too. not spitting up though. any tips??? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:23 AM Flag
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If she's formula fed, ask her doctor if you can switch to Similac sensitive which has no lactose. It worked for my nephew. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:25 AM Flag
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Ask your ped. to show you how to massage her belly. I did this regularly with my babies and it really works - you can literally feels the gas bubbles bursting under your finger tips. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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massage belly, pump legs, if on formal, try carnation good start. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:00 AM Flag
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try little tummys (worked better for us than mylicon) and look into similac alimentum-did wonders for dd. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 07:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Please help me choose a stroller: 6 months through toddler, every day sturdy stroller that folds easily. With #1 I had the Inglesina Zippy but it hurt my back. Yes, the Quinny and Bugaboo and nicer strollers are better on my back but they don't fold well. I want to put it away in my closet at night. Thinking about the Joovy Kooper and the Bolero by Zooper. Ideas? TIA. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Expecting 07.28.08, 05:10 AM Flag
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Maclaren. No question. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:12 AM Flag
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ita. I would get the Techno XLR model. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:21 AM Flag
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np:i hate that you can't push it with one hand [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:27 AM Flag
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i have the Quest and can push with one hand. i'm often walking the dog at the same time, so often don't have a choice when avoiding obstacles. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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1-McClaren or 2-Uppa baby umbrella [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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the smaller Quinnys are supposed to fold up really easily [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:13 AM Flag
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Agree with Maclaren recommendation. Also, you should check out the Microlite Toro and Fastfold. Go to buybuybaby and wheel them around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 09:09 AM Flag
[ - ] Met with a highly recommended cleaning person. No laundry. She quoted me $200 after taxes. Assuming she works 5-6 hours, that's $35-$40 per hour after taxes. Is that the going rate??? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 04:24 AM Flag
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how large is your place? how often will she clean? are you putting her on the books? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 04:35 AM Flag
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I dont make that-maybe i should switch carreers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:54 AM Flag
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I hear you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:04 AM Flag
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Good Lord, no. Either pay 20-25 per hour or by the apt/house. Anywhere from 60-125 a cleaning, depending on size. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:03 AM Flag
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that's insane... I'll do it for less! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:15 AM Flag
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that sounds like a lot to me. esp with no laundry. but i suppose it also depends if she's really good and how long her cleaning lasts. also, does she do organizing, take on things like cleaning oven, or reorganizing closets etc. (we paid our housekeeper 80-100 per clean in a 2 bedroom apt. she asked for less, but over time we started paying her more. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:20 AM Flag
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We have a small 3-BR apt. I don't know what she will do. She said she does everything, except laundry. Still, $200 take-home after taxes seems like a lot to me. I don't even make $200 take-home after taxes for an 8.5 hour day. She'd come once every 2 weeks (twice a month). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 02:00 PM Flag
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that's nuts@! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 02:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking for legal temp part-time nanny for a few months, but no one is willing to work on the books. Why is that? I can't pay off the books. There must be a college student out there looking to earn some pocket money. Any ideas on where I should look? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 04:22 AM Flag
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A friend once referred me to www.collegenannies.com. She raves about them. Did not go that route. FWIW, they are relatively expensive [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 04:37 AM Flag
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i put an add at the nyu career listserve and got babysitter (there is also a service at barnard) - we only used her two days a week for 5 hours total a week [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:10 AM Flag
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I'm trying to find my nanny a job....she is legal and wants to be paid on the books but so far nobody that has interviewed her or offered her a job wants to pay her on the books. (she is looking for FT permanent and isn't available til Sept, otherwise I'd give you her info) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:37 AM Flag
[ - ] anyone on? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 09:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Mom's who workout: How much did and how early in your pregnancy did you modify your workouts. Do very high intensity workouts (avg 85% output) and am wondering if I need to begin modifying in first trimester. TIA. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 09:31 PM Flag
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i had early spotting so i stopped going to the gym. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 09:37 PM Flag
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Thanks. I didn't exercise at all during first trimester for first pregnancy, but I would like to this time and was seeking advice. I may just have to take it easy again until second tri. Sucks because the gym keeps me sane. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 09:42 PM Flag
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do what feels right and see what happens. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 09:44 PM Flag
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i slowed way down right away. didn't think I would but I felt very out of breathe and easily winded and i'm a gym rat. i know people who are devoted to exercise don't usually say this, but for me I don't think working out beyond the relatively easy range is a good idea during pg. i do think it can lead to mc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 04:23 AM Flag
[ - ] I hate seeing houses I thought I couldn't afford sell for prices I would have afforded 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 07.27.08, 09:14 PM Flag
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Then you are not being served by your realtor - signed, realtor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:55 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:56 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have endometriosis surgery as part of ttc? I know it's not a big deal but am nervous. Tia. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 08:55 PM Flag
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i had a myomectomy while ttc to remove fibroids. i was very nervous, but it was for the best - got pregnant first time we tried six months after surgery. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 09:10 PM Flag
[ - ] How old were you when you got married? When you had your first db? Me: 28/31. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 08:42 PM Flag
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27/30 [ Reply | More
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25/37 [ Reply | More
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33/34 [ Reply | More
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31/38 [ Reply | More
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28 / 38 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.27.08, 09:04 PM Flag
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Ditto. 28/31 [ Reply | More
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27/39 [ Reply | More
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38 / 40 [ Reply | More
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24/30 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 05:11 AM Flag
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32/33 (went into labor on our 1 yr anniversary but didn't deliver til next day [ Reply | More
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37/38 [ Reply | More
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28/30 [ Reply | More
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32/34 [ Reply | More
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34/36 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 06:18 AM Flag
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34/35 (1 month before our 1 year anniversary) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 08:38 AM Flag
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30/31 - db was due on our one year anniversary. [ Reply | More
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32/35 [ Reply | More
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25/30 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 07.28.08, 08:40 AM Flag
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re-married, 37, 40 [ Reply | More
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