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[ - ] Does anyone know when you can apply to Center school on the UWS? I know it is in 4th grade, but I can't find any information regarding the application process on their website. Also, does anyone know what kind of kid is admitted to Center? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:09 PM Flag
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Your school will send home information if you are in a D3 public. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:18 PM Flag
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Thanks! Any idea when this happens? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:30 PM Flag
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I think it was late October. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:59 PM Flag
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It looks like the Center School is being integrated into the centralized application process. https://www.chalkbeat.org/posts/ny/2018/05/07/exclusive-center-school-will-join-upper-west-side-integration-push-education-department-says/ [ Reply | More
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I hope they do. Their process is completely opaque and the cherry-picking they do is just not cool for a public school. Celebs, rich kids - come on. Take it to Dalton. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:23 PM Flag
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AGREE [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Open plan seating at work. We are moving to a new space. I have been at in the middle of the room at a large table STRUGGLING. I have textbook ADD but have developed strategies and coping mechanisms (no diagnosis). I want to ask for one of the corner seats in the new space. A seating chart was sent around for direct replies. I assume for these type of requests. How can I do this tactfully without sounding like a PIA 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:08 PM Flag
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TIA! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:09 PM Flag
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Everyone wants that corner seat, so act fact. Also, consider looking for a new job. Anyone who is still forcing employees to work in an open space is a moron. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:13 PM Flag
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NP My office is like this and its the way most newer companies are going, not the opposite way. You get used to it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:23 PM Flag
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Ok pointing out that I have a crap job is not super helpful and btw the NY Times legal.dept is open plan along w tons.of other prestige jobs, I am looking for help here. An inability to focus derailed my career previously until someone actually offered some coping strategies. I really can't function in the middle of the room. I'll probably be fired and I'm not being dramatic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:06 PM Flag
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Cubicles? Or all at one big open table? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:39 PM Flag
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Talk to your boss and tell them that it impacts your productivity. I hate this trend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:12 PM Flag
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Yes I got that part. Looking for some email wording. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:02 PM Flag
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I would have this discussion in person. Just nicely say that you would really like the corner seat and it will help you be more productive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:39 PM Flag
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You have a disability. Under ADA you have to be accommodated. Get an official diagnosis STAT! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Dd just started HS and is having a hard time. No friends, overwhelmed...How do I help her? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:47 PM Flag
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Op ha! I just saw MP [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:47 PM Flag
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9 is different than 14 though [ Reply | More
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Mp was Hs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:51 PM Flag
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different from [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:00 PM Flag
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Oh thank you so much!! You've restored my faith in NYers! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:16 PM Flag
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de nada [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:21 PM Flag
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just keep telling her it will get better very soon. encourage her to join activities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:54 PM Flag
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They don’t start until October [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:55 PM Flag
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I would tell her this is a life transition, and she will have a lot of them. you can often feel lonely during life transitions because they can be hard. I would say now is a good time to work on skills to cope with these transitions. I would encourage her to think of one thing she can do each day -- a goal. indicate that other kids are struggling too. suggests thing - like asking someone if they want to go to the library or starbucks for a few minutes after school, say hi to someone who also looks lonely, talk to a teacher about an assignment. good luck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:58 PM Flag
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- just to be clear - I wouldn't push more than trying to do one a day. I'm an introvert so having a clear obtaining limited goal like this helps me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:03 PM Flag
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Good suggestions. Encourage her to join clubs for activities she is likely to enjoy to meet like-minded people. On the academic front, sit down with her and review every subject: go together through the documents given the first day by teachers on expectations for the course and syllabus. See how she handles everything from an organizational standpoint. If she feels behind in any class, identify the areas lacking and make a plan on how to catch up. In other words, divide things into chunks, build on strengths and successes, address weaknesses. Having a plan of action is likely to make her feel more in control. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:09 PM Flag
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My DS is in similar situation. Your advice is very helpful. Thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:51 PM Flag
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Same here!!! No ideas to help, but tell your daughter she is not alone!!! My dd started a school last week where she doesn't know anyone - she cries every day. It's so hard. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:44 PM Flag
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So what do you do? Tell her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:48 PM Flag
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I don't have a clue what to tell her! I tell her all the logical things (it will get better, try to be friendly, you're not going to fail, everyone feels as nervous as you) but nothing works. Is your kid in NYC also? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:58 PM Flag
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Yes, SHS [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:01 PM Flag
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Mine is at HSAS. Yours? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:04 PM Flag
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Brooklyn Tech [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:16 PM Flag
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Oh well - but I will tell my dd about yours and you can do the same. They are all going through it. Its normal, but that doesnt make it easier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:17 PM Flag
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Mine at LaGuardia . Same situation day 1 and 2. Day 3 complete turn around . Hang in there ! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:37 PM Flag
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NP: My dd is at HSAS (very happy so far) and is kind and always reaches out to others. I hope they meet! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:56 AM Flag
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Instead of “you’re not going to fail”, I’d say “do your best and whatever the outcome, we can manage it.” Saying you’re not going to fail is dismissive of her very real anxiety. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:44 PM Flag
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As much as this board can be crazy, it is enlightening. While I hope your DD finds her crowd soon, it is incredible to see how different kids have such different experiences growing up. Crying every day because you don't have friends for a week in a new school when other kids have to endure really bad bullying or complete shunning for months or years on end? Add poverty and a weak support system on top of this. Some kiddos are really at a huge disadvantage. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Between WESS, computer and Mott, are any more academic than others? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:35 PM Flag
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I would guess computer is more academic than the other two. WESS is all feel good stuff. I don't know much about Mott. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:46 PM Flag
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I actually think Mott is a little more academic than computer. Computer is super progressive. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:05 PM Flag
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IA but the peer group at Computer is generally stronger, so your DC might not be challenged as much at MH. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:24 PM Flag
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But maybe easier to earn higher grades? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:52 PM Flag
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Could be. And it's only middle school. Most people have a preference between these schools when they tour. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:13 PM Flag
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I liked them both. Liked Mott a bit more. Esp the principal. But computer had a better location for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:37 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 06:10 PM Flag
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Why do you think computer was harder to get into then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 06:34 PM Flag
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Computer and Mott hall are both solid. I hear mixed things about WESS. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:27 PM Flag
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WESS was impossible to get into last year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:51 PM Flag
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People think they want the high school back-up, but the 8th grade parents I know are all trying to get out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:14 PM Flag
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I know three families with kids there. They all have eight graders and they all like it. They have younger kids there now or want their younger kids to go there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:39 PM Flag
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It was a little small and not diverse enough for my kid. Since I knew it wasn’t going to work for high school I didn’t really want the middle school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:41 PM Flag
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Wess is very academic. Look at their regents schedule for middle school (and AP for high school). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:45 PM Flag
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they have the kids take regents for which they are underprepared. Many kids failed or did badly and needed to retake in August. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:53 PM Flag
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^^also, where are you finding this information on the website because I can't? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:54 PM Flag
[ - ] What’s your latest favorite splurge or big purchase? What’s your most recent $$$ waste of money? 84 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:27 PM Flag
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We're spending 17k on an hvac system for our country house. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:28 PM Flag
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What have you been heating with before now? Just curious! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:51 PM Flag
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We had base board heating. We bought the house in April and kept hearing horror stories about 1k+ monthly winter heating bills so we decided to bite the bullet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:59 PM Flag
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It's a good investment. Just take care to insulate if you're not getting the efficient windows. My neighbors across the street have a 1700s home, every winter they get the saran wrap that you line the window frames with and then blow-dry it. They also keep some zones in the house closed off and at 55. [ Reply | More
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Thanks, we may have to do the saran wrap for our older windows [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:10 PM Flag
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ugh. we did this too at our beach house... systems were just very very old and needed a total redo. did a tankless water system/boiler for heat and had to replace AC compressor and unit etc. I priced it out and it was like 10k for labor on a 20k tab... they were there for 2 days total, about 5 people but still seems high. whatever. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:54 PM Flag
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easy come, easy go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:01 PM Flag
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That's not a waste! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:04 AM Flag
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I packed a barrel with about $500 worth of stuff and $150 to send it. School shoes and supplies. Clothes and household stuff. My cousin was the happiest with the Dove soap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:26 AM Flag
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that's a good investment....not a waste. The first 90 degree day you will be thinking you are the smartest person on the planet...u watch. - Signed I paid 20K last summer. Got the extra HEPA like filter thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 04:10 AM Flag
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Just bought a new mattress - that wasn’t a waste and was well worth it, the problem is that now I want a new bed frame and linens, too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:31 PM Flag
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It all goes together. I am in the same boat. But I started with a new bed frame. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:33 PM Flag
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BTW I am not the avocado mattress person - lots of mattress shopping going on right now I guess! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:42 PM Flag
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what kind did you end up getting? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:02 PM Flag
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Stearns & Foster extra firm. Love it, but we like extremely firm mattresses. [ Reply | More
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thank you! I will check it out, I do too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 08:28 PM Flag
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Got a custom made bookshelf in my house. Love it but it was a total splurge. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:42 PM Flag
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When it rains, it pours. This summer we replaced windows, a fridge and stove. All were required but I wish it had been a little spread out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:47 PM Flag
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That’s your favorite purchase or big waste of money? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:50 PM Flag
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It was required but I like them. Windows were falling out, fridge was leaking and the stove was horrible to deal with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:52 PM Flag
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So what was a recent favorite splurge then? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:03 PM Flag
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I don't really splurge. I did spend some money on materials for a project I'm working on and glad I have the cash to do so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:05 PM Flag
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you sound fun [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:28 PM Flag
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I am actually, but you sound super dull for thinking that everyone has the same priorities. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:34 PM Flag
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And rude! (Not everyone has the money for what you apparently would consider a splurge.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:47 PM Flag
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+1 Love this response! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:14 PM Flag
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Last spring we replaced our roof and deck. The year before, the furnace and central AC. Happy home ownership! [ Reply | More
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I helped my son's girlfriend buy a car to get to school when hers died, and I helped her with fall tuition - and then she broke up with him. [ Reply | More
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Were you trying to buy her love for him? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:03 PM Flag
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No. Just trying to help a young person out. I knew I wasn't buying a daughter-in-law and that they could always break up, but at the time I considered it the right decision. At the time they'd been together nearly 3 years and I felt like I knew her very well. Oh well. [ Reply | More
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If she is a good person, it was still the right thing to do. [ Reply | More
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I feel like I've heard this story before on this site. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:12 PM Flag
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Because I told it when it happened! [ Reply | More
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I'm disabled so I am here more than your average bear. [ Reply | More
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TMI [ Reply | More
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np. mean! [ Reply | More
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No one asked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 04:58 AM Flag
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You still did a good thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:45 PM Flag
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+1 Bless your heart. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:19 PM Flag
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A $68 pedicure. Loved it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:03 PM Flag
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Can people read? It says what is your *favorite* splurge or big purchase? What is a recent *expensive* waste of money? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:08 PM Flag
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I don't have a recent "expensive" waste of money, so I didn't answer that part. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:09 PM Flag
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Chill the fuck out. It's just a thread about cash, no one's asking for instructions for CPR [ Reply | More
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Chickenhead, giving answers but not answering the question asked. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:26 PM Flag
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Not giving the answers you wanted, you mean. [ Reply | More
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No shit. That’s why people ask questions. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:37 PM Flag
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Then why reply at all? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:39 PM Flag
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I replied with my favorite big purchases above, but apparently that wasn't good enough for OP. He/she wanted splurges, then told me "you sound fun." I'm out of here with this stupidity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:45 PM Flag
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Dickface, you're a moron [ Reply | More
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Mod? [ Reply | More
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No one made you God. Find another thread to bitch on [ Reply | More
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Chickenhead? Is this a bad rap song in the late 90s? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:10 PM Flag
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Love my massages! (A splurge, but at $40 for 45 minutes not exactly a "big" purchase). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:44 PM Flag
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Redoing an outdoor space. It had been useless and junky and now is calm and wonderful. Cost 17k though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:45 PM Flag
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cheap [ Reply | More
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I thought it was a lot. It was a summer breezeway and now is a 3 season room. Not in NYC [ Reply | More
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Gas fireplace insert for my beautiful, albeit useless woodburning fireplace. I can't wait for it to get cold! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:13 PM Flag
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Oh, that will be lovely! [ Reply | More
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Posted about hvac system above. This is our next purchase. Bleeding money but ds is so happy there it’s worth it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:35 PM Flag
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For us it was actually a great investment. Our gas bill went way down and our house was much warmer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:13 PM Flag
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Good to know! [ Reply | More
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Sapphire and diamond band. A gift I bought for myself, and imagined my dear late mother purchasing it for me for my birthday. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:13 PM Flag
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Spring break with DS in Boston while DH was working. Loved having one on one time. [ Reply | More
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Dinner at the French Laundry [ Reply | More
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What did you think? [ Reply | More
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Splurge: Pair of custom clogs for my horrible, weirdly shaped aching feet. Love them. Waste: Not exactly a waste but had to spend $350 on yet another updated uniform set for ds' soccer club; they update the design/sponsors every year or two :( [ Reply | More
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Splurge = marble dining table for 12 that I adore. $$$ waste of money = DC's NYC private tuition but we keep on going. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:23 PM Flag
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I bought tickets to this....http://companyxiv.com/specialevents [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:49 PM Flag
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splurge: new boots [ Reply | More
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Jewelry. I bought a Marla Aaron lock pendant and chain. Love it. When Ben Platt was in Dear Evan Hanson I got tickets for me and dd. $900 for two tickets. It was a splurge. Bought the tickets from the deh box office. I’m not from Manhattan so I had no idea theater tickets could be so expensive. Waste of money was a Prada purse. It’s beautiful, leather lined interior, but it’s too fancy and I’ve never used it. Just lives in a box in my closet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 06:31 PM Flag
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Marriage Therapy [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 07:25 PM Flag
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:( me too. If you had to do it over again how would you repurpose same money? [ Reply | More
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I bought a weekend workshop with queens code and understanding men. Instead of billing me $5495 then did nearly $8k. They also confused me for another customer by the same name. When I called that to their attention they deactivated my account. I bought non refundable plane hotel and shuttle. BBB and credit card helped refund most but not all so I’m out thousands for a workshop at the end of this month I’m not allowed to attend and tempted to show up anyway. two month saga anyway. I’m sad but also angry. I wanted to like her amazon book but (1) the writing is terrible and (2) yikes after this experience. [ Reply | More
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That’s a let down. Good luck on getting your money back. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 12:08 AM Flag
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that is terrible-- can you yelp or warn others another way? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 03:44 AM Flag
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I looked online for reviews and realized there is no venue? I posted on bbb and also amazon but the company removed the amazon review. [ Reply | More
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We spent $5k on a week trip together. A year of waiting for romance away and the reality was far different! [ Reply | More
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where did you go? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:57 AM Flag
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Backcountry Rockies [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 04:55 AM Flag
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I get my roots dyed every 2 weeks and also a gel manicure every 2 weeks. I get a gel pedicure every 2 weeks. I go away every other week and stay in a hotel. [ Reply | More
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ily [ Reply | More
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I love u [ Reply | More
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How do you afford to sleep in a hotel half the year? Don’t you miss having a life? [ Reply | More
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I love gel pedicures too. So shiny! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 05:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Friends coming to town this weekend. They want to go to a museum (and I haven't been in years). Love the Frick and MOMA, but no idea what's out there now. Where should I take them? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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The Whitney is great and on the high line [ Reply | More
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Oh, yes! I think the biennial is still on to. Tx! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:30 PM Flag
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^^^too! [ Reply | More
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+1 [ Reply | More
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agree that this is a great idea for tourists. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:10 AM Flag
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+2 but the biennial was very crowded and you should get your tickets in advance. [ Reply | More
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The MOMA is closed until late October. [ Reply | More
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+1 don't go there! [ Reply | More
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Frick, Morgan, Cloisters are all my favorites. And I take my mom once a week. Whitney is great, and good for out of towners, but expensive. Cloisters is pay what you wish if you (as NYEr) buy the tickets. [ Reply | More
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If you have a library card you can get free passes on culture pass dot NYC (I think). We went to the Whitney free including the Warhol show. If the website says no passes are available check on the first of the following month; that's when they add more passes. [ Reply | More
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Awesome to know-ty! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 06:30 PM Flag
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Have you been to the Museum of Art and Design on Columbus Circle? Small, but nice collection. It's all sort of geared toward answering the question of where is the border between art and craft. And crazy expensive gift shop that's fun to see ($92 candles!) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:13 PM Flag
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Cloisters is always lovely, and best before it gets too cold. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 06:16 PM Flag
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Thank you for all the great ideas! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:24 PM Flag
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I'm assuming you're focused on art, but I love the NY Historical Society and AMNH right across the street! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:27 PM Flag
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Ty! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 06:19 PM Flag
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YW! LOVE the NY Historical Society. -HM [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 06:35 PM Flag
[ - ] I know it's a little early, but I've started budgeting for Christmas gifts, as well as tips and wondering how much I should be giving my doormen? I've never lived in a doorman building, but recently moved into one a month ago. There are 4 main guys, and then 1 that is there mostly in the early morning for a few hours. There is also a live in super. Is $50 each too little? $100? Should the super get more? They're all helpful and nice if that makes a difference. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:56 PM Flag
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Useful? https://www.parkslopeparents.com/Newsflash/2018-holiday-tips-survey.html [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:05 PM Flag
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Yes, thank you! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:00 PM Flag
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It depends on what they do for you and what you can afford. I'd give the super at least 75-100. Some people will give way more and some will give nothing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:06 PM Flag
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They haven't done much yet, but I've only been living here for a month. They give me my mail and packages, and if they're heavy they put them on the cart for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:11 PM Flag
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but someone is taking your boxes out to garbage on street, breaking them down, and cleaning the halls etc. handling recyclables. IMO, this group has the hardest job! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:16 PM Flag
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That's true. The super and one of the doormen handle the garbage and recycling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:00 PM Flag
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If anything, since you're only there for like 4 months, you could get away with tipping on the low side this time. I'd do $50 each doorman; super a little more; but you might be surprised at the people who come out of the woodwork around Christmas time (porters, other people who work there and want a tip). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:11 PM Flag
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I don't know what other people give in our coop. We only have a super (no doorman) and I give the super and his wife $300 because I feel they do a lot of work. I have a neighbor who announced that she gives nothing. It's up to you and what is in your budget. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:13 PM Flag
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how big is your apt? what type building, amenities, TT building or basic? We live in 2 bedroom with some amenities and give everyone the same $100. If anything, I think the porters and guys behind the scene that handle garbage and general cleaning deserve the most, since thats prob the hardest job. If anything, we give super a little less [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:15 PM Flag
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What type of amenities? Basic I guess. No gym or playroom, but a nice rooftop. The super and one of the doormen handle the cleaning and garbage, so would I give those two more than the rest? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:59 PM Flag
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No, what you give them is ex officio. Most for the super, less (but equal) for the doormen, less for the porter. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:56 PM Flag
[ - ] I woke up today with a wrinkle near my mouth. Seriously! It was not there yesterday. The place where I have gotten Botox on my forehead has a “sale“ on fillers. Can anyone recommend one that has worked well for you near your mouth? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:51 PM Flag
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Are you sure you're not dehydrated or you slept on your face wrong? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:57 PM Flag
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A tiny bit of filler will help, but painful near the mouth! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:31 PM Flag
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What kind? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:17 PM Flag
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PS or injector will have advice on types and differences between them [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 02:25 PM Flag
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Fake. I hope. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:05 PM Flag
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Nope. Advice? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:17 PM Flag
[ - ] My DD, who will be 3 in November, suddenly gets very upset if her hands get messy or if certain of her foods touch each other. For example, last night she wanted to eat pizza crust and was freaking out because there was either sauce or cheese on it. Is this normal or a sensory thing? I have no other concerns. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:44 PM Flag
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Yes, if all her other behaviors are normal, food pickiness is very common [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:46 PM Flag
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Yes, normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:50 PM Flag
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That's cute! That's the beginning of self-motivated manners! Kid thinks: This is messy, and I want to be neat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:52 PM Flag
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God, I wish either of my boys wanted to be neat. I chastise them so much at the dinner table, I wonder if I will give them a complex, but still it's animal time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Speaking of mattresses, I got my avocado and I love it! It is definitely not too firm. I am glad I did not get the pillow top l. I like firm mattresses and it is definitely not too firm. I could even like a tad firmer but I like really really firm. It is wonderful and was easy to set up. It smells a little earthy but after almost a week it is basically gone. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:39 PM Flag
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It's an avocado. What do you expect it to smell like? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:11 PM Flag
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These avocado mattress posts appear to be reaching the frequency of the Amazon jacket earlier this year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:17 PM Flag
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I am a real person I swear. Someone told me to post when I received it. I did many mattress posts asking for a recommendation. Someone said to go to consumer reports so I did. That’s where I saw this was the best one for firm. Just trying to help others! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:34 PM Flag
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is it firm enough though? (I too like firm and am thinking of it) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:06 PM Flag
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Yes it definitely is. I would probably do good on wood or something. Ha. Whenever I got to a hotel I get a back ache. If someone puts a mattress topper or foam on a bed I have to take it off. I have slept on this bed for five nights and it was very restful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:17 PM Flag
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thank you for responding !! I will definitely check it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 09:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts please - we are very strapped right now financially but should be coming into money in the next few months. All of our friends are going away to the Caribbean over Christmas and all the kids are friends but it sounds dreadful to me though I know my kids would have a great time. I would rather spend the money on a European vacation with only my family. Presumably wouldn’t be as enjoyable for my kids. Due to money issues can only take one vacation. Am I being selfish? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:33 PM Flag
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This doesn't have anything to do with your current financial situation - you want to take your family on a European vacation. Other families are going to the Caribbean. They go to the Caribbean and you go to Europe. No selfishness, it's your family, your values. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:36 PM Flag
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Did your parents let you decide where the family went on vacation when you were a child? Mine didn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:37 PM Flag
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Of course go to Europe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:42 PM Flag
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How old are your kids? I wouldn't take them to Europe if they're still in the napping stage (BTDT in March, never again, we were stuck in the hotel room a lot of the time). Otherwise, there are a lot of fun things to do for kids if you look for them. You can always do the Caribbean another time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:42 PM Flag
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Why are you giving all this detail about money??7 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:43 PM Flag
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Didn't you hear, they're coming into some money! But we don't get to know how much! Because that might help us answer the question! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:47 PM Flag
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Op here - you’re a total asshole [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:06 PM Flag
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Op here - you’re a total asshole [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:06 PM Flag
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Op here - you’re a total asshole [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:06 PM Flag
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I wouldn't enjoy a vacation anywhere if I was strapped financially. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:49 PM Flag
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+ or make it a cheap vacation [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 06:54 PM Flag
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It will be cold in Europe over winter break. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:52 PM Flag
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Because she said she can only take one vacation, I think she means, one vacation for the year - so Europe may not be over winter break but next spring or summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:54 PM Flag
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Op here - the money situation is relevant because I can only afford one vacation this year. I will go to Europe in spring or Caribbean in December. I mentioned we are going to come into some money so that nobody gives me shit for planning a vacation when strapped. I mention we are strapped because I can only afford one trip. Thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:55 PM Flag
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go to europe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:56 PM Flag
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+1. We just got back (having scrimped and saved, and used points to purchase the airfare). It's so much better for all of you than lying on a beach. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:06 PM Flag
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Wow-judge much? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:33 PM Flag
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NP I like to lie on beaches in Europe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:41 PM Flag
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I posted above about going to Europe in March with a napping toddler. I'm looking forward to "just" lying on the beach WAY more after that experience. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:57 PM Flag
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NP Will your toddler sleep in a stroller? We wised up and started taking our big stroller that reclines with us on trips where we knew we'd be out and about so DS could nap in it. Last trip we took was to PR and it worked out perfectly. Took stroller to the beach. Let him play for a little bit and then down for a nap. Then DH and I got 2-3 hours to ourselves to relax. And its actually easier to take through the airport than a travel one because you don't have to collapse it and put it up on the belt. They let you roll it through the metal detector and they just swab it down. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:21 PM Flag
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Ds sleeps much more soundly in his uppababy than in the babyzen Yoyo, but we were in Florence and Rome, and the babyzen was cumbersome enough. I can’t imagine trying to get that behemoth (which I do love) onto a tiny European elevator or lugging it up the stairs. Also it wouldve been much easier if he was just napping once a day, but it was still twice a day at that time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:23 PM Flag
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Oh, the 2 naps does make a difference. During that period I think we mostly just took road trips so he could sleep in the car or car seat if needed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:32 PM Flag
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Caribbean! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:32 PM Flag
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If you can only afford one vacation, you can't afford one vacation. You should be putting that money in the bank. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:54 PM Flag
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Just in terms of "If you don't have the money, spend it anyway" https://vimeo.com/41152287 ... I am the person who wants to move to France for a year below, and I am feeling so urgent about finding ways to travel while our kids are old enough to remember it / young enough to be cooperative. Not into doing these things with my husband when we are 70, or maybe let's do both! But not into missing them now. It's like signing your kid up for something at what feels like the right age.. that's the age. You want to grab it while you can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:58 PM Flag
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Would it work to tell the kids when this money shows up that -1- Europe is happening, and -2- if you spend less in certain ways (maybe they can help by cooking pancakes for dinner instead of going out or whatever) that then they will be able to go to the beach with friends? Chart on fridge? Maybe not a match for your household at all but I may try it for next April and summer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:00 PM Flag
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ooo-how much money, and why??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:32 PM Flag
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Do Europe... its what you want and the kids will enjoy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:55 PM Flag
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Your question is WHY you're strapped! Save the $$$ and skip the vacation. Gosh, this isn't rocket science, people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:30 PM Flag
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If you are strapped, don't plan a vacation. Period. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:48 PM Flag
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you don't say how old the dc's are, but if under 10, I'd do the Caribbean vacation and save Europe for when they are older. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:18 AM Flag
[ - ] Husband obsessed with getting a sleep-number mattress. Love/hate yours? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:18 PM Flag
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And what is this where the ones with a few more inches of foam on top are 3k more? Can I just unroll a big, thick memory foam mattress pad on there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:20 PM Flag
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Why get a bed that you have to add something to to make it comfortable? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:30 PM Flag
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OP but I love that 3k & I want to spend it on myself ❤ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:35 PM Flag
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I kind of understand. My DH looooooves our adjustable temperpedic. Every night for the last 4.5 years he sighs with appreciation when he gets into bed. Not an exaggeration. Best big purchase in awhile. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:24 PM Flag
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Hated it. My DH talked me into it. It's gimmick. It's an air mattress with a foam topper. Don't do it. We finally switched back to a Tempur Pedic and it's so much better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:28 PM Flag
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I've had mine for over 10 years, and I still love it. Have only adjusted the setting on my side once. It does NOT feel like an air mattress to me at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:37 PM Flag
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I used one in a hotel once, and it stressed me out something awful. I kept adjusting it, thinking there must be another number that is better. Classic case of too many choices leading to less satisfaction. They should have stuck to ten options rather than 100, imo. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:14 PM Flag
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Whenever I've slept on one (traveling) I've really liked it. And DH & I choose totally opposite numbers, so if you can afford it, you should get it. It's a small price for something used so much. Sleep is really important. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 05:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Tuesday daydream! If you have spent a year or more living abroad with your kids, what was your tax situation like? Or do you know anything about what it should be? For France, it looks to me like I can do a few 90-day tourist visas plus private schools, which would be under the radar for $, but are there real problems like: people not taking our school registration or not being renting to us beyond air bnb? No idea whether we'd get a long stay visa or want one, since once they know you are there, taxes are like 50%. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:15 PM Flag
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Talk to a tax professional. There are certain exclusions and rates for foreigners in France. You are still liable for U.S. taxes, but there are offsets. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:23 PM Flag
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Be careful- the biggest tax burden there is the wealth tax, not income taxes. You won’t have a problem With school registration if you are looking at international schools like ASP. You can probably pay someone up front to rent an apartment. It is illegal to reside in a country and enter on a tourist visA. But I don’t think it’s that hard to get a resident visa if you don’t need a work visa and you are rich. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:52 PM Flag
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Not rich in a way that a wealth tax might hit (I don't think, but I would be so flattered) but we do have US income and insurance that we can keep anywhere. Maybe with all the laptop hobos out there, this is a growing thing? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:03 PM Flag
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I think France abolished the wealth tax last year and replaced it with a tax on just real estate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Recommendations for an app that syncs all our calendars (family) and can share with sitter as well? Thanks in advance. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:08 PM Flag
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I haven't set this up but I use some shared calendars at work, and this is definitely what gcal and the iphone cal are meant for. What if you search around youtube and spend half an hour getting to be a power user of those, before starting a hunt beyond? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 02:08 PM Flag
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You modern. We have a paper monthly calendar stuck to a bulletin board in the kitchen and all copy the relevant info from there to our pencil-and-paper date books. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 04:15 PM Flag
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anything will work - do google if easiest. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.11.19, 01:19 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm 10 weeks pregnant and just found out my OBGYN with a private practice passed away suddenly. Can anyone please recommend an OBGYN practice they are happy with in Manhattan, I work in Lincoln Center but live on the UES. Had planned to deliver at Lenox Hill but will consider any hospital in the city people have been happy with. Thank you so much! 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:07 PM Flag
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Sorry. Hope people have good ideas. Who was the OB? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:09 PM Flag
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This would be so useful. Moritz / LOMA closed up shop over the summer and I am still looking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:09 PM Flag
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Oh wow. Moritz was my back up OB. Why did he close up shop? Did he retire? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 03:45 PM Flag
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Mark Gold, UES [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:10 PM Flag
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Also Maria Teaiwa Rutherford, love her [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:11 PM Flag
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Natalie Stevens, UES. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 09.10.19, 01:42 PM Flag