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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] Has the Black at Brearley Instagram been discussed? What are your opinions? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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https://pagesix.com/2020/06/09/elite-all-girls-school-brearley-accused-of-fostering-racist-environment/ [ Reply | More
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The fact that the first thing I read was about the haunted house debacle... truly full circle. [ Reply | More
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Yep. [ Reply | More
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Yah , next. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:04 PM Flag
[ - ] I like long, feminine girls names like Anastasia, Genevieve, Francesca. What else would you consider? 86 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Francesca is my name! Thank you! It is so uncommon in the USA [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:32 PM Flag
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Francesca is the nicest. And Alexandra. [ Reply | More
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NP I agree and it's the nicest because it's less common than all these others. [ Reply | More
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Vanessa, Seraphina, Penelope [ Reply | More
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I know little girls with all 3 of these names. Lovely [ Reply | More
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Serafina (it is an Italian name, should be spelled correctly) [ Reply | More
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Josephine [ Reply | More
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Np: Love [ Reply | More
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Philomena, Catherine (or some variation), Veronica, Violetta [ Reply | More
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Alexandra. [ Reply | More
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Victoria, Juliana, Aurelia [ Reply | More
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I like Anneliese [ Reply | More
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pretty [ Reply | More
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German [ Reply | More
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Olivia, Isabella, Alexandra, Elizabeth, Mariana, Annabella, Mirella, Emily, Cassandra, Katrina [ Reply | More
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Love Isabella, Alexandra, Elizabeth and sometimes Cassandra. Detest Katrina. [ Reply | More
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Cecelia- nn Cece [ Reply | More
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Vivian, Violetta, renata [ Reply | More
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Love Renata. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:00 PM Flag
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Violetta is the courtesan in La traviata. The opera was initially named after her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:10 PM Flag
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My cousin who’s married to a Colombian named her daughter Analucia. I think its a very pretty name. [ Reply | More
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Marceline is a guilty pleasure of mine [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:03 PM Flag
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I've never heard that name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:06 PM Flag
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Love it but very French. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 07:57 PM Flag
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Gabriella/Gabrielle [ Reply | More
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Josephina [ Reply | More
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Eliana [ Reply | More
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Ottoline [ Reply | More
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Guinevere/Gwyneth/Gwendolyn, Cordelia, Caroline, Jacqueline, Lorelai, Lucinda, Clementine, Felicity, Virginia, Georgina, Angelica/Angelique [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:32 PM Flag
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Wilhelmina [ Reply | More
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now that's a name! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 08:47 PM Flag
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Adrianna, Cornelia, Georgiana, Vivianna, Mariella. [ Reply | More
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Clementine [ Reply | More
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love clementine [ Reply | More
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I have a Genevieve. I wouldn't have been brave enough to do it, but I like names like Antigone, Antoinette, Evangeline, Philippa, Lucrezia, Otilia [ Reply | More
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Love Evangeline. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:01 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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+1 now I just need a little girl! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 07:55 PM Flag
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Go for it! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 09:17 PM Flag
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Try her on, she fits like a glove. Too bad the only man she loves is God above... [ Reply | More
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I have a Philippa <3 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 10:48 AM Flag
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Those are my least favorite kind of names. Sorry. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:04 PM Flag
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I like these kind of names, but they are a mouthful so invariably the kid gets a nickname that is not so pretty. I know a Violetta who goes by Vi, a Toni for Antoinetta, Gabby for Gabriella. Pretty names and hardly ever used -- just Vi, Toni and Gabby! [ Reply | More
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Agree. The Francesca I know is Fran(ny); Josephine is Josie; Samantha is Sam. Nothing wrong with the nn's, but you lose the beauty of the given name. I would go with something like Emily or Amanda where you use the full name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:27 PM Flag
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Np: but that's part of the charm of a long name, the versatility to have a bunch of fun nn options in addition to a beautiful formal name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:21 AM Flag
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I have one of those and she goes by the full name, never a problem. [ Reply | More
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You have no reason to be sorry. Everyone has their own opinions. You do not have to feel bad about yours. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:27 PM Flag
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I agree with you, too fussy and OTT feminine. [ Reply | More
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Louisa [ Reply | More
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Natalia [ Reply | More
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Love it! [ Reply | More
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+1 and know one, she's marvelous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 07:54 PM Flag
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I also know one and she's not. [ Reply | More
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Louisa, Collette, Violetta, Montserrat, Evangeline, Carolina, Georgianna [ Reply | More
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Love Montserrat, never met one in real life. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:53 PM Flag
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Sounds like Mouse Rat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 05:55 PM Flag
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Montserrat Caballé [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 06:49 PM Flag
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I know a Guinevere. Pretty unusual. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:41 PM Flag
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Antonella [ Reply | More
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georgina [ Reply | More
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I know a horrible woman with this name. Ugh. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:00 AM Flag
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Eastern European? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:53 PM Flag
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These names just conjure up a very specific kind of woman -- like a beautiful long haired Italian woman. It is a little sad to see a plain Jane named Francesca. I guess she could just be Franny. [ Reply | More
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ha. i didnt name my baby Alexandra because she came out looking like a monkey and i didn't want to burden her with such a beautiful name. So i went with a spunky name... [ Reply | More
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Elizabeth, [ Reply | More
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I love V names: Vivian or Vivienne, Veronica, Victoria, Virginia, Violet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:38 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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Josephine, Cressida, Beatrice, Clementine, Georgina, Rosemary, Imogen, Claudia. Of your list, Genevieve is my favourite and would have been my third child’s name had we had one! Wished I used it earlier. Vi Vi is a cute nickname too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:36 AM Flag
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Allessandra, Alexandria, Violetta, Mirabelle or Mirabella, Arabella, Angelica, Persephone [ Reply | More
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Continued: Antonia, Cassandra, Daniella [ Reply | More
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And Caterina [ Reply | More
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Yuck. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 07:54 PM Flag
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Love Antonia. [ Reply | More
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Cordelia, Rosalind [ Reply | More
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I love Theadora. My Mom wanted to name me this (after her deceased father), but my Dad overrode her:( I like Thea as a nickname. [ Reply | More
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Teddy is a cute nn, too [ Reply | More
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Theodosia, like from Hamilton [ Reply | More
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I loved Theodora for DD but it's not really popular here. [ Reply | More
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Love love love it. [ Reply | More
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Emmeline [ Reply | More
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Domitilla (Italian) [ Reply | More
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Costanza [ Reply | More
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lol [ Reply | More
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Love Julianna, Victoria, Alexandra, Violetta, Georgina, Caterina, Emilia. [ Reply | More
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Valentina [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 07:39 PM Flag
[ - ] It seems that the virus is either mutating to benignity and/or the more benign strain is becoming prevalent 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:25 PM Flag
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What is the evidence of this? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:32 PM Flag
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Her gut feeling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:39 PM Flag
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Wishful thinking. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:59 AM Flag
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Not based on the situation in AZ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:41 PM Flag
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Or Houston. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:01 PM Flag
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Serious question because I haven't read up on it. Are there death rates higher there or just infections [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:23 PM Flag
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hospitals are approaching capacity in Arizona. Its not mutating to benignity. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:28 PM Flag
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What about the death rate though? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:42 PM Flag
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np: too early to tell yet - same with Houston [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:00 PM Flag
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There's a difference between needing hospitalizations and death [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:28 PM Flag
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No really. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:38 AM Flag
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If you’re put on a vent, your chances are 20% [ Reply | More
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Or Mexico or Brazil or India [ Reply | More
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not true [ Reply | More
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Dr. Spaceman? [ Reply | More
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ILY! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:43 AM Flag
[ - ] Westport vs Chappaqua? Vibe, elementary schools, diversity (or lack of), 'downtown' area? Commute, housing and cost not important. In the end they might be boring suburbs to NYC urbanites, but there have to be some differences. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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I would do Westport. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:09 PM Flag
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Why not Riverside? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:21 PM Flag
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Neither are diverse. Westport is more blonde. Chappaqua is more Jewish. Westport has a beach which is nice. Chappaqua has a great school district, very impressive high schoolers. I feel Chap is more tiger-mom type educators. [ Reply | More
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Westport has a large and active Jewish community. “Jewish History, POI & Kosher Establishments in Westport: There are thought to be anywhere between 11,000 and 15,000 Jewish people living in Westport and Norwalk, which means the population is well over one quarter Jewish. There are ten synagogues within these towns, which often are joined for Jewish communal activities. There is also a Chabad in Westport. Many of the Jews are professionals. Some work locally and many commute to neighboring New York City. There are a few kosher establishments in the area.” [ Reply | More
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Interesting. I didn't mean to insinuate that there were NO jewish people in westport. [ Reply | More
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You have no idea about what you are talking about. Southport is blonde. Westport has its blondes but I don't view the town as blonde. And yes, significant Jewish population. I have brown hair and am Jewish fwiw. Parents couldn't be more involved in the schools, and the schools are excellent. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:53 PM Flag
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Westport is by the water, Chap is landlocked and not as happening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:56 PM Flag
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Westport- the beach, restuarants, etc. Also there is a theater there and a nice cultural scene. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:11 PM Flag
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Do you like men with sweaters around their necks and nautical outfits. If so, Westport is for you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:29 PM Flag
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I live in Westport and I just don't see that look you are describing. And to answer op's question, obviously Westport! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:50 PM Flag
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I went to several parties in Westport and the dads all looked like the bad boyfriends from 80s movies. I have no experience with chappaqua but do not like CT towns. I grew up in NYC and CT seemed so different to me. That is not for me at all. I have family in Larchmont, North Salem and Pleasantville and would choose any of those areas over Greenwich, Fairfield and Westport. I am a NYer and I am staying but if I left, I would choose Westchester. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:07 AM Flag
[ - ] Suburban or Mercedes GLS? We have three kids and I'm probably what you'd call a soccer mom (we've got sporty kids and are constantly carting around them, their friends/teammates, and all the paraphernalia that comes with them. I vastly prefer the Mercedes but should probably go for Suburban because of the space? Sorry to ask on *urban* baby... 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Do not get a suburban if parallel parking is ever needed. [ Reply | More
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Genius. Didn't even think about that. Thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:01 PM Flag
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Mercedes hands down [ Reply | More
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I am (or was pre-covid) a soccer mom too. Are you open to suggestions or have you narrowed it down to those two? I ask because the Infiniti QX80 is very popular among my mom friends. I see plenty of Mercedes, suburban and Escalade too. I have a Tahoe with captain seats and i love it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:56 PM Flag
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Thanks! Also looking at the Infiniti and Tahoe. Infiniti seems very similar to the Mercedes but with a few more bells and whistles that we don't really need. Tahoe looks solid! [ Reply | More
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I love my Suburban! That being said, I do have another car I drive when not with the kids. [ Reply | More
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We have a Suburban in the city. Yes it can be difficult to parallel park, but once you get the hang of it -- not a big deal. We have 3 hockey players, so we needed more room than the Mercedes. I prefer the captain's seats (but they don't move like in a minivan) and it feels pretty tight in the 3rd row. But it is a comfortable ride and I like being up high on the highway. [ Reply | More
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Lexus LX570 or BMW X7. [ Reply | More
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i know it isnt as sexy but nothing beats the honda odyssey for space!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 11:24 AM Flag
[ - ] How do you find a good dermatologist for Botox? Word of mouth? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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yes look at your friends and decide which one has the most natural look. and then go to that Dr [ Reply | More
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Not word of mouth, but look of forehead. [ Reply | More
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This, exactly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:23 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm so so upset about the schools becoming partially remote in September in NYC. Already, we're behind every other nation in providing daycare and preschools, not they're taking away full time school too! The rich will be just fine, with their private schools and tutors and other homeschooling options they will organize on their days off. The poor will suffer even more. I'm literally devastated over this. Young kids don't suffer as much from covid statistically (with exceptions of course). It's so so unfair to them. Why can't we quarantine older adults and let schools open up? So wrong. 46 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:36 PM Flag
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You can’t quarantine just older adults. But I agree, there are many many systems that need to be overhauled. [ Reply | More
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Why not? If we can disrupt the social and emotional and academic development of an entire cohort of NYC children (or at least, the ones without SAHM parents and tutors at their disposal), why can't we force 60+ to stay home in quarantine and do zoom? [ Reply | More
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Well for one thing, it’s ageist. But many of the most vulnerable elderly have to interact with people to take care of them. [ Reply | More
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ITA on both counts. Plus, "pre-existing conditions" is so broad. Obesity, for example, triples your likelihood of severe COVID complications. Over 40% of US adults are obese. Are we going to have kids stay home because their parents are obese and at higher risk? [ Reply | More
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I agree. And I'm not a COVID-denier, we have been extremely strict about quarantine/social distancing, and I have no desire to jump right back into "normal" life. But something has to give with the children. I have the privilege of WFH, have an education and enough supplies and technology that I won't let my kids fall behind (even though WFH + homeschooling has been an absolute NIGHTMARE). But I'm heartbroken that there are hundreds of thousands of kids who haven't been learning since early March, especially those for whom school was a refuge/safe space. [ Reply | More
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OP: I've also been very very careful. But at this point, the infection rate in NYC is very low and risks to children are not that bad, less than the flu. How the DOE can consider throwing an entire generation of children under the bus for this is beyond me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:06 PM Flag
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they will all be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:06 AM Flag
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+1. I think it is the wrong move. The flu kills kids. This virus does not. For everyone healthy and under 50, life should go back to normal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:49 PM Flag
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amen [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:09 PM Flag
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+1 could not agree more [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:27 PM Flag
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what about all the adults that work at schools ffs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:07 AM Flag
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If under 50, you go back. For the elderly teachers and admin, you can take a sabbatical, retire, get a different job... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:41 AM Flag
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Jesus. What a piece of work you are. [ Reply | More
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what about all the adults that work at schools ffs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 02:07 AM Flag
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Agreed. I'm desperate for the peer interaction my son has been missing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:58 PM Flag
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+1. Academically, my daughter can probably advance much faster at home (she is still young). But she needs to be with other kids, learn to socialize, have experiences, play. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:59 PM Flag
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You realize that private school is composed of more than rich people, right? And it also likely won't be in session full-time next year. Not everyone who goes to private school has a non-working parent, or access/finances to support a nanny and/or tutor. I know many in public school who have more money than we do, with more access to those things. You can complain about "the rich" versus "everyone else" but don't throw random assertions in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:01 PM Flag
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I'm sorry if you're being so picky. But private school=richer parent body is not what I would call a "random assertion". Of course not every public parent is poor and not even private parent is rich, but that is not what I said. Private schools have much more real estate per student, so they will figure out how to do this much easier and richer parents (public or private) will hire tutors, or have SAHMs, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:04 PM Flag
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According to the DOE, 73% of NYC public student body are economically disadvantaged. Even the most hard-up FA case in your average private is probably better off than most of that 73%. [ Reply | More
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smart. I'm a private school mom with FA and I have friends with AT LEAST 10x as much income who send their kids to public. They also own (don't rent), and take loads of terrific vacations throughout the year. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:11 PM Flag
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I posted directly above this. I don't think anyone is splitting hairs over the levels of privilege among NYC's MC and UMC families. The bottom line is that public school system is comprised of majority economically disadvantaged kids who are going to suffer greatly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:34 PM Flag
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I think if this continues for more than a semester, it will be the end of public school as a "social good" as we know it. New small private schools will open up immediately to fill the void and only the most disadvantaged students will stay in public. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:19 PM Flag
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This, very unfortunately. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:21 PM Flag
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Is it official yet? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:20 PM Flag
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not official yet. There are leaked ideas (or blended learning models) from principals' call with chancellor [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:23 PM Flag
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I don't agree about forcing older adults to quarantine, but I do agree that it is truly the children who will truly suffer. But more than education, it's the kids who are stuck in abusive households who have had no reprieve from whatever abuse they face, and who will continue to suffer through the summer and into the school year. If they are only going in on some kind of alternating schedule, it makes it that much more difficult for educators to see the signs and report. I'm just so incredibly sad for these kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:24 PM Flag
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+1. I wonder how many children have been killed by abusive parents during quarantine and no one even knows because a teacher didn’t notice the kid wasn’t at school anymore [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:45 PM Flag
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As opposed to forcing all of us to quarantine for the benefit of the elderly? I'd take forcing older adults vs forcing everyone. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:42 AM Flag
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I think y'all are off base. I think we'll be lucky to have ANY in person school this fall. I just don't see how it's doable. Do I want it? Hell yes, but I'm not holding my breath. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:35 PM Flag
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Our private is planning full time instruction. I feel bad for public school parents, especially ones that can't do the WFH easily. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:44 PM Flag
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OR: yes, private may be different, I should have clarified. They will all be shutting down eventually when cases kick back up, but privates will be able to start up easier for sure. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:55 PM Flag
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All schools are planning for both scenarios. It would be irresponsible not to do so. But, the likelihood is remote or at least partially remote for ALL schools in nyc [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:56 PM Flag
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They are looking at a variety of in-school, remote and blended circumstances in both our public and our private. They would be foolish not to plan for all and to have remote running alongside in-school the entire time so children and teachers can cycle in and out if they need to for family or personal illness. But no formal announcement yet, is there? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:00 PM Flag
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Blended was confirmed today for NYCDOE [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:18 PM Flag
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Which model??? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:06 AM Flag
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Scheduling TBD, but definitely will be a hybrid of in person and remote learning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:21 AM Flag
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So what do you propose? Partially remote / blended makes a lot of sense under the circumstances. Kids will still spend some time at school and will still socialize. Completely remote is not good, I agree with this, but putting back over a million kids in crowded public transportation and schools is a recipe for a major second wave if the virus is still around (and it will probably be given how the country has handled this). A half way measure with social distancing will hopefully help mitigate and control the outbreaks. It is not just kids getting sick (and some have preexisting conditions), it is also the teachers, staff and family members [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:42 PM Flag
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we can't stay locked up forever. This is madness. There is no vaccine for the cold or other coronas, and there may NEVER be a vaccine for COVID. PEople die. It's sad. The whole world can't stay indoors because of it on end. NOBODY IS THINKING. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:03 AM Flag
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The fact that you are comparing this to a cold tells me there is no point in trying to reason w you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:33 AM Flag
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Sounds like you are the one not thinking. By definition, partial remote does not mean that you are staying indoors or locked up all the time or forver. You are out at school part of the time. Odds are there will be a vaccine and/or better therapies in 1 to 2 years. The idea that you just let the virus kill many and potentially overrun healthcare systems (not even considering the impact on healthcare workers) with the attitude of whatever is bizarre. Even quarantines were put in place in the middle ages to stem epidemics. Mitigating nasty epidemics has been around for centuries because the cost, both human and economic, is just too high if you let them run amok. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:33 AM Flag
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A few things. With an epidemic disease, it doesn't matter if the kids don't suffer from it as much as long as they are still spreading it. COVID-19 is unpredictable, there's a lot we don't know about post-COVID consequences, and it can kill young, healthy adults without obvious risk factors. So we don't really know that just quarantining older adults will do the trick. What needs to happen on the governmental level is a massive influx of either income support so parents can go to half-time or time off or childcare support, like an Americorps of child care workers who can facilitate distance learning and childmind for one or two households. Makes test and trace much easier, mitigates risk, provides employment... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:57 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:34 AM Flag
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i agree. unfortunately it will just increase the divide between those who can afford an alternate solution and those who cant. people with money will have nanny and private school (likely in session). those without--i dont even know what theyre going to do. if you area hairdresser or a clerk at the store or a non native english speaker what are you supposed to do with your small children all day while youre working hourly to pay the rent? its crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 11:30 AM Flag
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I hate to tell you this, but this hybrid system is still a hope and wish by the DOE. They don't know how to implement it yet. Chances are they won't be able to do so in time and school still open FULLY REMOTE... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 07:12 PM Flag
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this. they cant even get the teacher's union to do ANY live teaching online whatsoever. getting teachers to feel safe in the classroom will be the biggest hurdle. and forget the transportation issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 10:03 PM Flag
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It's a pandemic, Susan. It's unfair to everyone. Nobody asked for this and we all have to do the best we can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 10:04 PM Flag
[ - ] What are some easy side dishes that you make for a barbecue? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:29 PM Flag
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https://aussietaste.com.au/vegetables/potato/krumpir-salata-croatian-potato-salad/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:33 PM Flag
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I also make a variation of this. I simply use potatoes, beets, any onion I have on hand, olive oil, salt, white vinegar https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/213106/russian-beet-and-potato-salad/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:35 PM Flag
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orzo salad, corn salad, potato salad, sliced tomatoes and mozzarella [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:36 PM Flag
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https://www.the-girl-who-ate-everything.com/corn-avocado-and-tomato-salad/ [ Reply | More
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https://www.chewoutloud.com/lemon-spinach-orzo-salad/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:53 PM Flag
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I love Cole slaw and there are many variations. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:56 PM Flag
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Lots on food network app. They have a list called easy summer sides [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:46 PM Flag
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Watermelon feta & mint salad, caprese salad, pasta salad, potato salad [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:03 PM Flag
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deviled eggs, tortellini salad (stays better than regular pasta salad), bean dip with tortilla chips, fruit skewers, baked beans from a can (judge away), corn on the cob. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Any thoughts on the newest "Racist Karen" incidents between the old woman ranting against the Asian woman working out in the park, or the convenience store Karen who was slapped in self defense at a convenience store? Posting so that those who continue to think of these as isolated incidents can see how extremely common these situations really are. It makes me so sad to think of how many more of these situations happen that aren't caught on video. 70 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:16 PM Flag
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https://www.tmz.com/2020/06/11/torrance-karen-racist-attack-woman-stairs-california-sun-black/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:16 PM Flag
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The passer-by's rant was racist, but the one exercising was the more entitled one--she is presumably blocking public stairs. Why should an older person be forced to walk around to another set of stairs? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:52 PM Flag
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But that doesn’t excuse the encounter turning racist! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:31 PM Flag
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I didn't say it did. But it doesn't make her a "Karen." She's just an older, racist woman. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:48 PM Flag
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Are you serious? She was moving back and forth on the steps, not BLOCKING them. The full video also shows the woman go up the stairs with no problem, and then when she came down the stairs is when they were close to each other. That lady took one second before cursing and threatening to have her family beat up the Asian woman and for her to get racial. That's outrageous, but of course there's always someone to say "but but....." when things get racial for no reason. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:43 PM Flag
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Yes. She's moving across the width of the stairs--someone trying to get by has to maneuver around her. I would have found it annoying, but would have rolled my eyes and moved on with my day. I woulnd't have yelled at her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:50 PM Flag
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And I never said it was an excuse for being racist. But the one exercising was entitled enough to say "Jesus" when this other woman was trying to get by in a public space that she was blocking. It was only then that the older woman started cursing her out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:53 PM Flag
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Listen, as a poster below noted, a simple excuse me would have sufficed. I'm constantly annoyed by people who take up the entire sidewalk to have conversations, instead of moving to the side and out of the way. You know how I handle it? I say excuse me and they move OR I walk around. I would NEVER EVER EVER think to curse out, threaten, and yell out racist epithets because someone was in my way. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:02 PM Flag
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The woman walked by and didn't say anything. Apparently she came too close to this entitled exerciser and the exerciser yelled "Jesus" loud enough for the other woman to hear. Come on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:03 PM Flag
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So that warrants a racist rant and threats? Got it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:14 AM Flag
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I think the elderly woman came back for no reason, just to start a fight with the girl exercising. she is obviously a racist in addition to sounding like a disturbed person. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:46 AM Flag
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A simple "excuse me" would solve that problem. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:53 PM Flag
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Exactly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:59 PM Flag
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Can I just say... that was a good workout? Honestly impressed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:00 PM Flag
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Exercising without a mask right at the bottom of the stairs would piss me off too. And moving from side to side on top of that. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:24 PM Flag
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Is someone staging these things? I just watched the same white haired woman, in the same clothing, getting into it with someone else? Or maybe she spends her day looking for people to offend her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 11:26 AM Flag
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It is the same Karen. I saw there were two videos of the same woman in the same tshirt: https://www.reddit.com/r/PublicFreakout/comments/h78g1a/your_favorite_karen_makes_another_appearance/ https://www.reddit.com/r/PublicFreakout/comments/h0pabt/why_is_it_so_hard_for_karen_to_mind_her_own/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:39 PM Flag
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I think it's staged [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 07:41 PM Flag
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The way it's filmed, the way the old lady dresses, + sunglasses + hat =hard to identify, the quality of the recording.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 07:42 PM Flag
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They actually just showed the second video on TMZ just now. The 2nd incident was apparently filmed not long after the first one, but this time the man involved actually filed a police report, so doubt it's staged. Who knows how many of these rants she went on that day, or ever, that just weren't filmed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 08:45 PM Flag
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can we stop calling them all karens it's really lame [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:17 PM Flag
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I'd adjust to it if I were you, it's shorthand now. It's not going away. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:29 PM Flag
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Eh it'll flame out like everything else. Everyone seems to think they're so cool and funny when they say it and it's just ... played out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:31 PM Flag
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No they don't. It's just an accepted slang term. No one is trying to sound cool. This seems more about you than about the term. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:44 PM Flag
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good bc they sound really just ... like a complete tool [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:38 PM Flag
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How is lame better? Lame is similar to retarded. Insulting people by calling them disabled. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 08:41 PM Flag
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Sure. How about "privilileged and entitled white women who complain about things they should not, who may or may not also be racist." Better? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:42 PM Flag
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PAEWWWCATTSNWMOMNABEs! Catchy! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:10 PM Flag
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Yes! It just rolls off the tongue! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:25 PM Flag
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Hey how about we just switch it from Karen to your name? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:46 PM Flag
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Well I have an ethnic sounding name, so that wouldn't work, sorry! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:57 PM Flag
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We'll make it work. Will append "bitch" to it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:33 PM Flag
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Wow, you sound triggered. I didn't make up the name, it's in the actual article, but thanks for calling me a bitch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:16 AM Flag
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And it’s really crappy. My name is not Karen but it is one easily identifiable as a middle-aged woman’s name. I would be upset if racist or pain in the ass behavior were referred to by my name. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:44 PM Flag
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Fair enough, but I think you're missing the bigger picture here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:58 PM Flag
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I think you need to listen and quit defending the use of Karen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 07:22 PM Flag
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And I think you need to focus on the behavior of the racist women behind these incidents, instead of whatever "upset" is felt by people with the actual name. Seriously. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 08:42 PM Flag
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Should we call them pieces of shit? For the record my best friend is named Karen and thinks it is kind of funny. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:59 PM Flag
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be careful, I made a post suggesting smthg similar and it was deleted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:45 AM Flag
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+1. It's a lazy, reductive way to speak. If you really want to say something worthwhile, skip the Karen thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 08:20 PM Flag
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https://www.azcentral.com/story/news/local/phoenix/2020/06/09/viral-racist-video-robert-harrian-apologizes-wife-rant-phoenix-convenience-store/5331110002/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:17 PM Flag
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Yeah. These things happen. They happen in NYC, they happen in the boonies. I’m Asian American and this is something I always have to think about if I go anywhere [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:19 PM Flag
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Me too, and it sucks t have to live like this. I'm just happy that these things are coming to light. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:57 PM Flag
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I hate the cute nicknames bestowed on awful people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:03 PM Flag
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But there has to be some way to identify these people, bc you obviously can't just say white women, or old white women, young white women, rich white women, etc. bc these character's seem to come from different backgrounds, regions, socio-economic groups, some racist, some not, but the only thing they have in common is that they are white women, so I get the urge to label with something. Not sure how Karen became the name though, and the funny thing is that the only Karen I actually know is black and she hates it too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:10 PM Flag
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These aren't deadly situations, have you really never been yelled at by a random stranger or had someone say something stereotypical and rude to you based on your appearance or dress or your kids, etc? How did we become so fragile that we cannot move past a fact that there are some mentally unwell people out there who may say stupid things which we shouldn't necessarily take seriously unless there are direct threats or physical confrontation. Majority of people who do this or so called "Karens" are just mentally unstable individuals [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:31 PM Flag
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So because they aren't "deadly" people of color have to just take it and deal with it. The woman in the convenience store did nothing except try to pay for her purchase before being told to go back to where she came from and pushed, and whether you think the Asian woman was rude for exercising in someone's way, she was still threatened and also told to go back to where she came from. There are different levels to racism, and you clearly are only willing to accept as true or valid, the situations where the police are called and lives are threatened. If you were in a wheelchair or a little person or gay, and spent your life being "yelled at by random strangers" that included insults aimed at one of those things I guarantee it would be a big deal deal. How small minded to think that it's not a big deal to constantly have people choosing to insult you over things you have no control over like race, and then call it fragility. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:50 PM Flag
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ITA. well said. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:49 AM Flag
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Look, there are always going to be mentally unstable people. You can choose to fight with them or walk away. The point is you can’t change them, and you can’t arrest them for words, only for direct physical violence towards you. What will you do? Keep getting worked up over it? You only are hurting yourself as these crazies don’t care. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:26 PM Flag
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The point is going way over your head. So if I as a black woman have 10 people yell racist epithets at me over the course of a month, you expect me to just chalk it up to a "mentally unstable" person each time and just let it go bc they didn't physically attack me? That was the past, where we just took it and internalized it and tried our best to not feel defeated and angry. That shit simply does not fly anymore and I sincerely do hope that people on the receiving end of these attacks (and witnesses) continue to video these encounters so those people are forced to deal with the consequences of their behavior, whether through being publication shamed, losing their job, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 05:29 PM Flag
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"IF it's a black woman" which you are not, so you make stupid statements like this as if you know exactly how many times and how things happen. Look, if you live in a neighborhood where many people are saying slurs that upset you and you feel targeted, then you move, right? How needs hostility? What many of these incidences describe are one off encounters with obviously mentally unwell people. In my area usually they are elderly with their set-mind frames that cannot be changed or perhaps even dementia or other issues. It's ok to feel angry, but there is nothing you can do about it and you cannot retaliate against them. And you also cannot reform them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 10:03 PM Flag
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^^ and they don't care about social media either. Social media is great for shaming other moms like yourself who are aware and care about what others think of them. Doesn't work on mentally unstable and on real racists whose minds won't bend. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 10:04 PM Flag
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Your comment confuses me. You are saying that I am not a black woman, when I just said I was? And then you said I should just move in order to avoid racially motivated comments? Then you said these things are all "one offs" when they are clearly happening every day and every week there is a new viral video of a new racist losing it, so these are all "one off" encounters? You're an idiot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 12:32 AM Flag
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It's been implemented at workplace a while ago, you can never say anything like this and not face consequences at work place. However, you cannot police what people say in their neighborhoods or in public places. YOu cannot arrest someone for screaming things even if they are wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 10:05 PM Flag
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When did I say they should be arrested? They can say whatever they want, but I said they should face consequences for this outrageous behavior, which they are, including losing their jobs and public shaming. Why is this hard to understand? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 12:33 AM Flag
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she doesn't seem mentally stable. however, she obviously sounds racist. since racism is a mental disease not so surprised. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:48 AM Flag
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Exactly! You can’t make these people change and it’s not criminal to say words on the street that may affect others. If you hear direct threats and they are founded then different story. But you have no recourse against crazy but non violent people spewing racist or other offensive remarks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:29 PM Flag
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really. we should all just ignore this and hope it goes away? are you also cool with sexist street harassment? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 08:24 PM Flag
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What can you do about it? You can raise awareness in people who are willing to listen only, and you can change the tides by raising the new generation to be more respectful. But you cannot change people whose minds are set and because it's not a crime and they know it. People know now that they cannot say non-PC remarks at work that would offend anyone's race/gender/sexual orientation/age, etc. They learned by getting fired. You can lynch people with videos, but many of them wouldn't care or even know they were even on camera. There is no law that prohibits people saying things they want in public setting or outside of their home. You cannot arrest people for insulting you verbally, only if they attack you physically. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 10:21 PM Flag
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And many of these people don't have jobs if you are threatening to post videos that would force them to be fired. They basically have nothing to lose. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 10:23 PM Flag
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That's not true. Do a quick google search of people who have been fired for racist attacks or racist behavior and you will see a long list. They don't care at the time bc they clearly think their privilege entitles them to say whatever they want without a thought to social conventions and the heightened sensitivity and wokeness in the air, UNTIL they go viral and they lose their jobs. THEN they feel it and that's what they get. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 12:37 AM Flag
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You are right, we should install surveillance cameras everywhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:36 PM Flag
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Not exactly the point, but that's already happening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:54 PM Flag
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And what will these do? You can’t arrest them if not violent. And I highly doubt these mentally unstable people give a shit about social media or even check it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:30 PM Flag
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Well for one, the cameras are catching violence, as evidence by George Floyd's murder being caught by several different types of cameras. But the point is that these racists are being outed and are losing their jobs. If you want to act like a racist lunatic in public then you should pay the price. Like the fed ex worker who was fired just this week for his outrageous public display of racism. If they aren't caught on camera then it just goes away, so I'm all for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 05:22 PM Flag
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There aren't enough cameras wielded by the socially aware people to capture all this, especially in areas where it's rampant and many people have the same mind frame. And in some places it may simply be dangerous to do this. There is really not a damn thing you can do other than make sure to raise your kids right and hope with each new generation our ideas change. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 10:25 PM Flag
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But I"m saying there is. Raising your kids right is great, but that's the bare minimum and it goes way beyond that bc we'r still in a fked up place as a country. You talk about it, you file a police report if something happens, you take out your camera if something happens. Of course you won't catch it all, but the fact that a new video is out almost every week in the past few months means that there is more awareness both ways--for the racists that might think twice about going on a public rant over something trivial, and the victims of this behavior who may now think to immediately pull out their camera so they have evidence and not a he said-she said type of situation. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.20, 12:42 AM Flag
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All these Karens are horrible. The Torrence one deserves jail time. The Arizona one deserved to be slapped, and much more. My MIL is also named Karen and she is a 100% 'let me speak to the manager' type in addition to being an abusive racist. I swear to god the meme is based on my MIL. Anyway all these women are horrible, full stop. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 05:51 PM Flag
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Don't be lazy and dish out broad accusations. Address the particular situation. The Karen thing is just an easy, stupid way to pile on. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 08:23 PM Flag
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And what are you doing about your MIL? Can you change her? If you cannot how do you think you can change others who are strangers and not a part of your family? I bet you suck it up and go have a Turkey dinner with her every Thanksgiving, right? Or do you disown her and not allow your kids near her? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 10:27 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:10 PM Flag
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Stick with it - it's hard but really works [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:11 PM Flag
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I'm on day 17! Yes, stick with it - the first bit is always tough (this is my 6th time) but by halfway through the month you are feeling like a million bucks. Do a lot of meal prep and I'd recommend following Whole30 recipes on instagram as well as Whole30. I've gotten tons of great ideas from there. It is not easy but it's worth it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:15 PM Flag
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one word: PREPARE! make sure you have the right ingredients and snacks in your pantry and some plan of what you will eat for the week. doesn't have to be fancy or fussy, just has to be compliant. if you get stuck without the right stuff, you will go off plan and be mad at yourself! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:33 PM Flag
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get ready for a rough 3-4 days at the beginning, esp if you are sugar-dependent. aches, stomach upset, dizziness, etc until you adjust, and then it becomes MUCH easier. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:34 PM Flag
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It's worth it! Our family has done it several times and usually stick with it for more than 30 days. Don't feel like every meal has to be a big production. There are a lot of great recipes, but we often just had baked chicken with roasted potatoes and broccoli. Don't cheat even a tiny bit, especially with sugar. I am a dessert person and was satisfied with tea (Celestial Seasonings Bengal Spice is really sweet!) and a couple of those date roll things after dinner. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:46 PM Flag
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Stick with it. You have to give up alcohol too, or it doesn't work. This is a great time to do it though, because you'll mostly be home. It is so much harder to do if you are going out to eat, or have to pick up lunch at the office, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:52 PM Flag
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You just lost me [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:09 AM Flag
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One of the few diet plans I could get behind. Didn't agree with all the eliminations but understood the principal. Eat real food, not processed food. It will simplify your pantry. Plan to start another 30 day cycle myself. I also think that it's okay to have a slip now and then. Ignore the haters that say if you CHEAT you have to start over...people with eating disorders who don't understand that any plan has to be sustainable more than 30 days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 12:57 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone tried MM LaFleur? How is quality and fit? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:08 PM Flag
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Quality is good - I would say similar to Theory. Fit is all over the place - some stuff very boxy, some very tight. I’ve ordered (and returned) a couple of shirts that basically stopped at my belly button [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:34 PM Flag
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I did, posted a couple times in answer to this very question. The stuff is weirdly designed with ruffles where they don't need them and strange armscyes. I got two of their 'bento boxes' and they really didn't read the answers I gave to their questions. If that kind of thing is your deal, I guess they seemed to be made decently. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:39 PM Flag
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I tried it and thought it was extremely dowdy looking. Just super basic. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Most parents are not brave enough to publicly speak out against getting rid of admission screens in NYC schools. Not in light of BLM and being labeled a racist. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:07 PM Flag
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LOL, this is because you do not speak Mandarin and are not privy to conversations in that language. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:11 PM Flag
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Who cares? Carranza doesn't. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:12 PM Flag
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And? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:19 PM Flag
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Ugh, the accusations of racism is OTT. It’s like if you didn’t put a black square on social media, you’re seen as racist. And school screening is not inherently racist, but they’re making it such a racial issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:21 PM Flag
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Way to trivialize a real issue. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:45 PM Flag
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Tell that to the thousands of people saying so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:32 PM Flag
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you mean people aren't brave enough to face losing their jobs once their racism is exposed? or, maybe they've realized that they're entirely wrong to support screens. either way, I'm fine with them keeping their thoughts to themselves. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:24 PM Flag
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Oh please, [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:26 PM Flag
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I think every G&T parent should lose their job on account of this, sure! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:29 PM Flag
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Lob those kinds of accusations and you’re going to give a very legitimate movement a bad rep. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:29 PM Flag
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This is literally exactly what is happening! This person is not a far outlier in their opinion. When they came to "talk to parents" in D15 in Park Slope, the DOE brought posters of Brown vs BofED protesters! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:33 PM Flag
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I'm black and i support screened schools. On the few conversations I've been privy to, It's mostly white parents against screens. Makes me wonder if they have underperforming students who don't have a chance of getting into the screened schools so they now want a lottery system. Using rcism as their cover. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:30 PM Flag
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You are the only person who can speak up. Everyone else will be too scared to lose their jobs, be accused, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:39 PM Flag
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Oh stop it. If you aren't racist, then speak up about whatever you want. If in the process you say or do something that actually is racist, then yes, you will likely be called out for it. It's quite simple. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:48 PM Flag
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You're mistaken. People now consider all standardized tests inherently racist. So if you publicly support it for (gasp) children, that makes you a racist in their eyes too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:09 PM Flag
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Where are you getting your information from? Were you called out for racist behavior that you are now trying to impart onto any conversation about anything? Standardized tests have been proven to be biased, and if you know the history they did in fact have racist beginnings. However, I still support them but there needs to be something done to level the playing field because that is what's RIGHT AND FAIR. You are just throwing out random soundbites and claiming that no non-black person can say anything about anything without being labeled racist and that's just not true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:35 PM Flag
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No, I was never called a racist, so I'm not trying to impart anything. I just see what is happening and the DOE isn't actually open to parent discussion. See Carranza's tweet about racist white parents when this was supposed to be open conversation https://www.westsiderag.com/2018/04/30/schools-chancellors-racially-charged-tweet-could-derail-progress-on-parent-led-school-diversity-plan [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:43 PM Flag
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I don't live in NYC, not wealthy, just middle class, an immigrant myself. I am just appalled by Carranza's tweet. Not a good strategy to shame parents who care about about their childs' education. I guess this shaming strategy works for him for the short term. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:57 AM Flag
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Where are YOU getting your info from? Carranza has been very clear that screened schools are effectively racist, and he wants to do away with them. DeBlasio feels the same, though he sent his son to one not long ago. Actually, do did Carranza outside of NYC. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:14 PM Flag
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So because Carranza and DeBlasio said so, that means that NO NON-BLACK PERSON can say anything about screened schools or standardized tests? That's what the pp said and that's just not true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:23 PM Flag
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The Russian and Chinese parents and students spoke up. DOE will do whatever they want nonetheless. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:26 PM Flag
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As long as you vehemently post about BLM support on your local moms FB group and routinely shame anyone who was mildly freaked out by early looting or "defund the police" statement, then you should be ok. Feel free. Oh, if you have photos of your kids marching in protests or can post some art they made in support of the movement, even better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:42 PM Flag
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What do you mean by publicly speak out? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:47 PM Flag
[ - ] What is your opinion: my 89-year-old mother lives in pompano Beach FL Half the year, and comes back to Stamford CT For the summer. She normally comes back at the end of April, but because of Covid, she has remained in FL. She lives alone in FL, me and my siblings make sure she has food delivered to her. She is very much vibrant and alive mentally and does what she can to keep things interesting. She is a major survivor. She wants to come back to CT because she wants to see her family and because most of her friends and acquaintances are leaving the community she lives in. She is worried about getting the virus if she comes up north, but it’s probably going to get more difficult for her if she stays in FL. My brother has offered to rent an RV and drive her home, but I’m not even sure how easy it is these days to get one. She can’t drive in a car because it is almost impossible for her to get in and out of a car to use the bathroom. Also because of her physical situation. It will be hard for her to sit in a car for that long. Any ideas or suggestions? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:59 PM Flag
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I would risk it on a plane. What's the point of isolating at 89 years old, she could die of anything at any point. I'm sorry I sound callous but my mother was strict about quarantine and we found out about three weeks ago that she has lung cancer that has spread to liver and bone. Basically we were all avoiding her for her safety but really she missed being with her family for her last "good" months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:49 PM Flag
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^sorry I just realized I was rambling. I think the benefit of flying outweighs other options. RV might be tough, how long will it take? Can another driver go as well so you can drive through? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:52 PM Flag
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Oh wow what a terrible story, I am so sorry!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 01:17 PM Flag
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Does Elite airline fly out of PB? It's a small charter, super-clean and half-empty. A friend in virtually your exact circumstances just used it and it was fine. I think the catch is that it lands in Newark, so you'd have to haul out there to get her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:02 PM Flag
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Have her wear a mask and fly. I live in Stamford and things are pretty good here right now while numbers are increasing in Florida. Good time for her to be here! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:48 PM Flag
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We are in the same situation with my 87 year old MIL. Flying her back to NJ first class next week. Sent her masks, gloves etc. She's declined a lot over the last many months. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:01 PM Flag
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She will have wheelchair service at the airports, which she has done for the past few years. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:02 PM Flag
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At 89, seriously get on a plane and live your life [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you go to Puerto Rico with a 70 year old nanny + 6 year old child for all of July this year? San Juan, Condado (expat heavy area, full security). 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:56 PM Flag
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If nanny is okay with it, I would. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:58 PM Flag
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do you need a nanny with you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:59 PM Flag
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single full time working parent - yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:01 PM Flag
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then sure [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:08 PM Flag
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Only if you mean your own security team. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:02 PM Flag
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god no. building has full security [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:10 PM Flag
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Why would she need a security team? This is a US city. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:05 PM Flag
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Why do you need security? Is there something I missed? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:09 PM Flag
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How is a 70 year old going to swim and be active with a 6 year old [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:18 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:26 PM Flag
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65 year old nanny here, I swim and am extremely active!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 10:50 PM Flag
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Exactly. No thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:16 PM Flag
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I personally wouldn't fly at all right now but any other time this would be an enthusiastic yes. And this is definitely a much better plan than Hawaii. 70 is not old, if healthy and active. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:09 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:34 PM Flag
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No. It will be warm here, if you have the money to do that I would try to rent a house on the beach somewhere. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:12 AM Flag
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When I nannied, I was in my late 20s and my charges still ran me ragged. Please think this plan over carefully. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 03:51 PM Flag
[ - ] i work for a large health care system that saw a ton of covid patients. they have found through antibody testing that the rate of covid infection was no higher thank the general population. this is thousands of people doing high risk procedures everyday with covid patients. if the hospitals can figure it out i think there is zero excuse to not open schools. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:54 PM Flag
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Sorry I don't understand - please rephrase. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:57 PM Flag
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Do teachers sterilize and suit up before class? And supposedly not every COVID patient has antibodies. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:58 PM Flag
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So students and teachers should be in full PPE every day? I don't see it happening. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:07 PM Flag
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right? It's good that the workers in the hospital weren't infected at greater rates, but I don't see how it's relevant to schools. Healthcare workers have full PPE, they are also trained to use it properly. You think it's going to be the same with a 6 yo who can't stop fiddling with his mask? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:40 PM Flag
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No shit. OP is smoking something. Most kids won't even wear masks the entire day for several hours. It's hard for adults to do it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:52 PM Flag
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What is the rate? I've seen everything from 2% to 28% for general population. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:10 PM Flag
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Testing is so unreliable. I had active covid and got 2 negative PCRs. Tested positive for antibodies after 45 days. Others I know from my hospital had positive PCRs and now negative for antibodies. We just don't know enough. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:13 PM Flag
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I think some people get the virus and others don't. We just don't know why. Blood type appears to be the tip of the iceberg here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:15 PM Flag
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There are healthcare workers saying they still don't have enough PPE and you think school staff is going to get it?! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 04:13 AM Flag
[ - ] Questions to ask my endocrinologist now that I can finally go see her: Background is that I have gained a ton of weight since I had a copper IUD and since it has been removed, weight will not come off (30-50lbs). Original bloodwork showed high male hormones so she put me on a water pill that was supposed to help shed the excess male hormones. My thyroid was supposedly normal despite extreme fatigue and hair loss. I would love to have some good questions to ask her. Sidenote: I had covid (not hospitalized but VERY sick) and missed 2 periods due to it, I am wondering if she can run bloodwork to check my coagulating proteins and check for any other signs of long term illness. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:44 PM Flag
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PCOS or other hormonal imbalance? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:02 PM Flag
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She did mention that last time, I will ask again thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:14 PM Flag
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i would get a full work-up and see my gyno too, to check that my ovaries were ok. The copper IUD doesnt use hormones AT ALL. The material repels and kills sperm. Thats it. Weight gain is common with hormonal IUDs, not copper ones. A water pill to shed mail hormones? That makes no sense. It sounds like a diuretic. You might have PCOS. the hair loss fatigue and weight gain is classic PCOS. Honestly your endo sounds clueless so i'd get a 2nd opinion [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:09 PM Flag
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*male not mail [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:09 PM Flag
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NP: I think that water pill must be spironolactone? I’m on it too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:12 PM Flag
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yes, that is correct. It interrupts the aldosterone pathway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:15 PM Flag
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Who told you "water " pills shed "male hormones"? Dr. Google? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:32 PM Flag
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No, I was trying to simplify. The pill is spironolactone which is an aldosterone agonist (also used to treat heart failure to reduce excess fluid for the heart). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:56 PM Flag
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It’s called ALDACTONE.. It’s a pretty mild diuretic prescribed for PCOS, that helps lower androgen levels and specifically, can help with hair loss associated with PCOS. It’s super toxic while pregnant, especially for male fetuses, so I would be on top of that. With PCOS, it becomes more symptomatic with weight gain and it in and of itself triggers weight gain, so it’s insidious. Best thing you can do is get on metformin...will regulate your period, help with hair loss and weight gain. This should be your number one question for doc: how is my blood sugar and can we discuss metformin...might not need aldactone after metformin, which is much more effective. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 11:08 PM Flag
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Thank you so much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 10:15 AM Flag
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You are welcome. Check out this, re: insulin resistance and PCOS https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3277302/ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.20, 05:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Can someone please explain how a combination in school and remote learning will work for families with working parents? 115 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:27 PM Flag
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Babysitters [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:34 PM Flag
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Who pays for this? And please don't anyone start with the "school isn't child care" stuff. For every single American of our generation, it has always been to assume that our kids would be cared for for a certain number of hours a day, and our careers and schedules and families were planned around this fact. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:37 PM Flag
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+100000. The working world is based around the fact that M-F for a great part of the day children are in school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 07:52 PM Flag
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yes but the world has changed. SO working world expectations have to change! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:12 PM Flag
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np: But they're not. If anything, my work is demanding way more from me. Calls start as early as 7 and don't end till 7. There's no lunch, no breaks. I put time on my calendar to pee. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:30 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:38 PM Flag
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Ugh, that sucks. I hope that once this becomes the norm, companies/bosses will (have to) be more understanding. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:38 PM Flag
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np. I think my company considers it a major concession that I can work from home, no matter that this is by state order. other than that, they have done nothing to acknowledge any difficulties created by childcare issues. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:42 PM Flag
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Do you work for a major cell/cable provider? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:45 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 09:27 PM Flag
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previous np: We're 3 months in. My work is not changing. They do not care. Honestly I think they're thrilled that people are so damn available. Everyone I know who tries to take a week or day off ends up on calls. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.20, 08:45 PM Flag