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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] how come I post a reply to an existing post and it takes forever to show up, if it does at all? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:02 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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post this on feedback. i find that if I click on the post, and reply that way, it shows up faster [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:14 AM Flag
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also, I htink you need more than one response, though the orig post moves up in recency [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:17 AM Flag
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No, the original post moves up in Most Active - which is the default setting as long as you DO NOT have Sort by recency clicked and saved - when you add a new post [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:24 AM Flag
[ - ] just introduced bottle for first time and failed miserably-- 3.5 weeks old. any tips? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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some babies don't transition well between bottles and the breast. some nipples are more accepted by some than others. what bottle/nipple type did you use and what went wrong? and did *you* offer it or did someone else? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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give it another week or two [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:28 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you think people that are superstitous are ignorant? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.01.08, 06:57 AM Flag
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no, just nervous [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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no. being superstitious is part of being human. you'd be hard pressed to find someone completely lacking in superstition. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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No. Superstitions are a cultural thing. If someone based their whole life's actions around superstitions (or horoscopes or psychics) I'd think they needed a reality check, but I don't think there's any harm in having some superstitions. I'm a performer, and performers are notoriously superstitious. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:32 AM Flag
[ - ] will everyone get pissed and judge me if I take my 8mo dd to SATC matinee? my dh is sick (can't watch her) and I'm trying to coincide it with her naptime. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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I'd kind of hate you. Most women I know are going with other girlfriends TO GET AWAY from their kids and their DHs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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OP: I figured. But I have to get out of this house a little. He's been sick for weeks & I'm exasperated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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OP: does it make it any better that I'm in CT, not NYC? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:03 AM Flag
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OP: everyone in the theatre, that is. If she cries, I'll take her out, I swear! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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I don't care just keep her quiet and sit at the back so you can get out quickly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:06 AM Flag
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ditto - but my db would never nap in a theater [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:07 AM Flag
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totally fine - If she cries, take her out, though. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:26 AM Flag
[ - ] I can't figure out this site. But if I'm posting in the right place- better to refrigerate that new milk and then add it to the already cooled milk, then date it to reflect the older milk. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:54 AM Flag
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why are you bothering to combine milks? just use up the old one then open the new one. i don't understand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:08 AM Flag
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pumped milk, goofball! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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ooooooooohhhhhhhh - sorry. lol. okay. got it. yes. what you described is what i have heard in the past. lol. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:15 AM Flag
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Exactly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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still confused [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:21 AM Flag
[ - ] can I pump new bm into refridgerated bottle that I pumped last night? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:52 AM Flag
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pump into new bottle, cool in fridge, then add them together. don't put hot (relatively speaking) milk into cooled. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:56 AM Flag
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I posted this already, sorry if it decides to now show up twice: pump into a new bottle, refrigerate that one, then add them together when both are cool. you don't want to add warm milk to cooled. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:04 AM Flag
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and there it is. god, this new site sucks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:05 AM Flag
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never combine temps - collate when they're at the same temp [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:31 AM Flag
[ - ] Diagonse me: I seem to have excessive saliva in my mouth. I keep having to swallow 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:47 AM Flag
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pregnant [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:51 AM Flag
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you need to vomit [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:52 AM Flag
[ - ] Forgive the rant, but. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:43 AM Flag
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oops... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:44 AM Flag
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The thing I hate most about parenting is negotiating the whole sleep thing. I feel like there is no reliable answer and that nobody can ever help me to figure it out - not expert, not my own instincts. We didn't CIO with my older child and though he sleeps well now, it took YEARS of what was sometimes torture. On the upside, I didn't have my heart torn out every evening the way I am now with my 6 month old who is in the process of crying it out. We started early and it was never "30 minutes the first night, 15 the second..." It is hours of crying. He also cries when I try to put him to bed and hold him in my arms, arching and crying and frustrated. What is the answer? I would be so grateful for any compassionate insight. The reason that we're doing CIO this time is that we felt it was ultimately less 'humane' for our older child to have had to not know how to put himself to sleep for so long. There was exhaustion and weepiness on all fronts using that technique as well. We were hoping that a hard week now would prevent hard years of sleeplessness. But it is so much more brutal than anyone has ever candidly shared with me that it would be. EVERYONE tells me the "it got easier night by night" story and it's just not true for my son. HELP!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:48 AM Flag
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anyone been in my shoes? I'm desperate, so bumping. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:55 AM Flag
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Honestly, I think you get what you get in terms of sleepers. Some kids are good and others are not, just like adults. All the CIO/or other methods in the world will not change your child's basic nature. IF the CIO is too much for you, stop it. In the end it won't make too much of a difference either way. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:59 AM Flag
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That's my fear. Ugh. This is my SECOND, why aren't I good at this yet? I'm terrified I'm torturing him for nothing. I feel sick while he's crying, then so hopeful when the next night seems to go better...but he'll wake up an hour later and cry for an hour and a half. I always want to fold, but my dh has such traumatic memories of my older child's 3 year long battle with sleep - had to be held for each nap, each night's sleep...that he wants to stick with it. I'm really struggling. We tried CIO with older child, btw... didn't work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:02 AM Flag
[ - ] I've been having bloody show and pretty painful menstrual type cramps for 24 hours. I know they say you can have bloody show (hate that term) for 2 weeks before giving birth. I don't think I can take this another 2 weeks! How close do you think I am? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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How regular is the cramping? Is there any pattern at all? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:33 AM Flag
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call your OB [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:11 AM Flag
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sounds like labor - how many weeks? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:16 AM Flag
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39, if you are still here ;) i've tried timing them and they aren't regular. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:26 AM Flag
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hmm, I'd still say soon! GL and call OB [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:29 AM Flag
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thanks. i called OB this morning because the bloody show is pretty watery and i wondered if I was leaking water. she said it doesn't sound like leaking water. i mentioned the contractions and that they weren't regular and she didn't really comment on that. guess i'll just hang out and try to time them again later today? took a short walk just now and was able to walk through them pretty easily - the walking actually helped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:32 AM Flag
[ - ] any husbands on? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:22 AM Flag
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My DH is lying next to me, sometimes reading along. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:23 AM Flag
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how forgiving could he be of an affair that he found out about long after it ended. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:25 AM Flag
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^^ and you have kids [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:26 AM Flag
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Having kids always changes things. In the "most likely end our marriage" spectrum, the kids would probably be the only reason we would give it another try. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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Well, we have an agreement that the only way the other partner would find out about the affair is if the cheater wanted them to - and it would most likely mean the end of our marriage. He thinks that the cheater makes it all about him/her and that they usually "let" the other person find out to get attention. He says he doesn't believe in accidents, and being careless means you don't give a shit about the other person finding out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:28 AM Flag
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np: so you and dh cheat on each other, is what you're saying? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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No, we don't. And I think the parameters of how we think about this pretty much precludes anything other than a one-night stand. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:30 AM Flag
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no. we were in a lull in our marriage a while ago and I was working with someone that I ended up getting mixed up with for a few months. I ended it, and we have since had another child and I never looked back. He found an old text message that I didn't even know I had on an old phone. I confessed and now I'm not sure what's going to happen. He says he needs time, which I understand. I would never do what I did again. I realized I was looking in the wrong place for what I was lacking at home at the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:31 AM Flag
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did you have sex with the other person? were you in love? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:33 AM Flag
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I wasn't in love. I just wanted to feel loved. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:34 AM Flag
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thanks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:29 AM Flag
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hopeful dad here: I agree with the "only kids would save the marriage". If we had kids, then I'd stick around. If we didn't have kids, I'd end our relationship. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:39 AM Flag
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OR: Right. I'd do most anything for my kids, including trying to forgive a big asshole. But even then, if it had been a longterm affair with evidence of a real relationship between the, it would be tough even with the kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:50 AM Flag
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My Dh is right here. He says he would not forgive an affair, even if long ago. His x-gf of 10 years had an affair and he found out after, still has not forgiven and it's about 8 years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:32 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone elope? How'd you decide to do it and how'd you do it? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:17 AM Flag
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I wanted to! Had a tiny wedding on the beach instead -- just us and our parents and siblings (b/c they wanted to be included). I'm not into weddings (City Hall would have been fine with me!) and DH didn't care one way or the other -- this was our compromise (and it was very nice, IMO!). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 06:40 AM Flag
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yes! dh and I went to a couples only resort in Jamaica. we told no one and e-mailed the wedding pictures home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:00 AM Flag
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np: I'm so jealous. I was too scared of my mother to do that. Was THISCLOSE to booking the QE2 and just sending back the photos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.01.08, 07:01 AM Flag
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