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Toddler 06.09.08, 11:26 AM Flag
[ - ] Started potty training 2.8 yr old dd this weekend. So far no success. She is naked from the waist down. We have instituted a reward system, but nothing works. Four accidents yesterday and two today (so far). She doesn't even try to go to the potty and will just pee on the floor. Help! I need some suggestions. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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2 or 4 accidents in the first few days doesn't sound so bad. Either keep at it come what may, or totally back off for a month, go back to diapers, and try again in a month [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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dumb question: is she ready? does she want to be potty trained? btdt: it's a power struggle that you won't win. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:28 AM Flag
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Good question. I thought that she was. She was excited about underwear and would tell me when her diaper needed to be changed. She liked playing/sitting on the potty too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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these are normal actions...she is getting ready but is not totally ready yet. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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or agrees. take your time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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ita...she is not ready. Let her know the potty is there and what it is for. Mention it once a day or so and ask if she would like to go pee pee in it. One day, she will just do it and there will be no looking back. This happened with all three of mine (though I tried so hard to train first dc before he was ready...it doesn't work). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:32 AM Flag
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I'm going to disagree with the above posters and say she *is* ready and probably was ready 6 months ago. Put her on the potty whie she watches tv 15 minutes, after eating or drinking. All she needs is one close success (meaning even part of the pee pee makes into the potty)...keep the potty in the living room or with in inches of where she is playing. Even even a speckly of pee hits the potty.....jump up and down and praise lavishly (save the rewards system for other things and later). You are only on the second day. Don't give up and don't use pullups. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:46 AM Flag
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ITA. Has she peed and pooped in the potty at all? Do you have some potty books to read to her? I would put her in underwear (rather than have her barebottomed) though I know people do that. Be VERY calm after every accident and praise like a lunatic for trying and doing anything in the potty. At 2.8 she is physically capable so go for it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 01:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Where can we move that is commutable outside of NY, Brooklyn, Queens that has good schools and a eclectic at least a bit arty vibe? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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south orange / maplewood. you'll find mixed opinions on the schools on this board, but i live here, and everyone i know that actually has kids in the schools are very happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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Riverdale [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:30 AM Flag
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Yeah, we have friends in Riverdale and they love it. Beautiful and leafy green, plus good school! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:54 AM Flag
[ - ] Would you have sex with a 24 year old man who said he had 2 children with 2 different women? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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You think he's actually telling these women he has 2 kids already? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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I don't know [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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I am the original poster of that post and I don't know how much these women know of my brother's life. He said the second mother knew about the first son, since they dated for 6 months before she got pregnant. The currently pregnant one was as fling. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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So that makes his statement about no condoms a lie. B/c he clearly didn't know her well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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They had been having a fling since March, and I don't know what his time frame for knowing her well is. He said that they knew a lot of the same bartenders [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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Your brother is a piece of work and your parents are enabling him. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:20 AM Flag
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you have to be making this stuff up? they knew the same bartenders! lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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I really wish I was making that up! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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Well thank heavens they knew the same bartenders. I'm sure they could vouch for the HIV status of this woman. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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Yeah I know, those bartender relationships are all important [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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NP: That's why I married DH, we knew the same bartenders! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:36 AM Flag
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np: not to mention that women lie as much as men about sexual habits. he should really be very careful. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:19 AM Flag
[ - ] How does the sizing work in Calpyso...If I'm ordering on-line...what is the diff bet XS and S. Do they run big, small or true to size? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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their dresses run a little big i think [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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ITA - I need an XS but am a Size 4 otherwise. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:37 AM Flag
[ - ] MIL is pissing me off. She wants me to leave my kids with a neighbor of hers for BIL's rehearsal dinner because "they would be a disruption." But insists they MUST be there for the wedding itself, which will be an 12-hour ordeal for me while DH performs his best man duties. Either we fly them out and they are included in the various activities, or spare me the cost and hassle and let me leave them home! 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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Ask your BIL what he prefers. Cut out the middle man. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:10 AM Flag
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He is really laid back, which means that his future ILs and my MIL are just steamrolling him. It wouldn't really matter what he thinks of it, I'll be getting the phone calls. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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I would still ask, that way you can say "joe said it's okay and he's the groom, end of story" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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What does yur brother in law want? Seems like it should be his decision. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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He originally invited us for both. But now it's a whole crisis, and he's choosing (wisely I think, given what he's generally up against) to keep out of it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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Does your husband stand up for you? Make him work it out with his mom. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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DH is threatening to just leave them with my parents. But it's hard to pull the trigger on what you know will be WWIII with ILs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:18 AM Flag
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Why do they want them at the wedding and reception? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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Do somethign wild and crazy in the ceremony! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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It's tempting. To OR above (can't reply to you) - To show off her grandchildren of course! And don't forget the all-important photos. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:14 AM Flag
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How about having DH drop his pants during the ceremony and where brightly colored boxers? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:15 AM Flag
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Tell her that they will be even more of a disruption during the ceremony/reception and that you are either bringing them to all events or leaving them at home. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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Can you bring your own child care with you? Get a fun hotel (near a park or pool) and focus your energy on having a family vacation that is interrupted for a short wedding (go back to hotel in between wedding and reception). OR don't take the kids at all! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:21 AM Flag
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You could then tell your MIL that you will bring your dcs another time when she can actually spend time with them:) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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It is not a place that we would want to vacation. And I frankly cannot afford to pay for 4 days of our babysitter (there is also a brunch on Sunday) in addition to the flights, presents and DH is hosting bachelor party (a different weekend, so he's flying out TWICE). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:23 AM Flag
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weddings make people crazy, so you need to cut them some slack. face it, once you have kids, family weddings are not going to be fun for you anymore. it'll get better. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:22 AM Flag
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I've been cutting them slack. But I'm not leaving my kids with a 75yo woman I don't know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:24 AM Flag
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then skip the rehersal dinner and let dh go on his own. s'okay, someday we'll all be mil's and will have full range to be batsh*t crazy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:26 AM Flag
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LOL, too true. But MIL didn't do a freaking thing for our wedding, so DH is doubly pissed off. I fear he will not let this slide. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:29 AM Flag
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sometimes you just have to give things to your inlaws as a gift. you dont come out and say 'MERRY christmas, you old bat, i'm going to do everything you want for this crazy wedding", but if you just suck it up and do it, be as sweet and nice as you can, they will appreciate it on some level. and hey, if not, you can hold it against them. Ammunition! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:31 AM Flag
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But I already gave a gift - she bought the kids their clothes and they are going to be dressed as pageboys even though they aren't in the wedding (and DS is 7!). You know, with the short pantaloons and rounded collars? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:33 AM Flag
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not an actual present-- a gift of your time and attention. a gift of the heart, to get all hallmark on you. and yay! eton suits! give them zombie makeovers on halloween and they can be little zombie lord fauntlroy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:39 AM Flag
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Yes, I meant the present of me allowing her to dress my kids against their will in ridiculous clothes. But love the idea of zombies for Halloween - thanks. (BTW, don't eton suits have jackets? These are just short-sleeved tops that button down onto the pants (with long socks and white shoes). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:41 AM Flag
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make the decision for yourself. It's you that is going to have to do the work (watching them, etc. ) How old? If less than 6, I wouldn't bring them at all. Just had my bro's wedding, and the best decision I ever made was to not bring my 2 and 4 year old. We did bring them to the rehearsal, but that was 2 hours, and close to my house. I wouldn't have brought them at all if it had been us flying somewhere; or if i had to, I would have gotten babysitters there for all events. Don't bring them! Make it that you don't want them to disrupt the wedding, want it to be wonderful for MIL and BIL, etc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:27 AM Flag
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If it were my brother, I absolutely would leave them home. But I'm sure you can understand that doing this with difficult ILs would be harmful to our relationship for a long time. Even though DH would be making the decision, they will blame me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:31 AM Flag
[ - ] I forget how long this process has dragged out! When did our dc take the OLSAT? tia 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.09.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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Mine took it Jan 26. It feels like forever ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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It's been dragging on since September. They strung us along all fall. Finally released the "request for testing forms" in December. Tested in mid February. Gave scores in May. And yet we still wait. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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^Sorry, meant testing *ended* in mid-February. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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My dc took the OLSAT mid-February, but we started this whole process in mid-September 2007 when dc took the SB for Hunter. Oh, and don't forget Spring tours for privates, so it has been over one year for us! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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Ours took it the last possible weekend (February 5?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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Same here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:13 AM Flag
[ - ] 34 weeks pregnant. The concept of nursing grosses me out. It's just strange to me. Anyone else feel this way or am I just weird for thinking it's so animalistic? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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so is sex, but you obviously did that :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:05 AM Flag
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I completely agree with you. I nursed for 2 months with ds#1. I'm 34 weeks with db#2 and don't know what to do. I was miserable during that time...in pain 24/7 but feel guilty if I don't at least try. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:35 AM Flag
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what about pumping and bottle feeding. would you prefer that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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When I was pg I didnt think that at all and planned on breastfeeding.When I had my db though, my feelings changed and after a week, I couldnt do it anymore. It really bothered me so I stopped. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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The very first time I tried bf it was very strange but I soon got used to it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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You are weird. You are an animal and that's what breasts are for. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:11 AM Flag
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i was grossed out by it too. once the baby was born, it was like instinct and I nursed DD for almost 2 years. i really miss it now. good thing I am pg and will have another baby to nurse [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:13 AM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:19 AM Flag
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same here. also, i don't see how its much less animalistic than giving birth [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:37 AM Flag
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It completely grossed me out too before i did it. then after i was done (after a year) i thought back and thought "yuck". now i'm doing it again (10 months) and it doesn't seem weird. Must be hormones or something kick in and override the weirdness. Try it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:57 AM Flag
[ - ] I just tried to log onto youbemom.com but they rejected my email address. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:03 AM Flag
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and? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:04 AM Flag
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huh? and i'm still here bc i can't log on there. what's your point? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:08 AM Flag
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obviously they don't want you there, you are destined to stay on UB forever [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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Try again. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:08 AM Flag
[ - ] So gross. My 14 mo just had a bowel movement. It was black and tarry, and there was so much of it! It also had well formed round things, that could only be described as looking like black beans. After I cleaned her up I had to inspect this stuff and literally they look like beans, they are obviously undigested food. She has eaten blueberries and apple, which I could clearly see the cut up pieces of apple. Has anyone else experienced this in their child's diaper? Should I be concerned? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:59 AM Flag
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very normal and not concerning. the black looking stuff is most likely from blueberries [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:02 AM Flag
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normal. my dc's poo turns black from blueberries, and our ped said that undigested fruits and veggies are normal bc cellulose can cause food to come out that way, esp if not chewed well.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:06 AM Flag
[ - ] TOUGH dilemma - I really want to have a 2nd baby BUT I suffer from crippling depression. I developed OCD after baby as well. I am better BUT still have symptoms and around my period ALWAYS gets bad. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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do you have a psychiatrist? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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Yes - but nothing seems to 100% cure me. On meds etc... I'm ok BUT very depressed about the prospect of not having another baby due to this. I refuse to take meds while pg although dr says it is ok. on the other hand I am TERRIFIED of the OCD returning. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:09 AM Flag
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you could think about adopting. that would elimate all the pregnancy related hormone issues, and you wouldn't have to go off meds at all. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:12 AM Flag
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please don't take this the wrong way (sounds terrible) but I rather not adopt. I would just have one. I don't know I'm so depressed about the whole thing. thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:22 AM Flag
[ - ] Where can I buy toddler underwear? All the usual places (old navy, children's place, target) only sell boys' sizes. Thanks. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 10:58 AM Flag
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Osh Kosh fits 2yo ds really well. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:00 AM Flag
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target in the baby aisle sells 3 T (not with all the other underwear) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.09.08, 11:07 AM Flag
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