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Thank you so much for being a valued member of the UrbanBaby community. We wanted to inform you that we are shutting down the site on July 6th. We are grateful for your participation and support that has helped make UrbanBaby such an important resource to parents for many years.

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[ - ] By any chance, is anyone on familiar with Miss Sue's nursery school in Plainview? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.11.08, 04:06 PM Flag
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Yes. I live in Plainview, but my DS attends a different program. What are your questions [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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have to go, but I'm watching the post. So, OP, if you ever come back, ask your question and I'll answer later or tomorrow. Just keep the post on watch. I can't help you if you disappear! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Eating at a SUSHI RESTAURANT - my husb and I enjoy sushi. I only ever eat the cooked stuff. But I'm wondering if I should be worried about cross contamination with my cooked rolls and the raw ones. Any advice?! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:59 PM Flag
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you don't really eat sushi then but what kind of contamination are you talking about? Almost all fish is flash frozen anyway and that kills the bad stuff [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:00 PM Flag
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dont worry about it unless you're eating at a dirty restaurant. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:06 PM Flag
[ - ] potty training my 3 ds this week. he got the pee thing down pretty quick but he's still nervous about the poo. he either holds it in or goes in his underwear. how long will this last? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:56 PM Flag
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We're still having timing issues (either is aware of it coming but doesn't want to sit and wait, or waits too long and goes in his underwear). He gets two chocolate raisins for poop, tho, and is beyond excited about the reward that he's never been afraid to poop in the potty. It's the hardest part of the training effort, though. GL!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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Tell him he gets a present the first time he poops in the potty. Then a present after the next 5 poops, then 10, then 20. Working for my 3 yo DS who was afraid. Got a Thomas train, and can't wait for the next poops to come! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:01 PM Flag
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m and ms as a reward. they are so small [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:08 PM Flag
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Waiting for the person who always recommends cutting a hole in the diaper [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:22 PM Flag
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lol - I've never seen that here but a ped friend of mine swears by it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:31 PM Flag
[ - ] where were you born? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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Pompton Plains [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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where is that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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NJ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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san francisco [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:52 PM Flag
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Glen Ridge, NJ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:53 PM Flag
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minneapolis [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:54 PM Flag
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da Bronx [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:03 PM Flag
[ - ] how many years married; ever been in marriage counseling 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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3 years, no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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6 years, no. First marriage, 1 month, yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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hmm, there's a moral to that story i think. were you in counseling before your current marriage, or started since? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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sorry - didn't explain well! 1st marriage was a young "mistake" and we entered into counseling within a month of marriage. We tried, but in the end, it was one of those, lets part ways while we can still hug goodbye. I learned a lot before my marriage this time and now I am happily married to a guy who I hope to be with till we are both very old and grey! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:50 PM Flag
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aw, that's a happy story. so a different moral than i thought. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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:) The great part is, he is happily married now too. So - good all around! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:51 PM Flag
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np: do you ever speak? stay in touch? remember each other fondly? how old were you at the time? i'm absolutely fascinated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:16 PM Flag
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8 -- no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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9, no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:05 PM Flag
[ - ] parents of only children, any regrets that you didn't have 2? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:15 PM Flag
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yes, I was never able to get and stay pg with another. It is one of the biggest disappointments of my life, but I don't dwell on it as much as I used to. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:24 PM Flag
[ - ] hmmmm...dh has my ub name cookied in his work laptop. don't think he has my password, but interesting... 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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you think he writes as you? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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sounds v doubtful. might be trying to see what I'm watching, though. i've been having a lot of inlaw-angst lately. haven't been writing about it for once, though. he must be v disappointed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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he's probably heard the rep. of UB and how women are always talking about their unhappy marriages and affairs on here. though i'll say, i feel like that's not as frequent lately [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Doing IVF - is a 3 day or 5 day transfer more desirable and for those who have done IVF at Cornell, do you know which is more prevalent? I know some programs favor one over the other... TIA. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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TTC 06.11.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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they like 3 day transfers unless you have a lot of eggs. You will always find a mix of opinions on this topic. NYU likes 5 day transfers. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:26 PM Flag
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You don't have a choice. They want to do 5 day transfers because it decreases the odds of having multiples. You also want a 5 day because the wait until beta day is shorter! 5 day is a great result because it means the embryos looked good and were plentiful enough to let them go past day 3. That said, 3 day transfers are more prevalent because they're not always willing to take that chance, especially if you don't have a ton to work with. 5 day also means that in all liklihood you'll have some to freeze. Just do what they say. Don't jump for joy if they tell you day 5 and don't worry if they have you come in on day three. Actually, with my son they told me it would be a 5 day transfer and then called me on day three and told me to come in. Obviously things weren't looking as good as they had. And he's 6 now. So don't worry. They're the best. GL. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 05:07 PM Flag
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Thanks. Dumb question but how does Day 5 decrease the odds of having multiples? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:56 PM Flag
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Day 5 transfers decrease the chance of multiples because they transfer fewer embryos because there's increased liklihood of any one implanting. With me they tended to transfer 5 on day 3 and 3 on day 5. I was 39. To them multiples are not the desired result. As a mother of twin daughters, off the record I'd have to agree! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 11:33 AM Flag
[ - ] Need advice, please!! Been ttc for over 2 years. This was to be our third month of IUI. Had the first 2 IUI's with a nurse practioner. This month went through the doctor because they did a HSG test and full pelvic ultrasound. Should have received an HCG shot yesterday to prep for IUI. Instead the nurse gave me a Lupron shot. I have the package b/c she sent me home to self-administer. Found out that Lupron does the exact opposite of what the HCG shot does and I got a dose that is putting me in "menopause" for the next month. We are now unable to get pregnant for at least 2 months because we have to wait a month after the meds wear off to make sure everything is okay. They were very apologetic (I think they were in serious CYA mode). I was told a negligence report was being filed with the state and they were erasing all charges that occured this month (our insurance does not cover fertility, so we've been footing the bill for everything). I spoke to a laywer who told me to not give them the packaging or to sign anything. I haven't done either. I'm still in shell shock, as I found this all out today. I'm so angry, I don't know what to do. Not sure if I should expect more than just all charges to be forgiven. This has been an emotional roller coaster as it is and I've had to take multiple days off of work for all these tests just to have this month ruined. Any advice?? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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oh my. no advice but i am so sorry that you are going through this. i recently miscarried and my doctor is making me wait to ttc. it's a double whammy. first something bad happens *and* it causes you to put off the plans of what you most want to do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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oh no, sorry. i have no advice for you other than just try to enjoy the next two months adn you have a rigt to be mad at that nurse [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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that is f'ed up. I hope they are giving you back all money. from what I understand you don't have to wait 2 cycles. where do you go [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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I'm actually in Nebraska. The doctor told us to go ahead and try without IUI this month, but the nurse practioner said are chances are super low of anything happening. I don't want to sue...that would just be more emotional stress, but I feel that they should be doing more.... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:44 PM Flag
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they should for sure do more. i know you probably don't have the energy to "battle" them, but you need to send something in writing, take a picture of the box they sent you home with - document everything. GL [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:46 PM Flag
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Thanks for the advice. I kept the packaging and didn't sign anything after talking to a lawyer today. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:58 PM Flag
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that's terrible, i'm so sorry! i think the advice you received is good, and maybe you should consider switching practices? or, if not that, then perhaps make it clear that you don't want that nurse practitioner to administer anything from now on, and go from there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:39 PM Flag
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well - first off - you shouldn't be charged for whatever mess up they did. you won't be, will you? and i think the correct treatment (hcg shot) should be given for free simply b/c they cost you two precious months. i truly believe that doctors should be held more accountable without having to sue them. they should just do the right thing. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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I agree. DH and I don't want to sue...that can just turn into a big mess. They are not charging us anything for this month - all the tests and everything would have been about $1,500. I'm afraid the HCG shot at this point wouldn't do anything. And I will no longer be seeing this doctor because she has referred me to an RE. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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I'm really sorry this happened. But this is why I liked Dr. Spandorfer at Cornell. No one was giving you anything except him in an IUI (might be different with IVF). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:45 PM Flag
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I would LOVE to move to NYC, but DH is totally against it. So, I am stuck in Nebraska to try to figure all of this out. From my understanding, I've now been referred to the best RE here, but I won't see her until the end of August. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:47 PM Flag
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this is not true- they don't work 7 days a week and if you needed your iui when he wasn't there another dr would do it. I know Cornell too [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 04:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Help! I used to know what it took for me to lose weight, but since having the baby nothing works and I'm super depressed about it. I've been working out 4 times a wk hardcore, drinking tons of water, upping my veggie and fruit intake and this past month I've gained 4 pounds. Previously, when I was eating junk I was at least stable, not gaining or losing. This is sooo frustrating. Makes me want to go get a Haagan Daaz and be done with it, but I'd still be fat. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:32 PM Flag
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do your clothes fit the same, better, or worse? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:34 PM Flag
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It can be frustrating and your hormones shifted, the weight may be muscle weight. Write down everything you eat and count out the calories and carbs. Are you eating good fats olive oil and avocado? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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how old's your baby? do you have just one dc? were you induced? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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how old is db? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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try weight watchers. it seriously works [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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that is frustrating - and I have a similar issue - This sounds nuts, but if I eat junk, I don't gain a pound. WHen I eat well balanced meals, I actually put weight on - but I know it is healthier weight. Maybe you can add weight training? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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can i also add- you probably look better than you think you do, so try, in the meantime, to not get too depressed about it. i mean, i think sometimes feeling bad can make you look worse than the weight, and feeling good in spite of it (think nigella lawson- not skinny but so lovely) you can look great. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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OP: Well thanks for the encouragment. I had my dd 16 months ago, so she's not a baby by any means. I'll try weight watchers, I've done that in the past but I wasn't as committed as I am now. Thanks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:49 PM Flag
[ - ] If you dh let himself go would it bother you? Would you discuss this with him? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.11.08, 03:32 PM Flag
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i would assume that he is depressed or ill, so yes I would discuss it with him [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:33 PM Flag
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you mean physically? getting fat or not taking care of himself? I guess it would worry me more than bother me. i mean as far as him being depressed or not caring. and i'd bring it up that way, but not critically like 'you don't look so good anymore" [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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depends on the extent. if he gained serious weight and didn't seem to care, I'd be concerned more than anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:36 PM Flag
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Do you consider 20lbs serious weight gain? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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yes, it would bother me and I would talk to him because I would be concerned it meant he was unhappy - or it meant he was unhealthy and I want my dh around as long as possible. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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in how short a time? also, if he self conscious about it, or has he not mentioned it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Help! I started packing for camp and saw that ds needs a terry robe and sweatpants. He owns neither and there's no time for online shipping. Is there anywhere in Manhattan I can buy these in this weather? UWS would be great. TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:27 PM Flag
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for sweatpants, i'd ask someone who has a ds a year older than yours. i'm sure they have some sweatpants lying around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:30 PM Flag
[ - ] i read a report by a supposedly nonpartisan group about what mccain and obama would do to our taxes according to their plans. i pretty much hate both plans but had to laugh that obama's would add $700,000 to the highest earners' (2.9 mil) tax burden. no clue what someone making 2.9 mil is paying now but even at that level $700,000 has got to hurt! 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:19 PM Flag
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What is Obama's plan for the $75-200K group? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:20 PM Flag
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lower taxes by about $1,000/yr if i remember correctly. basically the differences were that mccain lowered taxes for everyone but the biggest cuts went to people who earned 600,000+ Obama raised taxes for 600,000+ but lowered for everyone else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:22 PM Flag
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^and mccains tax cuts for anyone making less than 200,000 were something like $13 for the year so it was basically not lowering for anyone but the wealthy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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I think that sounds great. Sign me up if that's true. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:23 PM Flag
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that sounds like a surprising number. 700k is 25% of 2.9m. He's planning on raising taxes by 25% in addition to what they are paying now? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:26 PM Flag
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according to this chart. i wish i could remember where i found it. but it's from a recently released study by some bipartisan group about economics (vague enough for you?) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:32 PM Flag
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lol, yeah :-) That just doesn't sound like it could be correct. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:38 PM Flag
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Hm. I don't think anyone should have to pay a third of their income to the government. That's ridiculous. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:35 PM Flag
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are you kidding me? dh doesn't even make $200,000 and we pay close to 1/3 in taxes. i know being at the 30% tax bracket isn't the same as paying 30% of your income in taxes but it's close!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:37 PM Flag
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np (actually previous OR). this is saying 25% above what they are paying now. so even if they are paying only 25% (and they probably aren't), that's 50% straight to taxes. doesn't sound like this would fly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:40 PM Flag
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i know - while it woudn't affect me personally, i just wish obama would come up with a plan that would fly with high earners. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:42 PM Flag
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np: It could mean 25% more than they are paying now, meaning if they are now paying 25%, it will be around 31.25%. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:43 PM Flag
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hm. i guess ihave my math screwed up. sorry. i just meant, it sounded like way too much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.11.08, 03:41 PM Flag
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