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[ - ] How would you rank your choices between MSC, ps9G&T, and PS166G&T (and if it matters, it's for a very verbal boy who tends to be dominant and a bit aggressive socially). 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:00 PM Flag
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What do you mean dominant an aggressive socially? Doesn't sound like acceptable behavior at any of those schools, and almost all kids are very verbal by the time their in K. Just pick the school you like best, since I don't think the attributes you describe make a difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:06 PM Flag
[ - ] DS's friend socked him in the head today when ds said something that annoyed him. His friend's mom waits patiently for my ds to calm down ... and apologize to her ds for annoying him. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:59 PM Flag
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and that is the last time you hang out with these people. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:04 PM Flag
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Nah, but it was annoying. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:06 PM Flag
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NP: I agree with OR. It's not going to change or get better. We go through this with our nephew - SIL blames my DD for getting pushed down stairs (only 3 stairs, she wasn't hurt, but still) and will not discipline her then 3 y/o DS for anything (including taking her cell phone out of her bag and throwing it into a lake). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:09 PM Flag
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We've known them for a while. Kids are in school together. This is the first time her ds has done anything like that involving my ds (and I haven't seen that behavior in him before). I guess if the behavior continues, I'd stop seeing them. And, yeah, what the mom made no sense, but it's not the norm for her, either, as far as I know. It was just weird. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:13 PM Flag
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seriously why would you hang out w/ someone who sees nothing wrong w/ her child beating up yours? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:11 PM Flag
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Kids are 5, and friends, if it makes a difference. I think her ds was just having a bad day (or something going on at home?), and the mom wasn't thinking straight. If either behavior (his or hers) continues that way, then, no, we wouldn't hang out with them. DS wouldn't want to anyway. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:16 PM Flag
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no it doesn't make a difference at all. hitting should never be tolerated, even if the kid is "annoyed." the mom sucks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 03:53 AM Flag
[ - ] this website SUCKS now--it was so much easier to use before! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:49 PM Flag
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:55 PM Flag
[ - ] How do you discipline a 2 yr old? Like when he throws food, etc--do time outs really work at this age? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:45 PM Flag
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no. i just redirect as much as i can. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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you tell me. I was so mad at DD the other day. she took a piece of chicken off of her fork and threw it with this look. i whacked her on the hand. that didn't work at all [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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She threw a piece of chicken? Oh, boy, you are going to have a really long few years. (np) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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no, she threw the chicken and hurled the bowl so hard that it shattered. the bowl was plastic [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:48 PM Flag
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Ah. That's a bit different. Carry on! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:50 PM Flag
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it depends on what's happening and why. things that are being thrown are taken away (including food), time outs for almost anything related to the dog (pulling her tail, stealing her toys, etc.). If she's melting down b/c she's tired, she's put to bed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:47 PM Flag
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read 1 2 3 magic - worked very well for me! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:47 PM Flag
[ - ] any RE agents on? i've always been interested in RE and constantly am looking online and go to open houses all the time. it's really what i want to do and i'm thinking of getting my license. what are the good/bad aspects of the job? how much time did you put in prepping for the exam? how did you start out as an agent?? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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DF is an agent and now is absolutely not the time to be getting into this business. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:43 PM Flag
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oh, i'm sure. but i am not currently working, so it's not like i'd be leaving a salary or that we depend on me to earn income. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:46 PM Flag
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they work on commission, so it means the expense of working and marketing the apts with no guarantee of an income generating sale. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:48 PM Flag
[ - ] What is your favorite NYC playground? Why? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.12.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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Wild West - lots for DCs to do, not insanely crowded at off hours (but packed after school) and about a half-block from my front door. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:44 PM Flag
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there is a truly fabulous one in Graniteville on Staten Island, but this isn't where the UB crowd hangs out. It's enclosed, has a huge playground w/ structures of varying ability, a basketball court, a fake stream w/ bridges that kids splash in, sprinkler features, picnic area and a big lawn. it's the best designed playground I've ever seen. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have a baby and then successfully find part-time work? If so, doing what (going back to old job, finding new career)? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.12.08, 06:40 PM Flag
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I went back to work when ds was 10 months old - something completely different. I'm basically an executive assistant, so it's low man on the totem pole, but the hours are great and the pay is $30/hour so it helps. Found the job thru the NYT classified, but that was 8 years ago. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:42 PM Flag
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I had a baby and got a new job FT. After 10 months I switched to 4 days. It paid better than my first job and is more senior so I make more for 4 days. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.13.08, 06:22 AM Flag
[ - ] moving to the 'burbs this summer. i'm freakin' out pls talk me down. not such a big deal from nyc, right? going to westchester. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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Very different life and lifestyle, but suburbs have their benefits. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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Just think of all the extra space you will have. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:38 PM Flag
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We moved to Westchester from Park Slope 2 yrs ago. We are very happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:51 PM Flag
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what do you like about it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:12 PM Flag
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Moved from UWS to Westchester and absolutely love it, especially during the summer. I like that the towns are all pretty close together and that there really is a community of families. I see the same people at a lot of places and people are very friendly. Great resources and lots to do with children. I actually find it to be more diverse than the UWS and I love having space. (I just wish the taxes weren't so high.) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:19 PM Flag
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do you mind telling me where you are? we will be in scarsdale. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Plan to leave dh and have job opportunity that will help provide financial means to get out. I want dd to live with me but the problem is I will often have to leave for work at 5:30am. I really don't want dd to go back and forth from his place to my place and even if I have to leave for work super early, I'll still be home more often for dd. What are the odds I'll find a sitter willing to come to my place at that hour? Anyone btdt? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:32 PM Flag
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Where are you? You can almost always find someone to do a job. You would definitely have to pay for transportation at that hour. You would probably do better with live-in help if you have room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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Is there any way your living arrangements could accomodate a live-in nanny? or could you move to a 3 BR apt? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:35 PM Flag
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I don't know that I'll make enough $ for a 3rd bedroom but I'm going to look. Anyone done the live-in thing? There will be a lot of times when I am at home. Don't know how I'll like having some one else always around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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I feel the same (I posted above), but it really is the only practical way to have someone at your place at 5:30 in the morning. It's sometimes possible to find someone to live in Monday through Friday, but then you have to pay more since you are not taking care of board for her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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my brother and SIL do, and it works for them, but they have 3 kids in 3 different schools (not NYC), he travels a lot and she teaches some night classes (college prof), so they need help at odd hours [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] I like to keep 2yo dd as close to regular schedule as possible on the weekends when we see ILs but they seem to think it's ridiculous - they make fun of me in their passive aggressive way when I make an attempt to give dd a nap or get her to bed by 7:30/8pm. Anyone btdt? Dh gets silent around his family on this subject even though he supports it at home. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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Yes, I ignore all of them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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You are the Mom. If visiting them is a rare event then it's good to be flexible but if it's regular then you should stick to your routine. They are lucky you visit at all! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:33 PM Flag
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My dh's entire family is like this. It's a constant struggle. I've learned to let the schedule relax a little when the in-laws are around but dd usually melts down in their presence at some point. They don't get that it's the stimulation of having them in her face and the variance on the routine. Fortunately, they're not around too much. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:36 PM Flag
[ - ] wwyd if a kid keeps biting dcs, including yours, and the parents do not really reprimand him? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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I'd keep my kids away from them. I'd also happily tell the kid off if he hurt my child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:31 PM Flag
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is this happening at a daycare? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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didi the kid do it in front of you and the parents? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:31 PM Flag
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reprimand him myself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 07:34 PM Flag
[ - ] How do you deal with moms of your kids' classmates who are a bit too invested in their kid's emotional life? There's a mom who calls me several times a week to discuss what went on in the classroom on whatever day involving her child and other kids and trying to make sure her kid is happy. I'm at a loss when she calls me. I feel like telling her to just let her kid find the way 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:29 PM Flag
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With a Mom like that the kid doesn't stand a chance. Block her number. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:30 PM Flag
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How old? I would laugh it off and tell her that I am not a referee and the kids need to work it out. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:34 PM Flag
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My friend is a little like this. I think it's not the way to go to raise a strong, confident child, but then my parenting ain't perfect either. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.12.08, 06:37 PM Flag
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