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[ - ] 11 G&T or 116 gen ed? We live very close to 116. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.14.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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definitely 116 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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really? gen ed over G&T? why? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:30 PM Flag
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ps11 is very ghetto. 116 is a great school. you don't need to be in g and t to get a good education there. plus, you could always test again next year [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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I would do 11 G&T. Small classes guaranteed, great arts program, and if it doesn't work out, you can always go back to gen ed [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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ps11 is FULL of project kids with dirty mouths. I know a woman who lives in the projects near ps11 and she said she would not send her kids there because of the influence of the other kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:36 PM Flag
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I know several families who are thrilled with 11. OP, try the g&t and see how it goes. If you don't like it, you can always go to first grade at 116 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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i thought G&T class won't get project kids, plus there are project kids at 116 as well, not that many though [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:39 PM Flag
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there is no comparison. if 116 is close to home, how could you turn that down over a transitional school? there may not be project kids in the g&t classes, but they are everywhere else...on the playground, in the lunchroom etc...i'd be careful here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:42 PM Flag
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What is wrong with project kids? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:44 PM Flag
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what is transitional school? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:48 PM Flag
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i think this is the most disgusting thing I've ever read on UB. God-forbid your precious child is in the same vicinity as a "project kid". I used to live on the block with PS 11 and the mix of kids and parents outside the school was fantastic. You're a snob. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 06:04 PM Flag
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there used to be a poster how trashed "project kids" and 11. She lived across the street, never had a child in the school and most likely mistook the garment working housing for projects, lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 06:06 PM Flag
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this is obviously the same person as before with her famous "project kids go their, nuff said" mantra. She's a piece of work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 06:41 PM Flag
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ita. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 06:39 PM Flag
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We live in D.C. and I have no idea what this discussion of scores is!? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:49 PM Flag
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this is NY board [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:51 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you think made DOE hand deliver the letters for G&T? Do you think they deliver only to people who put citiwide as a first choice? We only listed district schools in Brooklyn. Still curious about the reasons for this mad hand delivering thing. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.14.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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I'd like to know why they didn't have us sign for them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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They messed up this year. I teach middle school, and we just got our list. Families got letters before us. Kids were on the list that weren't accepted, and they were listed in the wrong school. I am assuming that was the situation across the board. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:37 PM Flag
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Maybe they fell behind in the processing of the outgoing letters yesterday, and so they had to hand deliver them today? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Need househunting advice. Looking in the burbs outside of a smaller city. Sort of like one area (they have older, more charming homes with larger properties, unlike the McMansions in another area), BUT....how do you tell the difference whether the area/residents are just down to earth (but still a little sophisticated although not ostentatious) as opposed to a bit hick-ish? Don't mean to sound like a snob at all, but don't know the area or anyone there and as we're looking at several areas, this would apply to all. Thanks for any insight. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:23 PM Flag
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If there are no appliances, mattresses, or living room furniture on the front porch, or in the front yard, you should be fine. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:27 PM Flag
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OP -Fair enough, but these homes down have front porches. And local ordinances prevent them from having said items on the front lawns. Now what? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:34 PM Flag
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Check out the cars in the driveways. A high percentage of pickup trucks is bad news. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:35 PM Flag
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OP - No, it's not that at all. I guess I don't mean actual hicks, but rather how the other side of town perceives this side of town, if you know what I mean. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:55 PM Flag
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What I've learned: go to the towns and visit the supermarkets. Who you see will tell you what you want to know. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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Op -Thank you. Just did that and the supermarkets were surprisingly empty. Perhaps there's a better time to go than a weekday morning? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have a bottlefed baby that suddenly rejects the bottle? What could this be? There are other GI issues going on (projectile vomiting, reflux, etc.) is on Prevacid and hypoallergenic formula. Just barely eats. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.14.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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no idea, but please see doctor asap. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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how old is db? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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6 mo [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:52 PM Flag
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Ear infection hurts more when baby sucks [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone in District 1 or 2 with a daughter get their letter today? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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NY Schools 06.14.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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I can see a few below on the placement list [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:20 PM Flag
[ - ] nearly 3 yo ds has what I think are night terrors about 1-2x a week. He wakes up screaming, kicking, is inconsolable and seemingly asleep. It takes about 5-10 minutes to get him to wake up and calm down. Any BTDT experience to share? did your dc outgrow? TIA 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Toddler 06.14.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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outgrew it [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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my dd experienced that on her 3rd bday, overstimulation. she kept her eyes open but was asleep. don't wake them up and try to put them back to sleep. probably your dc gets overtired, try to put her to sleep earlier [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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no btdt on my part... but hav eyou checked askdrsears.com about this? the site usually has some good info on it. very calming, i find. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:28 PM Flag
[ - ] I am a mess. And apparently I have been for a long long time. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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Physically, mentally or financially? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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good question. mentally. actually, the other two seem ok. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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What's wrong? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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i'm not even sure where to start. overtired. can't sleep. pissed as hell at dh. tired of being told that everything i feel is ridiculous or i shouldn't be feeling it. tired of being insulted by him. tired of dd waking me up in the middle of the night. tired of not having enough time to breathe. tired of being accused of things that i haven't done. tired of not being appreciated. and bc of all this, i end up making choices that aren't good. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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As for the sleep, take a pill. Seriously, it's saved my life. As for your marriage, it doesn't sound good. Perhaps you should consider either a therapist or a lawyer? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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i am so angry at dh I am losing it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:24 PM Flag
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wow - i'm kind of the same these days [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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This is one of the two major reasons I left dh (other was his financial irresponsibility). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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jury is still out on the financial responisbility part [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:34 PM Flag
[ - ] saw the website of a man with whom i had a one-time (NEVER AGAIN) affair. he looks so good in the pic. but is such an idiot and so muhc less attractive in real life. don't ask why. I can't answer that question. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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Sex with assholes can be very hot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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he was terrible. i ended up not even having full on sex with him. guy is like a using a chain saw to sculpt glass. no thank you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Luke, Brady, Thomas, Keiran, Aidan, Seamus, Collin, 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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Is this the cast for the new Queer as Folk musical? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:34 PM Flag
[ - ] I've seen several posters claim that their child "needs" a G&T program. Please tell us why the NEED is and what exactly they NEED about it. As a mom of an older dc, as well as 5 year old and 3 year old, I would argue that at this age -- going to kindergarten -- you have no idea yet what your child NEEDS. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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if you are responding to my post immediately below then I apologize if it wasn't clear--I wasn't claiming he needed a g&T, but simply saying that my frustration was resulting more from the process than the actual school choice [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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I live in the burbs so I'm not part of this madness, but it seems live EVERYONE in Manhattan is applying for G&T. Are there really that many truly "gifted" children? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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yes, everyone is above avg here [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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They screened about 23000 kids for K&1 grade and only 3000 qualified, so no. You are just seeing those who did qualify stressing about placement [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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Those who qualified and applied. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:17 PM Flag
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true-an even smaller group. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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i think that they should just do zoned schools until 3rd or 4th grade, then test for g&t, then go from there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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I recently re-read To Kill a Mockingbird. The character Scout (largely autobiographical) describes her first encounter with school. Her teacher has no idea how to meet her educational needs. It's humorous and sad. She even asks to not have her father teacher her anything else at home. Kids who score that high on the G&T test need to be with their intellectual peers and need an accelerated curriculum -- the earlier the better. However, there are some excellent websites and books that can give your more information on the benefits of specialized education for the [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:16 PM Flag
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That is true, but the test the DOE gave is very flawed. That said, the dc who scored 90+ are obviously smart kids. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:18 PM Flag
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Of course any test isn't perfect and these are 4 year olds they are testing. That said, our son scored within 2 points on all of the tests. And riding around on subways, talking, observing, whatever people would often comment on how 'smart' he was (since he was two or so). Well, I suppose the tests prove that he does have raw intellectual ability (largely verbal). I think, though, that it is important to respect other people's values. Whether they move to the burbs (or another neighborhood) for a better school, choose parochial or private, or choose to throw their hats into the ring for G&T placement. Everyone wants the best educational experience for their children and many, many states, towns, cities see the benefit in offering accelerated programs for gifted kids. I think all I'd like to see is a bit of respect for other's choices and values rather than implying that gifted education isn't warranted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone see Bill Ritter (ABC NEws) get a rectal exam on Friday during the 5pm news? Vulgar, right during my dinner, there is Bill Ritter bent over the exam table. TMI 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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who is bill ritter? a local guy or national? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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local, ABC NY [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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Then he's not ABC News, or even "ABC New York", he's *WABC*. There's a HUGE difference. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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grow up [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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bug off [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:13 PM Flag
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I heard that's going to be a regular feature, invite various guests to get probed. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:18 PM Flag
[ - ] DD has been waking up and then screaming in the middle of the night. It's not terrors. When I go in, it's always something little. The blanket fell off. etc etc. We have had a lot of change going on, but I am completley sleep deprived. It's been going on for months. Dh goes to her, talks often ends up sleeping in bed with her. I think it's rewarding her for screaming. If she just came to us (the light is on. she's not really scared) and climbed into bed that would be fine. But this heart rending screaming (that she also does when awake) is making me want to run away from home. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:08 PM Flag
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Can you get a special sleeping bag and put it on the floor of your bedroom? Tell her you won't come and get her if she screams, but she can come and sleep in the bag whenever she wants. Is there something she is really dying to have? Tell her if she goes a week without screaming at night, you will get it for her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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she has for a time slept in our room on a blow up mattress. (we had visitors) that's when the screaming started. she's only 4, so I'm not sure the whole wait a week without screaming woudl work. even so, i sort of feel that she's looking for attention (she does get plenty but clearly wants more and all that we could ever possible have to give). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:12 PM Flag
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Can you get a calendar and stickers and she gets a sticker every night she doesn't scream, 7 stickers = thing she wants? I suppose it would only work if there's something she really, really wants. Also, what would happen if you didn't respond to her screams? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:14 PM Flag
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i stopped responding as much as possible. thing is, when i'm in a sound sleep and it starts, i'm up and in her room bf i'm really awake. dh, also, goes to her even when we agree that we won't. these screams are so horrible. it sounds like life is ending. one day, something really will be wrong and i won't respond. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:15 PM Flag
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I'm really sorry. I know how bad sleep deprivation is. Can you and dh at least agree to take turns (and one of you sleep in guest room or living room with ear plugs) for a few weeks? Then you'll at least get some sleep every other day. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:19 PM Flag
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no guest room. it was particularly bad last night. we're styaing with my parents and dd walked in front of their room and threatened to start screaming too. i'm so pissed off at her. she knows how to push buttons and dh keeps saying i'm crazy for thinking so. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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Ugh. The good news is that this too shall pass. Hang in there. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:21 PM Flag
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The next time she screams for no good reason ... for God's sake, SCOLD her, turn off the lights, and go back to bed. If she does it again, punish her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:20 PM Flag
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OP HERE... to the person who said scold, turn off lights punish... That is exactly what i do. But dh gives me such hassle for doing this. i've been trying to do this for months. dh sort of uses it as a way to get back at me when he's angry. says that i'm causing her tantrums by scolding her (altho he says I'm screaming at her). i tell her that when she wakes me up at night, i'm too tired the next day to do things with her. which is true. so we cancel our plans for ht enext day when she does it. (the punishment) dh says i'm just threatening her and it's wrong. such a no win situation for me. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:22 PM Flag
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You and DH seriously need to get on the same page here. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:25 PM Flag
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we talk. we supposedly agree on a plan. i follow thru and then he goes back to saying and doing what he always does. i am so frustrated i don't know what to do anymore. it also allies the two of them against me. then dh says things like i use being tired as an excuse to not spend time with dd. and he says it in front of her. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:26 PM Flag
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You guys need a mediator here. He's being a bit of a bitch. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:28 PM Flag
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we started therapy. he refuses to go back. he has, tho,s tarted with a therapist for himself. he's also taking a week for himself next week. i suggested it bc i couldn't stand being around him anymore. dd and i get along a lot better when he's not around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:29 PM Flag
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Sounds like you've just taken the exit to downtown Splitsville. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:31 PM Flag
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i guess we'll see how we feel after being apart next week. (unfort, i'll be staying wiht my parents the whole time, which might be painfully stressful too) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:33 PM Flag
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Good luck! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:36 PM Flag
[ - ] 2 weeks post partum and am wondering how long the bleeding lasts. tia and sorry if tmi. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:04 PM Flag
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I am 5 wks pp and mine stopped at 2.5 weeks and just became brownish and then yellowish. Now I dont have much of anything. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:05 PM Flag
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that gives me hope--i hate this part! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:06 PM Flag
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i know. it really sucks. at one point i thought the bleeding had stopped and i was out shopping and passed a huge clot. i was so frustrated. fortunately though, it didnt last much longer. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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my first-bled until 12 wks (though last 4 on and off), my second-4 wks. it seemed to depend on how active I was. with my 2nd, I was much less active. gl and congrats on new db [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:09 PM Flag
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all said and done about 5-6. Including spotting. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:11 PM Flag
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with my kids, it was 6-8 wks on and off... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 06:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Someone please suggest a baby boy name! We are so stuck and agree on nothing. I love Gavin, he hates it! HELP! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 04:59 PM Flag
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gavin is great if you don't mind your son being gay. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:01 PM Flag
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you are an idiot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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Griffin [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:03 PM Flag
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too irish. We're not Irish. It would be great if we were. thanks! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:10 PM Flag
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i LOVE that name. if my dh's last name didn't have a v in it my ds would have been named that [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 05:26 PM Flag
[ - ] 8 am flight out of jfk on monday. what time would you leave tribeca? domestic flight too. will travel with dc's too. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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New York City 06.14.08, 04:50 PM Flag
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530. But ask the car service to be sure -- they do that trip all the time and will know best time to leave. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 06.14.08, 04:58 PM Flag
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